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[Kinitari]

So, most people are not attractive to me - I have a broad 'type' but I still generally find the same sorts of people attractive. That being said, I am often surprised when I find someone attractive that I don't normally expect to find attractive, which tells me that it's not like I'm married to my type.

So I say this to highlight the idea that there is no way for me to predict whether or not I'll find someone attractive BEFORE I meet them. I find redheads attractive, but I don't find EVERY redhead attractive.

If you feel as though the ethnicity of someone has such a strong affect on whether or not you'll find them attractive, that you'll preemptively rule people out because of that? Maybe you need to reevaluate some stuff.

 

[Aselith]

Absolutely, if you closed the door on a race, it's because you're a racist. I also would consider you a racist if you only date one race specifically. Not only have dated but if you close the door on all other races.

 

[Supast4r]

As a straight man, would I be a homophobe if I'm not attracted to a gay man? No, I do not think that would be accurate at all. What makes this a different situation with the given facts?


This is an interesting debate that could bring so meaningful dialogue and hopefully more understanding amongst different people.

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

 

[Frozenprince]

I really shouldn't be shocked that this is A) a thread B) that fukkery hath ensued.

Yet here I am.

Gotta stop having faith in people.

 

[tcrunch]

It is absolutely racist.

 

[MayMay]

I never understood this debate.. everyone has preferences. But as soon as skin color gets involved everyone is suddenly shouting RACIST RACIST RACIST like.. no not really?

I've dated other races before so I'm not part of all this - but still. If someone does not want to date a black person because the black skin is 'aesthetically' unappealing and/or just not attractive to them then yeah they're super shallow for not looking past that - but how's that different than disliking any other trait?

 

[davidwhangchoi]

I could never date an orange girl.

 

[Shaanyboi]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

...*sigh*

 

[Frozenprince]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

You made a thread determined to get an answer you already made for yourself and are determined to not view your friend's act as anything other than what it is.

Racist as shit.

 

[Fat4all]

 

[cpp_is_king]

If someone is explicitly only dating people of that race, then that clearly becomes fetishism which is its own problem, as you're basically boiling someone's attractiveness down to their racial characteristics versus anything regarding their own individuality.

So then where is the line? If “refuses to date X” implies racism, then it seems to me that “refuses to date X for all X != Y” implies racism against everything but Y. It’s literally just a straight logical corollary.

If we can agree that “only dates X” is not necessarily racism, then it necessarily implies that “does not date X” is also not necessarily racism

 

[Derwind]

I never understood this debate.. everyone has preferences. But as soon as skin color gets involved everyone is suddenly shouting RACIST RACIST RACIST like.. no not really?

I've dated other races before so I'm not part of all this - but still. If someone does not want to date a black person because the black skin is 'aesthetically' unappealing and/or just not attractive to them then yeah they're super shallow but how's that different than disliking any other trait?

What is "black skin"? Can you give me a specific colour or shade?

 

[Llyranor]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

So the original premise of the thread was whether someone "afraid of black culture" is racist?

Yes.

 

[Aselith]

I never understood this debate.. everyone has preferences. But as soon as skin color gets involved everyone is suddenly shouting RACIST RACIST RACIST like.. no not really?

I've dated other races before so I'm not part of all this - but still. If someone does not want to date a black person because the black skin is 'aesthetically' unappealing and/or just not attractive to them then yeah they're super shallow but how's that different than disliking any other trait?

But there are tons of shades of black skin so what kind of skin is unappealing?

 

[FUME5]

I never understood this debate.. everyone has preferences. But as soon as skin color gets involved everyone is suddenly shouting RACIST RACIST RACIST like.. no not really?

I've dated other races before so I'm not part of all this - but still. If someone does not want to date a black person because the black skin is 'aesthetically' unappealing and/or just not attractive to them then yeah they're super shallow but how's that different than disliking any other trait?

.

Can you ask your friend specifically where on the chart he's willing to draw the line as to who's datable or not?

 

[Shaanyboi]

I could never date an orange girl.

Your loss

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I dont date people with tattoos.

 

[Snowybreak]

THANK YOU

 

[Supast4r]

You made a thread determined to get an answer you already made for yourself and are determined to not view your friend's act as anything other than what it is.

Racist as shit.

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

 

[Ronin Ray]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

What the fuck is black culture my man? Are we all in a box? Is it one size fits all's? Like what are you even typing out ?

 

[Fat4all]

I dont date people with tattoos.

 

[Aselith]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

You literally came in here looking for an echo chamber...

 

[Seesaw15]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

What's black culture? Rap cars?

 

[Shaanyboi]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

People view your racist friend as racist = echo chamber

Real fucking nice troll

 

[Gotdatmoney]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

This is also racist. And stupid as fuck.

 

[Bsigg12]

Your loss

Fictional characters don't count

Orange would be someone with too much damn bronzer. I've seen too many of them, it's horrifying.

Edit: what the fuck was the point of this thread OP?

 

[Snowybreak]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

So... What are your views on the subject? Since the object of this thread wasn't to actually listen to the answers?

 

[Frozenprince]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

Then why did you frame the thread as a question in the first place?

And echo chamber? I'd hope so, considering what you're describing is quite literally racism.

 

[Takuan]

Everyone I've come across who's said that to me has turned out to be at least mildly racist.

"Generally, I'm not attracted to <x>", however, doesn't strike me as racist.

 

[LotusHD]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

Plot twist...

Spoiler

Nah, I probably should've seen this coming.

 

[Fat4all]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

'echo chanmber'? you're getting answers to your question.

 

[wandering]

"Is the sky blue?"

overwhelming affirmation

"Wow, what an echo chamber"

 

[Ronin Ray]

Fictional characters don't count

Orange would be someone with too much damn bronzer. I've seen too many of them, it's horrifying.

Brah where are all these orange women at?

 

[FUME5]

Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

You don't care for an answer from Gaf, but you made this thread huh?

Please expand on your opinion of the matter.

Brah where are all these orange women at?

.....

 

[TheCthultist]

What the fuck is black culture my man? Are we all in a box? Is it one size fits all's? Like what are you even typing out ?

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1413114&highlight=black+culture Maybe this's what he's afraid of? Otherwise I've got no clue...

 

[Frozenprince]

Plot twist...

I know I for one, am shocked by this M Night level twist.

 

[Llyranor]

I think we solved the mystery of who "the friend" is.

 

[Earthbound64]

This is what I was hoping to see to be honest. In truth I think that the reason why he won't date black girls is because he is afraid of black culture. I don't think that it's because he isn't attracted to them to be honest.

...
Wut?
This is odd for so many different reasons.

I'm also still doubtful about this being your "friend"...

 

[Bsigg12]

Brah where are all these orange women at?

Photo shoots. My buddy is a photographer and some of the girls that come into his studio just look like they've been burnt to a crisp or overdid the bronzer. It's some Jersey Shore-esque looks I've seen while hanging out during a shoot.

 

[Fat4all]

I think we solved the mystery of who "the friend" is.

oh shit

 

[Gotdatmoney]

"Asks if not wanting to date someone for their race is racist"
"Majority of people say yes"
"Accuses thread of being echo chamber"

&#129300;&#129300;&#129300;

 

[MayMay]

What is "black skin"? Can you give me a specific colour or shade?

Good point. Didnt think of it like that.

 

[Keikaku]

There's nothing to be said that hasn't already been expanded upon better by other posters.

If you can honestly say, that you will never, ever, under any circumstances date a person of a race solely because of their race then, yes, you're 100% racist.

 

[Forward]

Your loss

Why ruin the "I'm racist against Trumps" joke?

 

[cdyhybrid]

Why are you afraid of black culture OP?

 

[Ronin Ray]

Photo shoots. My buddy is a photographer and some of the girls that come into his studio just look like they've been burnt to a crisp or overdid the bronzer. It's some Jersey Shore-esque looks I've seen while hanging out during a shoot.

Sounds like bodybuilder tans

 

[FUME5]

Good point. Didnt think of it like that.

I don't think you thought much at all.

 

[Earthbound64]

My friend told me that he could never

"My friend..."?

Yeah...

 

[Aselith]

I'm picturing it like OP said, "hey man, is that black chick hot to you?" And friend is like, "nah, not really my type" and OP came back with "yeah, I don't like black chicks either, scary culture right?" and turns away to start this thread while his friend gives him the side eye in the background.

 

[Supast4r]

What the fuck is black culture my man? Are we all in a box? Is it one size fits all's? Like what are you even typing out ?

I'm not going to explain what black culture is to you. If you want to know what it is then look it up for yourself. Many people are afraid of the unknown so I understand his fear since he was born from an upper middle class family in a super white neighborhood where he only really interacted with a handful of people who weren't white until he went to college. I believe that this is more of a issue that happens to many people who don't didn't grow up regularly interacting with people of color.