Good post. The thing that has always fascinated me about subs is the sort of backwards mindset you really have to take when dealing with them. I mean, ok, for example, as you said if someone had seen your back they would have thought you were attacked - but you enjoyed it. In another case of backwards logic "sub" is somewhat of a misnomer.
In my experience subs often can take a lot of "control" in terms of attitude, essentially "asking" to be punished, almost begging for it indirectly. When people hear the term "submissive" they generally think of the demure, quiet, shy type, but that's not what I see at all. That's what they usually BECOME after you start disciplining them but usually a sub is active, talkative, bright, happy... and bratty, almost childish, or taking on the mannerisms of a rebellious teen.
Also it seems that if you're with a sub and you start getting them used to a routine of discipline if you DON'T punish them rather than being grateful for the respite they start acting out in ways to push the Dom's buttons not even necessarily on a a conscious level, but because they need that sense that they're not in control, that they're being taken in hand as it were.
To an outsider it must be very bizarre but ultimately it's the same as any type of relationship, you're trying to meet the person you're with's needs and desires as much as your own. It just happens they need to be subjected to discipline of various sorts.
