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so how do you leave someone?

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I've never done it before but I imagine you'd have to break it gently to her, do it face to face, not over the phone, or some txt, just go up to her face and just tell her how you've been feeling, and tell her the reasons why, just be up front, naturally she's gonna be upset, so try to be gentle.

Also before you do, be completely sure. Good luck.
 
AndreasNystrom said:
Im thinking of leaving my girlfriend... how do i do? any good tip?
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AndreasNystrom said:
This game has beautfil graphics, and my girls 4year old loves it. Even if he doesnt play it too well.
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There is a small child involved, which she will probably use as leverage. Good luck.
 
Diablos said:
Is that four year old your baby?
If so, you're in for a world of trouble.
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In some states, it doesn't even matter if it's your child of if you're married to the mother, you can still be held responsible due to the emotional bond that has developed between the individual and the child.

Yes, this will be nothing short of a disaster.

edit: Nevermind, looks like you live in Sweden.
 
How does she feel... does she know somethings about to happen or does just live life with you acting like everythings fine and dandy? Thats the real question. If you guys are both kinda weening away from each other then sit down talk and break it off. If not well you have some stuff on your hands and you need to whip out the crowbar and start breaking off slowly. Real slow.
 
How you should approach it depends a lot on your reasons for wanting to end the relationship. However in general the best thing is just to sit down and get everything out in the open. Letting things fester w/o saying anything is the worst thing you (or anyone) can do. If someone's child is involved that may be used as a point to guilt you away from your decision, but really it's best for everyone if a relationship with no future is ended as fast as possible.
 
well.. we moved togheter after like 5months togheter..

she had a 4year old kid with her ex-man.

i moved over 160km's from home to live with her.. but now i dont feel i wanna live here anymore.
Ive tried to tell her, but its so hard... :(
 
Jewbacca said:
How does she feel... does she know somethings about to happen or does just live life with you acting like everythings fine and dandy? Thats the real question. If you guys are both kinda weening away from each other then sit down talk and break it off. If not well you have some stuff on your hands and you need to whip out the crowbar and start breaking off slowly. Real slow.
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she is so hard... when i try to talk about the bad things in our relationsship, she just looks hte otherway.. pretending not to hear... this makes me mad as ****.

Ive had some complications with her that i told her before we moved togheter that i think she must fix before... but now 3 months later.. she hasnt done a ****ing bit of it..

im getting so bored of this situation... im remembering her each day, about it.. but it doesnt feel like she cares at all.
 
well, let's see. There's fifty ways...where to start??
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You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You donÂ’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You donÂ’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free


Sry I couldnt help it.
 
Wow with a 4 year old in the mix it will be difficult. I mean if you need out you just need to tell her that how you do it is up to your personality. That being said you need to have a talk with the 4 year old. This is a delicate time for a small child and this is where their bonds are made.

Teling adults you don't want to be with them is the easy part, childern that is hard.
 
Does sweeden have their own sort of Dr Phil? Like a Dr PhilhooedendĂĽf?

But seriously though, if she's just ignoring the problem she may yet be willing to see a professional 3rd party with you, and once in that situation she may finally listen.
 
You start intentionally acting like an ass, getting in trouble, looking like a bum and hopefully she'll then breakup with you. You may be stuck for awhile, but at least you don't have to go through the breakup scene.

Or, "It's not you, it's me."
 
First you need to buy some cowbells. Then you need to wrap the cowbells around her neck and shout "WOO IMA COWBOY AND IMA ROPE AND RANGLE YOUR ASS" and then you tie her up with some rope, plow your woody into one of her ears, and start humping away. She will be like "Hey wtf" but it's ok. Then punch her in the chin to knock her out, jizz all over her chin, and shave off her head hair and put it on her chin, this sex technique is called the Moses. Then take pics and post them on the internet. After all that is done, if she still wants to be with you, you stab her eyes out with paperclips and then replace her chocolate milk with laxatives.
 
Just be blunt then... Its not your kid she didnt fix the issues be like hey. Im gonna go back home peace out. If you want to talk about it Ill talk about it when Im home.

So force her ass to talk to you and she needs to fix her shit.
 
i tell you what, moving any kind of distance to be with someone, especially if they have a kid already, is risky buisiness.

and i know that from experience.

but in my case, the relationship fizzled and she more or less gave me a few months to get my shit together and leave.

thankfully we're still on *decent* terms, and i can go visit her little girl once a week or so.

it really hurts having to explain it to the kid though. and every time i go to visit she tells me "you need to come live here again"

but as far as breaking things off from your end? well, you could always just do NOTHING. if she's ignoring your plea's as is, just cut her off. sleep on the couch if you have too. :lol
 
I recommend taking her out to a club, and kiss the girl dancing on the bar right in front of her.

She should storm out in tears.
 
Nicholas Warino said:
You start intentionally acting like an ass, getting in trouble, looking like a bum and hopefully she'll then breakup with you. You may be stuck for awhile, but at least you don't have to go through the breakup scene.

Or, "It's not you, it's me."
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That's the immature route.
 
The most important think is to be completely honest and firm - make it clear that you're calling it off for good and you don't want to be with her. Don't pull out any bullshit like it's nothing to do with her, or it's because of where you live, or you feel trapped, or ANYTHING, because she'll hold out hope that she can get you back and you'll have hours and hours of long dramatic talks ahead of you.
 
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