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[Punished Miku]

Or be like me, be incredibly offensive, controversial, obscene, and confident. Weeds out all the prudes and only the fun ones make the cut.

I know a guy like that and went to his wedding lol. He ended up dancing for hours in American flag speedos and his wife flashed everyone multiple times. They're a fun couple lol.

 

[hariseldon]

Or be like me, be incredibly offensive, controversial, obscene, and confident. Weeds out all the prudes and only the fun ones make the cut.

And this does fucking work too. Remember that pretending to be what you are not will attract women who aren’t actually interested in you. So be you.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

I know a guy like that and went to his wedding lol. He ended up dancing for hours in American flag speedos and his wife flashed everyone multiple times. They're a fun couple lol.

Murica

 

[Alter_Fridge]

And this does fucking work too. Remember that pretending to be what you are not will attract women who aren’t actually interested in you. So be you.

The main constant with attracting anyone is confidence.

Practice confidence and you're on your way

And if you remember to constantly smile you're half way there

 

[Tesseract]

Or be like me, be incredibly offensive, controversial, obscene, and confident. Weeds out all the prudes and only the fun ones make the cut.

where i come from, people like that get slapped

 

[Elcid]

I know a guy like that and went to his wedding lol. He ended up dancing for hours in American flag speedos and his wife flashed everyone multiple times. They're a fun couple lol.

Boosh. Sounds like they had a good time.

And this does fucking work too. Remember that pretending to be what you are not will attract women who aren’t actually interested in you. So be you.

100%.

each their own

where i come from, people like that get slapped

I've had women throw themselves at me in private despite acting all angry and offended at the time.

 

[hariseldon]

Oh and on confidence: when I was young I had none. Mates and me headed to a club - I had low expectations as frankly I’d had precisely zero luck previously. Mate gives me an E, I then proceed to snog every girl in the club, nearly getting beaten up by some angry boyfriends but my mates explaining I was off my face. I never took E again - I didn’t need it. The mental barrier was broken and while I didn’t repeat that night because I’d almost certainly lose teeth, I had a lot more luck, even to the point of shagging girls in the cloakroom.

I was never a looker, I was earning good but not spectacular money, definitely didn’t have my shit together in terms of career, house, etc, but it didn’t matter. I got laid at a prolific rate, learned a lot as I went and now have an excellent wife.

 

[Tesseract]

can never go wrong with confidence, only problem there is you can tell who is faking it to make it

there's no accounting for experience (and failure)

 

[hariseldon]

The main constant with attracting anyone is confidence.

Practice confidence and you're on your way

And if you remember to constantly smile you're half way there

Works both ways too. I’ve seen women who are first I wasn’t interested in, they weren’t super-hot, but then they showed how confident they were and my interest was piqued. I love a confident woman. Still no land whales though.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Oh and on confidence: when I was young I had none. Mates and me headed to a club - I had low expectations as frankly I’d had precisely zero luck previously. Mate gives me an E, I then proceed to snog every girl in the club, nearly getting beaten up by some angry boyfriends but my mates explaining I was off my face. I never took E again - I didn’t need it. The mental barrier was broken and while I didn’t repeat that night because I’d almost certainly lose teeth, I had a lot more luck, even to the point of shagging girls in the cloakroom.

I was never a looker, I was earning good but not spectacular money, definitely didn’t have my shit together in terms of career, house, etc, but it didn’t matter. I got laid at a prolific rate, learned a lot as I went and now have an excellent wife.

Lol that's a funny story taking ecstacy. Pure MDMA is amazing tho

 

[hariseldon]

can never go wrong with confidence, only problem there is you can tell who is faking it to make it

there's no accounting for experience (and failure)

Most people can’t tell actually. Fake it till you make it is a viable strategy. Faking it changes people’s responses to you which makes your real confidence grow.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Most people can’t tell actually. Fake it till you make it is a viable strategy. Faking it changes people’s responses to you which makes your real confidence grow.

Exactly. No one can tell fake confidence from the real thing

 

[Airola]

You can't project 5 years into the future on the first few dates. You you need to see if you click first. And you won't click with every girl you go out with

But the OP said he has been with a lot of women, so the problem doesn't seem to be that.
The issue has been with him not clicking with them.

So it's not a good advice to tell him to do something where the only success seems to be the ability to have more dates. If he's been dating the wrong type of people it doesn't matter how much more succesful he becomes with dating.

Also to Airola come on bro, you need a chick who takes care of her hands/feet. You don't want some nasty ass woman. That's a priority they need to keep.

They can take care of their hands and feet without being overly interested in their nails. They can have nice nails too. The OP specifically mentioned he is annoyed by their interest in their nails.
I think the OP might've been seeing women who have too much interest in make-up. I'd think he'd be fine with having someone who either doesn't use make-up at all or uses only light make-up. Not all women are interested in polishing and painting their nails and it doesn't mean their nails are immediately nasty because of that.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Eye contact is the foundation of confidence. As long as it's not too long

 

[Punished Miku]

Eye contact is the foundation of confidence. As long as it's not too long

Yep. It's like looking at women like you stare down a tiger. But then bail before you look like a serial killer. It's a delicate balance lol.

 

[Foamy]

Have you tried plying your dates with excessive amounts of alcohol OP?

 

[Tesseract]

def agree most prolly aren't capable of reading the tells

we're slaves to our limbic system, there's only so much you can hide

 

[Alter_Fridge]

But the OP said he has been with a lot of women, so the problem doesn't seem to be that.
The issue has been with him not clicking with them.

So it's not a good advice to tell him to do something where the only success seems to be the ability to have more dates. If he's been dating the wrong type of people it doesn't matter how much more succesful he becomes with dating.



They can take care of their hands and feet without being overly interested in their nails. They can have nice nails too. The OP specifically mentioned he is annoyed by their interest in their nails.
I think the OP might've been seeing women who have too much interest in make-up. I'd think he'd be fine with having someone who either doesn't use make-up at all or uses only light make-up. Not all women are interested in polishing and painting their nails and it doesn't mean their nails are immediately nasty because of that.

If he's been out with a whole ton of women and no luck then I would look at the common denominator

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Yep. It's like looking at women like you stare down a tiger. But then bail before you look like a serial killer. It's a delicate balance lol.

I'm terrible with eye contact unless I've had a few drinks haha. But eye contact and a smile can attract virtually anyone

 

[Tesseract]

eye contact seems like the biggest factor, somewhere between casual and target lock

i'm a better speaker than writer so i've always handled conversation well, fastened to subject, speaking affirmatively, no bullshitting, hard truths even if it means getting ghosted

weeds out the stupids or put ons

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Yep. It's like looking at women like you stare down a tiger. But then bail before you look like a serial killer. It's a delicate balance lol.

If you accompany the stare with a smile it's way less creepy haha

 

[Punished Miku]

If you accompany the stare with a smile it's way less creepy haha

That is critical advice lol.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

That is critical advice lol.

Just pull yourself up before the stare turns into a felony charge

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Also, if you suffer from anxiety like I do, remember to tell yourself to breathe always

 

[Airola]

If he's been out with a whole ton of women and no luck then I would look at the common denominator

What I got from the OP is that he's both dated a lot of women and also been in a relationship with a lot of women. So he's been "lucky" in many senses, but not in the way he'd like to be - which is to have a girl who would accept his video game hobby and who would not be a person who is interested in her nails, facebook and backstabbing friends. I would say the tips here to be "confidently rude" would only attract more of those facebook-fingernail girls.

The first thing I think would be to stop dating the types of girls he's been dating, who to my understanding seem to be more of those poshy and shallow kind of girls.
He needs to be looking for girls who would be actual nerds (not the internet nerd-model type of nerds but actual nerds) and he would need to look for them from places nerds would more likely go to.

The OP doesn't seem to be looking for girls to fuck, which seems to be what a lot of the tips seen in this thread would achieve. Getting girls to fuck isn't his problem, he seems to have been succesfull with that. Something else is his problem and quite a bit of the posts in this thread don't really try to address that issue.
I think though that maybe a lot of the tips probably aren't even meant for the OP here but for others.

 

[Foamy]

But eye contact and a smile can attract virtually anyone

 

[Alter_Fridge]

What I got from the OP is that he's both dated a lot of women and also been in a relationship with a lot of women. So he's been "lucky" in many senses, but not in the way he'd like to be - which is to have a girl who would accept his video game hobby and who would not be a person who is interested in her nails, facebook and backstabbing friends. I would say the tips here to be "confidently rude" would only attract more of those facebook-fingernail girls.

The first thing I think would be to stop dating the types of girls he's been dating, who to my understanding seem to be more of those poshy and shallow kind of girls.
He needs to be looking for girls who would be actual nerds (not the internet nerd-model type of nerds but actual nerds) and he would need to look for them from places nerds would more likely go to.

The OP doesn't seem to be looking for girls to fuck, which seems to be what a lot of the tips seen in this thread would achieve. Getting girls to fuck isn't his problem, he seems to have been succesfull with that. Something else is his problem and quite a bit of the posts in this thread don't really try to address that issue.
I think though that maybe a lot of the tips probably aren't even meant for the OP here but for others.

Lol you make it sound like he's got 7 virgins fighting amongst themselves to blow him while he's all

 

[Punished Miku]

He actually charmed her and became her friend in the movie lol.

 

[Airola]

Lol you make it sound like he's got 7 virgins fighting amongst themselves to blow him while he's all

Have you even read the OP's post beyond the title?

This is a quote from his post:

I have met so many girls but fucking hell I simply can't stand listening to their bullshit. It's always the same everytime. I have to adapt to her and she doesn't give a fuck what I like. Playing games? Stop being childish.

Getting women is not his issue.
Getting the right kind of woman is the issue. And the issue with having the right kind of a woman isn't a sexual issue either. He gives many examples of what is wrong with women in his relationship and they all are something else than sex related.

He's also specifically asking for a woman who would be good for a long time relationship.


It's weird to read a thread where the op asks how to meet someone for a long relationship and goes through what troubles he's been having with the women he's been with earlier (them demanding adaptation to her but not wanting to adapt to him, girls being more into facebook and nails, girls having issues with their friend circle backstabbing each other all the time, demanding him to organize everything) and the Alphas of GAF chime in with their advices on how to get a lot of girls to fuck

 

[Woggleman]

Or be like me, be incredibly offensive, controversial, obscene, and confident. Weeds out all the prudes and only the fun ones make the cut.

This right here. I met my wife when I was at a point in my life where impressing women was the last thing on my mind. Always be yourself and never compromise who you are to get a woman. Respect them but always respect yourself. People forget how important respect is in a woman's attraction. If she doesn't respect you she will not get hot for you.

 

[notseqi]

Sun-Tzu say, better park meat in girl than meet girl in park.

Meeting the right kind of woman is a matter of meeting a lot of women. Go meet a lot of women and do what is necessary to do so. 'The rational male' isn't half bad, 'A$$hole' by Martin Khin was interesting too, title is a lot shittier than the book, it's rather thoughtful.

 

[manfestival]

He is looking for a stable and long relationship and not three years of succesful dates though.

Why do you take my advice as not credible? How can you expect to get into a relationship when you can't even get your foot in the door? Don't be disingenuous.
edit: also I had more than just 3 years of dating. I have had LTR before but not that it matters from your viewpoint.

 

[bitbydeath]

You need to be confident and sell yourself like the god damn whore you are.

 

[Coolwhhip]

You need to be confident and sell yourself like the god damn whore you are.

You don't need to be anything.

 

[nush]

Be white and slim and get on a plane to Asia. Easy mode as long as you have at least some dating skills.

 

[BluRayHiDef]

Women are neither good nor bad; they are amoral. They conduct themselves in regard to others, especially men, based on instinct and primal concerns, such as whether or not someone is safe to be around, pleasing to look at, tall, resourceful, socially dominant, etc. Hence, they are very much like lionessess, preferring males who have these traits.

Hence, whether or not a man is a millionaire due to being a legitimate businessman or a crime lord, women will flock to him; or whether or not he is a law abiding citizen or a convicted criminal, they will be attracted to him if he's good looking.

This is why the ex-convict Jeremy Meeks received thousands of dollars in his commissary from random women while he was locked up, and why he was able to hook up with a billionaire heiress and have a baby with her afterwards. It's also why women stay in abusive relationships.

 

[BluRayHiDef]

Hey, OP. This is a video that explains female nature.

 

[bitbydeath]

You don't need to be anything.

 

[Elcid]

Be white and slim and get on a plane to Asia. Easy mode as long as you have at least some dating skills.

Yes you’re sure to find true love that way.

 

[nush]

Hey, OP. This is a video that explains female nature.

What I'm getting from that thumbnail is "be Asian"don't not be Asian.

 

[nush]

Yes you’re sure to find true love that way.

But It's true.

 

[BluRayHiDef]

What I'm getting from that thumbnail is "be Asian"don't not be Asian.

You should actually watch the video; it's informative but also very funny.

 

[Airola]

Why do you take my advice as not credible? How can you expect to get into a relationship when you can't even get your foot in the door? Don't be disingenuous.
edit: also I had more than just 3 years of dating. I have had LTR before but not that it matters from your viewpoint.

I'm not saying your advice is not credible.
I'm saying it doesn't help in what he is trying to achieve.

The OP hasn't had any problems to get into dates and into relationships. He says he's had plenty of them and they always fail for the same reasons.
Trying to teach him how to date more doesn't help him.
He could date a million girls but as long as he dates and starts relationships with the wrong ones he will have his problem.

 

[manfestival]

I'm not saying your advice is not credible.
I'm saying it doesn't help in what he is trying to achieve.

The OP hasn't had any problems to get into dates and into relationships. He says he's had plenty of them and they always fail for the same reasons.
Trying to teach him how to date more doesn't help him.
He could date a million girls but as long as he dates and starts relationships with the wrong ones he will have his problem.

Well then your completely misunderstood my post and the entire premise of your response to my post is wrong. The point isn't to improve his ability to date or "game(since this is ultimately what you are getting at)." The point is for self improvement. The most important step into advancing. Granted you can always be even a piece of crap and "succeed" in finding a mate. Clearly he has some standards.

 

[Airola]

Well then your completely misunderstood my post and the entire premise of your response to my post is wrong.

Ok, could be.

So maybe you meant that you've been able to find partners who are more fitting to you than what you did before. That your advice will lead to that. Or maybe I'm still understanding you wrong?

 

[squallheart]

 

[//DEVIL//]

If you want an advise from a 38 years old who is happily married for 7 years now. Here is one and only one.
Make her fall in love with you. When I say this I mean it . Not her just saying it.
a woman falling in love will start treat you like a god because women love is different than men.

once she fall in love she wouldn’t care if your play video games with chips on your chest even . She is already there for you .

keep her in that place and you are a winner .

there is no such thing as the one and only . As men we always ALWays will tilt our head checking that hot girl on the corner even if we are in love with someone else . Yes most of us won’t cheat or act on it . But it’s a proof that there is no one and only, otherwise you wouldn’t look at that woman. We are not created this way .