The BDSM Thread
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Inflammable Slinky said:
She's more into the violent stuff. She wants to be beaten into subspace. I'm not too sure she's into that other stuff that much.
As for orgasm denial, I'm not sure how she'd do with that. She generally doesn't try for an orgasm but once every maybe 4 or so times we have sex. She can't just orgasm without using her hands anyway.
Inflammable Slinky
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RDreamer said:
Have you asked her to play the brat? Deliberately try to piss you off so that you can use the anger more readily?
Count Dookkake
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ACE 1991 said:
Broomfield is one of my favorite documentarians. Fetishes is a great flick that avoids being a mere freakshow, although there are a couple of freaks. The Nazi toilet-licker comes to mind.
CHEEZMO said:
here's some music videos on bdsm i like
as you can guess they're all japanese rock vids
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zwn0MefXCK8
malice mizer blah blah blah I posted it before
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvZAmejfZVw
(about a girl, men bring her gifts like teddies and she ties them up and makes them subs then later chops and stores their flesh in the fridge which she then eats later. My dream girl)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-6DG2pqPHE
this one is pretty much majorly nsfw
sundrenched
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G-Fex said:
Looking at pinkie pie talking about BDSM
I've never tried BDSM but if I did, I would probably be a switch. It's hard to tell myself since I'm usually quite relaxed and go with the flow, but I can be very commanding and domineering sometimes. Although I do have certain fantasies that fall in the sub side
Definitely keeping track of this thread!
FleaTheMagician
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I don't know if I am comfortable posting any stories in this thread. but I do support it! 
Sanky Panky
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Ok might as well ask it here...
I'm dating this really great girl who told me the other day that she has always liked the idea of feeling like she is being *ahem* taken against her will...
Sex is already great. We talk dirty, spank, pull hair, choke a bit, etc etc. How do I go about educating myself into this? In my mind, believing it to be such a touchy subject for most, don't know till what extent to do it. Do I need props? is it just the way I hold her and force myself? Any good sources for this stuff?
I'm dating this really great girl who told me the other day that she has always liked the idea of feeling like she is being *ahem* taken against her will...
Sex is already great. We talk dirty, spank, pull hair, choke a bit, etc etc. How do I go about educating myself into this? In my mind, believing it to be such a touchy subject for most, don't know till what extent to do it. Do I need props? is it just the way I hold her and force myself? Any good sources for this stuff?
Surprise her. That is the easiest and best way to take her against her will. Since there has already been communication between you two she will know what's going on. You don't need props. Throw her down and mount her. Drive your knee between her legs to spread her apart. Choke her a little bit and whisper something like you are going to fuck her whether she wants you to or not. Hold her down while you take her clothes etc. If all goes well it should drive her insane.Sanky Panky said:
FleaTheMagician
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Would self bondage fit into this thread? That's always something I've been interested in as well.
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Sanky Panky said:
For gods sake have a safeword sorted before following any other advice. Lots and lots of people get in to this sort of thing and will say "NOOOO" when they mean "plough me harder". However there is still a chance she might get upset or scared and genuinely want it to stop. That's where your safe word comes in. Make is something she won't ever say by accident (Red and banana are popular. Thanks Family Guy for the second). Of course if you want to add an element of interrogation play to the scene have her write a secret on a piece of paper and hide it. When she wants the interrogation to stop she gives up the information you actually want (i.e. where she hid it). Adds a nice bit of reality to things too.
On ways you can actually do this:
Get a house key hidden by her outside her home for you to find. Use this to "break in" and do your thing.
At night wake up before she does, sneak out the room and get some rope, blindfolds etc. Burst in, tie her up and go to town.
FleaTheMagician
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CHEEZMO said:
No and yes, but masks are okay too.
Captain_Spanky
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CHEEZMO said:
I'm in too all sorts of animal roleplay. Puppy and pig for myself, but I really like kitten and pony girls. Both of those can be used in a more dominant role too, lots of fun.
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CHEEZMO said:
I've never actually used one, but I don't think I would be against it.
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CHEEZMO said:
It's actually the other way around for me.
Captain_Spanky
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CHEEZMO said:
Puppies definitely need to be able to lick things...
I should go to bed otherwise I'll be up all night
FleaTheMagician
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CHEEZMO said:
Yes sir
Captain_Spanky
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G-Fex said:
Ha I have to opposite problem. I was in a long term relationship with BDSM overtones so all the emotions of love are associated with that kind of pain and torment. Not that I mind per say, but I doubt I'd ever be able to casually submit to someone. Wouldn't them scratching, biting and kicking me during sex mind.
CHEEZMO
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Lol, I'm the total opposite: a massive dom and a full-on sadist.FleaTheMagician said:Yes sir
Interestingly, I'm also somewhat of a masochist (not a sub) and love the idea of making someone do something to me that they don't want to. Like being both sadistic and masochistic with the same action.
Love tails. Especially on Kittens, heh.LCGeek said:
I'd love you tenderly, G-Fex :3G-Fex said:
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CHEEZMO said:
Reminds me of Xavier: Renegade Angel
Beaten Wife He only hurts me because he loves me.
Xavier If that's how he shows love I'm going to go make love to his mouth.
Captain_Spanky
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G-Fex said:
This+your pony avatar=SO WRONG
FleaTheMagician
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CHEEZMO said:
I'm very much a sub, I don't LIKE pain, but I will deal with it. I do like being bitten and scratched though.
Forcing a sub to be a dom? That's some meta bdsm shit right there.
shinobi602
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No pics yet?
FleaTheMagician
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I don't have anyone in my life right now, but I am thinking of buying myself a collar and some self bondage stuff. Anyone have any ideas?
Captain_Spanky
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FleaTheMagician said:
Cling film + duct/gaffa tape can be used in a shit load of different ways. The clingfilm to stop you pulling all your hairs out and as a basic guide, and then the tape to tighten everything, make it look nice etc. You can do cheap leg and arm binding this way.
Handcuffs and key, freeze the key in a glass of water and then handcuff yourself. You won't be able to get out till the water melts.
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Captain_Spanky said:
This goes well with my mummification fetish.
I've done the cling film thing once before, but there is only so much you can cover when you're by yourself. :<
Captain_Spanky
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I am so glad I started this thread
shinobi602
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CHEEZMO said:Also, Shinobi:
She has some sub stuff but it's pretty NSFW,lol.
FleaTheMagician
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This thread makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. Makes me want to go out there and find someone to tie me up.
Inflammable Slinky
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Sanky Panky said:
Ah, my area of expertise!
One thing that I absolutely cannot stress enough is that you need to have a long, very unsexy conversation before you do a play rape scene. Go into what she wants out of it, how "rapey" she really wants it, and what role you should play.
Frankly, for play rape a safeword isn't enough. It is very easy to cross over into real rape as a dom since your headspace can make you lose control, especially if you are a first timer.
One last thing, watch out for the "dom drop." Your brain goes into weird places during intense scenes, and if you are doing a play rape type thing, sometimes you will be absolutely slammed by "oh god what am I doing I'm a horrible person" if your social center kicks in and starts to judge you by everyday standards. Just let your partner be aware of that, because that shit sucks and you need help to get through it.
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CHEEZMO said:
Blood kind of scares me, and it tastes gross. I accidentally stabbed my finger with a staple the other day and blood literally squirted out. It was kind of creepy. I guess it's not a lot of blood looking back at the picture, but it made me feel weird to see that much blood coming out of me. I've gotten paper cuts and scraped knees, but I've never seen my blood to red and thick before.
Darias
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I've watched that documentary, and can't disagree more. I got the distinct impression that he had no idea information he should be finding for his story in the first place. He was rude and condescending to those that he interviewed, he interrupted both the tops and the bottoms repeatedly, and when he spoke it was with an indignant tone. I was quite unimpressed with that documentary.
Agree with you here. Both my girl and I watched it a few weeks ago and basically came to the same conclusion you did.Darias said:
I go to a site called thebeautifulkind.com that I recommend everyone go to as well. It isn't just a bdsm website. It incorporates basically every sexual thing you can think of. Its ran by a woman who lost her job because of the site. If you have any questions about anything sexual you can just email her and she will do her best to answer. Or you can probably find an article about something that interests you.
It is a really great site if you live in the st louis area (I don't) because she mentions meet ups and things like that.
Count Dookkake
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Darias said:
It's his accent. Like Dawkins, Broomfield gets unfairly pegged as rude.
Great flick.
Amibguous Cad
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shintoki said:
:wave:
Fularu said:
I really enjoy protocol of this sort, but it absolutely has to be balanced against not bringing an unconsenting other into your erotic play. Nothing's creepier than the guy who treats all women, whether they're involved in the scene or whether they're in the scene but find such distasteful, with undue deference. But I really like the events where such protocol is part of the explicit etiquette. Been meaning to get out to a ClubFEM party one of these days.
ViralMarketingDrone said:
Most of my partners come from the BDSM community itself, and those who don't tend to approach life on a slant and be pretty open minded in the first place.
JambiBum said:
Dude, no. No no no no no. No.
People have already been way too close to the line by suggesting that they try to mildly rough up sex without talking it over with their partner. Initiating a forceful encounter along the lines that you suggest without negotiating boundaries isn't just irresponsible, it's downright abusive. You don't try this kind of play without thoroughly talking it over with your partner- establishing a safeword, figuring out what possible psychological buttons might be pushed, and most importantly learning whether your partner thinks it's wise to take the roleplaying any further than it is right now.
If my boyfriend heard me talking about rape fantasies and preceded to this, I would dump him, tell the whole community to stay away from his ass, and file charges if I thought they had a chance of succeeding.
CHEEZMO said:
Puppy play is fun, though I'm more into the gear than the roleplaying aspect. Hoods are always fun and something about the paw gloves forcing your fists into a ball, making them useless and you dependent on your dom to do the simplest manual tasks really gets me going. Nicely dehumanizing, but I have a hard time actually getting into a puppy head space.
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