I'm a Patriots fan and I agree with all of that, but I also think the behavior and comments of Brady and Kraft at every turn escalated the situation rather than defusing it. You can say everything you've said and still think Brady's side handled it less than optimally.
Kraft tried to de-escalate everything and it just blew up in his face. Fuck the behavior of the league. But mostly fuck the NFLPA for agreeing to allow the commissioner of the league to be the final voice in all player discipline arbitration.