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[kitchenmotors]

Professional produced gay porn is so 10 years ago. A lot of it is extremely cringe worthy and not worth my time.

I much prefer using Reddit, Tumblr and stuff like Chaturbate these days. Although I always come back to Sean Cody, always quality stuff produced even to this day from there.

 

[Omegasquash]

most gay porn features hypermasculine men tho. i despise the "masc4masc" guys, but str8 porn has guys that look like normal dudes. i find most gay porn they're either perfectly muscly studs, twinks, or bears(which is my gay porn of choice) but straight porn can have just normal dad bod-esque guys,

This. It's intimidating, as the guys in it look like Adonis, whereas I'm a literal dad and my job is not at all to look good for the camera. Now, that doesn't stop me from dallying in it, but in deciding, I'll tend to look at straight stuff, since I play both sides anyway.

 

[Vazra]

You guys needs to look at different sites for porn. Of course the most popular sites are the ones with the Adonis builds but if you look around you should be able to find your type without much issues. Also Amateur stuff is also better in terms of having different body builds and personalities.

 

[Dead Prince]

Professional produced gay porn is so 10 years ago. A lot of it is extremely cringe worthy and not worth my time.

I much prefer using Reddit, Tumblr and stuff like Chaturbate these days. Although I always come back to Sean Cody, always quality stuff produced even to this day from there.

thank you reddit. (pray)

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Amateur often sucks because there's no one working the camera (or there may as well be). Pro stuff often sucks because it's overproduced. In the middle there's a mean somewhere that's kind of perfect and it doesn't really matter whether it's amateur or pro.

 

[Skyward Sheep]

I need to have a good look for some Reddit subs then, it seems.

 

[Delio]

I've found some pro stuff that can grab me pretty easy. Sometimes Amateur just doesn't have the angles I'd like to see because of the camera work and I just kinda fall out of it. Depends on the scene and depends on the actors.

 

[Kevyt]

Speaking of porn... I finally finished Dragons Dogma Dark Arisen on PC and my love interest was Julian!

I was so happy, I love his failed French accent.

Likewise, I redesigned my pawn to kind of look like Brent Everett, and named him Brent Everet (the second t was over the character limit for pawn names).

So yeah... lol

I have so much fun with Dragon's Dogma.

 

[SomedayTheFire]

You guys needs to look at different sites for porn. Of course the most popular sites are the ones with the Adonis builds but if you look around you should be able to find your type without much issues. Also Amateur stuff is also better in terms of having different body builds and personalities.

I search a lot through a number of different sites and it's just a lot of effort to find new decent porn. Tumblr is prob the best for me, but even there it's mostly just still pictures of guys,which isn't as great.

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

Bathhouses and gay saunas are maligned as ‘seedy’ but are actually relaxing, friendly and much needed

When I first read that London’s biggest gay sauna, Chariots, would be demolished to make way for a luxury hotel, I was really disappointed.
Yet another historical gay safe haven would be lost to the gentrification sweeping major urban areas like London, Manhattan and the closer Brooklyn locales, Amsterdam, and beyond. As Dazed put so eloquently ‘assimilation is definitely not liberation’.
The stigma in the young gay community surrounding the ‘seedy nature’ of gay saunas, bathhouses, and spas is plagued with stories of literal filth, creepy old men, and a reliance on drugs and sex as a means of communication.
Sure, you could totally have sex there if you want – but I’d say only about 10% of the encounters in gay saunas, steam rooms, and bathhouses are sexual in nature. There is nothing wrong with hooking up in a sauna or with someone you meet while there, but it is far less common than people expect.
To say it simply, gay saunas provide a safe community for LGBTI identifying men to get naked with their friends and hang out.

Homoconservatism subdues true expression of ones sexual identity, and it is at a place like a sauna where you are free to explore, act, speak, and think freely.

 

[Vazra]

I search a lot through a number of different sites and it's just a lot of effort to find new decent porn. Tumblr is prob the best for me, but even there it's mostly just still pictures of guys,which isn't as great.

We should make our own.

Spoiler

(That is if you are of legal age of course)

 

[Zantetsuken88]

Bathhouses and gay saunas are maligned as ‘seedy’ but are actually relaxing, friendly and much needed

Getting naked with my friends would certainly be an interesting experience 0_0

 

[Aeriscloud]

I just got Amtrak tickets to go and meet someone in NYC on the 19th, what's happening to me????

 

[Dany]

I just got Amtrak tickets to go and meet someone in NYC on the 19th, what's happening to me????

We've all done it. Have fun lol

 

[Omegasquash]

I just got Amtrak tickets to go and meet someone in NYC on the 19th, what's happening to me????

You're enjoying your life. Have fun, be safe/smart!

 

[Mostmanlyman]

Getting naked with my friends would certainly be an interesting experience 0_0

Yeah that would be weird.

 

[Kevyt]

Getting naked with my friends would certainly be an interesting experience 0_0

I've seen some of my friends naked, it's not a big deal tbh.

I just got Amtrak tickets to go and meet someone in NYC on the 19th, what's happening to me????

Have fun! Who are you meeting up with?

Anyone special? wink wink, nudge nudge. ;3

 

[CornBurrito]

Why are gay(?) men so obsessed with straight men? Masculinity is nice but it's not the end all be all. It certainly isn't enough to warrant watching them have sex with women either. I stopped watching straight porn in 1987 when I found out gay porn existed, and subsisted on imagination until the internet came around.

I'm not really so sure if it is gay men being obsessed with straight men, or gay men being obsessed with men in general, and most men just happen to be straight.

 

[Aeriscloud]

I've seen some of my friends naked, it's not a big deal tbh.



Have fun! Who are you meeting up with?

Anyone special? wink wink, nudge nudge. ;3

Someone I've been talking to for a while online.

I'm meeting my BF a few days after for the first time on the 23rd, if the date doesn't move again for the 100th time.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

Likewise, I redesigned my pawn to kind of look like Brent Everett, and named him Brent Everet (the second t was over the character limit for pawn names).

lmao

 

[Mostmanlyman]

I have to make something for digital art and i have no idea what to make.

 

[GoStc]

I have to make something for digital art and i have no idea what to make.

You have no guidelines whatsoever?

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I'm not really so sure if it is gay men being obsessed with straight men, or gay men being obsessed with men in general, and most men just happen to be straight.

Yeah I think people tend to find the familiar refreshing, and the other to be other, and statistically that's 'straight guys'.

Then on the other hand straight guys become unattractive because they don't offer anything, and that's important. But those two are not mutually exclusive.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

You have no guidelines whatsoever?

Nope not really, like it is for school but past that no.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I have to make something for digital art and i have no idea what to make.

Inspiration is too fickle to be relied on, just start doing something and see what the result is.

 

[kitchenmotors]

I've seen some of my friends naked, it's not a big deal tbh.

This.

I've seen a few straight and gay friends naked, either from the gym or pool/beach. Not really that big of a deal.

 

[Grakl]

Someone I've been talking to for a while online.

I'm meeting my BF a few days after for the first time on the 23rd, if the date doesn't move again for the 100th time.

NYC hella fun, get to eating

 

[umop_3pisdn]

If I was attracted to my friends I wouldn't be friends with them tbh.

 

[Vazra]

This.

I've seen a few straight and gay friends naked, either from the gym or pool/beach. Not really that big of a deal.

Same there is a thing called respect so nothing would happen.

 

[CornBurrito]

Then on the other hand straight guys become unattractive because they don't offer anything

Eh, hot is hot. You don't stop finding someone hot just because you realistically have no chance with them.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

If I was attracted to my friends I wouldn't be friends with them tbh.

For me, I think a slightly modified version of this is true:

If I became friends with someone I'm attracted to, I would stop being attracted to them.

While attraction is hard to entirely turn off, I think the psychological context of friendship goes a long way to achieving that once I fully accept that we are friends and nothing more. I guess my attraction is tied to possibility.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Eh, hot is hot. You don't stop finding someone hot just because you realistically have no chance with them.

That's one specific reading of 'not offering anything'. And I beg to differ, it has happened to me plenty of times.

For me, I think a slightly modified version of this is true:

If I became friends with someone I'm attracted to, I would stop being attracted to them.

While attraction is hard to entirely turn off, I think the psychological context of friendship goes a long way to achieving that once I fully accept that we are friends and nothing more. I guess my attraction is tied up in possibility.

Pretty much.

 

[Vazra]

Eh, hot is hot. You don't stop finding someone hot just because you realistically have no chance with them.

As if they had chances with most of the gay porn stars really. Sure they seem more realistically approachable but meh still visuals

 

[umop_3pisdn]

As if they had chances with most of the gay porn stars really. Sure they seem more realistically approachable but meh still visuals

Was talking about a broader phenom than just porn.

 

[Delio]

If I was attracted to my friends I wouldn't be friends with them tbh.

So are you saying your friends have to be ugly to be friends with you or? What is your cut off?

For me I have a lot of friends who are hot and I think are attractive but that doesn't get in the way of my friendship with them.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

So are you saying your friends have to be ugly to be friends with you or? What is your cut off?

For me I have a lot of friends who are hot and I think are attractive but that doesn't get in the way of my friendship with them.

No, I just don't balance an active attraction with active friendship. And I'm not sure why I'd act differently, it seems that those who do tend to get mistaken about their motivations for being 'friends' with the other person. If I'm actively attracted to them they just remain acquaintances, which is good enough for most people anyways. Friends is actually a pretty limited category.

Maybe I'll be forced to compromise on that policy at some point, that wouldn't really surprise me, but it hasn't happened yet nor would I expect it to be common.

 

[CornBurrito]

That's one specific reading of 'not offering anything'. And I beg to differ, it has happened to me plenty of times.

I'd consider you an oddity then. Logically most everyone knows they have zero chance with porn actors/actresses and famous movie stars. Doesn't stop millions of straight and gay men alike finding those people hot.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I'd consider you an oddity then. Logically most everyone knows they have zero chance with porn actors/actresses and famous movie stars. Doesn't stop millions of straight and gay men alike finding those people hot.

Was talking about a broader phenom than just porn.

.

 

[Vazra]

Was talking about a broader phenom than just porn.

That I missed. Kinda skipped around on the posts. xD

 

[umop_3pisdn]

That I missed. Kinda skipped around on the posts. xD

May seem OT but I think it's justified. The fantasies that porn draws on and accentuates don't occur in a vacuum, they're based at least partly on our lived experience. And the same thing that causes a person to realize that straight guys are a sad waste of time might also make that fantasy seem not as interesting in general.

 

[IvorB]

I've found some pro stuff that can grab me pretty easy. Sometimes Amateur just doesn't have the angles I'd like to see because of the camera work and I just kinda fall out of it. Depends on the scene and depends on the actors.

The really over-produced stuff from the big studios is pretty dull but I agree that pure amateur is also not right for me. I don't really have any interest in seeing 'average' looking guys in porn. So I like the stuff that looks amateur but is actually well produced. I have a particular soft spot (hard spot?) for Chaosmen.

Bathhouses and gay saunas are maligned as &#8216;seedy&#8217; but are actually relaxing, friendly and much needed

I would love it if gay saunas were actually relaxing, friendly, wholesome venues to hang out in but my wealth of personal experience in London saunas says otherwise. Though I never went to Chariots so maybe that was the utopia this article is describing.

 

[Delio]

The really over-produced stuff from the big studios is pretty dull but I agree that pure amateur is also not right for me. I don't really have any interest in seeing 'average' looking guys in porn. So I like the stuff that looks amateur but is actually well produced. I have a particular soft spot (hard spot?) for Chaosmen.

My soft spot atm is POV stuff like Czechhunter. I know it's fake but meh i find guys i like on it ( also helps those same guys end up on other Czech porn sites so you get more)

 

[Escape Goat]

Texas GAF, its TBRU this week! Wooo!

 

[Bladenic]

I actually got messaged by a porn star who was in town for some event at the gay club. Can't remember what his name was, wanna say Liam something. Not one of my faves

 

[Delio]

Texas GAF, its TBRU this week! Wooo!

So what is this about? I could totally go but I dunno.

I actually got messaged by a porn star who was in town for some event at the gay club. Can't remember what his name was, wanna say Liam something. Not one of my faves

Liam? Lots of Liams in the porn space.

 

[IvorB]

Been fortunate enough to score a couple of porn stars in my time. The only one whose porn name I can remember is Axel Brooks. I thought we were meeting for a nice date but I arrived at some random orgy in central London and he was off his face. I think romantically I was born in the wrong era. One day I'll get that nice romantic fairy tale I've been dreaming about. *sigh*

 

[CornBurrito]

May seem OT but I think it's justified. The fantasies that porn draws on and accentuates don't occur in a vacuum, they're based at least partly on our lived experience. And the same thing that causes a person to realize that straight guys are a sad waste of time might also make that fantasy seem not as interesting in general.

I mean, ex-lovers are also usually a sad waste of time. It doesn't prevent people from being unable to get rid of those feelings.

I think we simply disagree about the amount of control an average person has over who they have feelings for.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I mean, ex-lovers are also usually a sad waste of time. It doesn't prevent people from being unable to get rid of those feelings.

I think we simply disagree about the amount of control an average person has over who they have feelings for.

Your understanding of a situation can certainly influence how you feel about it. If you reflected on the irreconcilable differences between you and your ex lover or how much of a fuckup they were, with full knowledge, you're not going to feel nearly as bad about it.

 

[Golnei]

Been fortunate enough to score a couple of porn stars in my time. The only one whose porn name I can remember is Axel Brooks. I thought we were meeting for a nice date but I arrived at some random orgy in central London and he was off his face. I think romantically I was born in the wrong era. One day I'll get that nice romantic fairy tale I've been dreaming about. *sigh*

I think, given the choice, I'd prefer living in the less romantic era if it means I'm less likely to be chemically castrated.

 

[CornBurrito]

Your understanding of a situation can certainly influence how you feel about it. If you reflected on the irreconcilable differences between you and your ex lover or how much of a fuckup they were, with full knowledge, you're not going to feel nearly as bad about it.

I think you can influence how you feel about the situation, but I'm skeptical about the ability to completely eliminate or change your feelings about a person with sheer willpower.