I could potentially be facing a pretty big decision in my life...and it's coming up in only a few short months. I'm a little scared and confused.
I'm in my 3rd year of a 4 year honours program at university. (contemporary studies) I have one year left after this one.
I have a g/f and we've been together for 5 1/2 months now. It's great. Really great.
She's basically being kicked out of the house in September (she'll be 21) and is looking to teach overseas. She's basically looking for purpose. It's a little more complicated than that but I don't really need to give all the details of that. If she does go (likely to Thailand) then she's gone for a year.
I can't stop her and she would never ask me to put my life on hold for her either. Basically, I have two choices with, in my mind, equally heavy consequences.
1) She goes, I stay. I finish my honours program here and we try as hard as we can to keep the long distance thing going. But a lot can change for a person in a year. A lot of realizations. I know we might not be the same people again if she comes back after that year. I don't know what experiences she'll have, what type of people she'll meet, etc.
2) She goes, I go. I put school on hold for one year. I've been wanting to teach overseas at some point myself anyways. We could do it together and keep our relationship going, experience the other side of the world, and just grow together instead of apart.
Still need to get all the information on teaching abroad and what qualifications people are looking for, but this is the course she most readily wants to take. I'm sure most people would say that the sensible thing to do would be to stay in school and continue my education because there's no guarantee of what can happen in the future in terms of the relationship. I know that too. We both do...which makes this that much harder.
Soooo yeah, that's my plight. Let the sarcastic and joke comments commence, with serious advice being intermingled somewhere in the middle.
I'm in my 3rd year of a 4 year honours program at university. (contemporary studies) I have one year left after this one.
I have a g/f and we've been together for 5 1/2 months now. It's great. Really great.
She's basically being kicked out of the house in September (she'll be 21) and is looking to teach overseas. She's basically looking for purpose. It's a little more complicated than that but I don't really need to give all the details of that. If she does go (likely to Thailand) then she's gone for a year.
I can't stop her and she would never ask me to put my life on hold for her either. Basically, I have two choices with, in my mind, equally heavy consequences.
1) She goes, I stay. I finish my honours program here and we try as hard as we can to keep the long distance thing going. But a lot can change for a person in a year. A lot of realizations. I know we might not be the same people again if she comes back after that year. I don't know what experiences she'll have, what type of people she'll meet, etc.
2) She goes, I go. I put school on hold for one year. I've been wanting to teach overseas at some point myself anyways. We could do it together and keep our relationship going, experience the other side of the world, and just grow together instead of apart.
Still need to get all the information on teaching abroad and what qualifications people are looking for, but this is the course she most readily wants to take. I'm sure most people would say that the sensible thing to do would be to stay in school and continue my education because there's no guarantee of what can happen in the future in terms of the relationship. I know that too. We both do...which makes this that much harder.
Soooo yeah, that's my plight. Let the sarcastic and joke comments commence, with serious advice being intermingled somewhere in the middle.