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[Cubsfan23]

http://news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&u=/nm/20050213/hl_nm/health_marriage_dc

Shared moral values are less important than compatible personalities as a recipe for a good marriage, according to a study released on Sunday.

Personality-driven traits -- like being open, easy-going or organized -- are likely to play a bigger role in the marriage, the researchers found after studying 291 newly married couples.

Woohoo, I now have permission to throw all my morals out the window

 

[Outcast2004]

I look at this and the only thing that comes to mind is..

Well no shit, sherlock.

 

[speedpop]

I look at this and the only thing that comes to mind is..

Well no shit, sherlock.

A-fucking-men.

 

[ManDudeChild]

BREAKING NEWS!

Spoiler

2 + 2 has recently found to equal the number 4, not 22 as suspected by some!

I'm getting so sick of these "no shit" studies.

 

[Dilbert]

I don't think it's an obvious result at all. I suspect that if you were to ask couples what the most important thing was for long-term success, they would say "values."

 

[Bobety]

They needed to conduct a study to come up with this?

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

I don't think it's an obvious result at all. I suspect that if you were to ask couples what the most important thing was for long-term success, they would say "values."

YOU suspect, but the rest of the planet doesnt. it's yin and yang man.

 

[fart]

IT'S SEXUALITY, PEOPLE, AND THE DIVINE WILL OF THE LORD

COME ON!

 

[heavenly]

That study's conclusion is utterly false.

 

[Azih]

That study's conclusion is utterly false.

See it's not quite 'no shit' territory.

 

[Nerevar]

I don't think it's an obvious result at all. I suspect that if you were to ask couples what the most important thing was for long-term success, they would say "values."

Yes, they would also say the same thing about long-term success of the country, and they'd elect an intellectually incompetent leader who has demonstrated time and again he is incapable of the task of leading this country. In both cases they'd be dead wrong.

 

[Iceman]

I love opinions.

They're like onions.. but with pee in 'em.

 

[Phoenix]

Its not an 'obvious' result, but it is certainly one that 'makes sense.'

 

[Kuro Madoushi]

Shared moral values are LESS important???

I don't care how open, easy-going, or organized you are, but if you're close-minded, racist, against abortion, against homosexuality, and like American Idol, I don't think I can have a place for you in my heart...

Seriously though, these studies are worthless. OK, they are LESS important, but that doesn't mean moral values don't play a major factor in relationships. If anything, a successful relationship depends on a good mix of personality, values, finances, and great sex. Hell, great sex alone can keep two totally incompatible people together

 

[Escape Goat]

"In other news, can bees think? A new study confirms: No, they cannot."

 

[Dilbert]

According to everything I've read, the top sources of conflicts in a relationship/marriage usually include these topics (roughly in this order):

* Money
* Sex
* Work
* Children

Inherent sexual compatibility is a rich subject which is probably worth a post of its own at some point. (Not today...too much to do at work.) Disagreements about the other three, though, often boil down to values and priorities.

Yes, personality probably ends up being a strong factor since most people have never taken any kind of training about conflict styles or how to negotiate with people with differing styles. Their default behavior under stress would be defined by their basic personality type. However, all of the conflict management training in the world isn't going to help if you can't find a "finish line" for the negotiation which both parties find truly satisfactory.

So, I do find the results of this study highly interesting, and not at all obvious.

 

[Azih]

Well one thing that occurs to me is that values determine the 'big' decisions in life while personality determines the 'little' things. Most people going into marriage know about the 'big' things anyway (religion, politics, anal is good yes?, etc.) and are either compatible or have compromised, it's the little things (toothpaste, toilet seat, attitude) that trip 'em up.

Plus Money is more of a personality thing than a value thing to my mind.

Edit: Also the study is probably skewed by the fact that two open-minded, easy going people are going to get along under a lot more situations and stay together.