Do you really believe that you're "letting" your kids have sex?
This is two children here, neither of them are doing anything wrong.
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Underage teen faces life as registered sex offender for having sex with underage gf
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Do you really believe that you're "letting" your kids have sex?
This is two children here, neither of them are doing anything wrong.
Whatever you think on this subject has little to do with the fact that kids have been having sex well beneath the age of 18 since the dawn of time and its not going to be stopping any time soon. I think its just the hard truth people have to accept whatever their concerns, its going to happen and it is happening no matter how much you tell kids not to do it or they're going to hell or whatever. Puberty, hormones and all that win out over all that in most every case.
family_guy
Member
Who reported it though?
Never claimed for that to be the case.
Don't understand your system nor do I ever want to, it's a lost cause.
frankie_baby
Member
Why hasn't she been charged too?
Exactly.
MugiwaraCole
Member
He a nigga, ain't he?
Gross either way. They're literally both children.
Gross either way. They're literally both children.
Raptomex
Member
My guess; she's "underage".
This.
Straight Edge
Member
He's not being charged with statutory rape for one.
That sounds like a mom on damage control trying to paint her child as a good kid and not a sexual predator. I really doubt that she was aware of the situation and approved.
The way the mom said "little girlfriend" made me think he's probably black.
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
He was in 7th grade and she was in 6th grade. One grade apart is hardly "predatory"
Latvian Hitman
Member
Whether it's wrong or not is in the eye of the beholder. They're definitely doing something stupid. If a 14-year-old knocks up his 12-year-old girlfriend, it's pretty much going to wreck both of their lives.
Obviously, the law needs to not be getting involved at all so long as everything's consensual, but parents.....yeah, parents need to be pretty heavily involved in that situation, IMO.
frankie_baby
Member
And there's the point, not only is the law being shitty its not even being consitent in its shittyness, if she can get off why cant he
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Deleted member 1159
Unconfirmed Member
Is anyone doing that?
MugiwaraCole
Member
That and "Houston" did it for me.
Plus the fact they're literally ruining a child's life. You know us black folks are hypersexual beasts that must be labeled as suck.
John Dunbar
correct about everything
it might be closer to a year than two. he is a seventh grader, she is a sixth grader. maybe he just had his birthday this year already and she did not.
although maybe he has been held back, then it might be over two years.
Phrasing
frankie_baby
Member
Generally girls "mature" faster than boys anyway so thats not really the case
AuthenticM
Member
What do you think will help teenagers not get pregnant:
1. Telling them not to have sex
2. Giving them proper sex education
Hint: number 1 doesn't fucking work
omg read the thread before posting. Christ.
Parents are often part of the problem here. http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Stossel/story?id=4444516 ('08, but still relevant.)
That really sucks.
Back when I was in middle school, more than a handful of my classmates were having sexual with each other. Yeah, its obvious that you shouldnt be having sex that young, but the reality is that kids hormones are starting to kick up, youre learning about sex education (we had sex ed classes during that time), and they start exploring their sexuality.
You shouldnt be put on a sex registry for life because you were a horny teenager. As adults, I think we often forget how early those urges can begin in young people. The best we can do is teach them to be responsible and to understand the weight of engaging in sexual activity with someone.
I feel bad for this kid. Neither of them should be put on any kind of registry. I was very young when I lost my virginity too, and I cant even imagine what my life would be like if I had been put on a sex registry because me and my girlfriend decided to have sex one weekend. Horrible.
Back when I was in middle school, more than a handful of my classmates were having sexual with each other. Yeah, its obvious that you shouldnt be having sex that young, but the reality is that kids hormones are starting to kick up, youre learning about sex education (we had sex ed classes during that time), and they start exploring their sexuality.
You shouldnt be put on a sex registry for life because you were a horny teenager. As adults, I think we often forget how early those urges can begin in young people. The best we can do is teach them to be responsible and to understand the weight of engaging in sexual activity with someone.
I feel bad for this kid. Neither of them should be put on any kind of registry. I was very young when I lost my virginity too, and I cant even imagine what my life would be like if I had been put on a sex registry because me and my girlfriend decided to have sex one weekend. Horrible.
A lot of people have the same opinion. Doesn't stop teens from doing so though. Teens have to deal with all kinds of stress of growing up, hormones/puberty, peer pressure (we just had a thread earlier on how people are mocked for being virgins if they are 18+).
This is a fucked up situation, and the kid doesn't deserve it.
Velcro Fly
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I'm more concerned with having the male be a sex offender for life for something he did at 14. I just think ruining someone's life for something they did at 14 is more harmful than anything. And hey maybe in the short term not have sex for a while would be great too to avoid getting into trouble like this again. No one is they are going to hell or should be ashamed of themselves.
It isn't the best of situations but now that it has happened these young people need support rather than the law ruining one of their lives.
Alpha Centauri
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AtomskEater
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This is where I'm at. The first part relies on parent and schools communicating that sex can have very real and serious consequences (pregnancy, STIs, etc), the latter is a total fuckup with the law. I hope they re-examine this law.
So you think they should be branded and put on a list if they do?
We all know 14 year olds are great at making decisions and worry a lot about consequences, right?
What the fuck?
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
I hate this so much. You know how some dudes are always so worried about false reports of rape? Well, I dare say a significant portion of those false reports are from girls who are so shamed for having sex by their parents or their peers that they resort to this to avoid being in trouble. It's what the girl in the story linked above did anyway. If her dad weren't such a "grrr stay away from my daughter!!!" patriarchal control freak, none of this would have happened. Slut-shaming is an absolutely toxic mentality.
Wowfunhappy
Member
It shouldn't even be possible to get put on the sex offender registry if you're that young. They're should be a lower age limit of like 13 or something.
I agree they shouldn't be branded for life over this but telling kids and teenagers not to have sex and expecting it to work is like telling Trump to stop tweeting and thinking it will matter.
In my town, 6th grade is elementary school. These stories increasingly hit home as I have a 12 year old daughter.
There should be consequences, but clearly what is being proposed is ludicrous.
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I mean, you quoted a specific post and responded to it and I responded to that...like, it's not a bad opinion to think 14 and 12 year olds probably shouldn't be having sex. It's also not a bad opinion to say criminal charges and a life long brand aren't appropriate in dealing with it. Chill the fuck out.
kamineko
Does his best thinking in the flying car
I don't doubt that. I'm sure this road was paved with shitty decisions all around.
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
Man I'm reading the rest of this article and it's just... wow, such bullshit:
Considering the sexual assault epidemic going on in the US military, this strikes me as pathetically hypocritical. Stop teenagers who slept with their girlfriends from joining, but handwave and brush aside real sexual assault. Just... Fuck off.
Agreed. When I was in the 6th grade, sex gossip was rampant through the hallways so seeing a fellow classmate being labeled a registered sex offender would be insane.
Always-honest
Banned
What?! The Fuck?!
Because she is 12. Shes a child and cant give consent. What if it was a 17 year old with a 12 year old?
I mean, obviously he shouldnt be a registered sex offender but she was under the age of consent so its not as simple as they were both underage.
Westbahnhof
Banned
In Austria, a 12 year old can legally sleep with a 14 year old.
11 and 14 would be forbidden for the older kid.
12 and 15, same situation. 13 and 15 would be okay.
Below 14, they couldn't be charged with a crime. If both are over 14, it's okay too, but much stricter rules apply with regard to manipulation and abuse of immaturity.
It's a bit weird, but I think it's a system that mostly works.
Think you misinterpreted the post, they're not calling the punishment the hard lesson - see "and nothing more," as well as followup posts. Why be so quick to snap on other people?
NoblesseOblige
Banned
What you're describing sounds like Romeo and Juliet laws which don't punish teens who engage in sex so long as they're within I think 3 years of each other.
Westbahnhof
Banned
Kinda.
In Austria it's 2 years, but as the age of consent is 14 (in theory), it goes down to 12.
The thing is, if both are below the age of consent, like in this case, I'm pretty sure there wouldn't be a charge.
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