Nah you are reading too much into it. That was just Neil trying to score some woke points.
I would think that if it were in isolation, but literally the entire game is written as a rebuke against revenge and unforgiveness, and Ellie herself suffers greatly directly because of her stubbornness. It's a bit hard to imagine Neil being so tone deaf that he wrote the game around that message, but also put in a specific scene that carried the literal opposite message, without even realising or caring that he'd done it. I don't think that's very plausible.