My GF let a salesman into our home
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wonderkins
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Isn't saying "a check with our banking info on it" like saying ATM machine? A little redundant, OP. My time is precious. Com'on!
outunderthestars
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fuzzyreactor said:
" I told my GF to not let ppl into our home when i am not home"
"When i try to tell her that it is unacceptable"
Are you seriously confused as to why she is mad?
It's her apartment just as much as it is yours.
NGAMER9 said:
One time my Fiancee let a salesman into our house, while our 6 month old son was scooting around on his assisted walker and I was at work. When I got home she was about to buy a 1200 dollar vacuum and I politely told the salesman that I'd like to discuss the issue with her before we did anything.
When the guy left, we had a discussion about the flaws in her plan. As equals.
This. I think the OP is just worded poorly but I understand what he is trying to say. If it was a friend they both knew that would be one thing, and I'm sure the OP would have no beef with that, but this is some random door-to-door salesman. Not only that she was about to buy whatever the fuck he was selling.NGAMER9 said:
Dead Prince
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my dad bought dat vac lulz.marrec said:
well before they even made it to door. told him to say "not interested".
yeah sure. after it has happened. lol.CrankyJay said:
outunderthestars
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Yaboosh said:
Pure win.
Hylian7 said:
She's an adult. Why can't she buy whatever the fuck she wants from whoever she wants in her own apartment?
As far as safety goes, I don't trust strangers and this is something people should have learned when a child.
The best solution is never to attack but to turn them against themselves. If they can be made to recognize the foolishness of their own actions through indirect questioning, it's usually a lot better.
The best solution is never to attack but to turn them against themselves. If they can be made to recognize the foolishness of their own actions through indirect questioning, it's usually a lot better.
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weekend_warrior
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Look around your bedroom for his underwear.
This is almost the same scenario, if you replace the vacuum salesman with an ill-tempered scam salesman in a bad neighborhood. He says in the OP his wife was afraid and probably felt threatened. This isn't an issue of equality, it's an issue of someone doing something stupid and being corrected. Happens all the time.marrec said:
He already knew your address obviously, unwarranted concern regarding that.
As far as your girlfriend you'll have better luck having a discussion and sharing your view than making demands and/or reprimanding like a child. I do understand where you're coming from as these people can be pushy or make you feel sorry for them but remember your girlfriend is an adult.
As far as your girlfriend you'll have better luck having a discussion and sharing your view than making demands and/or reprimanding like a child. I do understand where you're coming from as these people can be pushy or make you feel sorry for them but remember your girlfriend is an adult.
fuzzyreactor
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Its called common sense. She is small woman that how no way to protect herself and i care about her. Its called protecting your love ones. Just like i hope you wouldnt think it is okay for your GF to hitchhike as her way of transportationoutunderthestars said:
Silphonica
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I worked for a fundraising organisation that was a 3rd party that helped charity raise money. We operated door to door. You are the classic person that I despised the most when I worked with them.
Why?
All day everyday, I go from door to door. After about 4 hours of this, very little people would even take 5 minutes to listen to what I have to say. Then there she is, the one person I would find who would like to engage in conversation with me. I spend 20 minutes explaining why our charity needed as much help as possible financially and ask her if she'd help us out. She isn't sure so as per needed by my company I remind her about everything I've said and tell her that signing up for us would make one hell of an impact on our goal (which is, no word of a lie). She agrees.
We get ready to fill out the form. Before I do so, I want to make her feel comfortable by doing so. I let her know that donations are made by a bank to bank transfer to avoid government taxing. All we ask for is the account number and sort code of your bank account (not your credit card number or your security verification number) and that all we can do with that info is set up a standing order or put money into your account. To set up this standing order you need a legal binding document which is what we'll be using and something you can take to the police and your lawyers to have my ass behind bars if anything dodgy goes on (at which point I show her my passport to help her feel easy).
It's taken us 45 minutes to get to this stage but thats no problem because we've found us a worthwhile donator who is going to make a difference in our country. She has all the info and we have no problems. We begin to fill out the form and then it happens.
"it" being the boyfriend/husband. He comes home, sees me and immediately tells me to go fucking hit the road. A little argument ensues between him and her and he treats her like shit. "It's a scam you dont know any better we dont know this guy". The truth is though, he is the one who doesn't know any better. The reason he is so against this is because, he hasn't sat down and spoke to me. He doesn't have all the information she does. He is the one making the ill-informed decision. In my case his decision ensured that for the time being we couldn't afford to find a bone marrow match to offer a transplant to a child with leukaemia.
Why?
All day everyday, I go from door to door. After about 4 hours of this, very little people would even take 5 minutes to listen to what I have to say. Then there she is, the one person I would find who would like to engage in conversation with me. I spend 20 minutes explaining why our charity needed as much help as possible financially and ask her if she'd help us out. She isn't sure so as per needed by my company I remind her about everything I've said and tell her that signing up for us would make one hell of an impact on our goal (which is, no word of a lie). She agrees.
We get ready to fill out the form. Before I do so, I want to make her feel comfortable by doing so. I let her know that donations are made by a bank to bank transfer to avoid government taxing. All we ask for is the account number and sort code of your bank account (not your credit card number or your security verification number) and that all we can do with that info is set up a standing order or put money into your account. To set up this standing order you need a legal binding document which is what we'll be using and something you can take to the police and your lawyers to have my ass behind bars if anything dodgy goes on (at which point I show her my passport to help her feel easy).
It's taken us 45 minutes to get to this stage but thats no problem because we've found us a worthwhile donator who is going to make a difference in our country. She has all the info and we have no problems. We begin to fill out the form and then it happens.
"it" being the boyfriend/husband. He comes home, sees me and immediately tells me to go fucking hit the road. A little argument ensues between him and her and he treats her like shit. "It's a scam you dont know any better we dont know this guy". The truth is though, he is the one who doesn't know any better. The reason he is so against this is because, he hasn't sat down and spoke to me. He doesn't have all the information she does. He is the one making the ill-informed decision. In my case his decision ensured that for the time being we couldn't afford to find a bone marrow match to offer a transplant to a child with leukaemia.
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weekend_warrior said:
Dead Prince
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so much to get fix if you got direct payment from other companies D:.CrankyJay said:
fuzzyreactor
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Guess you missed the part where i said she didnt even want to buy it but was afraid to say no.marrec said:
Also consider i support 80% of our living
Trent Strong
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marrec said:
Koodo said:
You guys are being unreasonable and irrational.
blame space
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yeah I watch Mad Men too
Every post from you in this thread has been exaggeration. The guy's intentions are good, he's asking how to deal with this problem. Had you suggested "just tell her not to do this again", which is what he actually did, there'd be no problem. Instead, you've equated this to him beating her and not letting her out of the house.marrec said:
It's not the same thing, all he did was tell her not to do that again because he's worried about her. His wording may sound a little harsh in these posts, but that's all it is.
I don't get it, are you saying he should've just let this scamming slide and say nothing? I can't find the point here. Should he not protect her?
wonderkins
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Oh no. The volume just got turned to 11.
fuzzyreactor said:
How old is your girlfriend?
The adult thing to do is to talk to her about it. Tell her that you are uncomfortable with her being alone in the area by itself, let alone letting strange men into the home. Her response, and her personality, is a reflection of you. So if shes too this, or too that, well. Why are you in a situation where you can't speak to your spouse honestly?
I think you guys are overreacting to the OP. His language may have been a bit odd but letting a stranger into your house regardless of gender is pretty ridiculous without good reason and especially a door to door salesman if you have no actual intention of buying what they're offering. I'm sure my girlfriend would be mad at me if I let some random stranger into our apartment and gender would have nothing to do with it.
outunderthestars
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Hylian7 said:
Yea, he totally sounds like the kind of guy who totally consults his girlfriend as a equal partner in the relationship.
outunderthestars
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fuzzyreactor said:
You have to be trolling at this point.
Angry Fork
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She was acting like a 10 year old so it's justified.outunderthestars said:
ReturnOfTheRAT
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Sounds likes a porno script to me.
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