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[Catalyst]

To make a long story short, and I'm going to make this story a bit vague, I've been with my fiance for 18 months and 6 days. Best time of my life. However....I've been away from her quite a bit since she really doesn't stay with me permanently since she's still in highschool (she's 18, I'm 20). I guess there'll be time near the end of the month and stuff. Anyway, I rarely think about what it'd be like with other women. I haven't once cheated on her. We've treated each other very good. Lately, it's been a bit rough when we've talked on the phone. We both get angry at each other for no reasons. I have no clue what it is. I wish I could say it was easy as something as her being mad at me for trick-or-treating :lol, but it's not.

So.......the idea of breaking up has crossed my mind. Lately, I've been noticing things about her that I don't necessarily like, and some of her beliefs (she went trick-or-treating with her friends, natch!)...I don't like her stubborness of understanding things, because some things she doesn't care to understand. It's been getting really annoying.

It has occurred to me that almost every relationship I've had before her was pretty serious. I never really learned to have a light relationship that just focused on companionship and just hanging out. I've never really had a "fun" relationship. My first love when I was 15 pretty much set a precedent of what I've envisioned a relationship to be. And boy, man, I've missed out. Badly. When I'm with my friends, or with the boys from the office at a local coffee shop, I see tons of pretty women. I walk into Best Buy, and I notice girls eyeballing me. Very pretty girls. These are girls who I can get numbers from. Girls I can date. Girls I can go out with. Etc.

I'm kind of regretting that my love experienced a lot of firsts with me (I took her virginity...probably have made love .5k times), and if I break up with her, it'd all have been for nothing. It isn't occurring to me that I don't love her, it's just....the missing out has overwhelmed me, and I feel like I have some catching up to do.

It's a fucked up thing. I feel like I'm a bad person. This girl is gorgeous, she has the qualities of what could be a wonderful wife. I don't know what to do.

So, how about you losers give me a few somewhat serious suggestions on what to do. Halloween tips included.

Or maybe...I should sleep it off. I only had a few hours of sleep last night, and maybe I'm just overhyperfuckingsenstitive right now. I feel...vulnerable.

 

[Freestyler]

Oh, I was expecting a story about a sex change, followed by another. I leave disappointed.

 

[Catalyst]

Oh, I was expecting a story about a sex change, followed by another. I leave disappointed.

Yeah, my life isn't that exciting.

 

[KarishBHR]

if you're IN love, then this isnt an issue, suck it up and try and see how things go. If you are just loving her because you feel you need to, than think it through

 

[NohWun]

What'd your relationship be like without the sex?
What do you really have in common?
And if you think you're missing out, that feeling won't go away when you're married.
Don't worry about losing the past. Worry about losing the future.

 

[AlphaSnake]

20 and 18?

Engaged?

Uhh, wtf?

 

[Catalyst]

What'd your relationship be like without the sex?
What do you really have in common?
And if you think you're missing out, that feeling won't go away when you're married.
Don't worry about losing the past. Worry about losing the future.

Well, we haven't had sex in a while due to my work schedule and hers. I suppose we'd lose a lot of our "mmph" if we stopped altogether. Sex is healthy to a point.

And you're right, I shouldn't worry about losing the past...it's the future I should worry about. That's probably the most convincing thing I've heard from someone to keep her I've heard yet. Being married, knowing we'll be living together on a permanent basis, having a family....missing out won't be a problem, and I really can't wait.

I'm just moody today, I don't know why. I try not to think about these things. Some days I feel like she's the best person ever, and some days you see me writing posts about dumb feelings like these.

I think the fact of the matter is...she and I have a shitload to work on if we're going to work out.

20 and 18?

Engaged?

Uhh, wtf?

Uhh, double-you tee eff? omgz lolz wtfg wasslechap pattymayonaisse

I'm sorry, sir, that I don't conform to your set of standards. But she and I are one of those special couples, the kind you see in fairy tales, that, you know, actually work out. I'd explain the whole thing in full detail, but I would just be wasting my time and then be made fun of by a bunch of fat, jealous, pubescent pricks .

 

[NohWun]

I know a couple that got married right after high school. It didn't work out.

Fact is, people so young often haven't really lived enough to know what it is that they like to do and such. When you don't know these things, then it's really difficult to evaluate if you have common interests or common beliefs or not.

Also, your messiness/tolerance levels should be about the same, or else you'll hate each other not so long after you start living together. Sounds trivial, but it's not.

Basically, if you feel there's lots of issues, then you need to decide now if you can live with those issues or not. More than likely, they're not going to change (much).

 

[Catalyst]

I know a couple that got married right after high school. It didn't work out.

Fact is, people so young often haven't really lived enough to know what it is that they like to do and such. When you don't know these things, then it's really difficult to evaluate if you have common interests or common beliefs or not.

Also, your messiness/tolerance levels should be about the same, or else you'll hate each other not so long after you start living together. Sounds trivial, but it's not.

Basically, if you feel there's lots of issues, then you need to decide now if you can live with those issues or not. More than likely, they're not going to change (much).

Yeah, I'm debating this right now...and it sucks ass. I know she's younger than me and it'll probably be more her changing than me since she'll be graduating. I remember going through a lot of change after highschool, still am.

We'll figure something out...

 

[Brian Fellows]

Sounds like she's too good for you. Do her a favor and break it off.

 

[mrmyth]

Dating a highschooler while in your twenties, still trick-or-treating, will probably go easter egg hunting.......


Are you Jerry Seinfeld or Michael Jackson?

 

[Escape Goat]

Dating a highschooler while in your twenties, still trick-or-treating, will probably go easter egg hunting.......


Are you Jerry Seinfeld or Michael Jackson?

hahahaha

 

[BojTrek]

Yeah, I had a buddy who was with this chick from 17-21... they got married when they were 21 and never had any other relationships prior to marriage.

Well, it failed... they were divorced before 2 years were up. I knew they would get divorced when I was making out with her a week before the wedding. TRUE STORY!

 

[Guzim]

I knew they would get divorced when I was making out with her a week before the wedding. TRUE STORY!

Do tell.

 

[BojTrek]

Do tell... I will...

Week before wedding, bachelor party and bachelorette party on same night. Anyways, the husband/wife to be and me (best man) and maid of honor meet for a few drinks after the parties.

We all get hammered...

All four of us head back to their condo and have a few more cocktails... anyways, husband to be is very-big, light-weight and passes out in the front room... the girls go into the bedroom and start BS-ing.

I join them with a few more drinks in hand, the maid of honor passes out. All three of us were on the bed, I thought I would get the maid of honor... oh well...

So the bride to be and I start light hitting each other joking around, it turned it little finger pokes, trying to tickle the other... that turned into making out and titty feeling... she wrapped her legs around me and I panicked... I saw myself getting stabbed if I went any further.

I left the room, the husband to be was still passed out, walked back in the room for more making out... I left again after imagining a knife in my back. I still fantasize about it to this day!

 

[etiolate]

She's 18? She'll change herself and who she is a half dozen or so times yet. Life will change at least that much.

 

[Catalyst]

Dating a highschooler while in your twenties, still trick-or-treating, will probably go easter egg hunting.......


Are you Jerry Seinfeld or Michael Jackson?

Both.