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[Dilbert]

Some random questions about wedding rings:

1) Why is it that some married people don't wear their rings? I have known several guys (and a couple of girls) who don't wear their ring as a matter of practice.

2) If you're left-handed, do you reverse the hand on which you wear your ring?

3) How come the woman's ring with the stone that she wears after getting married is colloquially called her "wedding ring," when in actuality it's the ENGAGEMENT ring? What happens to her wedding band? (I lost a bet on this the other day and was utterly shocked.)

4) DeBoers "guidelines" aside, how DO you figure out how much to spend on a ring? I've heard all kinds of wacky suggestions.

(Incidentally, these ARE all random questions. I just went to a meeting in which I talked to three different guys who mentioned "my wife," but weren't wearing rings. Since I'm on the subject, I thought I'd throw in my other standing questions.)

 

[levious]

1) Good question, I've met two guys like this, nothing would make me think they are at all unfaithful, I don't get it. Just can't think of a reason to ask.

3) most women will wear both band and ring. Engagement ring is not necessarily their wedding ring as they'll sometimes like to get a NEW wedding ring in addition to the engagement ring... but I'd say most common tradition is to wear the wedding band along with the engagement/wedding ring.

4) Is that two months pay the Deboers standard? It's the only one I've ever heard. If you don't want to go by that, I'd say the only other hard number standard there'd be would be number of carats for the diamond. 1.5-2 is really nice and may be a stretch for a lot of moderate incomes, but I'd say it's worth the sacrifice in the long run. Better than getting a 1.0 or lower and trying to have a raised setup on the ring. It's tough if you're doing this without the woman involved. Good idea might be to get her mother or sister to help you if possible.

 

[videogamer]

Some random questions about wedding rings:

1) Why is it that some married people don't wear their rings? I have known several guys (and a couple of girls) who don't wear their ring as a matter of practice.

just preference. Some guys just don't wear jewelry

2) If you're left-handed, do you reverse the hand on which you wear your ring?

no

3) How come the woman's ring with the stone that she wears after getting married is colloquially called her "wedding ring," when in actuality it's the ENGAGEMENT ring? What happens to her wedding band? (I lost a bet on this the other day and was utterly shocked.)

From what I understand, it's supposed to be called "engagement ring". They are just wrong. At the wedding, they get a wedding band that they can stick on their finger along with the engagement ring.

4) DeBoers "guidelines" aside, how DO you figure out how much to spend on a ring? I've heard all kinds of wacky suggestions.

er not that old yet

edit: eek beaten by levious

 

[DarienA]

Common jewelery store guideline is 2 months salary. Then I was told, but really just buy as much as you can afford by the jewelery person when we were talking the other day when I went to pick up some christmas present jewelery.

 

[Azala]

Some random questions about wedding rings:

1) Why is it that some married people don't wear their rings? I have known several guys (and a couple of girls) who don't wear their ring as a matter of practice.

2) If you're left-handed, do you reverse the hand on which you wear your ring?

3) How come the woman's ring with the stone that she wears after getting married is colloquially called her "wedding ring," when in actuality it's the ENGAGEMENT ring? What happens to her wedding band? (I lost a bet on this the other day and was utterly shocked.)

4) DeBoers "guidelines" aside, how DO you figure out how much to spend on a ring? I've heard all kinds of wacky suggestions.

(Incidentally, these ARE all random questions. I just went to a meeting in which I talked to three different guys who mentioned "my wife," but weren't wearing rings. Since I'm on the subject, I thought I'd throw in my other standing questions.)

1. Personal preference.

2. No, it's not set by handedness but by culture.

3. I have no clue what you are talking about. Some women have their engagement ring (normally a diamond solitaire or three stone) welded with a wedding band surrounding. That's common. In that case the engagement ring becomes part of the wedding band. My sister in law did this, as did my mother. Otherwise what else are you referring to?

4. Whatever she wants (and to a smaller extent, what you can afford to give her). I've heard it's 3 times your monthly salary, but really if it's within your realms of affordable whatever she wants. I don't think most women would go too outrageous. Remember, this is supposed to last a lifetime and be a key piece of jewelry. She may want cheaper, she may want more. Compromise, it will be very key to your marriage. Plus you want her input in her ring. While it's nice to think you'll get it right and know her style, you don't want to run the risk of her getting stuck with something that isn't a perfect fit and having to wear it forever or insult you. Maybe that relates to Question 1. I used to think it was totally romantic to have the ring there for the proposal, now I don't know... I've seen how that works out sometimes and it scares me. Maybe if rings have been browsed in passing beforehand it's a safer bet. But cold turkey no way.

 

[Prospero]

If you want to learn everything you can, and I mean everything, about diamonds and wedding rings, including the unsavory history of the DeBeers cartel, start with this Slashdot thread.

 

[bishoptl]

That 2 months salary nonsense is crap dreamed up by the diamond cartels to separate you from your cash. Don't taint your love with their bloodsoaked stones - buy ethical diamonds instead and sleep peacefully knowing that no Africans were killed so your girl could have a shiny bauble.

 

[maharg]

I don't know about #4. I married a girl who didn't give a shit.

As for #1, I dunno. I know people who are polyamorous, married, and still wear their rings. Maybe they just don't like to always have to answer the "Oh you're married? Wow" kind of questions from hot girls. I know I find it pretty annoying

 

[AlphaSnake]

1) A lot of people have phobias wearing rings. I have it and will likely not wear my wedding ring much.

 

[levious]

1) A lot of people have phobias wearing rings. I have it and will likely not wear my wedding ring much.

What is the phobia? Or is it an unexplainable thing?

 

[Luscious LeftFoot]

My Father doesn't wear his... I used to wonder if my parents were even married :/

 

[Azala]

In some professions you can't wear rings, especially once that are pronounced (i.e. with stones), it's dangerous to do so. But most of those are hands on (construction) or laboratory jobs. Otherwise they are annoying as hell until you get used to them, that's for sure. And the ones that really stand up, like the ugly as hell classic engagement ring tend to get caught on everything, ripping your hands, your clothes and the expensive ring to hell in the process.

 

[AlphaSnake]

Fear that the ring will never come off. Scares me just thinking about it.

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

DONT DO IT JINX!! IT'S TRAP!! GET OUT!!!

 

[Mermandala]

1) I don't wear a watch, no chance on a ring. I have hairy arms and jewelry makes me look like a car-selling perv.

2) We bought some cheapo rings to exchange at the "ceremony" - got married by a Justice of the Peace (who was sporting a green plaid jacket - edit: the JotP not me!) next to the jail, complete with disgruntled inmates in the yard watching us walk in to start our lives - and put them on the wrong hands so we joked that it must've been a satanic marriage. Also, my older brother was there with his less than a month-old son so it looked like a shotgun wedding. Costs 10 dollars.

3) My wife didn't want an engagement ring. Me = "AWESOME!"

4) see above.

 

[Azala]

My wife didn't want an engagement ring. Me = "AWESOME!"

You are so getting screwed with an anniversary band. *laugh* 10 years to save up buddy!

 

[Mermandala]

Her arms are also too hairy for an anniversary band to look nice.

Spoiler

been married 8 years, safe to say that she doesn't care for jewelry either!

we are stuck sharing love.

 

[Team Rancid]

I've been married 5 years and still can't get used to wearing my wedding ring. For me its a personal pet peeve. I've always hated wearing any jewlery- watches, chains and especially rings. It drives me nuts.

My wife is cool with it. She knows I've always been like this so shes not insulted. I actually like having it on, it looks good.

 

[fallout]

I don't know about the rest, but I've got an example answer to the first question. My dad never wears his because he's an electronics tech and any kind of jewelery, especially on your hand, can create some major work place hazards when dealing with electronics.

He used to swap it on and off at one point, but he's also a hobbyist in many ways, so it just got ridiculous and he stopped wearing it entirely. My mom understands and really doesn't care.

Personally, I just don't know if I could wear a ring, just because I'd always be afraid of losing it.

 

[Doth Togo]

Five to ten grand is a good price for a ring. Anything up, she must give you really, really good head and ass to get a rock like that.

Me? $7,500 is where it's at...

 

[way more]

1) A lot of people have phobias wearing rings. I have it and will likely not wear my wedding ring much.

I asked my dad why he doesn't and he explained a condition known as de-gloving. Say you're cleaning the gutters or hanging x-mas light and you fall. You make a grab for the ledge but only mangage to hook your ring no the edge. The ring pulls all the skin off your finger, you've now been de-gloved. I probably should've asked how often the occurs.

My mom doesn't wear a ring becasue she lost hers.

 

[Cooper]

Some random questions about wedding rings:

1) Why is it that some married people don't wear their rings? I have known several guys (and a couple of girls) who don't wear their ring as a matter of practice.

I can't comment on a wedding ring specifically, but I don't wear jewelry since I tend to get rashes pretty easily. This happens even with high quality metals like 24 kt gold or stainless steel. So if I had a wedding ring, I probably wouldn't wear it every day either.

 

[AlphaSnake]

I asked my dad why he doesn't and he explained a condition known as de-gloving. Say you're cleaning the gutters or hanging x-mas light and you fall. You make a grab for the ledge but only mangage to hook your ring no the edge. The ring pulls all the skin off your finger, you've now been de-gloved. I probably should've asked how often the occurs.

My mom doesn't wear a ring becasue she lost hers.

 

[ConfusingJazz]

The reason my grandfather hasn't worn his wedding ring in about 50 years is because he used to be a trucker for texaco, and while jumping out of the truck, his ring caught the handle and almost tore his finger off. He hasn't had it on his finger since.

 

[NLB2]

Some random questions about wedding rings:

1) Why is it that some married people don't wear their rings? I have known several guys (and a couple of girls) who don't wear their ring as a matter of practice.

I know an electrician who doesn't wear his wedding ring for safety reasons.

 

[bishoptl]

You want another reason not to wear a wedding ring?

GENEVA (AP) - A Portuguese soccer player lost a finger when he caught his wedding ring on a fence while celebrating a goal for his Swiss team.

Paolo Diogo was injured after his late goal put Servette ahead 4-1 Sunday against Schaffhausen. The ring ripped off the top of his finger.

"When I jumped down from the fence, I didn't feel anything at all," Diogo said in Wednesday's Swiss newspaper Blick. "The first time that I noticed that something was missing from my hand was when it started to hurt. And it hurt tremendously."

Before it was clear what happened, Diogo was cited by the referee for excessive celebration.

Team officials found the missing finger but surgeons were unable to reattach it and recommended amputation of the stump. "I'm not dead and life goes on," Diogo said. "So I have to live with one less finger."

urk

 

[sonatinas]

Diamond engagement rings etc are a sham. Any woman who is upset at you because you wont buy one is not one worth keeping. Guys, tell you girlfriend right now that you dont plan on buying a diamond for them because its a load of crap.