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[Loki]

Update:

She hasnt called me since our last argument on Sunday. Its driving me pretty crazy. I called her cousin and she told me she no longer with her. I know its not my responsibility to track her down. If she is indeed pregnant by me she should have called by now until then im going to think she is either not pregnant or its not mine.

Well that's pretty silly-- you can't predict how someone will react to a situation based on such strict criteria ("if it's my kid, she would have called"). I will echo what has been said to you already numerous times: get a paternity test, and make sure you're there when the doctor gives the results. If it is, in fact, your child, what you choose to do is up to you and the mother.

 

[KiNeSiS]

If any girl tells me there pregnant I'm going for a paternity period!
Unless they abort without really telling me shit =(

Anyway if the results stated that i'm not the father, well then
I'd reach back like a PIMP and slap tha HOE !!!!

*SMASH*

When your done slappin the shit out of the HOE assuming the test comes up negative on your end.
Then slap whoever the fuck it was that basted the turkey.
Diagram A.

If the child out of wedlock is legitamatly yours and she carries the seed for the full term congrats.
Babies are real chick magnets.
Remember just because she's your babies mother doesn't mean your stuck with her.
Avoid all court matters like the plague and hold it down buying the squirt huggies, if applicable.

 

[Azala]

Update:

She hasnt called me since our last argument on Sunday. Its driving me pretty crazy. I called her cousin and she told me she no longer with her. I know its not my responsibility to track her down. If she is indeed pregnant by me she should have called by now until then im going to think she is either not pregnant or its not mine.

The larger question is, have you called her? Have you at least left a message with some sort of brief explanation, apology and olive leaf? If you haven't then you need too, because you're assuming too much. Like someone said, you can't predict how someone will react to something, and you wouldn't want one misunderstanding to breed many more. Not attempting to contact her again after the argument at least once, preferably twice, is just asking for trouble.

 

[ScientificNinja]

Update:

She hasnt called me since our last argument on Sunday. Its driving me pretty crazy. I called her cousin and she told me she no longer with her. I know its not my responsibility to track her down.

Err, yes it is.

If she is indeed pregnant by me she should have called by now until then im going to think she is either not pregnant or its not mine.

That's the third most stupid thing I've read all year (you're not quite as bad as that Ceciliantas guy at Permafrost or his real-life equivalent, Redfox over at fr4g.co.uk, who was dobbed in to his whole family for sniffing his sister's panties).

You're putting up preposterous barriers when you're supposed to be trying to open a dialogue. You're looking for a place to hide like some girly-man when you're supposed to take it like a man.

Yeah, sure, for all you know she mightn't be pregnant at all, or if she is, it's not yours at all. Either way, she's fingered you for it and her word alone can turn your life into a world of legal hell. Hiding away isn't going to solve it - you're better off taking a more active role in it, otherwise if she comes looking for you, she might be coming with a nasty summons to appear in court.

 

[border]

The only thing worse than this being an absolute joke would be this being something that is actually happening between two human beings.

I think we are getting Bogeyker'ed...

 

[SSGMUN10000]

I have tried to call twice. The thing is I dont know where she is. The number I called was her cousins and she said she wasnt with her anymore.

 

[Azala]

Do you have any other numbers? I thought you had mentioned a brother or something. Call around. Check the phone book. It doesn't count unless you can leave a reliable message or actually speak to her. Can you send her a letter? Do you know where she works? What other options do you have?

 

[SSGMUN10000]

Well I just tried calling her sister's # where she lives at. Got a message saying that the # is no longer working. So there goes that. Dont know how else to contact her.

 

[Azala]

So call the phone company (or 411), give them the old number and ask for the address that was associated with that number right before it was cancelled. If it sounds about right, send a letter to her. Heck you can also google it unless she was unlisted. The internet won't update as fast as the phone company.

 

[Luscious LeftFoot]

Wait, you don't have a direct line to your g/f and the person (potentially) carrying your child???

 

[SSGMUN10000]

She lives with her sister.

 

[ScientificNinja]

I have tried to call twice. The thing is I dont know where she is. The number I called was her cousins and she said she wasnt with her anymore.

Time for a helping of humble pie, sport. Go back to the cousin, tell her you really care and that you want to make sure you do the right thing by your gf and persuade her to tell you where she is.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

Time for a helping of humble pie, sport. Go back to the cousin, tell her you really care and that you want to make sure you do the right thing by your gf and persuade her to tell you where she is.

Thats what I just did and being the bitch that she is told me I dont need to be worrying about her and that she will call me when she is ready to talk then hung up.

 

[ScientificNinja]

So call the phone company (or 411), give them the old number and ask for the address that was associated with that number right before it was cancelled. If it sounds about right, send a letter to her. Heck you can also google it unless she was unlisted. The internet won't update as fast as the phone company.

Screw sending a letter - show up at her doorstep. With a dozen roses.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

Screw sending a letter - show up at her doorstep. With a dozen roses.

Wait why should I do that? After what she has done and is putting me through. All I care about is the baby.

 

[Luscious LeftFoot]

It's pretty sad/pathetic that the her family is running interference on you. I'd be infuriated.
You're going to have to swallow your pride and go over there and talk to her to get anything resolved.

You've known about this pregancy what? Five days? And already all these problems... yeah, you better find out if this kid is yours asap.

 

[ScientificNinja]

Wait why should I do that?

Because that is what a gentleman would do. Honestly, you need to be the bigger man about it. Sitting there whining about your moral highground certainly isn't helping you much.

After what she has done and is putting me through. All I care about is the baby.

She is not some inconvenient vassal that happens to contain a foetus of your making - she is a living, breathing, confused and frightened young woman who doesn't know what to do. You need to re-establish trust. You need to show her that she is not alone and that there is someone who'll hold her hand through it every step of the way come hell or high water. If you want to secure the immediate future of your baby, you need to secure your immediate relationship with your gf.

 

[SuperPac]

Wait, you don't have a direct line to your g/f and the person (potentially) carrying your child???

That's the brilliant thing about this thread. :lol

 

[Brannon]

Wait why should I do that? After what she has done and is putting me through. All I care about is the baby.

Okay this whole quote is just all kinds of wrong. I mean wtf, seriously man.

you care about the baby,
you are beginning to care less about your girlfriend,
who so happens to be carrying the baby you claim to care about,
and is threatening to abort the baby because of your wrongs she claims you did against her.

You WILL pony up and fix this situation of course or you increase the risk of losing a son/daughter.

 

[Tazznum1]

I'd stay away from the whole situation. Sounds like everyone involved (which are too many already) are all mentally f'ed up.


Tell the cousin your phone number and address and leave it at that. There is pretty much nothing you can do at this point. If she is going to abort the baby, she will, if not, she won't. More stress on her at this point is not a good thing. Unfortunately, this is not your call on whether or not she has the kid.


Stay away until she is ready. Otherwise you'll stir more crap up that doesn't need to happen right now.

If she doesn't contact you in 2-3 weeks, make another call to see the status of the pregnancy if there is one.

 

[norinrad21]

Why not go to the cousin, lay down the law, let her know how muh you want this to workout for the both of ya?

Why are you being such a pussy?

 

[Tazznum1]

Maybe he now understands that he doesn't want a relationship with this girl.

And I don't blame him if he doesn't. Too many people are getting involved right now.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

I was finally able to speak with her cousin early this morning. Got some stuff cleared up. She did tell me that she is with her brother but didnt provide me with a #. She also mentioned that she maybe return to her house Thursday. We both admitted that everything was messed up and we said things we should have not have. Says she will stay out of our business. She will talk to her for me and get her to call me.

 

[MrPing1000]

goodbye life

 

[onion_pixy]

youy should stop thinking of yourself. Let her have an abortion. Any child raised in this environment is going be fucked up and more than likely a meanace to society.

Please, help chlorinate the gene pool. We already have enough irresponable idiots in the world (like you, your g/f and her family.) we dont need more

 

[Tazznum1]

Is she officially your gf now?


It seemed like she wasn't until she got pregnant.

 

[KarishBHR]

Dude, if you're gonna be a dad, and you wanna be a good one... be a man first. Work this shit out... and no offense to GAF (I love this place), but seek some additional consultation... a bunch of gamers/geeks/pimps can't help you with this one man

 

[levious]

so a 27 year old thought it was a good idea to not only have unprotected sex with a 19 year old he wasn't in a relationship with but to also actually cum inside her? At least he has the moral fiber to be against abortion. This story should be on some sort of pamphlet.

 

[KiNeSiS]

Thats what I just did and being the bitch that she is told me I dont need to be worrying about her and that she will call me when she is ready to talk then hung up.

Listen man, something sounds strange about this situation.
I am not trying to be an asshole but this behavior shows your not the only one.
When the other guy bails you may be stuck rasing a child thats not yours.
I don't see you going for a paternity test, you'll just have blind faith.

Hopefully it is yours.
Hopefully if it's not, the baby come out a completly different race so that way its obvious to you.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

youy should stop thinking of yourself. Let her have an abortion. Any child raised in this environment is going be fucked up and more than likely a meanace to society.

Please, help chlorinate the gene pool. We already have enough irresponable idiots in the world (like you, your g/f and her family.) we dont need more

Woah.....I dont think you have been reading this thread completely. It has crossed my mind about abortion I mentioned it earlier. I may have made a mistake but Im no idiot and if I were to raise a child I would certainly try to guide him/her in the right direction and to learn from my mistakes.

Dude, if you're gonna be a dad, and you wanna be a good one... be a man first. Work this shit out... and no offense to GAF (I love this place), but seek some additional consultation... a bunch of gamers/geeks/pimps can't help you with this one man

Ive always said I will own up to it. If we have the baby Ill do everything to make sure it has a great life like my parents provided for me. I have certainly asked for advise elsewhere but Im trying to get as much advise as possible. I know posting this here could possibly help, which it has among the bad posts.

 

[norinrad21]

so a 27 year old thought it was a good idea to not only have unprotected sex with a 19 year old he wasn't in a relationship with but to also actually cum inside her? At least he has the moral fiber to be against abortion. This story should be on some sort of pamphlet.

:lol :lol :lol

 

[onion_pixy]

Woah.....I dont think you have been reading this thread completely. It has crossed my mind about abortion I mentioned it earlier. I may have made a mistake but Im no idiot and if I were to raise a child I would certainly try to guide him/her in the right direction and to learn from my mistakes.

NO. I HAVE been reading this thread. This is exactly why I say that. 27, unprotected sex with a 19 year old. Said 19 year old has a brother for a guardian, no parents in the picture, and an obnoxious cousin. That just spells disaster. Or it does to people with a modicum of common sense.

WHy not date someone stable and as mature as yourself.

a. this girl IS at your maturity/stability level
b. those types of girls wont date you
c. you LIKE troubled women.
d. all of the abolve

whichever answer it is, you probably (and her definatly) should not be raising a child. Sorry

 

[ScientificNinja]

I have certainly asked for advise elsewhere but Im trying to get as much advise as possible. I know posting this here could possibly help, which it has among the bad posts.

So. What pearls of wisdom do your parents have to offer?

 

[Tazznum1]

$5 he didn't tell them.

 

[marko]

So. What pearls of wisdom do your parents have to offer?

I personally would not consult the parents until more is known about the situation (is she keeping baby, is it even his baby).

 

[ScientificNinja]

I've no doubt he hasn't consulted his parents either

Thing is, if his parents are as loving and supportive as he makes them out to be, then I'd tend to think that any dismay/disapproval they have of the predicament will be completely blanketed by their over-arching love and sense of duty to helping their son out of a jam. I'm almost certain they will have some useful ideas, maybe even an appropriate course of action to suggest.

But then again, like I said, I don't know anything about his parents. All I know is that when a child has the sense to ask his or her parents for help, most parents will tend to respond.

 

[doncale]

My god. Do you guys fear babies or something? You make it seem as if there is nothing worse than having a baby.

:lol ITS TRUE

 

[SSGMUN10000]

I personally would not consult the parents until more is known about the situation (is she keeping baby, is it even his baby).

Bingo! I havent told him till I have clear clarification of the issue. I want to get with her make sure its mine and talk things over.

As far as what I learned from my parents. My dad came as an immigrant to the US to raise a family of 8. Even though he couldnt speak english he made sure he provided the necessities and busted his butt to make sure we grew up in good environent. No matter what the circumstamces he never failed in that area. My mom raised 6 kids with all her love all by herself no nanny was needed. Hopefully I can take that and apply it when I have my family be it now or later.

 

[shuri]

I swear to god you said you were 37 in another thread.

edit: oh nevermind: http://ga-forum.com/showthread.php?t=28135&highlight=27

 

[SSGMUN10000]

LOL. If I was 37 still hooking up with 19yr olds. I would either be real smooth or really creepy. Heck even now being 27 still kinda seems that way. DAMN u GAF!!

 

[Fresh Prince]

Or rich.

I don't think anyone is that old except maybe Phoenix.

 

[Cimarron]

"LOL. If I was 37 still hooking up with 19yr olds. I would either be real smooth or really creepy. Heck even now being 27 still kinda seems that way. DAMN u GAF!!"

Naw... If its all about sex I'd say its about bug pimping. At 19 I would hope someone would have enough common sense about who to date or not.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

She's is not pregnant...I repeat she is not pregnant. PHEW!!!! I finally spoke to her on Thursday and she told me she refused to clinic. The reason she said she didnt call was because her brother did not allow her to call anyone but whatever she went today to the doc and confirmed she wasnt. *Does the happy dance* Lesson learned.

 

[Fresh Prince]

That turned out well....well Congratulations on not being a father.

Spoiler

Unless she lied..dum dumd dum

 

[BuddyC]

Well, congratualtions. I know exactly how you feel, so embrace it and be sure to use a condom next time.

 

[Doth Togo]

She's is not pregnant...I repeat she is not pregnant. PHEW!!!! I finally spoke to her on Thursday and she told me she refused to clinic. The reason she said she didnt call was because her brother did not allow her to call anyone but whatever she went today to the doc and confirmed she wasnt. *Does the happy dance* Lesson learned.

VICTORY IS YOURS!

Congrats. Big burden off your back.

DID YOU LEARN YOUR LESSON? Use condoms, don't bang 19 year olds with fucked up heads.

 

[levious]

or at the least think of the million or so places to put your cum besides the interior of a vagina.

 

[Lathentar]

Spoiler

Unless she lied..dum dumd dum

Spoiler

Or had an abortion

 

[SSGMUN10000]

Sorry guys Im not reading the spoilers.

 

[Fresh Prince]

Spoiler

Or had an abortion

Spoiler

Exactly

So are you still going to go out with her or cut all ties?

We tried to save you from it