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I Wanna Be The Guy

U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A!
It's really how you're feeling the conversation via text is going. I've asked out a girl for a date in our first few exchanges, others after a few days of back and forth. Some others just dropped. When you think you have a good feel on how she is and that you might want to chat/know more about her and want to meet just ask. She might just ask herself, you never know.

Trick is to not overthink it and just see how casual chats go, leave enough to chat and talk about in person. Don't wait a week or anything, you'll kind of know when you know I guess.

Edit: Ask her if she plays games too etc...
Well the convo is goinv really well at the moment. She just made a joke that fucking slayed me. I'm getting a good feel for who she is already and I'm pretty sure she likes me. I think I'll see how I feel tomorrow so yeah tomorrow is probably when I'll ask her out assuming things dont turn south quickly.
 

SeanC

Member
Well the convo is goinv really well at the moment. She just made a joke that fucking slayed me. I'm getting a good feel for who she is already and I'm pretty sure she likes me. I think I'll see how I feel tomorrow so yeah tomorrow is probably when I'll ask her out assuming things dont turn south quickly.

Sounds like a plan.
 

I Wanna Be The Guy

U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A!
And now we're making penis jokes to each other. Going well!

And now the joke I just made is either going to make her laugh or scare her away. There is no middle ground. I regret that last joke. HOW DO I TAKE IT BACK?!

She made a joke back and apparently only swallows when surprised. I REGRET NOTHING!
 

SeanC

Member
And now we're making penis jokes to each other. Going well!

And now the joke I just made is either going to make her laugh or scare her away. There is no middle ground. I regret that last joke. HOW DO I TAKE IT BACK?!

She made a joke back and apparently only swallows when surprised. I REGRET NOTHING!

Get on that date. Sounds like it's going well.
 
And now we're making penis jokes to each other. Going well!

And now the joke I just made is either going to make her laugh or scare her away. There is no middle ground. I regret that last joke. HOW DO I TAKE IT BACK?!

She made a joke back and apparently only swallows when surprised. I REGRET NOTHING!

Jesus dude, you should have asked her out about 50 messages ago.
 
Now she's asking me what video games I like to play. If she knows what I mean when I say Rocket League she's a keeper.

Edit: She didnt know. Not proposing yet, guys.

However when I described it she said she has seen the game before. Acceptable.

Wow, video games are like a taboo subject for me, and here you are acing it. Make sure to say "Take the Shot!" and "Siickkk" to her where appropriate
Never
 
Wow, video games are like a taboo subject for me, and here you are acing it. Make sure to say "Take the Shot!" and "Siickkk" to her where appropriate
Never

Hah, he's not acing it. He's becoming a texting buddy real fast. You need to bring the romantic/IRL meetup angle in pretty quickly, imo.

Just wanna play devil's advocate here.

Maybe Cyber Sex technology will advance in the next few years and it'll be worth it to keep her strictly as a pen pal.

Maybe I stand corrected. Get my VR goggles...
 

I Wanna Be The Guy

U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A!
Hey guys. I asked her out. I got a confusing answer that may or may not be a rejection. But it probably is. Online dating is as annoying as non online dating. Just give me a clear no if you're not interested goddammit, and don't lead me on.

Basically she says she's going to Italy in a few days and she'll message me when she gets back. Sounds like she just doesnt want to say no but then WHY THE FUCK WOULD SHE FLIRT THE WAY SHE DID ALL LAST NIGHT IF SHE'S NOT INTERESTED?! So she may just be telling the truth. And we're still just casually chatting right now so it's not like she's straight up cut me off. But it feels like believing this isnt a rejection would make me so damn gullible.

I think the best thing from here is just move on with my life, assume it's a rejection, and if she messages me she messages me. If she doesn't she doesn't.

Damn guys, it felt like I was fucking in after our exchanges last night. Feels bad, man.
 

SeanC

Member
I think the best thing from here is just move on with my life, assume it's a rejection, and if she messages me she messages me. If she doesn't she doesn't.

Damn guys, it felt like I was fucking in after our exchanges last night. Feels bad, man.

You may still be in, assuming the Italy story is real of course. Just don't get so into her that you think she's the only one. She has your #, if she gets back from Italy and texts you then there you are and you get together and whatnot.

Don't wait around for her and don't expect everything and the world from someone. At the end of the day, nobody knows anyone and owes nothing. Keep at it with other prospects in the meantime and if Italy girl comes calling for that dick when she gets back then you can get back into it.
 
So I went on a date with a girl a few weeks back...It went really well, we stayed in the pub chatting for 3 hours, then she came back to mine and she stayed the night. We had a second date the following week, the same thing happened.

The following day she text me to say she probably won't be in touch for a little while as her grandfather (who she was very close to) had just passed away. I told her I was sorry and that I'm here if she needs me.

That was getting on for 2 weeks ago now. I obviously don't want to pressure her in this situation, but equally I want her to know I'd still like to see her, and I don't want her to think I'm not bothered anymore. I guess if she wants to see me again she'll get in touch when she's good and ready, but...bah. It's an awkward situation.
 

Jokab

Member
So I went on a date with a girl a few weeks back...It went really well, we stayed in the pub chatting for 3 hours, then she came back to mine and she stayed the night. We had a second date the following week, the same thing happened.

The following day she text me to say she probably won't be in touch for a little while as her grandfather (who she was very close to) had just passed away. I told her I was sorry and that I'm here if she needs me.

That was getting on for 2 weeks ago now. I obviously don't want to pressure her in this situation, but equally I want her to know I'd still like to see her, and I don't want her to think I'm not bothered anymore. I guess if she wants to see me again she'll get in touch when she's good and ready, but...bah. It's an awkward situation.

Just send a probing text asking how she's doing, you can probably suss out how her state of mind is from the conversation that follows. If it seems okay then ask her out again. The worst thing that can happen is that she declines.
 

SeanC

Member
Debating signing on for one-month on Zoosk just to message this one girl who's profile I really dug. I saw her a while back as a non-paying member but her profile recently noted she's been online more so now if I want to message her I gotta give money.

That's how they get you. Fuckers.

Zoosk is a joke but dang it I'd like to say hey to this one person just to give it a shot. I just don't want to spend $30 for something otherwise useless. I can buy a new bottle of lube and a box of condoms for that price.
 
Ex broke up with me 4 months ago (first relationship, lasted about 3.5 years). We continued to together until I moved to Seattle about a month ago. At around the same time, I decided to start putting myself out there on these newfangled dating apps. Made an account on Tinder and Bumble, threw some pictures up.

A month later...

I've gotten a total of 3 matches. One on Bumble where I got their number, but she was always busy when I tried to make plans with her, and she didn't seem particularly interested in making any time for me. One on Tinder where I said "Hi! How's your week been going?" and sent a "how you doin?" gif, and immediately got ghosted with no response.

The third match was on SoulSwipe, which is essentially Tinder for black people. I swiped on all the chicks on that within a 2, 5, 20, and ultimately 50 mile radius. That app doesn't have notifications, and is horrible in general, so I just said something along the lines of "this app doesn't have notifications, which sucks, so here's my number:" It's been about 2 days with no response, so I'm gonna just write that off too (though if I eventually get a random text or call, then hey! pleasant surprise!).

At first, I was extremely picky. I would control for looks, pets, kids, stupidity, polyamory, and cigarettes. I thought that was the right way to use the app; take whatever info I can from the bio and pics, and use that to decide to swipe or not. Then, I realized that maybe I should take things easy for a while before I just jump into another long-term relationship, so I changed my bio to something like "not looking for anything serious right now." It's tough to convey that I'm not opposed to another long-term relationship, but would rather not go into one with some unspoken assumption that will be the endgame if we don't break up without, IMO, severely impacting my already-bad match rate.

So now I control solely for the answer to the question "would I be happy seeing her when I wake up in the morning?" and I spend as little time as I can coming up with an answer, generally in under a half-second. Worst case scenario, I'll end up ghosting a woman or two.

I dunno. I live in a very highly populated city, and yet I seem to struggle when it comes to online dating. I had the same problem before I met my ex. I was on OKC for about a year and a half*, using it way too fucking often. In that time, I went on exactly 0 dates, despite all the attempts at reworking my profile, etc. I canceled the first date I would've went on from that site when I scheduled the second date with my ex.

I wasn't really satisfied with how things had been going, so my solution was to change my daily habits such that I was in more situations where women might actually be around for me to talk to without approaching/harassing them as they go about their day in public. Went to a local book club for young folks, and met my ex.

I actually went to another book club last week, but while I was the only guy there, literally everyone was already taken.

I'm kind of at a loss as to what to do.

The volume of women I'm queuing up in front of is significantly more vast than it was in my OKC days, but in a way, I feel like I was doing a lot better on OKC simply by virtue of writing thoughtful messages. When I went to find out just how long I'd been using OKC, I had to scroll past hundreds of "you got a new message" notifications. But none of them went anywhere, even after I adopted a "ask for a number within 5 messages" rule. The other issue is that I don't wanna deal with the stress of even further increasing the amount of effort I spend on women who may easily dismiss me with a single glance at my profile picture, not to mention answering all those god damn survey questions again, and filling out a long-form profile... ugh.

At the same time, I have no idea where to go to meet women. Book clubs are great, but I honestly have to treat the "meeting women" aspect of it as an optional perk and not the goal, otherwise I'll do it a couple of times and stop.

My current plan is to simply do P90X3, then start over.


* Side note: Here's an excerpt of the response I got to the first OKC message I ever sent. My message was something like 3 paragraphs because I didn't know any better and I try not to half-step in life.

"First of, let me just say we should go ahead and get married as that was the best message I have... (read more)"

She was cute, and we talked for a few days (even exchanged numbers and started texting), but I was promptly ghosted when I tried to make plans with her, as I recall.
 

SeanC

Member
Debating signing on for one-month on Zoosk just to message this one girl who's profile I really dug. I saw her a while back as a non-paying member but her profile recently noted she's been online more so now if I want to message her I gotta give money.

That's how they get you. Fuckers.

Zoosk is a joke but dang it I'd like to say hey to this one person just to give it a shot. I just don't want to spend $30 for something otherwise useless. I can buy a new bottle of lube and a box of condoms for that price.

Update on this: I actually googled and found the girl on Zoosk that I wanted to message (didn't think it possible but...internet, ya know). Now how the hell do I say hello without coming across as a fucking creep? Or even should I?
 

vern

Member
Update on this: I actually googled and found the girl on Zoosk that I wanted to message (didn't think it possible but...internet, ya know). Now how the hell do I say hello without coming across as a fucking creep? Or even should I?

"Hi, I saw you on zoosk and wanted to talk to you but weren't sure you would be worth the 30 dollars it would take to send you a message so I backtraced your pictures to (Facebook? Wherever you found her) and just wanna tell you that I already bought 30$ worth of lube and condoms so my financial decision making is obviously sound, I know women like that in a man. I'll pick you up Thursday night for dinner... Don't worry about sending your address I've already got it. 💍"


Alternatively... I don't think it's weird necessarily, depends how you play it but it could be tricky. Maybe something like "Hi name, I saw you on zoosk and I liked xyz, you really stood out! My work was super busy and I forgot to message you before my subscription lapsed but I still wanted to have a chance to say hello, hope that's cool. Send me a message so we can chat 💪🏼"

Something to that effect I think makes you not self identify as a creep and is low pressure for her. It doesn't emphasize the fact that you googled her and all that. It also doesn't make you seem too cheap to pay to meet her (even though it's true).

Anyone else got thoughts ?
 
Update on this: I actually googled and found the girl on Zoosk that I wanted to message (didn't think it possible but...internet, ya know). Now how the hell do I say hello without coming across as a fucking creep? Or even should I?

There's absolutely no way to do this without coming across as creepy. I can just picture her -- even if she's okay with it, and she won't be -- talking about this with her friends. "Sean was going to message me on Zoosk, but he had to Google me." "Becky, you've just got a Stage-Five Clinger."

Seriously, as soon as I mentioned that the last girl who was interested in me looked me up on an internal, classified government network and sent me a message, everyone was like what and this bitch cray. (She was, admittedly.)

My advice? Just drop the $30 and message her and some other people. If you can't afford to drop $30 on a whim, you won't get far in dating anyway.
 
Update on this: I actually googled and found the girl on Zoosk that I wanted to message (didn't think it possible but...internet, ya know). Now how the hell do I say hello without coming across as a fucking creep? Or even should I?

a) Are you Harrison Ford?

b) If the answer to the previous question is No, then it's going to get creepy.
 
Just send a probing text asking how she's doing, you can probably suss out how her state of mind is from the conversation that follows. If it seems okay then ask her out again. The worst thing that can happen is that she declines.

Yeah, this is what I went with. She's doing better and we're gonna meet up again next week.

Thanks for the advice!
 

SeanC

Member
Ok but what if I tell her that I could grab her by the pussy and then there's no-doubt she'd want me?

(I know it's creepy guys, no way I would ever do that...although I could just hang outside her work and accidentally bump into her right? That's cool. I'll do that).

My advice? Just drop the $30 and message her and some other people. If you can't afford to drop $30 on a whim, you won't get far in dating anyway.

It's not a whim. 1) Zoosk is fucking joke and going under by what' I've read. 2) Already subscribe to match.com
 

Shanlei91

Sonic handles my blue balls
I used to think people put on their profiles "no out-of-towners!" because they wanted something long-term. But I think it might be because out-of-towners are flakes. Scheduled to meet with four different women during New York Comic-Con, all of which were from out of town, and all flaked an hour or so before. Now normally I would think "they probably found another guy" but all of them continued to chat with me, like if they just wanted a penpal to talk about the con while they were visiting. So weird.

I remembered an article I read years ago, saying that guys with black and white photos got more buzz. Yesterday I re-uploaded my profile photo as Black & White. My phone then blew up with about 12 Tinder matches, 2 Coffee meets Bagle matches and 20 Bumble matches. (of course, only two of those Bumble matches ever sent a message....really hate the women message first aspect.) So either the b&w theory is true or there's an algorithm where changing your pic puts you on other people's radar.
 

bluethree

Member
I used to think people put on their profiles "no out-of-towners!" because they wanted something long-term. But I think it might be because out-of-towners are flakes. Scheduled to meet with four different women during New York Comic-Con, all of which were from out of town, and all flaked an hour or so before. Now normally I would think "they probably found another guy" but all of them continued to chat with me, like if they just wanted a penpal to talk about the con while they were visiting. So weird.
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Yep, I'm technically down for a hookup with an out of towner, but they've all been massive flakes in my experience. Had one cancel like a few hours before a meet after seeming really eager.

Living in a major city, it's really frustrating getting matches with them a lot on Tinder too (they don't always say how long they're here for in the profile too :/)
 
What the fuck, is okcupid being spammed by a ton of spam accounts or something? Seriously, set your location to "Boston" and look at the new accounts in the 20s age range
 
So I finally took the plunge and joined Tinder after being single for 2 years. I was very honest in my bio about being an introvert, liking video games, not drinking or smoking weed, not liking going out to clubs or bars, and not liking overly-religious people, so tbh I didn't expect to match with anyone. I swiped over and over and everyone seemed to be either: 1) super outgoing and extroverted, 2) liked to drink (which is of course typical in 25-30 year olds), 3) overweight, 4) religious, or 5) had kids. After a couple hours I swiped right on maybe 5 women. Much to my surprise, a little while ago I got the notification that I have a match! I'll be honest, I got an adrenaline rush lol. I'm really inexperienced with dating so the idea that someone found me suitable enough to right swipe, even with my brutally honest bio, is kinda crazy to me. She hasn't responded to my greeting, and hell she may never do so, but it's still a small victory for someone who basically hasn't talked to a woman (who wasn't a friend or family member) in 2 years.
 

vern

Member
So I finally took the plunge and joined Tinder after being single for 2 years. I was very honest in my bio about being an introvert, liking video games, not drinking or smoking weed, not liking going out to clubs or bars, and not liking overly-religious people, so tbh I didn't expect to match with anyone. I swiped over and over and everyone seemed to be either: 1) super outgoing and extroverted, 2) liked to drink (which is of course typical in 25-30 year olds), 3) overweight, 4) religious, or 5) had kids. After a couple hours I swiped right on maybe 5 women. Much to my surprise, a little while ago I got the notification that I have a match! I'll be honest, I got an adrenaline rush lol. I'm really inexperienced with dating so the idea that someone found me suitable enough to right swipe, even with my brutally honest bio, is kinda crazy to me. She hasn't responded to my greeting, and hell she may never do so, but it's still a small victory for someone who basically hasn't talked to a woman (who wasn't a friend or family member) in 2 years.

Don't get too excited. Probably a bot.

Swipe right on everyone not horribly disgusting or obviously fake, then later any matches filter out the other deplorables until you have a few that might actually line up with what you want. By being so picky initially you'll never match anyone real.

Also don't list negatives on your profile. Don't even list anything really, just put up some nice photos.

Good luck.
 

Scotch

Member
So I finally took the plunge and joined Tinder after being single for 2 years. I was very honest in my bio about being an introvert, liking video games, not drinking or smoking weed, not liking going out to clubs or bars, and not liking overly-religious people, so tbh I didn't expect to match with anyone. I swiped over and over and everyone seemed to be either: 1) super outgoing and extroverted, 2) liked to drink (which is of course typical in 25-30 year olds), 3) overweight, 4) religious, or 5) had kids. After a couple hours I swiped right on maybe 5 women. Much to my surprise, a little while ago I got the notification that I have a match! I'll be honest, I got an adrenaline rush lol. I'm really inexperienced with dating so the idea that someone found me suitable enough to right swipe, even with my brutally honest bio, is kinda crazy to me. She hasn't responded to my greeting, and hell she may never do so, but it's still a small victory for someone who basically hasn't talked to a woman (who wasn't a friend or family member) in 2 years.
Like vern said, don't list your negatives. Especially don't mention things you DON'T like. You may think that being honest is helpful for finding the perfect match who doesn't like those things either, but it isn't. It comes across as overly negative and makes everyone swipe left on you, including people who you might potentionally vibe with.

Your introvertedness or lack of drinking doesn't define who you are. I'm introverted myself and I've had plenty of fun dates with outgoing women. In the end I found my girlfriend who's pretty introverted herself and who, guess what, didn't mention any of that on her profile.

Mention things in your profile you DO like. Reading, going to museums, hiking, whatever. Or just put up a funny quote, or leave it empty. Good luck.
 

Spinluck

Member
So I finally took the plunge and joined Tinder after being single for 2 years. I was very honest in my bio about being an introvert, liking video games, not drinking or smoking weed, not liking going out to clubs or bars, and not liking overly-religious people, so tbh I didn't expect to match with anyone. I swiped over and over and everyone seemed to be either: 1) super outgoing and extroverted, 2) liked to drink (which is of course typical in 25-30 year olds), 3) overweight, 4) religious, or 5) had kids. After a couple hours I swiped right on maybe 5 women. Much to my surprise, a little while ago I got the notification that I have a match! I'll be honest, I got an adrenaline rush lol. I'm really inexperienced with dating so the idea that someone found me suitable enough to right swipe, even with my brutally honest bio, is kinda crazy to me. She hasn't responded to my greeting, and hell she may never do so, but it's still a small victory for someone who basically hasn't talked to a woman (who wasn't a friend or family member) in 2 years.

Remove the weed thing.

Like 75% of Tinder in my area love weed. I've matched with girls that smoke it like crazy but I've never done it myself. Tell them after the fact. Of course if you don't like it at all, you'll narrow down your options significantly.

I wouldn't worry about a long honest bio on Tinder either, keep it short. If that's not your thing try OKCupid or something else that is less of a time killer than Tinder.
 
Thanks for the advice GAF.

I removed the list of dislikes because I don't want to come off as a negative or dismissive person. I still left my bio pretty honest though:

Single. 5'11. Introvert. [City I live in]. [College] grad. Employed. No kids.

My perfect day contains a mix of surfing, Netflix, hiking, video games, and browsing funny animal gifs on the internet.

Prone to the occasional weekend video game + Netflix marathon.

Animal lover, especially big dogs!

Weed and alcohol are not deal breakers, though I don't partake.

I definitely want to weed out the extreme extroverts like my ex-gf. I dated her for 5 years and it was the most exhausting experience of my life. I do think my lack of drinking/smoking is noteworthy for my age group. I'm not really looking for one night stands... so maybe I should be on OKCupid like Spinluck said. This is my first experience with a dating service.
 

Jokab

Member
Thanks for the advice GAF.

I removed the list of dislikes because I don't want to come off as a negative or dismissive person. I still left my bio pretty honest though:



I definitely want to weed out the extreme extroverts like my ex-gf. I dated her for 5 years and it was the most exhausting experience of my life. I do think my lack of drinking/smoking is noteworthy for my age group. I'm not really looking for one night stands... so maybe I should be on OKCupid like Spinluck said. This is my first experience with a dating service.
Others might think I'm overly nitpicking, but the phrases "prone to" and "I don't partake" are a bit stiff. Try a more fun writing style.
 
Remove the weed thing.

Like 75% of Tinder in my area love weed. I've matched with girls that smoke it like crazy but I've never done it myself. Tell them after the fact. Of course if you don't like it at all, you'll narrow down your options significantly.

I wouldn't worry about a long honest bio on Tinder either, keep it short. If that's not your thing try OKCupid or something else that is less of a time killer than Tinder.

I think some of you need to start smoking weed...

Thanks for the advice GAF.

I removed the list of dislikes because I don't want to come off as a negative or dismissive person. I still left my bio pretty honest though:



I definitely want to weed out the extreme extroverts like my ex-gf. I dated her for 5 years and it was the most exhausting experience of my life. I do think my lack of drinking/smoking is noteworthy for my age group. I'm not really looking for one night stands... so maybe I should be on OKCupid like Spinluck said. This is my first experience with a dating service.

Get rid of half or more of that text. My profile has one line. Even that might be too much.
 

Jhoan

Member
@Luap, I agree with everything that ZackieChan said above as I think it's still TMI especially for Tinder. I'm introverted person but I don't and will never advertise it on my Tinder/OKC/CMB profiles akin to how I wouldn't advertise that I live with family because who cares? Let them figure it out on the date or whenever I feel comfortable sharing that.

Less is always more; show don't tell. Instead of stating that you love animals/dogs, post a picture of you with a dog. I'm damn sure that most people on Tinder are presumably single so need to state the obvious. And for the record, contrary to the popular belief, Tinder is what you make of it; I know a few GAF members that are in a relationship from having met their SO via Tinder. It's totally possible.

There's a guy who co-founded a online dating service called Settle For Love two years ago where you can list your imperfections/things you don't like. He created it after getting frustrated with Tinder/OKC/POF and met his fiancee through there. The guy was featured on an episode of Invisibilia which is how I heard of it. Maybe that website might be up your alley.

And having tried weed, it's okay. There's things are much worse out there. Weed is pretty tame compared to say to cigarettes which is a bigger turn-off for me personally. This is coming from someone who also loves beer.
 
Do you mean surfing as in the sport, or surfing the Internet?

5'11. [College] survivor.

My perfect day includes surfing big waves, Netflix, hiking for a Wi-Fi hotspot, surfing bigwaves.com, and browsing funny animal gifs on the internet.

I have a weakness to video game marathons, Netflix marathons, and watching actual marathons from my kitchen window.

Animal lover, especially bigdogs.gif!
 
@Luap, I agree with everything that ZackieChan said above as I think it's still TMI especially for Tinder. I'm introverted person but I don't and will never advertise it on my Tinder/OKC/CMB profiles akin to how I wouldn't advertise that I live with family because who cares? Let them figure it out on the date or whenever I feel comfortable sharing that.

Less is always more; show don't tell. Instead of stating that you love animals/dogs, post a picture of you with a dog. I'm damn sure that most people on Tinder are presumably single so need to state the obvious. And for the record, contrary to the popular belief, Tinder is what you make of it; I know a few GAF members that are in a relationship from having met their SO via Tinder. It's totally possible.

There's a guy who co-founded a online dating service called Settle For Love two years ago where you can list your imperfections/things you don't like. He created it after getting frustrated with Tinder/OKC/POF and met his fiancee through there. The guy was featured on an episode of Invisibilia which is how I heard of it. Maybe that website might be up your alley.

Thanks, I'll check out that Settle For Love site. I'm definitely looking for more of a relationship, so that's why Tinder was probably a stupid choice for me. But like you said anything is possible.

As for the bolded, I guess I'd just rather have that kind of info before going on a date with someone. I immediately left swipe every profile that has no bio info in it. If I was just looking to fuck then yeah I'd right swipe on anyone attractive but that's not what I'm trying to do.

I did slim down my bio a little more, and added more personality to the writing. If I get zero matches in the coming week then I'll slim it down some more. Good call on the dog pic; I have a good one of me holding my parent's yellow lab.


My profile is just:

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lol

Do you mean surfing as in the sport, or surfing the Internet?

Surfing as in the sport. I live on the coast.

If you're 5'11", just go ahead and round up to an even 6 feet.

I'm 5'10 and 3/4 inches so I'm already rounding up a little. It would be obvious that I'm not 6'0 if I stood next to someone who was, so I don't want to do that. Like the women I come across who post only angled face shots but I check their Insta and find they're super overweight... like why try to hide it? It seems you're only setting yourself up for humiliation if/when you meet up with someone.
 

Jhoan

Member
Thanks, I'll check out that Settle For Love site. I'm definitely looking for more of a relationship, so that's why Tinder was probably a stupid choice for me. But like you said anything is possible.

As for the bolded, I guess I'd just rather have that kind of info before going on a date with someone. I immediately left swipe every profile that has no bio info in it. If I was just looking to fuck then yeah I'd right swipe on anyone attractive but that's not what I'm trying to do.

I did slim down my bio a little more, and added more personality to the writing. If I get zero matches in the coming week then I'll slim it down some more. Good call on the dog pic; I have a good one of me holding my parent's yellow lab.
I hear you. I usually swipe left to girls without anything on their profile as well since I think they're bots or girls who only have face shots but no body shots. Maybe you should try Coffee Meets Bagel because it's more for people who are looking for something more substantial/serious but like with any online dating service, expect to experience droughts every now and then; online dating hits in waves. I'll throw the aforementioned Settle For Love into the OP future reference for anyone who's interested.

I think the picture of you holding your parents' yellow lab is going to bring all the girls to the yard for sure. I don't have any pets so at best, I would have to go to a grocery store to get a picture with a bodega cat; at worst, it would be a random person walking their dog in public.
 

Scotch

Member
I met my introverted girlfriend on Tinder too, by the way. Although I get the sense that around my area Tinder is used a bit more for relationships instead of one night stands.
 

Makonero

Member
I thought moving across the country would be great, a new place to meet girls on Tinder!

Except that I'm barely matching anyone and those that I do aren't very talkative. Normally I can get a date or two scheduled by now by
It I've had zip so far. It's kinda annoying.
 

Assanova

Member
I dumped my most recent girlfriend. Prior to her, I was with a girl I met on Tinder back in January. I recently just hit it off with another girl I met on Tinder on my second day back on it. I expect it to work out, but just in case it doesn't, has anything changed with online dating since I've been gone? Any new popular dating sites? I just realized that linking Instagram to Tinder is a pretty big deal if you want to stand out. Anything else?
 

Shanlei91

Sonic handles my blue balls
Hah! Changing mine to this. Thanks for the inspiration

Just remember to cite me in the footnotes section of your profile.

I just realized that linking Instagram to Tinder is a pretty big deal if you want to stand out. Anything else?

Does it make you stand out more? All it's done for me is given me another channel to google up a girl I match with to find out what she more recently looks like or find out that she's cheating on her bf / husband. (Or is in an open relationship, but lets be real, those people advertise that with pride.)
 

Calderc

Member
So I asked this girl out for a drink that I've been speaking to on Twitter for ages. She said yes but she was currently back at home (stays in Scotland, born in England) so it would when she got back up. I mezsaged her today as she said she would be back at the weekend, she was all 'Cool blah blah blah but it'll need to be before Sunday or after tThursday as my not quite boyfriend/ex/still a thing person is over from Paris in 5 days'.

...the fuck do I even begin to approach that?
 

Jokab

Member
So I asked this girl out for a drink that I've been speaking to on Twitter for ages. She said yes but she was currently back at home (stays in Scotland, born in England) so it would when she got back up. I mezsaged her today as she said she would be back at the weekend, she was all 'Cool blah blah blah but it'll need to be before Sunday or after tThursday as my not quite boyfriend/ex/still a thing person is over from Paris in 5 days'.

...the fuck do I even begin to approach that?

Sounds like she didn't realize you wanted to ask her out on a date and just wants to meet as friends. Or she did and she just wants attention or something.
 

Calderc

Member
Sounds like she didn't realize you wanted to ask her out on a date and just wants to meet as friends. Or she did and she just wants attention or something.

She's clearly looking to date as she posts photos on Twitter of those really creepy Tinder messages. It's just...weird. I don't wanna pry too much but then there's no point even starting to see someone who's hung up on their ex.
 
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