Phoenix said:
Its all about determining what's necessary. Sometimes you can reason with a child, but children are not stupid. Psychological punishment is not always effective and in those instances physical punishment may become the only recourse. Under those circumstances it should be done if discipline and respect of authority is to be maintained.
I just dont see that. Like you said, kids arent stupid, and when a parent hurts a child when they want to get a point across, all that really does (from my perspective) is teach child that violence is that right way to solve a problem. Sure, a kid might behave better for the short-term out of fear, but think about what its doing in the long-term.
You can raise a well behaved child without physical discipline, I and millions others are proof of that. Maybe it just involves being a better parent, or that is, having better judgment when you start off. I can think of a lot of things I dont like about mine, but somehow they taught me to always do the right things by reasoning with me, and not punishing me. In fact, I cant really remember any time I was punished at all, not just physical, but I wasnt ever even sent to my room or anything really. They explained to me what I did wrong, I apologized, corrected the error, and we didnt speak of it again.
Also, just out of curiosity, how the hell can anyone bring themselfs to hit a child? If I ever saw that in public, Im afraid there are few things that could stop me from doing something about it, my business or not.