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What do you think about age differences in relationships?

Don't care when it's legal in terms of age. I would care in terms of life stage. Myself being 34, I wouldn't date someone younger than 28. Rather have someone who's already (should) have some sort of life going, instead of complaining about school recess being too short.
 
Paasei said:
Don't care when it's legal in terms of age. I would care in terms of life stage. Myself being 34, I wouldn't date someone younger than 28. Rather have someone who's already (should) have some sort of life going, instead of complaining about school recess being too short.
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Rule 34 :goog_horns:
 
Being closer in age means you're more likely to have certain things in common. But it doesn't guarantee it. It ultimately comes down to the two individuals, not statistics or generalities.

I'm in my late 30s and I find it hard to imagine myself with someone younger than ~30.
 
I'm 32, I think I'd struggle to feel comfortable dating someone under 25. My GF is 27 which may seem like a decent gap but women tend to be so much more mature, I can't even imagine how childish I'd seem compared to one my age.
 
Some of you just don't understand the attraction of a somewhat jaded, older man with a feisty younger lass. Someone to teach about the finer things in life. How to enjoy a nice cigar. Sip fine cognac by the fire in the mountains of Austria. Getting sushi from Jiro during an impromptu trip to Japan. Sailing to Monaco to watch the Grand prix from a private balcony. Exploring and learning how to pleasure in bed, sensuously being tickled by a feather. Achieving orgasm using nothing but gentle breath.

So if any of you guys know a really rich, moderately attractive, young heiress willing to show me all those things, I'd really appreciate it :P
 
Paasei said:
Don't care when it's legal in terms of age. I would care in terms of life stage. Myself being 34, I wouldn't date someone younger than 28. Rather have someone who's already (should) have some sort of life going, instead of complaining about school recess being too short.
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If someone in their 20s is complaining about recess being too short, that's a red flag all on it's own. Unless he/she is a teacher.
 
Most people are different ages. I have 2 friends that we were born on the same day, but not the same time, so still a different age from each other. Date people a different age from you.
 
Women's "market value" peaks at about 20. That's when she brings in the most life, attraction, and -- underscoring all of it -- fertility. Every year after, those degrade a little without exception.

Men's market value peaks much later. Depending on his career trajectory, it can even be a decade or two later, when he has enough momentum and earnings to support her and bring security, future, safety to the equation.

This is simple and universal, and of course it means that it's a very natural tendency for women to be much younger than men in marriageable relationships. Couples can take the alternative route of "we've both young but we'll figure it out" but this requires heavy societal expectations / strong social checks on the wife to stick it out even if his career prospects get off course, living on severe budgets and mere hopes for the future -- and those strong norms are lacking today. Or they can take the other route of "we're both a bit older together when we start" but then the man likely has to sacrifice access to her fertility, which is possibly the greatest sacrifice possible, to support a woman who can't provide a next generation to you. Younger wife / older man is the only equation that's still solid.
 
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I think it's fucked up when guys are dating girls the same age as their kids.

Or younger..

Like Bill Belichick
 
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if it's legal and they are both adults then generally i'd say who cares but yeah i think you need to be a similar generation/stage of life/state of mind as each other.

a 60 year old dating a 20 year old is odd. as a 30 something i don't think i'd date a 20 year old personally.

the half your age + 7 trick is what i follow. for me that's a 24 year old but still seems too young for me. for whatever it's worth my Tinder is set to a range of 27-38. maybe closer to 28-29 as the lowest now.
 
Eh, people do whatever they want, but I wouldn't date someone younger than me, I prefer someone my age or even slightly older.
 
People who infantilize adult women are creepy in my book. "Oh no, a woman in her early 20s is a retard so you'd take advantage of her!" Let adult people make their own choices and mistakes. There are same-aged couples where one is much more intelligent than the other, is the engineer manipulating her redneck boyfriend because she's so much more intelligent? Like...what?
 
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Any legal relationship is okay. Why would anyone care, like do you imagine the dating pool being lessened for you or something? Just don't care. I get women. Women care because of certain reasons I will not bring up here. but why would a man care?
Trilobit said:
People who infantilize adult women are creepy in my book. "Oh no, a woman in her early 20s is a retard so you'd take advantage of her!" Let adult people make their own choices and mistakes. There are same-aged couples where one is much more intelligent than the other, is the engineer manipulating her redneck boyfriend because she's so much more intelligent? Like...what?
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iggy azalea s GIF

Sub_Level said:
Divide your age by 2 and add 7 to see what is the youngest person you should date. Its a simple but effective rule.
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Arbitrary also. "Sorry babe, I did the math and we have to break up."
 
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Zacfoldor said:
Any legal relationship is okay. Why would anyone care, like do you imagine the dating pool being lessened for you or something? Just don't care. I get women. Women care because of certain reasons I will not bring up here. but why would a man care?

iggy azalea s GIF


Arbitrary also. "Sorry babe, I did the math and we have to break up."
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That's right...

Women who say that are more out of envy and their venomous nature.

They shouldn't care if a couple has an age difference.
 
Heimdall_Xtreme said:


It seems that this is already becoming normal.
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It's ALWAYS been 'normal'.

Consider the days when 1 in 8 women died in childbirth (~1% chance of death per birth) then you can see that quite a few men would survive their wives, paired with high childhood mortality (~30% per kid) and its very logical that older men would marry younger women.

And quite frankly, dealing with menopausal women......I can see the appeal of a young hot girl who shares very little with you from a generational culture standpoint but isnt batshit crazy from hormonal swings :p

Who is complaining about older guys and younger women? No man.

It's old shrewish women who squandered their own youth and now they have nothing to offer a man of ANY age that they would consider (since they outright ignore 60+% of men anyway)
 
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I can't really define it, but it's more of a vague trend where two lines separate.

18 year old with anyone like 21+ is a bit weird. Always seems like someone hitting their 20s, but still mentally wanting high schoolers.

19-20 can go to around 24-25 (in this situation, both can be in college or recently out)

Once you hit 30, I think it's weird to be with anyone younger than 23ish~

Once you're in your late 30s, unless the younger person is closer to 30, it's weird.

In your 40s anyone 30+.

The gap basically continues to widen in my mind as you cross this threshold. What started off as weird being just a few years younger grows to 10 year gaps being normal and not weird to me. At this point both people "should" be mature adults.
 
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I don't think too much about it as long as it's 18+. In my State, and roughly half the States in the US it would be legal for me to fuck a 16 year old and that's just kind of messed up to me. I feel like maybe until you are 19 you can go back ~2 years as that could be people 1 grade from each other, but outside of that strict 18+ is the only thing that makes sense to me.

Beyond that, whatever, it's pretty weird to date people way younger than you. I've done it though, don't really care if anyone judged me for it. Fucked 19 year old's well into my 30s.

When I was like 42 a 19 year old really wanted to fuck me and I just wavered on it for like 2 years. Glad I didn't, she is a total psycho now. Pretty sure by the time she was 21 she had fucked like 50 random dudes also.
 
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I was a 17 year old senior in High School when my wife came on to the scene as a 13 year old Freshman. She is a rare beauty and I was smitten instantly and had no interest in the tatooed-up chain smoker girls my own age/grade. Even then, I knew that this would not do and stayed away best I could (we went to the same church, same friend group as she was a younger sister of a school friend) and we did not get together until I was out of college. Now I am 53 and she is 49 and I sometimes call her my 'young wife.' Married for 29 years and we have 3 daughters now. Everything is perfectly healthy. I don't care about any other people's relationships (let alone celebrities) so as long as they are adults, it's all good.
 
Heimdall_Xtreme said:


It seems that this is already becoming normal.
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It was never not normal. Man, regardless of age will desire young, fertile women. It's biological, it doesn't even need any other explanation. I doubt you can talk about philosophy with 20 yo woman when you are 40 yo man, but it's not about that, isn't it?

Problem starts when someone desires underage women, girls or literal children... Those individuals should be castrated or just killed (depending on how far they went).
 
This page does wonders to dispel the totally sexist and made-up concept of hypergamy. Young women definitely don't care about status and money.
 
I'm in a hilarious situation where I have a 13 year age gap with my current wife, but I still view other age gap relationships with a certain level of suspicion.

Age gaps for me and not for thee.
 
Personally, younger people annoy me. Can't relate over discussion, life, etc. But I get it, if a hot young college girl came on to me I'd be gay not to date her.
 
Mortisfacio said:
I can't really define it, but it's more of a vague trend where two lines separate.

18 year old with anyone like 21+ is a bit weird. Always seems like someone hitting their 20s, but still mentally wanting high schoolers.

19-20 can go to around 24-25 (in this situation, both can be in college or recently out)

Once you hit 30, I think it's weird to be with anyone younger than 23ish~

Once you're in your late 30s, unless the younger person is closer to 30, it's weird.

In your 40s anyone 30+.

The gap basically continues to widen in my mind as you cross this threshold. What started off as weird being just a few years younger grows to 10 year gaps being normal and not weird to me. At this point both people "should" be mature adults.
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Nah.

If they both respect and trust each other, age doesn't matter. It's always bad to worry about what others will say...

Don't let that be important. What is a mistake, though, is dating a single mother, someone woman over 30, or a lawyer...
 
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jason10mm said:
Some of you just don't understand the attraction of a somewhat jaded, older man with a feisty younger lass. Someone to teach about the finer things in life. How to enjoy a nice cigar. Sip fine cognac by the fire in the mountains of Austria. Getting sushi from Jiro during an impromptu trip to Japan. Sailing to Monaco to watch the Grand prix from a private balcony. Exploring and learning how to pleasure in bed, sensuously being tickled by a feather. Achieving orgasm using nothing but gentle breath.

So if any of you guys know a really rich, moderately attractive, young heiress willing to show me all those things, I'd really appreciate it :P
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I'd refer princess Leonor to you but she took too much of a liking to me too quickly and I can't change her mind.
 
As others have said, if it's all legal then I don't have much of a problem with it, though I've always found it a little creepy if the elder of the two has children the same age or older than the person they're dating.

And the Woody Allen situation is wrong on so many levels to me. Grooming and having sexual relations with your adoptive daughter or someone you've had longterm guardianship over since they were a child is f#*ked up and should not be allowed imo.
 
I just don't get all the old bloke chasing young women shite if I'm honest.

I knew one bloke who ended up getting with a 17 year old, he was 40+, they ended up getting married, they've been together for years, they've now got three kids, and he already had a couple from a previous marriage. My missus was her mate, it always weirded me the fuck out, he was her boss too..

They were already together when I met my missus back then, this was twenty years ago.

That to me is grubby as fuck. Always was. And thinking that his kids will still be young while he's, what, 70? wtf man..

Oh, I found out last year he supports Labour after I had a massive row with him

How odd.. 🤔

Me personally, the 17+ girls I've worked with make my brain implode. Even up to the age of around 25 most of them seem to be the most infantile, insufferable bunch I've ever met

I'm just hoping my lad finds one that isn't :messenger_tears_of_joy:

Na, I'll have a cup of tea, a game of Arc and sort the cats out. Seems like less of a headache. Even if I wasn't married I couldn't be arsed chasing young women around.
 
Dr.Morris79 said:
I just don't get all the old bloke chasing young women shite if I'm honest.
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It's creepy, always was and will be. Lots of rich dudes trade in their aging wives for a new revision model and often they have daughters around the same age as their new plaything. Don't trust any of the cunts
 
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