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Shao Kahn Brewing a Stew

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It's my sister's engagement tomorrow. House party today. All the guests are over. I should be happy as hell, yet I have this fake confused smile. I'm late to the event that I don't feel like attending cause of this:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/story/2012/08/25/ontario-plane-crash.html

Ontario police said four young people from the greater Toronto area have died in a plane crash in the province's southwest.

According to police, a single engine Cessna 172 crashed around 8:30 p.m. Friday in a cornfield in Mapleton Township, about 50 kilometres northwest of Kitchener.

All four were pronounced dead at the scene. One of the victims was a 19-year-old woman. The three others were in their 20s, according to police.

Emergency crews were notified about the crash at 8:39 p.m. ET, but OPP Const. Keith Robb said the plane went off the radar 19 minutes earlier. An emergency transponder signal had been activated.

It's unclear how long the plane had been in flight before it crashed.

At this point, the investigation remains in its preliminary stages.

"We don't believe weather was a factor," said Robb. "It was a clear, sunny night."

Two investigators from the Transportation Safety Board remain at the scene, and are trying to determine whether mechanical failure is at fault. The plane was expected to be removed from the field later Saturday.

“Right now we’re basically in a field phase of our investigation where we will collect all the data we can to determine where we go with this investigation from here," said Ken Webster, an investigator from the transportation board.

The single-engine plane went down in a corn field near Moorefield, about 50 kilometres northwest of Kitchener. Webster told CBC that the plane crashed at a high speed.

Llori Nicholls was walking the dog with her husband last night when they saw the plane "making some spirals." She said at first they wondered if the plane was doing tricks.

Nicholls told CBC News it soon became clear the plane was in trouble and she could hear the engine sputtering.

"The whole time the nose was pointed straight down," she said.

She and her husband stood praying and hoping that the pilot would be able to pull out of the dive.

"Unfortunately the engine gave completely out," she said. "It went dead silent and plummeted down. And within a second or two we heard a really loud bump and our hearts sank."

Nicholls said she's distraught over how scared the passengers must have been.

"There was definitely time in their descent for them to be terrified, and it just kind of doesn't sit good with me," said Nicholls, her voice quivering.

Curtis Bults was getting ready to leave for a baseball game when he heard the plane go down behind his house. "It sounded like a whiny noise, like a go-kart, like a small plane going 'Eee Eeee Eeeee!,' said the 21-year-old.

"And [then] a couple second delay, and I heard a thud. I heard kind of a shake in the ground."


Bults said his two dogs were "absolutely freaking" from the noise, which could be heard clearly even though all the windows in the house were closed.

He then jumped onto his ATV to investigate. He drove it through the adjacent cornfields but couldn't find anything. After about 10 minutes, he returned home.

Bultz said it took him, his neighbours and emergency crews until 10:30 p.m. before they were able to locate the plane wreckage.

Once it was found, his father used a tractor to carve out a path for the emergency crews to get to the scene, he said.

"It was the middle of nowhere," said Bultz. "It was in the middle of a 50-acre cornfield."

Bob Connors, the general manager of the Waterloo-Wellington Flight Centre, said the plane was a rental and the group was sightseeing. The flight plan indicated they were heading to Niagara Falls and then Toronto.

Connors said the flight school, which operates out of the Waterloo Region International Airport, had not had a crash like this in a "long, long, long time." He said the staff knew the victims.

Connors would not comment on the experience of the pilot.

The victims' bodies have been transported to a hospital in Hamilton for autopsies.

The transportation board has said it could take several days before it knows what caused the crash.
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My friend had no family or roommates living with him. His family is arriving from India as soon as they can. I want to meet up with friends; all of them. His apartment is now locked, his cat must be starving. His family must be devastated. Cried my eyes out before I entered my home with this fake smile to greet the guests.

*sigh* I just wanted GAF to know cause I feel like screaming. He was such an amazing guy. Very calm, collective, pure. He had graduated with us in April and he got a job at Bombardier. We were all suppose to meet up for BBQ but that has been cancelled. We will arrange and make sure we pay for his funeral. Other than that, I'm just carrying on.

His Facebook account will never be used.
His bank account will never be used.
His cat will have a new owner.
His apartment will have new tenants.
It's weird how things we care about so much go away so quickly.

Things like these make me realize how crucial life is. I fucking owed him $100 and I feel like shit knowing I was going to pay him tomorrow, and now I can't. I'll add that to the donation for his funeral...

Thanks for being here, GAF.
 
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Bladenic

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Sorry to hear this. Hard to lose a friend, especially amidst other joyous occassions.

As for the cat, why not adopt or try to find a new owner for it?
 
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Salvor.Hardin

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You shouldn't be confused at all - grieving your friend's death is normal, forcing yourself to smile through it for a wedding is not. And I would hope that your close relatives can understand you grieving.

For times like these, roll with your emotions and not your surroundings.
 
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Red

Member
That's terrible. Sorry for your loss, sounds like he was important to you. And it sounds like you are handling the situation very well. You might feel confused, but you're trying to keep up spirits for your sister. That's admirable.
 
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Zaphod

Member
I'm sorry to hear about this tragedy. You should not feel ashamed in the least about having strong feelings at this time. Whatever you do now for yourself will be the right thing and people will understand.
 
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surly

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Sorry for your loss man. :( What you're feeling is natural, so don't attach any guilt to it by saying "I should be feeling this or that".
 
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Xal-Shoota

Member
Im so sorry you lost your friend ... you have every right to fake your smile, and be sad as hell right now, because this is just awful. But if you can, just try stay as strong and be there for your sister, but if you need to, be with your friends too. It's your call, and there's no right or wrong answer.

RIP man, he sounded like a good guy :(
 
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Demon Ice

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Firstly, massive kudos to you for keeping it together for your sister's benefit. That's seriously awesome.

Secondly, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure the emotional cocktail you're feeling right now feels like hell on earth. Just give it time, and don't hesitate to seek out a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on. I know I wouldn't be taking it nearly as well as you seem to be.

Stay strong.
 
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CheesecakeRecipe

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Awful news, Shagg. You're incredibly strong for holding yourself together in such a time. As someone who recently lost someone close, I feel you and wish you the best in the next weeks.
 
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PK Gaming

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I am so sorry for your loss.

His Facebook account will never be used.
His bank account will never be used.
His cat will have a new owner.
His apartment will have new tenants.
It's weird how things we care about so much go away so quickly.
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This is by far one of the worst parts about loving a loved one. I just feel like hugging my friends / family tight and never letting them go.

May he rest in peace.
 
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