Expert is working on a new thread. If your philosophy works and you believe it can take you to fluency, then if you have the time (you said you're working), please share it and we can add it to the new OP. I asked before but you must have missed it which is fine. A lot has happened the last few pages lol.
Alright, I didn't expect this when I initially posted but since you asked I will give the details of my "slow study" philosophy. This is based on my experience studying 4 foreign languages (English, Spanish, Japanese, and French).
First off, for me these are the best methods of learning a language in the following order:
1) Move to the target country and get a boyfriend/girlfriend who speaks the target language. Barring that, surround yourself with people who only speak that language. Immersion is key.
You have to put yourself in a position where you are forced to speak. This is painful, but the rewards are great.
There are people who have lived for years in Japan but still can't speak a lick. Due to pride or whatever hung-up they have they simply didn't try.
2) If you can't move to the target country, surround yourself with people who only speak the target language around you. Since you can't surround yourself with the language 24/7 and you can easily default to your native tongue when the going gets tough, the efficacy is only a fraction of No. 1 but if you keep at it you will easily be able beat a college student going to language classes when it comes to conversation.
3) If you can't move and you can't get native speakers to surround you, the only option left is to replicate the "natural learning environment" artificially. Get a teacher or take a class. If you can't get a professional, a friend can help (native speakers usually cannot exlain grammar but they can tell if you are right or wrong).
For every new vocabulary or grammar point you study, make sure you do the following, whether the teachers asks you to do it or not:
- Speak a sentence using the grammatical point. Say it out loud. Many times. Do variations. Act it out while you're saying it. If you're studying directions, place a pen on a desk and say ペンが机の上にあります。Place it under the desk and say ペンが机の下にあります。Do the same for left, right, etc. If you have a tutor or someone else studying with you, you could take turns and ask each other, ペンはどこにありますか? Someone removes the pen. ペンがありません。Next, the plain form. 机の上にペンがある。ペンがない。
In an ideal setting, you will have a teacher or native speaker watching over you while you do this. Ask them to correct not only your grammar but also your pronunciation. This is important.
The words will sound foreign to the tongue and horrible to the ear. This is normal. When you get accustomed to it, it will sound perfectly natural.
- After you have said all variations out loud, write the sentences down. Ask a teacher to check.
The speaking practice part should take the longest, not the studying. It should not be done in a group (the whole class reciting the answer) because not everyone learns at the same pace. There are a lot of things a learner thinks he already "knows" but when you ask him for output (speaking, writing) he quickly finds out he didn't actually know it. The knowledge was purely theoretical.
If you can speak it, you can write it. Therefore, speaking comes before writing.
This is takes as much work (if not more) than the "speed method." Practicing speaking and writing in a foreign language is a much more powerful brain workout than plain memorizing. It's also effective in retaining information. With this method, you will only learn a few concepts a day at most. But you will be able to actually use what you had learned in a variety of contexts. Quality takes precedence over quantity. Continually challenge yourself, but move at a comfortable pace. If you're not "getting" a concept, practice it some more. Practice the concept you learned the previous day. Build on it. Make numerous mistakes and learn from them.
After doing the speaking and writing practice, you are free to choose your supplementary material in the target language. Movies, manga, news...it doesn't matter. Choose the media that will motivate you the most. If watching an anime or movie, the subtitles must be in the target language. Subtitles in English are mostly useless. If you're confident enough, remove the subtitles altogether. This covers the bases for passive learning.
Once you reach a certain level, you will notice that anime, manga, and movies are no longer cutting it. They no longer present a challenge. You are already able to read, write, and speak at a conversational level. That is the time when you transition to "meatier" stuff. News, novels, technical texts.
If the student were diligent, I would expect him to cover all the bases (conversational, N3 level) in 2-4 years. He may not know N1 grammar but he can confidently converse and write with no pauses or hesitation on everyday topics. He would have plenty of experience with OUTPUT by now. By consuming media, he may already be familiar with higher level grammar without knowing it. If he had asked a teacher or friend to pay attention to his pronunciation, he would now be speaking with a beautiful accent.
This is what I wish I had done when I started studying Spanish and Japanese. Instead I did a wishy-washy version (spending as few hours on the grammar book as possible, just enough to get the gist) and diving headfirst into doing what I love: read manga in Japanese. It got me through to JLPT Level 3. For Level 2 and 1, I had the luxury of actually being in Japan. I did take classes, but I spent less time on the book and more with conversing with people. A variation of the above is what I'm currently using to learn beginner French. I haven't been doing it long so I can't guarantee the results, but the knowledge retainment part is spot-on.
Which part of Tokyo are you in? Also, id like to know your definition of "decent"....
I don't like to speak Japanese even though its my first language. When I speak Japanese, I have to be very careful and polite. When I speak English, I don't have to care about anything. Simples. English is easier...
I was working at Aoyama but we moved abroad two weeks ago. My definition of "decent" is not looking like deer in the headlights when being spoken to in English and not having an accent so heavy it sounds more Japanese than English.
I don't think studying (like memorizing vocabulary) would help you speak a language. Actually, ive met some people who have studied Japanese or English for 3 to 5 years in school.(university or grad school) and its hard to say they can speak Japanese fluently. They had a difficult time understanding my Japanese(or english) in the first place, and they asked me to speak very slowly. I think they know the japanese grammar much more than I do. Since I have never even thought about the grammar, I know nothing about it. The same thing can be said for all the languages, I assume. Native speakers don't know much about the grammar in principle. I don't even know about English grammar, but I had to speak some English to live confortably, that's the way I learned English. You just have to use it to learn a language I believe.
That is my exact experience which is why lost faith in methods that are grammar-intensive.