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I'm so.... freaking.... Lonely.

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Docpan

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UPDATED ON SEPTEMBER 1ST, 2005.

THE PERSON WHO ORIGINALLY CREATED THIS THREAD OVER A YEAR AGO IS NOW DEAD. DO NOT MOURN OVER HIS PASSING.

AFTER MOVING ON TO A STAGE OF LIFE WE REFER TO AS COLLEGE, "DOCPAN" QUICKLY GOT SOME PUSSY, AND HIS FROWNS TURNED UPSIDE DOWN.

PEOPLE CHANGE.
THE END.
THREAD OVER.

THANKS FOR BUMPING THIS 14 MONTH OLD THREAD, ASSHOLE.
 
Cubsfan23 said:
You know that site gives you a 7 day free trial, right? Or just get it off of Kazaa. That's your first step......
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Listen to this man! He is the dating master!
 
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I feel....your pain. *bites lip*

Yeah, I cut ties with the one female friend I still had from HS about 8 months ago because she became one of those sorority bitches and was too good for everyone. So the only time I heard from her was when she needed a favor. We had been friends for almost 5 years by then, and so far, through HS, every girl I've known as either turned her back on me in some way or found some way to piss me off. Yay females.

Anyway, I usually resort to just striking up random conversations wherever I go, but they never really get anywhere. Just talk about whatever comes up and then walk away after a few mins. Oh well. Here's to ... uh....whatever this thread was originally about!
 
Docpan said:
After more than a year of not having any female relationships whatsoever, I find myself becoming desperate.

I needed someone six months ago, and now it's gotten so bad I'm even considering paying money to help me get a woman.... (DoubleyourDating dude, your site is very convincing)

The way it's worked for me in the past seemed to be fine... I would wait until luck randomly struck and a mutual interest between me and the girl would bloom.

But it's been a year now, and my old way of finding a relationship just won't cut it anymore. The only problem is I'm shy as hell when meeting someone new. I just have no idea what to say. After that first step it's easy, too.

Just to give you an idea of how LONELY I am- last night I went into a chat room for the first time in like 6 years. I waited and waited until I finally found someone who wasn't a bot and happened to be female. No, I didn't want cyber or pix plz, I just wanted to talk to a girl! How pathetic!

So, yeah... Have any of you other guys gotten this lonely before? Any tips for a shy guy trying to get through that incredibly hard task of talking to a girl for the first time? (That don't involve me shelling out 40 bucks =\ )

I can't take another 6 months of this.
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I'm in the exact same boat. Except change 18 to 22, and "been a year" to...uhh....no comment.
 
Docpan said:
The only problem is I'm shy as hell when meeting someone new. I just have no idea what to say. After that first step it's easy, too.
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I don't get this, what is the first step for you? And when the fuck does it become easy? For me its the opposite. If I hear what you're saying, you mean it's hard to talk to some random girl but if she shows intrest it becomes easy.
 
Dude, get over your shyness.

Yes, I know that's easy to say and hard to do, but it's what you've got to do.

Here's what you can say to a girl:

Hello, my name is so-and-so; what's yours?

That's a nice blank you're wearing.

How do you like this event or weather or whatever?


Really, the important thing is not to get worked up over any particular girl or think that it's a big deal. Practice smalltalk. Practice on every girl you run into, even if you're not interested in going out with her. Practice on your waitress, on a salesgirl, on random people on the street. Get comfortable talking with people. Build up a repertoire of conversational phrases. Speak audibly and clearly. Work on charming facial expressions. Memorize some good jokes.

Once you get comfortable with smalltalk, start asking girls to join you for something. Start with something small, like ice cream or coffee or a soda. Here's a hint: pay for hers if you're interested in her. It's a small sign of that interest.

From there, proceed to lunch, movies, concerts, dinner, etc.

This kind of socializing is a skill you've got to practice and work on. Start!
 
Go to a mall with ALOT of clothing stores. All the slutty girls shop at stores like Wet Seal and Rave.
 
I don't know if you're ready to practice with every girl on the street. Maybe start with casual aquantinces and work up. Girlfriends of friends are always easy to talk to, its blah blah this and blah that. But just keep doing it and you'll work out your own style that finds the type of girl you want.
 
I'm sorta in the same boat. Went through half of my first year of college dating a girl from highschool, broke up with her in November of 2003, and haven't had a girlfriend since.

I've actually had a few promising prospects this summer so far, but two of them are high school girls and I don't think I want to get involved with that again.

I'm also a lot like the first guy, I tend to be shy around ladies. I think I'm getting better though lately, but I've had almost no chances of meeting new girls this summer. It's usually just hang out with old guy friends. Kinda hard to meet new chicks that way.

Sometimes it feels like such a huge gaping hole not having a close girlfriend in my life anymore like my last one was. I totally crave being in a very serious relationship with a girl. I'd even go as far as saying I'd love to find "that" girl A.S.A.P. (I freshly turned 20 btw).

I cannot wait to go back to college for my second year. I feel like it's going to be 10x better than my awkward freshman year. If I'm not dating a girl by Halloween, I'm gonna be majorly pissed.
 
Another form of meeting females is through networking. You know that if your freind's girlfriend has a friend that's single thing. Go out on a double date and if you like her, go out later that week. In the situation that you don't have any friends....www.match.com
 
Part 2: Where to find girls?

For the purposes of practicing conversation, you will find girls everywhere. But if you're still stuck, then look for events where people gather. Your newspaper typically lists them. Go to a concert or a museum opening or something. Go to some event even if you're not interested in the event. Just find a place where people gather and work on your social skills. As a last resort, a lot of people even use church for this purpose. (Just be careful about the people you meet here; some may try to convert you into something you don't want to be. Learn to recognize and develop resistance to them.)

Once you've developed some skills, then start specializing. Choose a type of event that you really enjoy. Chances are you can meet someone who's also interested in that type of event there, and that automatically gives you a common interest and something to talk about.

If that doesn't work for you, then yeah, try personals or a match service or something. For gods sake, just get out of your apartment/house; you're unlikely to meet anyone there.
 
Camillemurs said:
Wanna be my friend thread creator?
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Stay far, far away 'thread creator'... anyway, I'm not having any problems in the girl department. Well, there is one thing -- my reputation percedes me and it makes thing a lot more tougher than they should be.
 
Lonestar,male slut?
 
demon said:
I'm in the exact same boat. Except change 18 to 22, and "been a year" to...uhh....no comment.
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Fuck, we're all riding in the same boat now, aren't we? Well, change 22 to 23 and there ya go. Shy, sensitive, and good looking. Oh, how I waste these looks! I sit at home and mope around, depressed, and lonely. However, I don't think I've quite reached that point where I'm exactly super-desperate for female attention/companionship. It's been almost 2 years for me, and I guess I've been dealing with it alright. I've kind of relapsed into a total shut-in, who doesn't really want to see the outside world. Well, girls, mainly. It's a self-protection thing, I'm sure. I was crushed emotionally and it's taking quite a while for me to build up my self-confidence/esteem again. For now, I just go to work, come home and masturbate and play video games and watch TV and movies. It doesn't bother me really. Hey, at least I'm honest.
 
I know what it feels like tbh. It comes it waves, sometimes it really doesnt bother me, other times its all i think about.

Damn programming making me want to find a woman!
 
I havent been in a long term relationship since 2001 and havent had sex since 2000



then again sex with other people was never a big deal (I can pinch one myself) and even after the "fact" wassnt a big deal.


Its all about the feets
 
Damn, what is the matter with some of you guys? I meet chicks everywhere, especially at school (j.c.) and I have no problems getting numbers. I think you guys should get over your self doubt, that's what shyness is. The way I figure it, if a chick likes me she likes me, if she shoots me down, then hell with her, there's 3 billion other women. I'm not saying I'm some sort of super pimp, just don't let girls get to you, they're just girls. Learn to be a master of talk, once you do that, you'll own almost every girl, then you'll see if she's the kind of girl you want to spend more time with. All you have yo do most of the time is just ask questions, and they'll talk themselves, then what they say can give you ideas of more questions to ask them, then they'll think your such a great talker, and you've hardly said anything. They don't even realize it, then all of a sudden they realize they don't know anything about you, which makes you mysterious to them, and they like that. That is: Great talker & Mystery --> You +2. If you can manage to be funny too, you win.
 
El Papa said:
Damn, what is the matter with some of you guys? I meet chicks everywhere, especially at school (j.c.) and I have no problems getting numbers. I think you guys should get over your self doubt, that's what shyness is. The way I figure it, if a chick likes me she likes me, if she shoots me down, then hell with her, there's 3 billion other women. I'm not saying I'm some sort of super pimp, just don't let girls get to you, they're just girls. Learn to be a master of talk, once you do that, you'll own almost every girl, then you'll see if she's the kind of girl you want to spend more time with. All you have yo do most of the time is just ask questions, and they'll talk themselves, then what they say can give you ideas of more questions to ask them, then they'll think your such a great talker, and you've hardly said anything. They don't even realize it, then all of a sudden they realize they don't know anything about you, which makes you mysterious to them, and they like that. That is: Great talker & Mystery --> You +2. If you can manage to be funny too, you win.
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and cocky
 
Yeah, I guess you're right, there is truth to that. For me though I think it's more of "I'm secure in myself and I'm not afraid to talk to you and let you know me" than it is "I'm fucking funny and cocky, so get over yourself and suck me off, because I'm a MAN" that some people make it out to be. I don't think there's any reason to be afraid of a girl, unless she's a phsycotic murderer or something. They are just girls, not some form of deity. Once you think that way, there rest is easy, it's especially easier to be friends with girls. I think it's like that with all things in life; school, getting a job, achieving your goals: don't be afraid to fail because you will fail sometimes, you just have to get up and roll on.
 
I've been single for a month and a half now.... after a 3+yr relationship.... it only dawned on me last night that there's this void in my life coz i've been keeping myself busy with work and naruto manga. I'm actually thinking of doing something crazy like.... oh... i dunno... turning to christianity or something to fill that void. what's my point again?
 
It's either that or selling plasma. Or, wait a minute...whoring while selling plasma! It's so crazy it just might work! @_@
 
Don't let women define you as a person. You don't need them. Blah blah blah.



If you didn't believe the above bullshit, be cocky and funny.




If you didn't believe the bullshit immediately above this, then chill. You're only 18, dude. It's not like you're 90 and lookin' to get laid one last time before the reaper takes you.
 
Serafitia said:
hey, if you can't live for/by yourself, what makes you think you can live with someone else? Or something.
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Makes sense...i guess in my situation i always have been with someone so now being alone sucks ass...

DCX
 
my biggest turn off is girls who need to be with someone.

I think thats so unattractive, honestly I live for me now and nobody else I will always be #1 and everyone else a distant second, my happiness and my path in life is the highest priority. I only wish I had thought like this earlier.
 
ZombieSupaStar said:
my biggest turn off is girls who need to be with someone.

I think thats so unattractive, honestly I live for me now and nobody else I will always be #1 and everyone else a distint secpmd, my happiness and my path in life is the highest priority. I only wish I had thought like this earlier.
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I admire that...some would say selfish...i want to be like that...just don't know how to get there you know...know the path, see the path...don't know how to get there....yet

DCX
 
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