Stouffers
Banned
It’s Ted, you asshole.
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Who is the asshole?
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GymWolf
Member
it's been a long time since i saw BB, my bad
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Foamy
Unconfirmed Member
How's her head game?
Good blow job's can make amends for many marital imbalances.
Good blow job's can make amends for many marital imbalances.
Greedings
Member
Stop doing some or all of those things. It'll get pretty obvious soon.
IfuckinghateReddit
Banned
Your wife hides in her office all day while you do all the work? She's having an affair. Dump her now.
AquaticSquirrel
Member
Maybe the wife was really fired but has an OnlyFans page that she uses to bring in money on the side to replace the fulltime job and hasn't told you?
Would explain the locking of the door and the lashing out at you because of self hatred?
Would explain the locking of the door and the lashing out at you because of self hatred?
Maxwell Jacob Friedman
leads to fear. Fear leads to xbox.
Leave the bitch
synchronicity
Member
Hm, that's weird. Most marriages are smooth sailing.
Seriously though, op, yelling in front of the kid(s) is the worst. (I mean there's worse, but for most "normal" people.) Anger is a part of life, and we all have to let it out, but it's better if it can be released in a constructive manner, or at least not in a destructive way.
But like the Buddhist idea, "Everything is workable." Children will see our worst at times, but it can always be used as a positive.
And sometimes in life, the solution/resolution to problems is not what we'd wish them to be. Always best to be at peace with the ever-unfolding.
Hope you and your wife can smooth the wrinkles.
Seriously though, op, yelling in front of the kid(s) is the worst. (I mean there's worse, but for most "normal" people.) Anger is a part of life, and we all have to let it out, but it's better if it can be released in a constructive manner, or at least not in a destructive way.
But like the Buddhist idea, "Everything is workable." Children will see our worst at times, but it can always be used as a positive.
And sometimes in life, the solution/resolution to problems is not what we'd wish them to be. Always best to be at peace with the ever-unfolding.
Hope you and your wife can smooth the wrinkles.
Spaceman292
Banned
You both sound like assholes for not being able to contain that shit at a child's birthday party
HellforLeather
Member
Well there's nothing you can do about your daughters emotional scars at this point, but you guys should get to counseling ASAP. If you can't even hold it together for your daughters birthday, things sound dire.
BTW I hope you have already talked to your daughter....she will probably internalize this as something she caused. (being on her Birthday and all).
Hope that didnt come off dickish....godspeed OP.
BTW I hope you have already talked to your daughter....she will probably internalize this as something she caused. (being on her Birthday and all).
Hope that didnt come off dickish....godspeed OP.
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MilkLizard
Member
JFC. How about communicating first. Super creepy dude.
bucyou
Member
diffusionx
Gold Member
Here's my POV: it sounds like your wife does not respect or appreciate you, in part because you do all that shit. Stop doing all that stuff and take a firm stance.
Full disclosure: I am in the middle of a divorce.
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MilkLizard
Member
Thank gods it‘s not.
DunDunDunpachi
Banned
Your wife was probably thinking "seriously, on my daughter's birthday he wants to go INTO THIS RIGHT NOW?"
Sounds like you both need to invest more time into the marriage and quit being petulant brats.
Sounds like you both need to invest more time into the marriage and quit being petulant brats.
GeorgioCostanzaX
Gold Member
Good advice but just to be clear I didn’t yell my yell is like Richard Dreyfus or Wallace Michael Sean. No swearing just the default for us is saying the meanest possible thing to each other when pissed it’s a dumb game. It started because she was complaining I wasn’t doing enough making our daughter read books after online school. I would but both of us working full time and only one of us teaching and handling homework during COVID is exhausting.
I just didn’t take the bait after the text and suggested sleeping on it and apologized. But we need to do virtual counseling or something agreed.
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Pagusas
Elden Member
1. Stop airing your shit on a message board, thats not cool and a breach of trust between you and your wife. You are an asshole for that.
2. Get both of you into marriage counseling, you need to learn how to communicate in a healthy fashion. If not for yourself, do it for your daughter.
3. Remember everyone has their own story in there head about what is going on and who the other person is. Most of us are the heros in our own story, its likely no different for your wife. You need to learn what her story is of herself and learn how she sees you, and vice versa, and learn to communicate and fix the issues.
2. Get both of you into marriage counseling, you need to learn how to communicate in a healthy fashion. If not for yourself, do it for your daughter.
3. Remember everyone has their own story in there head about what is going on and who the other person is. Most of us are the heros in our own story, its likely no different for your wife. You need to learn what her story is of herself and learn how she sees you, and vice versa, and learn to communicate and fix the issues.
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Stouffers
Banned
Is this “airing shit” or healthy venting? Would you rather the rage and resentment built up resulting in OP blowing up the house with a can of hairspray in the microwave?
Stouffers
Banned
You and OP sound like a good fit.
Stouffers
Banned
Men_in_Boxes
Snake Oil Salesman
You identified a problem. You went to the person who caused / could be the solution to said problem. You pissed that person off which resulted in your identified problem not being fixed.
Use a different strategy.
Elektro Demon
Banned
She sounds like she's the asshole. But, also you doing all the cooking and cleaning, there's some of your fault here. Why do you do all that? Sounds like simp behaviour.
SlimySnake
Flashless at the Golden Globes
your wife
iconmaster
Banned
Losing your temper at or around your kids is the worst feeling once it's over. I hope OP can work this out for the daughter's sake. Let her be the motivation, even if you don't like your wife very much right now.
lifa-cobex
Member
A woman's anger is the weather vane of truth and wisdom.
mcjmetroid
Member
Sounds like she's is under stress. Time to apologise and calmly ask her for a sit down and ask what's going on.
TDiddyLive
Member
Any time this question appears it is easy to answer by remembering one thing:
You are what you eat.
Therefore, you are the asshole.
You are what you eat.
Therefore, you are the asshole.
MaestroMike
Gold Member
One of you need to switch to part time or hire some help. Boom! Problem solved. $200 is my fee !
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Halo is Back
Member
It sounds like you guys really need to work on your communication. Wait till she cools off and have an honest sit down to discuss how you both feel about the situation. But I will say you bringing it up on her birthday was not a good move and very likely made her feel attacked.
Also, your wife has anger issues and divorce viva text is pretty terrible. Gotta wait until that energy calms down. If she is still unreasonable then it is probably more of a problem on her side.
Also, your wife has anger issues and divorce viva text is pretty terrible. Gotta wait until that energy calms down. If she is still unreasonable then it is probably more of a problem on her side.
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Frito_Pendejo
Member
Was wondering the same thing. My buddy is going through a divorce and they haven’t fucked since their kid was born....4 years ago.
nush
Gold Member
It's super common, but a lot of guys don't talk about it as they'll get mocked or have the boilerplate statement of "She's too tired after looking after the kid all day".
Day I shot my beans up my ex-wife was the last day we ever had sex. She did show interest in sex for ten minutes the day we moved into a new apartment and I already had that mentally pegged as "OH look, reward sex!" /s. and she lost interest before any sex happened.
OP is just a $200K a year earning pay pig his Asian/Russian/wherever the fuck nationality as he won't say wife divorces as soon as their kid is old enough to look after herself but not before she's too old to trade up.
Tough love.
Book it.
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
You started yelling, throwing things, and knocking stuff over on your daughter's birthday? Do you do this on holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving, too?
There may be issues with how much your wife helps out, but based on what you shared in the OP, you're the asshole.
There may be issues with how much your wife helps out, but based on what you shared in the OP, you're the asshole.
highrider
Banned
It does the exact opposite of earning respect, which is a shame.
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MaestroMike
Gold Member
lol my mom cursed me out on one of my bdays
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