THANK YOU Everyone for the recommendations, it is very much appreciated. I've updated the OP with additional threads, books, and linked to specific posts that people found helpful. Please let me know if you feel I missed something.
How I am going to do that is I've been weak in the fact that I have been dining out way to much and it's just wasting my money. Any time I get the urge to grab a quick bite out and resist it I'll deposit however much said meal would have cost into my savings. I know I'll cave every now and then but I got to remain strong and just bounce back from any set backs.
First of all, congrats on the steps you're taking to change your life. Keep it up, you will see these things start to snowball and many other positive side effects will come your way. Please keep us updated on how you are progressing!
You touched on how easy it is to spend on dining out and how it impacts your savings, which is a good way to look at it. What I also like to do is look at how my purchases affect
my time, and how long it would take for me to earn that money back. As I've gotten older my time has become a much higher priority in my life, I can't believe how fast it flies by.
For an example, let's say we have a guy named John, and he wants to treat himself to a
nice $30 italian meal because he has had a hard day of work.
John makes $15 an hour. Taking into account that is gross pay, so after taxes (like federal, state, social security and Medicare) and other deductions (medical, dental and vision insurance along with 401K) are taken out of his paycheck, and let's not forget tip and sales tax for the food, John has to effectively
work about 3 hours for this one meal. Was this meal worth John working over 1/3 of his typical workday for? That is up to John but if he consistently made these type of choices it would not be a smart move on his part.
When I think of purchases in regards to time lost, it helps add perspective to see if the item I am wanting is really adding value to my life for the time spent.
I am going to post something my grandfather told me.
Follow the 1/3 rule.
1/3 goes to your rent/mortage + electricity and water
1/3 goes to living. Food, clothes, car and other expenses.
1/3 goes into your saving account.
Do you pay 1/2 for rent? You are living in a too expensive house try to go cheaper.
Do you pay 1/2 on living? Try to cut on groceries, a cheaper car or other expenses you don't really need.
I live by this rule and it works for me very well. I understand that it's not always possible for everyone. Some cities are just very expensive, but try to take this as a lead.
This is really good and simple. It's great for everyone as a basis but if you are young and able to live like this you are going to be set up nicely (and quickly) for later in life.