Is refusing to date people of certain races racist?

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Deadly Cyclone said:
The point is, not all Asians look the same at all. While you may not be attracted to one specific Asian person, you may be attracted to another.

People saying that about Asian people is even weirder, being that Indian and Japanese are both Asian and look completely different.
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That's correct. I guess I just didn't interpret the topic the same way as everyone else. I'm stupid.

I was trying to say it's not racist to find someone unnatractive.

It would be racist to find out the person you're dating is a certain race and then back out strictly because of that.

Sorry.
 
Wowfunhappy said:
How is it fundamentally different from saying "I'm not attracted to people shorter/taller than me?" Everyone has their own standards of beauty/attractiveness.
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History and the social meaning of racial categories. Frankly this is incredibly obvious, and the fact that it's come up over and over again in the thread is indicative of some blatantly racist thinking. Race isn't the same thing as height.

Onivulk said:
I was trying to say it's not racist to find someone unnatractive.
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Literally no one said or would say this. The thread wasn't about finding a specific black woman unattractive though, so you really did "interpret the topic" in a different way from everyone else.
 
Subpar Spatula said:
All Asians have the same culture? All black people have the same culture?

What fucking culture?
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Lol obviously they don't have a single culture. But that's something that has a role to play in preferences and can't be ignored.

If you go by country then people tend to have similar cultures (in certain parts of the world).
 
Enco said:
Lol obviously they don't have a single culture. But that's something that has a role to play in preferences and can't be ignored.

If you go by country then people tend to have similar cultures (in certain parts of the world).
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Ok, varying cultures means you cast away all of black people? That seems really fucking racist.
 
is this thread real?

The types of people that say they wouldn't date a person due to race are the same type of people that don't eat the booty,... you just a weak punk ass.

Shit, I don't care if you're white, brown, black, red, or blue I am all about it!!!

I personally feel blessed that I have been given the opportunity to live on a planet that has been graced by these beautiful creatures known as women. LIKE YOU COULD HAVE BEEN BORN AN ANCHOVY WITH ZERO VARIETY MY FRIEND.

But fuck it though some people wanna give of their tickets at the buffet then by all means I will DOUBLE UP MY SERVINGS!!!


Also loving the black women photos but let us NOT EXCLUDE ALL THE OTHER VARIETIES OUT THERE. Where my asian, islander, middle eastern, nordic, brazilian, native american, indian, european, aussie/kiwi, and every other type of beauty out there??

Lets just flood this thread of pics as a big middle finger to those racists pricks.
 
LordPezix said:
is this thread real?

The types of people that say they wouldn't date a person due to race are the same type of people that don't eat the booty,... you just a weak punk ass.

Shit, I don't care if you're white, brown, black, red, or blue I am all about it!!!

I personally feel blessed that I have been given the opportunity to live on a planet that has been graced by these beautiful creatures known as women. LIKE YOU COULD HAVE BEEN BORN AN ANCHOVY WITH ZERO VARIETY MY FRIEND.

But fuck it though some people wanna give of their tickets at the buffet then by all means I will DOUBLE UP MY SERVINGS!!!


Also loving the black women photos but let us NOT EXCLUDE ALL THE OTHER VARIETIES OUT THERE. Where my asian, islander, middle eastern, nordic, brazilian, native american, indian, european, aussie/kiwi, and every other type of beauty out there??

Lets just flood this thread of pics as a big middle finger to those racists pricks.
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lolwot

I've eaten the booty but it's actually very understandable not to want to do that haha.
 
Doc_Drop said:
Right, but writing off an entire race as if it were a monolith is
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Idk my brain just misfired I think. Like earlier when I said I haven't seen an attractive redhead. I would love to be proven wrong. It wouldn't hurt my feelings.

I have a black coworker. She says she doesn't date black men. But when she says that we both know she has nothing against black people. It's just that she is not attracted to them (usually)

I did mental gymnastics and now I feel like an idiot.
 
Wowfunhappy said:
How is it fundamentally different from saying "I'm not attracted to people shorter/taller than me?" Everyone has their own standards of beauty/attractiveness.
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Height is a tangible verifiable metric that can be judged independently of external factors. Race is a constantly evolving social construct with tons of relevant history that still to this day shapes aspects of society.

I dunno man, how could they possibly be any different though?
 
Fuck knows how we ended up with 12+ pages for this. If someone claims they outright could never see anyone from x race as attractive, then they have to be a bit racist at least.
 
LordPezix said:
No it's not, a lot of people don't eat the booty because they are afraid to try new things that they think wouldn't be good..... Just like someone saying they wouldn't date due to race.

weak punk assesssssssssssssssss
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I think he's saying it's a bad comparison because not eating the booty doesn't hurt anyone, and racism very seriously hurts lots of people all the time.
 
Temeculan3000 said:
You are twisting people's words and obviously trolling.
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Twisting. It is what they said. We're in a threas about not dating other races and one reason why is their culture. What fucking culture? How come that culture causes them to not date anyone of that race? Some of y'all need to reflect privately and be honest with yourselves.
 
EloquentM said:
I don’t date people who browse gaf at 100ppp
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LordPezix said:
No it's not, a lot of people don't eat the booty because they are afraid to try new things that they think wouldn't be good..... Just like someone saying they wouldn't date due to race.

weak punk assesssssssssssssssss
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And there are people who have no issues at all with dating someone of any race, who have no desire at all to "eat the booty."
And your thinking there's any sort of correlation there at all diminishes the actual issue being discussed in this topic.

Cocaloch said:
I think he's saying it's a bad comparison because not eating the booty doesn't hurt anyone, and racism very seriously hurts lots of people all the time.
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Exactly.
 
Skin Color is not a barrier for me. My best dating experiences was from dating girls of different cultures.

But Religion though is a big barrier for me, especially if it is Conservatively adhered.
 
Subpar Spatula said:
Twisting. It is what they said. We're in a threas about not dating other races and one reason why is their culture. What fucking culture? How come that culture causes them to not date anyone of that race? Some of y'all need to reflect privately and be honest with yourselves.
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One guy said he would rather date people with the same cultural backround and experience as himself. But it is clear your goal here is to twist that into "I hate all cultures but my own" and accuse people of racism.
 
Earthbound64 said:
And there are people who have no issues at all with dating someone of any race, who have no desire at all to "eat the booty."
And your thinking there's any sort of correlation there at all diminishes the actual issue being discussed in this topic.



Exactly.
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ahh I got you my guy, wasn't trying to detract from the issue. My apologizes.
 
Any form of generalized stereotyping of a group based on race is, by definition, racist.

People have preferences, yes, but it is prejudiced to assume a whole ethnic group embodies a specific combination of traits you could never possibly find attractive. That said I think it's a prejudice a lot of people simply never realize is implicitly racist. It is more an sign of ignorance and inexperience with people who are outside one's own zone of familiarity.

Even personal preferences can't be taken as absolutes. You think you aren't attracted to shorter persons or red heads until you meet the right person, and all that goes out the window.

It's a mark of maturity and experience to remain open to all possibilities.
 
Seesaw15 said:
All my favorite deathly hallows BAH GAWD.
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The fucking Chosen One up in here THANK YOU SIR!!!

12 fucking pages at 100 a page wtf is wrong with you GAF...

This is supposed to be super easy. If you don't like big lips? cool. You dont like dreads? cool. You don't like big asses? cool... you alien. Don't like red hair? cool. Don't like green eyes? it's fuckin cool dude no one gives a shit.

preferences are preferences. It's all good. No one cares. It's the idea that a girl who fits every look and nuance and personality and social stature check you could possibly dream of swoops through and your only comment is "too bad she's black." Yah... you should maybe check yourself.

EloquentM said:
I don't date people who browse gaf at 100ppp
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So you're a junior lover, eh? That shit would never fly with my parents.
 
I doubt every person who thinks this is racist, but it's just really weird to me. There's so many people apart of each race that's going to have a different appearance and personality than everyone else. Doesn't make sense to me to say to yourself that you should just shut yourself off romantically from such a large amount of people.
 
I'm sorry but I just can't take anyone seriously who says that they don't find people of a certain race attractive.

It's utter, complete bullshit, and while they might not consider themselves to be racist, their preference is indeed informed by bigoted and racist views.

Black women are not all the same, just as white women and asian women and middle-eastern women aren't. If you're generalizing across a category, its exclusionary, racist and you should really take a step back and deeply consider in your mind why you've taken this position in the first place.

It's likely you're basing this view of a very stereotypical view you hold of said category of women, based on perhaps a small number of individuals you've met, known and interacted with.

Sure you don't have to necessarily date everyone, but consider who are the people you're excluding and why. You might find that you're excluding people from your dating pool for some really nonsensical reasons that have prevented you from meeting and falling in love with some of the most amazing people you'd ever meet.
 
gutter_trash said:
Skin Color is not a barrier for me. My best dating experiences was from dating girls of different cultures.

But Religion though is a big barrier for me, especially if it is Conservatively adhered.
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I think that’s completely fine for obvious reasons.

Temeculan3000 said:
You are twisting people's words and obviously trolling.
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Outside or religion or harmful beliefs I don’t really see a reasonable excuse for these differences being much of an obstacle for dating someone of a different culture than you, let alone barring yourself from dating that culture. Thinly veiling it under premise of “preference”, yeah, seems like prejudice more than anything.
 
We have a limited time upon this Earth. While I don't personally agree, I can see how some would not want to expend time and energy to develop a romantic relationship with someone from a different race or culture, particularly if they are not lacking for relations in their own group. People also tend to do the easy things and interracial and interreligious relationships can have a number of complications particularly if headed toward matrimony and child rearing. I can also see the value in minority cultures desiring to maintain their sense of community and history and self by not breeding with outsiders. Stating what the ops friend said is on it's face racist, but I'll be optimistic and say it's the twitterization of communication at fault.
 
While I do have racial preferences when it comes to dating, completely refusing to date someone because of their racial or ethnic background is definitely racist.
 
Kai Dracon said:
Any form of generalized stereotyping of a group based on race is, by definition, racist.

People have preferences, yes, but it is prejudiced to assume a whole ethnic group embodies a specific combination of traits you could never possibly find attractive. That said I think it's a prejudice a lot of people simply never realize is implicitly racist. It is more an sign of ignorance and inexperience with people who are outside one's own zone of familiarity.

Even personal preferences can't be taken as absolutes. You think you aren't attracted to shorter persons or red heads until you meet the right person, and all that goes out the window.

It's a mark of maturity and experience to remain open to all possibilities.
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Couldn't have said it better myself.
 
NLCP Gaming said:
No its not racist to not want to date someone of a different race. Atleast in my opinion. If a white woman told me she not attracted to black men then I'll just move on and not worry about it. You can't force people to be attracted to someone in a different race
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No one is forcing anyone to be attracted to anyone.... It's still racist.
 
Supast4r said:
My friend told me that he could never date a black girl. When I asked him why he gave no clear reason. Is the mere act of this racist? I always go back and forth on this.
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Yeah that's racist, but you can say I only date those that I'm attracted too, but you can't make a broad generalisation because you never know.
 
Skin color is not the same for all people within a race.
Facial features, body size, and other physical features are not the same for all people within a race.
Culture is not the same for all people within a race.
I can understand preferences, but to say "there's no way I'd find someone of x race attractive, ever" makes me think someone has a really strict, probably not flattering mental image of how everyone from that race looks or acts. And it might be worth it for people to examine that.

That said, it's nice to dodge a bullet. "You're cute for a black girl," is not a compliment, it's a good indication the conversation is over.

Edit: Also, if you're going to post hot people could we get some dudes in the mix too?
 
People tend to omit the "Generally" when it comes to these statements. Of the people who say they're not attracted to or won't date X; I would expect only a small percentage would have no exceptions.
 
I am latino and I don't find most latin American girls attractive.

I am racist? There are beautiful girls on all races but there are more probabilities that I am attracted to asian girls, for example.

I was raised in latin America btw.
 
Onivulk said:
Idk my brain just misfired I think. Like earlier when I said I haven't seen an attractive redhead. I would love to be proven wrong. It wouldn't hurt my feelings.

I have a black coworker. She says she doesn't date black men. But when she says that we both know she has nothing against black people. It's just that she is not attracted to them (usually)

I did mental gymnastics and now I feel like an idiot.
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She literally has something against black men.
 
Did anyone catch the recent 'Is Love Racist' programme on Channel 4 in the U.K? It's not that good, as one would expect Fromm hannel 4, but it did have the premise that suggested that this culture was created, in part, by dating apps allowing users to determine the ethnic origins of their potential matches and encouraged racial bias in dating
 
Earthbound64 said:
What are you basing this statement on?
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Based on interactions I've had with people over the year, language is more effective when you aren't nuanced and include all possibilities in your statements.

Saying "Pizza is the worst" gives me a better idea of your preference than saying "I personally do not like pizza."
 
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