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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

dbztrk

Member
I understand completely with the mentality that the gay world is unkind. I myself have had my rough run of things and it honestly doesn't seem that it'll ever get better. Even though hope seems low, everyday is a new day of possibilities. Perhaps join a gay club or community(even facebook groups!) in your area, there are dating apps now which make things easier. I'm sorry you're dealing with this =( When younger, everything seems so easier and simpler where nothing can go wrong. The world we live in today is utter shit, chaos, and pathetic honestly. The gay community is supposed to be united, but I feel its divided when you see how picky, demanding, and superficial they are.

My heart breaks for your nephew, but he's incredibly lucky to have you. Just remember you are his beacon of hope, as its understandable for parents to struggle with their child not being "what they built them in their mind to be." You've lived through struggles and the battles he is and will face, and with your love and guidance, he'll make it through. Eventually his mom will come around I hope, and he'll have an amazing and healthy support system. Though perhaps you may learn a thing or two from him. It's all about life lessons.

Thank you! *Hearts*
 

Beth Cyra

Member
Thank you so much for your reply. I'm about to reply. I'm hoping everything will be ok. =(



Always a PM away if you need anything. =)
It will Gibbs, your a special fella and you’ll make it through this.

Well if my horrible grammar and spelling don’t kill you.
 

pixelation

Member
Hi!

You look Amazing!

Thanks man!

Anyone else have issues with temptation (if you're in a relationship)?, i get hit on by dudes that are really attractive but i'm seeing someone already (not my BF just yet), i'm afraid i've got a whore heart... T_T
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
Seems like many in Queer GAF are going through some rough times - hope all is well with everyone <3

Oh its completely bullshit difficult, Theres no rubberband ai or anything but you only can get hit 3-4 times depending on whats equipped. It feels at times the game is extremely brutal when in fact the easiest option is still extremely hard. I made it to isle 2 and I have not beat anything yet. I'm stuck, and I'm pissed haha.

Fine, you pay and I buy dinner and dessert, and thats final. Next time I fork the bill :D

Oh. Hm. That dampens my hype quite a bit.

Deal :]
 

Sai-kun

Banned
Thanks man!


Anyone else have issues with temptation (if you're in a relationship)?, i get hit on by dudes that are really attractive but i'm seeing someone already (not my BF just yet), i'm afraid i've got a whore heart... T_T

I wouldn’t say I have a whore heart (lmao) but I definitely have always gotten really attached to people really easily.

Like, if ur cute and u hold a door for me I will think about it for at least 4 days.

Ur nice to me once? i will think about u for the rest of the week
 
Anyone else have issues with temptation (if you're in a relationship)?, i get hit on by dudes that are really attractive but i'm seeing someone already (not my BF just yet), i'm afraid i've got a whore heart... T_T

I am fickle af and any relationship is in the best case scenario basically me being convinced over and over again by the other person to give it a fair shot.

So maybe not temptation so much as uncertainty.
 

pixelation

Member
I wouldn’t say I have a whore heart (lmao) but I definitely have always gotten really attached to people really easily.

Like, if ur cute and u hold a door for me I will think about it for at least 4 days.

Ur nice to me once? i will think about u for the rest of the week
Oh wow... are you me?, am i you? *high fives*
I am fickle af and any relationship is in the best case scenario basically me being convinced over and over again by the other person to give it a fair shot.

So maybe not temptation so much as uncertainty.
I can definitely relate to this as well...
 
On one hand, getting into furry erotic roleplaying has done a TON to help my "issue" from a couple months back.

On the other hand... How to explain to certain furries that "I'm gay" means "I'm gay"? Some just don't seem able to grasp this concept for some reason. Is it really that hard to grasp that I'm simply not into women at all? ._.;
 

Beth Cyra

Member
On one hand, getting into furry erotic roleplaying has done a TON to help my "issue" from a couple months back.

On the other hand... How to explain to certain furries that "I'm gay" means "I'm gay"? Some just don't seem able to grasp this concept for some reason. Is it really that hard to grasp that I'm simply not into women at all? ._.;
Honey if you find an answer share it with me would ya?

Like fucking clock work I put up a pic on a dating site or L4W and I have not once had a female respond but several men and every time I do I’m listed as Lesbian, only interested in Women and only will accept women (Dreamin on this one lol) and still it’s the men that message me.

Like Bro’s I love ya and while I joke about being an anime man hater (Useless they a gay man, <3 Yurii on Ice) but I’ll hang, chill or even game with with ya. I just ain’t a straight/Bi/Pan, this bitch is 110% gay.
 

TrutaS

Member
Guys, I'm just starting Stardew Valley, and I'm getting taken over by feels of a magical farm/forest life with a gay love interest. So I'm in a complete mood to follow down this rabbit hole that will suck the joy out of my actual urban life (but I don't care).

Do you have any book recommendations that feature some gay characters (at least) and are set in the countryside / forest / not city ? I've been googling for hours and have had no success.
 

IvorB

Member
Seems like gay crime lords are in vogue on Netflix at the moment. First we had gay cartel boss in Narcos, now we get gay gypsy thug in Suburra:

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Burbeting

Banned
I get crushes on people super easily. It's annoying. But I don't easily fall in love. I've done it once, and I'm still broken three years later.

I also wish I wasn't ugly.
 

JCX

Member
I love Crazy Ex Girlfriend

Insecure and CXG basically drag me for all my bad dating habits.

Guys, I'm just starting Stardew Valley, and I'm getting taken over by feels of a magical farm/forest life with a gay love interest. So I'm in a complete mood to follow down this rabbit hole that will suck the joy out of my actual urban life (but I don't care).

Do you have any book recommendations that feature some gay characters (at least) and are set in the countryside / forest / not city ? I've been googling for hours and have had no success.

I'm loving Stardew valley too! None of the guys have noticed me yet :(
 

Beth Cyra

Member
I get crushes on people super easily. It's annoying. But I don't easily fall in love. I've done it once, and I'm still broken three years later.

I also wish I wasn't ugly.
This is largely me too.

Crushes? Seriously it’s far to easy.

Female? Look at me? Actually talk to me? Only thing I need is the slight level of disdain or disgust in your eye where I’m not good enough and I’ll be crushing on you for weeks.

Actually get in my face and tell me off? I’d likely fall in love with you.
 

Beth Cyra

Member
Seems like gay crime lords are in vogue on Netflix at the moment. First we had gay cartel boss in Narcos, now we get gay gypsy thug in Suburra:

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Die this mother’s hair white and give him a Katana and we got ourselves an amazing Lige Action Virgil.
 

Kevyt

Member
For all the hate "Pumpkin Spice" things (like coffee) get, they're actually really good! This is the first year I am trying out pumpkin spice food and beverage items. Not disappointed, very tasty! ^_^


What can I say... I am starting to feel that way as well. However a few years back I joined community based organizations that supported LGBT causes and volunteered for a few of them. It has been an amazing experience. I have met several LGBT individuals of various walks of life. Interacting with them has been a fulfilling experience.

My love life (or lack of) sucks, meeting new guys for romantic reasons sucks, meeting new people in general sucks, but at this point if I'm going to be lonely (read single) for the rest of my life, I am actually okay with that. I think that sometimes we have high expectations of things. We're waiting for that one person who is the one, who will come into our lives and make us feel happier and more fulfilled - but what if there is no such person? I'm trying to get comfortable with the idea that maybe there isn't "the one" because I can see myself being single for a very long time without many friends, and that's okay in my opinion.

There's the good and the bad in the LGBT community and I'm actually really happy I've experienced both. Of course it's not all good or bad, there's grays in between but to me it has been a learning experience. I am trying to look at it that way.

What would you tell your 18 year old self if you could go back in time and give a piece of advice?
 

Gibbs

Member
I get crushes on people super easily. It's annoying. But I don't easily fall in love. I've done it once, and I'm still broken three years later.

I may crush on people with ease, but perhaps its their soul I fall in love with. Who knows, it's all a weird, crazy experience.

I'm still broken 2 years later, but we gotta keep moving

I also wish I wasn't ugly.

You are NOT ugly. You are a perfectly attractive person. Everyone is. It's a matter of perception, how we view, see, and attraction. It's why we all have preferences.

Seems like many in Queer GAF are going through some rough times - hope all is well with everyone <3



Oh. Hm. That dampens my hype quite a bit.

Deal :]

Don't let it dampen your hype. The game is top notch but challenging. I'm use to just blasting through games with no problem... but this game is a total asshole.

It will Gibbs, your a special fella and you'll make it through this.

Well if my horrible grammar and spelling don't kill you.

Well this morning I had a message from him, and it contained something graphic sooooo I'm done with it entirely. Fuck it, he has zero control now, and I'm taking over. Don't be throwing accusations and attempt to destroy my life when in fact it's you who are starting and causing everything.

You were right... I did nothing wrong. =) Thank you for the messages last night. Same to Via, you both are the best. <3
 

Beth Cyra

Member
I may crush on people with ease, but perhaps its their soul I fall in love with. Who knows, it's all a weird, crazy experience.

I'm still broken 2 years later, but we gotta keep moving



You are NOT ugly. You are a perfectly attractive person. Everyone is. It's a matter of perception, how we view, see, and attraction. It's why we all have preferences.



Don't let it dampen your hype. The game is top notch but challenging. I'm use to just blasting through games with no problem... but this game is a total asshole.



Well this morning I had a message from him, and it contained something graphic sooooo I'm done with it entirely. Fuck it, he has zero control now, and I'm taking over. Don't be throwing accusations and attempt to destroy my life when in fact it's you who are starting and causing everything.

You were right... I did nothing wrong. =) Thank you for the messages last night. Same to Via, you both are the best. <3
I’m glad you see that now Gibbs. You don’t deserve to carry that nonsense :) it does my heart good to know your dropping it and him like a bad habit.

As far as the other part of your post. The soul comment is interesting, I really wish I could say that was the case and I think it might be kinda the same for me but it’s I think more shallow in my case as attitude and soul are two different things.

I’m meant to serve, and badly as we are talking far end masochist so while I crush easy it’s if you have the attitude that can be controlling that makes me fall for someone, if you can make me serve you then I’m at serious risk of falling for you.
 

Gibbs

Member
I’m glad you see that now Gibbs. You don’t deserve to carry that nonsense :) it does my heart good to know your dropping it and him like a bad habit.

As far as the other part of your post. The soul comment is interesting, I really wish I could say that was the case and I think it might be kinda the same for me but it’s I think more shallow in my case as attitude and soul are two different things.

I’m meant to serve, and badly as we are talking far end masochist so while I crush easy it’s if you have the attitude that can be controlling that makes me fall for someone, if you can make me serve you then I’m at serious risk of falling for you.

I mean he is a nice guy naturally, but being accused of something as a joke is not cool especially in todays world. Regardless I picked myself back up and it's time to move forth. =)

Attitude and Soul are definitely TWO completely different things. I view it as I can change the attitude, as if someone has been through hell for example, they will have a wall up per say, in time, we can address that. Theres so many variables and I am the type that I will explorer and understand why you are the way you are. Sometimes its things that happened, and others, people are naturally just assholes lol. Point being, I often look past those things and look at their personality, how they tick, and those type of things.

As you see yourself serving people, I believe I was put on earth to help people. If I'm correct, the idea of dominance is what turns and drives you?
 

Gibbs

Member
Opps double posted. Sorry kids.

Gibbs at this point I think that you got two guardians who are going to watching for ya.

PS

<3 Via.

You both are my guardian angels. We should become Charlies Angels, just because! :D


You need to destroy this nutcase and use any evidence you can against him. Glad you're taking over.

Oh the evidence. He has nothing against me ironically to prove a damn thing. Today just proved he provokes a lot of things and thats what makes me not care anymore about the situation.
 

Beth Cyra

Member
I mean he is a nice guy naturally, but being accused of something as a joke is not cool especially in todays world. Regardless I picked myself back up and it's time to move forth. =)

Attitude and Soul are definitely TWO completely different things. I view it as I can change the attitude, as if someone has been through hell for example, they will have a wall up per say, in time, we can address that. Theres so many variables and I am the type that I will explorer and understand why you are the way you are. Sometimes its things that happened, and others, people are naturally just assholes lol. Point being, I often look past those things and look at their personality, how they tick, and those type of things.

As you see yourself serving people, I believe I was put on earth to help people. If I'm correct, the idea of dominance is what turns and drives you?
As always you show how perceptive and understanding you are Gibbs.

Yes my main motivation outside of pretty much everything I do outside of providing my children is based on it.

I have very little desire to do much on my own and my primary goal is to look for someone to control me. A large part of my work out set up is endurance and I very much react pretty much instinctively to a woman in control.

It is not an exaggeration to say even if I don’t like or want something the if a woman demands it of me and has chosen to control me I won’t rest till I accomplish it(with the exception of me targeting another human being) lol. I have examples but honestly while they are not sexual in nature I know that my desires are exactly what some have been traumatized by so I won’t go into detail as I don’t want to bring up bad feelings for our wonderful community.
 
And speaking of assholes, I felt a little empowered by telling this guy how I felt about his character but I was totally respectful about it. I told him to work on his sociopathic behavior because no one wants that.

I sent the text and blocked him for good.
 

Astral Dog

Member
Hows everyone doing have you been
doing good and having fun I sent a lazy computer Kiss to All &#128068;

i didn't do it because the screen could get ugly and stinky
 

Beth Cyra

Member
And speaking of assholes, I felt a little empowered by telling this guy how I felt about his character but I was totally respectful about it. I told him to work on his sociopathic behavior because no one wants that.

I sent the text and blocked him for good.
Good!

It’s bs the way you where treated and the POS needs to know that you won’t and others deserve better.
 

Beth Cyra

Member
Welcome.



My thoughts exactly. I typically leave things as they are but some people need to be called out on their behaviour.
I agree one hundred percent Via. It also shows how strong you are that you could do it, many people like myself wouldn’t be able to bring them selves and just not reply and respond.

Your amazing my friend.
 

pixelation

Member
I am going out with a guy, i told him from the start that i am not looking for a relationship (more of a friend with benefits situation). He said it was okey, but yesterday he started asking if i thought this could ever be anything more than just that. I was sincere and said that no, that's not what i'm looking for (i am still in the closet) and that due to my religious upbringing i may never get out of it.

He knew all this things before we ever started going out, i answered truthfully and told him that it was okey if he wanted for us to stop seeing eachother. He said that he was just asking... but i don't want to hurt him if he falls in love with me and i'm not ready/willing to have a boyfriend.

What would you guys/girls do?
 

JCX

Member
Had a rare day of self-confidence after gym on Saturday.

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I'm still trying to lose about 20 more lbs, but I'm glad to have found a new hobby. I started losing weight first for my health, then because I thought it would make dating easier, but now it's just something fun to do.

I am going out with a guy, i told him from the start that i am not looking for a relationship (more of a friend with benefits situation). He said it was okey, but yesterday he started asking if i thought this could ever be anything more than just that. I was sincere and said that no, that's not what i'm looking for (i am still in the closet) and that due to my religious upbringing i may never get out of it.

He knew all this things before we ever started going out, i answered truthfully and told him that it was okey if he wanted for us to stop seeing eachother. He said that he was just asking... but i don't want to hurt him if he falls in love with me and i'm not ready/willing to have a boyfriend.

What would you guys/girls do?

I was that guy last year. If you truly don't feel like you want to date him, do him a favor and cut things off with him directly. When you have a crush, you'll latch onto any small bit of hope for a relationship.
 

Beth Cyra

Member
Had a rare day of self-confidence after gym on Saturday.

wwoCF1xm.jpg


I'm still trying to lose about 20 more lbs, but I'm glad to have found a new hobby. I started losing weight first for my health, then because I thought it would make dating easier, but now it's just something fun to do.



I was that guy last year. If you truly don't feel like you want to date him, do him a favor and cut things off with him directly. When you have a crush, you'll latch onto any small bit of hope for a relationship.
Damn JCX you a hunk.

My friend I need some tips to help get my arms to that size cause damn.
 

Astral Dog

Member
I am going out with a guy, i told him from the start that i am not looking for a relationship (more of a friend with benefits situation). He said it was okey, but yesterday he started asking if i thought this could ever be anything more than just that. I was sincere and said that no, that's not what i'm looking for (i am still in the closet) and that due to my religious upbringing i may never get out of it.

He knew all this things before we ever started going out, i answered truthfully and told him that it was okey if he wanted for us to stop seeing eachother. He said that he was just asking... but i don't want to hurt him if he falls in love with me and i'm not ready/willing to have a boyfriend.

What would you guys/girls do?
You have changed Pix, i remember having bits of trouble with the Ladies they were hungry glad its been working out ;)

I'm ok. How are you?
Ok-ish i guess. Im ending sessions with the teraphist as now i can think better , yesterday i was a little worried the cafe im on working on was going to get closed this week but seems it can still go on a few months more so i cant complain. &#9749;
 

pixelation

Member
I was that guy last year. If you truly don't feel like you want to date him, do him a favor and cut things off with him directly. When you have a crush, you'll latch onto any small bit of hope for a relationship.
Daaang dude looking huge!, and yeah... guess he has that tiny bit of hope that i'll change my mind. I really don't wanna hurt him.
You have changed Pix, i remember having bits of trouble with the Ladies they were hungry glad its been working out ;)
Thanks!, well i get hit on by both (guys and girls), but i am leaning more towards man i'm coming to find out... why can't man have (biological) babies?
half joking here
 
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