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I'm so.... freaking.... Lonely.

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You're a gamer, what did you expect? We turned to either stick with one woman for years or just stick to posting on the net cracking up witty jokes and being lonely.

Get over your shyness before you end up like OPA
 
I'm about as superficial as any man can be out there. If a woman is good looking, and fun to be around with, but laughs like Elmer Fudd...I don't see myself going out with her. Smoking is also a big turn off, but I wouldn't call that being superficial.
 
Docpan said:
After more than a year of not having any female relationships whatsoever, I find myself becoming desperate.

I needed someone six months ago, and now it's gotten so bad I'm even considering paying money to help me get a woman.... (DoubleyourDating dude, your site is very convincing)

The way it's worked for me in the past seemed to be fine... I would wait until luck randomly struck and a mutual interest between me and the girl would bloom.

But it's been a year now, and my old way of finding a relationship just won't cut it anymore. The only problem is I'm shy as hell when meeting someone new. I just have no idea what to say. After that first step it's easy, too.

Just to give you an idea of how LONELY I am- last night I went into a chat room for the first time in like 6 years. I waited and waited until I finally found someone who wasn't a bot and happened to be female. No, I didn't want cyber or pix plz, I just wanted to talk to a girl! How pathetic!

So, yeah... Have any of you other guys gotten this lonely before? Any tips for a shy guy trying to get through that incredibly hard task of talking to a girl for the first time? (That don't involve me shelling out 40 bucks =\ )

I can't take another 6 months of this.
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You're 18 and whining about this?

I'm 20 and have never had a girlfriend period. Quit your bitching. Demon and I should slap all you whiners down.
 
HS basically matches you up with a dizzying aray of partners. Unless you're a total shut-in who has some strict moral code that defines you, there should't be a problem.
 
HalfPastNoon said:
HS basically matches you up with a dizzying aray of partners. Unless you're a total shut-in who has some strict moral code that defines you, there should't be a problem.
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Great, now he's just trolling me <insert rolleyes here>
 
ZombieSupaStar said:
my biggest turn off is girls who need to be with someone.

I think thats so unattractive, honestly I live for me now and nobody else I will always be #1 and everyone else a distant second, my happiness and my path in life is the highest priority. I only wish I had thought like this earlier.
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I'm the same way, actually. Last real relationship was in...oh, 97 or so. I had too many interests anyway, so I found that I was happier not being attached to anyone. It probably didn't help that most of my girlfriends were extremely clingy, and just full of those "what are you thinking" questions, while I need lots of space. They want to be around constantly, I want them around a few hours per week.

But yeah, if you really are desperate for someone, then just stomp up and introduce yourself. The longer you sit here sobbing on some internet message board, the worse you'll make yourself feel.
 
You guys HAVE to start believing you are the Prize. Have to. Just go out and practice this mindset when you go out and talk to girls:

1. You are the Prize
2. She is trying to get you to like her or win you over
3. She wants you so bad that she's trying to make you sleep with her
4. The both of you are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your expectations and standards.

Now I know all you whiners will be like "But I don't believe I'm the Prize!" Well our brains are funny. If you keep repeating something positive (or negative, which you don't want) to yourself, your subconscious picks up on it, and your brain will believe it, which will show up in your body language, and girls are exceptional when reading body language. Repeat it to yourself 50 times in a row if you have to, even while talking to the girl.
 
HalfPastNoon said:
How can you be over 18 and never, ever had a girl to call your own? I just don't understand it.
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I just never have. Okay? I had self-esteem and social anxiety issues in highschool that carried over into college, and I'm not good at meeting people. Now I'm stuck in the most antisocial dorm I've ever seen and am taking one class filled with a bunch of people I don't care to know, so that doesn't make it any easier right now. I remember freshman year of college there were lots of girls who flirted with me (some I didn't even realize until later on), but I just didn't know what the fuck to do. If I could only have freshman year back.....
 
AssMan said:
I'm about as superficial as any man can be out there. If a woman is good looking, and fun to be around with, but laughs like Elmer Fudd...I don't see myself going out with her.
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What's the fucking problem? Just pop in a copy of Schindler's List. That's what Jerry would do.
 
Just don't dwell on it. If anything, I'd think that would just make you come across as overeager. Aside from that, just do your thing and try your luck with someone who interests you. All of this "chicks love that" nonsense is... well, nonsense. You'll find someone when the time is right.

I've personally got a really good idea of what I'm looking for, but I have yet to run into someone like that out here. Easier to remain single and not settle for less than what I'm seeking out, imo. Less hurt feelings and lost time that way.
 
Cubsfan23 said:
You guys HAVE to start believing you are the Prize. Have to. Just go out and practice this mindset when you go out and talk to girls:

1. You are the Prize
2. She is trying to get you to like her or win you over
3. She wants you so bad that she's trying to make you sleep with her
4. The both of you are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your expectations and standards.

Now I know all you whiners will be like "But I don't believe I'm the Prize!" Well our brains are funny. If you keep repeating something positive (or negative, which you don't want) to yourself, your subconscious picks up on it, and your brain will believe it, which will show up in your body language, and girls are exceptional when reading body language. Repeat it to yourself 50 times in a row if you have to, even while talking to the girl.
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You know, this is probably the first dating advice you've posted that I think is truly worthwhile.

Not that I'll take it to mind, of course :P
 
Boogie said:
You know, this is probably the first dating advice you've posted that I think is truly worthwhile.

Not that I'll take it to mind, of course :P
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Why won't you take it to mind? Apparently, nothing else has worked for you, thus you don't have anything to lose by acting out on these tips.

Confidence rules all.
 
HalfPastNoon said:
Why won't you take it to mind? Apparently, nothing else has worked for you, thus you don't have anything to lose by acting out on these tips.

Confidence rules all.
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Dude, give it up, you just don't get self-deprecating humour :P
 
HalfPastNoon said:
HS basically matches you up with a dizzying aray of partners. Unless you're a total shut-in who has some strict moral code that defines you, there should't be a problem.
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I've had a few girlfriends though I'm not entirely sure how (just sort of fell into the relationships, certainly never had the confidence to go after a girl), but try going to an all boys school and see how many partners there are.
 
Cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny....

As for the initial conversation, I get the opinion question if you're with a friend, but as for being alone I'm not quite getting the advice.. Could you help me out with that?
 
Two and a half years ago, I broke up with my first, and as of this time, only serious relationship. It took a year and a half to find someone else, and that relationship was short-lived... and another year and a half later, I haven't had another g/f... now a few weeks ago a friend set me up with a girl... who I felt NOTHING for... NOTHING.... and you know what, I ended it quick. Even though I was desperate for a relationship, don't just take one just because it comes up! Don't settle for anyone, stay strong, things have a weird way of working out sometimes.
 
Docpan said:
Cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny....

As for the initial conversation, I get the opinion question if you're with a friend, but as for being alone I'm not quite getting the advice.. Could you help me out with that?
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You can do an opinion opener anytime.
 
Docpan said:
Cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny, cocky and funny....

As for the initial conversation, I get the opinion question if you're with a friend, but as for being alone I'm not quite getting the advice.. Could you help me out with that?
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"Hey, I need ideas. What are you getting your Dad for father's day?"

"... What did you get your Mom for her birthday?"

"Do these pants make me look fat?" :-)

"Do you believe in sex on the first date?" ;-)
 
I dislike the thought of attachment to a girl, but then i want sex....

It usually doesnt end too well for me! :lol
 
demon said:
I'm in the exact same boat. Except change 18 to 22, and "been a year" to...uhh....no comment.
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it's sad reading this over a year later. :-/ Except since then I've actually, like, met some people and it's become even more evident how much of a social retard I am.
 
demon said:
it's sad reading this over a year later. :-/ Except since then I've actually, like, met some people and it's become even more evident how much of a social retard I am.
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At least you're moving forward i suppose.

And bumping an ancient thread about not being able to find with a relevant story is more depressing than the original posts.
 
brocke said:
Beat this. One month away from being 22 years old. I haven't had any friends since elementary school (around 9-10 years ago). I have never had a girlfriend. And in my opinion, I don't look half bad. Hell my pictures in some thread on here. I just don't give a shit anymore if anyone knows who I am. Thats how low I have sunk.

I have some deep rooted social issues that go leagues beyond social anxiety. Anxiety isn't the problem for me. I randomly talk to people all the time, including girls. I just actively avoid turning it into anything more than occasionaly speaking to random people. Yes, I'm fucked up. Look at my picture and tell me if I look like a person who would be in this situation. I'm actually a little curious now if I actually look the part.

These days it has turned into long ass nights with 4 hours of sleep because I am soo anxious about it all. I don't know where it all went downhill. Maybe something horrible happened to me and I willingly erased it from my conscious memory.
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i think that, for you, at the end of the day, it all boils down to one thing:

Its Rape Time.
 
Hey guys, if it's any consolation, my life is great.

Money, babes, looks and talent.

I've got it all.
 
Cubsfan23 said:
Better yet, Approach 300 random girls in a week. After that, it's a piece of cake, you'll be on auto pilot.
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It sounds stupid, but it's not. QFT.

The number is lower than that, but just make eye-contact and smile. If she smiles back, you just walk over, introduce yourself and roll from there. No lines, no nothing, just be yourself. After a while, you'll develop a set of opening lines that work for you. Different guys like different types of women, so no one formula works. And IMO, don't wait long to spring for the number. If she seems with it enough after the first few minutes, ask her if she wants to go out sometime. If she asks where, just say someplace she likes. If you know someplace good, say that. Then get the digits. Depending on the time of day, I'll ask her if she wants to get somewhere right away. Getting some of that personality/conversation shit out of the way over a quick slice or something makes it easier to get some action when you go out for the first time. And prepare for rejection. It's part of the game. Fear is for pussies. PEACE.

EDIT: WTF? This shit's months old. My sagelike advice is going to waste here.
 
If you can't bare to be alone then you are nowhere near ready for a relationship. Maybe find a new friend. I hope you find one with ease soon.
 
Docpan said:
After more than a year of not having any female relationships whatsoever, I find myself becoming desperate.

I needed someone six months ago, and now it's gotten so bad I'm even considering paying money to help me get a woman.... (DoubleyourDating dude, your site is very convincing)

The way it's worked for me in the past seemed to be fine... I would wait until luck randomly struck and a mutual interest between me and the girl would bloom.

But it's been a year now, and my old way of finding a relationship just won't cut it anymore. The only problem is I'm shy as hell when meeting someone new. I just have no idea what to say. After that first step it's easy, too.

Just to give you an idea of how LONELY I am- last night I went into a chat room for the first time in like 6 years. I waited and waited until I finally found someone who wasn't a bot and happened to be female. No, I didn't want cyber or pix plz, I just wanted to talk to a girl! How pathetic!

So, yeah... Have any of you other guys gotten this lonely before? Any tips for a shy guy trying to get through that incredibly hard task of talking to a girl for the first time? (That don't involve me shelling out 40 bucks =\ )

I can't take another 6 months of this.
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Join a club or something. Get a job. Just get out of the house. The women aren't just going to walk in and tell you to drop drawers, sadly.

Edit: I only just saw how old this thread is. :lol The advice still stands though.
 
Try to be a man about it. If you're lonely, don't talk about. Turn to alcohol and drink your loneliness away.

Having friends is overrated anyway. All mine bug the shit outa me. Just last week I actually pretended that I wasn't home when one of them knocked on the door. Was a great plan until he rang the house a minute later and I stupidly picked up.
 
demon said:
I'm in the exact same boat. Except change 18 to 22, and "been a year" to...uhh....no comment.
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:lol, dont worry Demon, your time will come soon:P

Luckily, Ive been in a steady realtionship for the last 18 months but if I ever break up with her it will probably be the last girlfriend I will have for a while. Apart from when Im drunk I don't talk too much so it can be difficult for me to meet women and when I do get to know them I dont really know what to say. My self confidence is pretty low too. Its not just with girls that this happens with though, Im just useless at starting conversations with anybody even my best friends.
 
Incognito said:
How can you be over 18 and never, ever had a girl to call your own? I just don't understand it.
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You're a fuck and I hate you.

*Is 21 and had a girl for three weeks, but was never able to call her his own*

Boogie, let's be friends, yeah? Sad, lonely, miserable, womanless friends.

*Weeps openly*
 
Can't you just go to a bar, just turn up at 10pm and they are easy pickings. I'm 17 so its best to go where all the underage drinkers go which is pretty much everywhere.
 
Im 21, didnt have a have a girl to call my own for a couple of years. I wasnt getting lonely, i thought about it sometimes but i didnt bother me that much. I have a lot of fun with my friends too. But 6 months ago i met a girl that im still with now, i just met her out of the blue. You cant force a relationship then just have to happen.
 
it's sad reading this over a year later. :-/ Except since then I've actually, like, met some people and it's become even more evident how much of a social retard I am.
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I guess I also belong to this club...But I try to just forget about this...I have my small group of friends and that brings me a bit of peace...Even I am the rare one there, this brings a bit of hope.
23 years and no serious relations in my history book..but every years goes by the less I care about it. It's not a fuck the world approach but a fuck me one...
 
1. Go places. It doesn't matter where, just go. Go to clubs, go to local music shows, go to sporting events, go to malls. Just...go.
2. Take a wingman.

Done.
 
I talked to a girl today, and I talked to multiple girls yesterday....mwahahahaha!

Never had a real girlfriend though....I'm one of those friendzoners :(
 
I'm... so... ronery
So ronery
So ronery and sadry arone

There's no one
Just me onry
Sitting on my rittle throne
I work very hard and make up great prans
But nobody ristens, no one understands
Seems that no one takes me serirousry

And so I'm ronery
A little ronery
Poor rittre me

There's nobody
I can rerate to
Feer rike a bird in a cage
It's kinda sihry
But not rearry
Because it's fihring my body with rage

I work rearry hard and I'm physicarry fit
But nobody here seems to rearize that
When I rure the world maybe they'rr notice me
But untir then I'rr just be ronery
Rittre ronery, poor rittre me
I'm so ronery
I'm so ronery

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19 years single, I drown my woes in computer games until I can't remember who I am anymore, just a one man wrecking crew *bang bang*
 
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