So, whatever happened to the handshake?

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Handshakes only. Only to those who I respect/friends/professional settings. If someone offers me a brofist, I'll usually tap it with the back of my fist as a way of saying "shoo." Hugs to true friends. I will kiss a lady's hand upon meeting her, but only if I've decided I'm interested in her.

I guess I was taught some old fashioned things, but I certainly won't change them.
 
Dreams-Visions said:
I force handshakes.

Men with weak-ass grips are the norm. Sad, but symbolic.
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My father was extremely concerned with teaching me how to perform a proper handshake.
It's an art. Firm but not overbearingly crushing (a sign of insecurity), but with a woman, a tender politeness.

The thing I hate nowadays is when you shake someone's hand, and then they go in for the bro-hug. You know, when two guys hug while their hands are still clasped and remain in between their two bodies, as if it makes a hug less sexually threatening. Pretty lame.
 
meadowrag said:
My father was extremely concerned with teaching me how to perform a proper handshake.
It's an art. Firm but not overbearingly crushing (a sign of insecurity), but with a woman, a tender politeness.

The thing I hate nowadays is when you shake someone's hand, and then they go in for the bro-hug. You know, when two guys hug while their hands are still clasped and remain in between their two bodies, as if it makes a hug less sexually threatening. Pretty lame.
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Wow. I think you put a little too much though into it. Like the guy that's describing something and is quick to point out "...in a totally not gay way, though". The gayness of the anecdote never crossed anyone's mind, but the self-conscious storyteller is quick to point out how it could be gay, but that's not how it went down. :lol
 
Dali said:
Wow. I think you put a little too much though into it. Like the guy that's describing something and is quick to point out "...in a totally not gay way, though". The gayness of the anecdote never crossed anyone's mind, but the self-conscious storyteller is quick to point out how it could be gay, but that's not how it went down. :lol
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Yeah, maybe I have.
But I've never experienced a bro-hug that wasn't mutually awkward and a result of ingrained culture rather than a genuine desire for that particular gesture.
 
I don't care?
I mean, if I'm presented with a hand, I'll shake it. If someone offers his fist, I'll bump it. They're just gestures, I never even gave it a second thought. There's nothing inherently more polite about a handshake, and not doing it to avoid germs is actually reasonable.
 
SciencePilot said:
For me the handshake is always professional/formal greetings. No one ever handshakes their good friend.
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the hell

i cannot imagine living in a world where this is true.

i shook, like, 8 hands today and they were all good friends!
 
Fist bumps are awesome, they're better for certain situations, but of course the hand shake is on a different level.
 
I pretty much always go in for the handshake when i meet new people. I like to think it makes you come across as a little more forward and friendly.
 
Eughhh I hate people that clench too early and the squeeze your fingers!! So awkward, people just need that extra second of patience and align the hands!

I guess people get nervous
 
meadowrag said:
My father was extremely concerned with teaching me how to perform a proper handshake.
It's an art. Firm but not overbearingly crushing (a sign of insecurity), but with a woman, a tender politeness.
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you have a good father. that's how it's done. although a strong handshake isn't always a sign of insecurity. A few of my friends are/were professional athletes (NBA, NFL) and I just don't think they know their own strength sometimes.

Well...that, or they're trying to be imposing for the sake of doing it. lol
 
Personally, I prefer to greet my close friends with a mutual blowjob, makes every encounter start on a high note.
 
It really depends on how you shake hands I guess. I have a very firm grip, painful for some but I get a lot of compliments on my handshake.
 
If any of my friends offered me a bro fist in anything but an ironic sense, I would punch them in the face.

Handshakes. They're what men do.
 
Stabbie said:
It really depends on how you shake hands I guess. I have a very firm grip, painful for some but I get a lot of compliments on my handshake.
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A firm grip is good but nobody likes the jackass that crushes your hand. Just like nobody likes the baby who hardly grips your hand.
 
345triangle said:
the hell

i cannot imagine living in a world where this is true.

i shook, like, 8 hands today and they were all good friends!
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Why ? I don't see why I should shake hands with my friends. I only shake hands when I'm introducing myself to new people. Of course there are other situations where proper handshake etiquette is in place but personally I don't have to shake too many hands on daily basis.
 
Enco said:
A firm grip is good but nobody likes the jackass that crushes your hand. Just like nobody likes the baby who hardly grips your hand.
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My handshake is definately not too tight. Some people are just babies (you know, those people who are in terrible pain if you give them a little slap on the back). I then shake pretty hard for 2-3 seconds. People are always impressed by it.
 
With friends its a few light pats on the back (from the side), a simple wave, or a punch in the arm (certain dudes its a heavy punch for the lulz).

I shake hands all the time with everyone else though. I think I have mastered the "medium" shake where it's not too light but not too strong.
 
Handshakes are for introductions, not greetings. About the only time I ever shake hands is when I'm meeting someone for the first time.
 
Dali said:
Wow. I think you put a little too much though into it. Like the guy that's describing something and is quick to point out "...in a totally not gay way, though". The gayness of the anecdote never crossed anyone's mind, but the self-conscious storyteller is quick to point out how it could be gay, but that's not how it went down. :lol
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The hands are in the middle to quickly deflect any unwanted boners from creeping up. A quick down slap and break and no one is the wiser.
 
I shake hands with someone the first time I meet them, and that's it. That's your one shot to impress me with a firm handshake and eyes meeting my eyes. Don't fuck it up!
 
Blackace said:
no we wear backpacks and compare skinny jeans as greetings
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But do you leave the tags on your backpacks when you do it?

I don't know if it was just in my high school or if it is for Russians in general, but there would be a big group of them.
About 15 or so and when a new person entered their circle, everyone and I mean everyone would fucking shake this guy's hand. Two handed.
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345triangle said:
the hell

i cannot imagine living in a world where this is true.

i shook, like, 8 hands today and they were all good friends!
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If I'm legitimately friends with somebody, I like something a little closer; either a personalized handshake or a hug or a bro-hug or something just, well, less formal.
 
krae_man said:
Handshakes are for introductions, not greetings. About the only time I ever shake hands is when I'm meeting someone for the first time.
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Agreed. Shake hands when:

- introduction
- departing from colleagues/associates (not needed if you know them well enough)
- receiving some honorary or something similar
- when making business agreement can be made among friends too to "seal the deal/plan"
- Greeting a business partner who you don't see often

There are other occasions too but amongst good friends and co-workers I don't see point of constantly shaking hands :D
 
Dreams-Visions said:
you have a good father. that's how it's done. although a strong handshake isn't always a sign of insecurity. A few of my friends are/were professional athletes (NBA, NFL) and I just don't think they know their own strength sometimes.

Well...that, or they're trying to be imposing for the sake of doing it. lol
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I'd rather receive a vice grip of a handshake than some limp wristed shit, which has sadly become pretty prominent. Feels bad man.
 
I only do a "fist bump" or "high five" when I want to acknowledge how cool something is to my closest friends. Like "awwww, yea! Nice one" *high five*. I don't recall ever using it as a greeting.

The only time I have ever shook a friend's hand informally was when he had to move to another part of the country and it was sorta like a "I guess this is goodbye" kinda thing. Seemed the right thing to do. Other than that, I just use it in interviews or meeting new people at work.

EDIT: In terms of hygiene, I'd find it really rude if someone didn't shake my hand unless if they state that they were ill earlier on. Then I'd understand that he/she doesn't want to pass on their illness and I wouldn't stick out my hand. But if they look healthy and pull the "no thanks, don't want germs" excuse I wouldn't think of them in a positive light from then on.
 
I dont do physical greeting/farewells, only verbal. Sorry, dont want to touch your sweaty palms. I do the fist bump with friends sometimes though.

i will straight leave you hanging, even at work

Yeah, im that guy
 
A lot of my friends and I hug each other but we're girls so I guess it's okay for us. I'll hug my guy friends if they motion that they want to hug first but it tends to be a lot less close/affectionate than it is with my girlfriends.

I only really shake hands with people I've just met/been introduced to. I've noticed at times that a lot guys don't really want to offer their hand for a handshake unless I initiate it. Seems odd.
 
Bah, handshakes suck.
- Women (in general) and all family members: two kisses in the cheek
- Male buddies: bro-hug
- Male gay buddies: peck kiss
 
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(or variation of)When departing, and sometimes when greeting a good friend.

In a Formal setting, or when greeting someone I don't know very well, I shake his hand. Yes, his. I don't believe in shaking a woman's hand. I prefer to simply grip it in this fashion
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I don't kiss the hand of course, that would be a bit weird.

I hate getting limp handshakes. Its just disrespectful. Many guys and even more women who've tried to shake my hand have given me very limp ones. There should be a bit of pressure, some firmness in there to accentuate the seriousness of your meeting/transaction.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
I hate when guys you don't know very well (or at all) try to do this.
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Same here. It's always that friend of a friend that sat at the end of the table when you guys were out to dinner. Fuck that guy. Handshake-hugs are for my close friends.
 
I shake hands with my guy friends and other random people

I kiss on the cheeks girl friends

I also kiss on the cheek my best male friends

France here
 
I hate when you go for a handshake and this dickhead grabs your fingers and shakes.
Not only does it look bad on you, but you can't go back and shake his hand again. There are no repeats! But you do leave know that that guy is a dickhead.
 
Mister Wilhelm said:
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Superior.

Hand shakes DO spread germs.

Fist bumping is manly.

It's not rocket science.
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No. Hand shaking is manly. Fist bumping is something little boys do to seem cool.

Never trust a well man whose grip is weak in a handshake. Never.
 
HixxSAFC said:
Never trust a well man whose grip is weak in a handshake. Never.
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Not always true. People who aren't used to shaking hands tend to have a weak grip. In the gay community everyone greets by kissing on the cheeck. I always force a handshake and it's always weak.
 
I'll never understand why handshakes are so important that if you mess it up you're instantly villifed. Just today I rejected a hand shake from my friend, his hands are DIRTY, as in he has very bad hygiene and i get sick easily and I'm very socially awkward so close contact kinda makes me feel weird. But anyways he got all angry about it and acted like i insulted his pride. I just can't understand why a handshake is so important that messing it up is that bad.
 
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