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[Mister Negative]

Nothing wrong with what you did OP. All RAs are different. Some might knock and tell them to keep it down, some might call the cops like yours did. All you wanted to do was sleep, what happened after that was out of your hands.

 

[Keikaku]

My girlfriend is a residency director for the local University and, from what she tells me, policies differ from school to school.

The RA's might have called the cops because that was policy or because they called the ARD or RD on duty and were told to do it then or because they talked to the students and couldn't get them to cooperate.

Bottom line:

1. Yes, you called them in but they chose to party, you have a right to sleep at night in your own room.
2. They will not, in all likelihood, be kicked from housing or suspended from school over this one incident unless they are repeat offenders. At worst, they may have to have a meeting with the RD or a conduct council of some sort. More likely is that they will need to attend alcohol counciling.
3. You did nothing wrong. Partying is one thing; being loud enough to keep other people outside of their room awake at 2AM is stupid and entirely on them.
4. If they threaten or harass you in any way for this, call the RD and tell them exactly what happened. You want to keep as much of that shit on the record as possible.
5. Otherwise, enjoy your life, get your education and don't worry-you're not a square, just a reasonable person

 

[Madness]

You didn't do anything wrong. You called the RA, the RA's called the cops. If it was 2 am and you couldn't sleep, you also have the right to peace and quiet. Your money, time, education is no different. That said, I'd have probably just gotten some ear plugs myself. I mean it's really only one night, unless it's a recurring thing or its midterm/finals time.

Edit: Forgot, it's Spring Break or St. Patrick's Day right? Probably should have let it slide OP.

 

[aly]

FUCK YOU IM DRINKING AND HAVING A REAL COLLEGE EXPERIENCE
PSSH OTHER PEOPLE HUH

The college experience stuff I'm reading about is a strange thing to me. I guess it really depends on the school you go to. I only stayed in a dorm for one semester, but people were pretty quiet and respectful.

Also yeah some people do have to get up early on Sundays. Like for work

 

[perryfarrell]

Lame. What ever happened to talking to people before getting the authorities involved?

You know, perhaps let them know that they're being loud and that they're bothering you?

 

[Zacxx201]

My college town has so many better options. We have the bar district right across from campus. There's off campus housing, apartments, houses, frats, sororities, and so on. The only people hanging out at the dorms are either sleeping or playing video games/board games. With so many good alternatives, the dorms aren't seen as an ideal place to hang out at.

Everyone here wishes we had that. Frats and sororities are banned here, the town the college resides in isn't even close to a college town, and when you've got the dorm building setup I've got parties pop-up on campus all the time. I've been to many off-campus parties, but those saying on-campus parties are odd must have different living conditions than those at my college.

 

[BeerSnob]

If assholes keep their neighbors awake when those neighbors want to be sleeping, then those assholes need fucking. There are a lot of things in this world deserving of concern, self-indulgent narcissists are not one of them.

 

[JCX]

^knew it





why the hell would he do that??

Few reasons

1) It's St. Patrick's day weekend and a Saturday night. Loud, but understandable. If this were 10 on a weeknight, I'd be concerned

2) Knocking first allows resolution without involving the police and can create a toxic environment on the floor. At minimum, they know someone probably called the RA. At most, they know it's the OP.

Don't even have to say "please keep it down". Just say "I think there are extra RAs because it's st.patricks so you may want to watch out". They might appreciate the warning and probably quiet down

If they're still awful after that, I'd call the RA.

I even did this myself when I was a resident. People above me were jumping around during finals week, so I just asked them to stop.

 

[spwolf]

My college town has so many better options. We have the bar district right across from campus. There's off campus housing, apartments, houses, frats, sororities, and so on. The only people hanging out at the dorms are either sleeping or playing video games/board games. With so many good alternatives, the dorms aren't seen as an ideal place to hang out at.

you can not go to bars in the US unless you are 21 or over, it is strictly enforced. You also cant buy any alcohol until 21, so when kids go to College, first business is to get drunk.

 

[AlexMogil]

If assholes keep their neighbors awake when those neighbors want to be sleeping, then those assholes need fucking. There are a lot of things in this world deserving of concern, self-indulgent narcissists are not one of them.

You might be in the wrong thread

Butt sex thread is that a way

 

[Abounder]

I'm surprised the RAs and even the police did anything considering it's a Saturday night and St. Patty's weekend. Makes me think they are repeat offenders and are closer to being kicked out than not.

In the future you should get to know your neighbors so you don't have to let this shit fester and feel guilty or passive aggressive about it.

 

[zero44]

OP is "that guy"

 

[Freaky Fred]

man it's pretty obvious which gaffers never got invited to any parties in college

and dorm "parties" were a good time, just had to keep quieter so people wouldn't complain. The best thing to do was party off campus, then come back to the dorms to smoke blunts and have a few beers before we crashed for the night.

OP you didn't do anything wrong, they were dumb if they were actually being loud enough to disturb people, but seriously, you should've gone to them before seeing the RA

Few reasons

I was being sarcastic. Good reasons though

 

[Alucrid]

you can not go to bars in the US unless you are 21 or over, it is strictly enforced. You also cant buy any alcohol until 21, so when kids go to College, first business is to get drunk.

it's really wasn't hard to get alcohol before college

 

[Zacxx201]

If assholes keep their neighbors awake when those neighbors want to be sleeping, then those assholes need fucking. There are a lot of things in this world deserving of concern, self-indulgent narcissists are not one of them.

Jesus I feel like there's some underlying feelings towards people partying on-campus. They're just kids socializing and blowing off steam from classes. It's 2AM on a Saturday, man. The guys across the hall from OP aren't assholes they were just being too loud.

 

[AlexMogil]

Why didn't the cops say "hey squares it's like a holiday or something, let them be all loud and alcoholic?"

Seems like they should have been all cool cops about it.

 

[Sepp]

Go over there in the morning, ask what happened, apologize etc.

Don't be an ass.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

and dorm "parties" were a good time, just had to keep quieter so people wouldn't complain.

Well they done goofed then. And you sound like a really cool guy.

 

[Zacxx201]

Why didn't the cops say "hey squares it's like a holiday or something, let them be all loud and alcoholic?"

Seems like they should have been all cool cops about it.

Underage drinking usually cancels out any niceness the cops have. Since OP knew they were underage I'm sure he also knew the risk he was raising by calling the RA instead of knocking on their door.

 

[Bellamin]

you can not go to bars in the US unless you are 21 or over, it is strictly enforced. You also cant buy any alcohol until 21, so when kids go to College, first business is to get drunk.

The bars in this town are staffed by college students. These same people let in their friends who are under 21. It may be strictly enforced where you live, but not everywhere.

 

[spwolf]

it's really wasn't hard to get alcohol before college

well, since I was European in the US, it was a lot harder... sure we found our "guy" that sold it to us, but here in my part of (Eastern) Europe, kids go buy alcohol when they are 10 (Not for themselves, lol).

Big difference from my american friends who got so wasted at college parties just because they did not before.

Of course, we have drunk kids here too, but since it is not a big deal to get drinks or go to bars, overall far less completely wasted college kids. I guess we learn how to handle alcohol early .

 

[Freaky Fred]

Why didn't the cops say "hey squares it's like a holiday or something, let them be all loud and alcoholic?"

Seems like they should have been all cool cops about it.

because once they're involved they have to do something about it. OP had every right to complain, but could have resolved it himself.

 

[casinoman921]

How would they know it's you who called in? Since you're in a dorm, and if they were as loud as you say they were, they could think it'd be anybody, even a passing RA.

 

[Dali]

because once they're involved they have to do something about it. OP had every right to complain, but could have resolved it himself.

He did resolve it himself.

 

[Bubble Metropolis]

I was friends with an RA throughout college and I felt guilty by association whenever he would tell me about the people he had to bust out of obligation. It's his job and all, but my conscience wouldn't let me ruin someone's life for drinking or smoking in college. I went to my old campus last week to see my little sister and watched a dude in the back of a squad car outside of the dorm getting threatened with all kinds of terrible things for smoking in his room, especially because he wouldn't tell them who the dealer was. Fuck all that.

I can appreciate you needing to sleep, but I wish more people would consider seeking direct reconciliation rather than going to authorities.

 

[Blearth]

Why didn't the cops say "hey squares it's like a holiday or something, let them be all loud and alcoholic?"

Seems like they should have been all cool cops about it.

Because cops are the biggest squares of all.

Squares are people who love rules. Who loves rules more than cops?

 

[Freaky Fred]

He did resolve it himself.

No. 4 RA's and police resolved it. By himself I meant...by himself

Well they done goofed then. And you sound like a really cool guy.

If you're being genuine, thanks. If you're being sarcastic, I'll just pretend you were being genuine, so thanks.

 

[Goodlife]

Because cops are the biggest squares of all.

Squares are people who love rules. Who loves rules more than cops?

I'm guessing you've never been out partying with a cop?

 

[Five]

My RAs told us that the thing to do when you see a peer breaking rules is let them know that if they don't stop, you'll have to let the RA know what's happening. So they can stop right then and there, or they can get in trouble as the RA sees fit.

Fortunately, few people partied on campus at my school, so I didn't have to make a decision like this often. I don't think OP is in the wrong outright, but this definitely could have been handled a little better.

 

[Salamando]

Underage drinking usually cancels out any niceness the cops have. Since OP knew they were underage I'm sure he also knew the risk he was raising by calling the RA instead of knocking on their door.

Just sounds like OP called the RA because of noise...only finding out they were drinking after a mad dash to dump whiskey down the communal sinks.

I don't have much sympathy when people do something illegal and then bring attention to themselves. If they want to make noise, cut out the alcohol. They want to drink, do it on eggshells.

 

[Bellamin]

No. 4 RA's and police resolved it. By himself I meant...by himself

And if his neighbors didn't quiet down? Would it be ok then to contact the RA?

 

[Freaky Fred]

And if his neighbors didn't quiet down? Would it be ok then to contact the RA?

yes, obviously.

 

[Mushroomer25]

No. 4 RA's and police resolved it. By himself I meant...by himself



If you're being genuine, thanks. If you're being sarcastic, I'll just pretend you were being genuine, so thanks.

All OP did was tell a single RA - which was the only way to have the situation resolved anonymously. I don't blame him for wanting to stay anonymous - considering how people in this thread are already giving him shit for it. It's either on the RA or the students themselves for letting it escalate to a point where cops came into the picture.

 

[Hitokage]

I'm personally inclined to not mind as much when it's a holiday or weekend as is the case here, but when people throw loud parties on nights before class they deserve whoever knocks on their door.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

yes, obviously.

But then they'd almost certainly know who it was. You can understand why the RA would be the more attractive option.

 

[Alucrid]

I was friends with an RA throughout college and I felt guilty by association whenever he would tell me about the people he had to bust out of obligation. It's his job and all, but my conscience wouldn't let me ruin someone's life for drinking or smoking in college. I went to my old campus last week to see my little sister and watched a dude in the back of a squad car outside of the dorm getting threatened with all kinds of terrible things for smoking in his room, especially because he wouldn't tell them who the dealer was. Fuck all that.

I can appreciate you needing to sleep, but I wish more people would consider seeking direct reconciliation rather than going to authorities.

hey man, if you're smoking inside and not doing enough to cover it up that's your fault

 

[John Rabbit]

when the cops show up after you just said "fuck off" to the neighbor who just asked you to "keep it down", its pretty clear who called them/got them called.

obvious reason OP didn't go over there and just anonymously called his RA.

 

[SmartBase]

Go over there in the morning, ask what happened, apologize etc.

Don't be an ass.

Don't do this, what nonsense.

OP just think of this as a learning experience...for the other people.

 

[Zacxx201]

Just sounds like OP called the RA because of noise...only finding out they were drinking after a mad dash to dump whiskey down the communal sinks.

I don't have much sympathy when people do something illegal and then bring attention to themselves. If they want to make noise, cut out the alcohol. They want to drink, do it on eggshells.

I mean noise during a Saturday night at college pretty much guarantees there's alcohol. As for the illegal comment do you mean to tell me you don't expect kids to drink at college? Pretty much everyone drinks on the weekends and college. Sure, they were foolish to be so loud, but nothing would've happened to them had OP not phoned the RA.

Just kids having fun on the weekend. Pretty much all RAs on my campus will come up to your suite if you're being too loud and tell you to keep it down, regardless of what's going on in there. Quit being so negative, Gaf.

 

[Freaky Fred]

But then they'd almost certainly know who it was. You can understand why the RA would be the more attractive option.

or OP could've said "hey you guys are being loud and the RA's will probably bust you if you don't quiet down a bit".

They could have realized they were being loud and quieted down, or they could've been dicks and kept being noisy, at which point OP could rat them out with no concern. If they came to OP saying he ratted them out, OP could just deny it and say "you were being loud, and the RA's heard you. I tried to warn you"

 

[Piecake]

But then they'd almost certainly know who it was. You can understand why the RA would be the more attractive option.

Yes, lot of people are cowards

 

[Cels]

lol i got caught drinking in the dorms my first year in college and i had to make some posters for one of our floor's events. that was the end of that.

 

[Bubble Metropolis]

lol i got caught drinking in the dorms my first year in college and i had to make some posters for one of our floor's events. that was the end of that.

Were the cops involved in your case, or was it handled internally?

 

[VanillaCakeIsBurning]

There's a simple way this all could have been avoided.

Don't fuck with people's sleep time.

I've seen so much rage on GAF to know that doing so isn't a good idea and can end badly for you, like it did for the people in the OP.

 

[Bubble Metropolis]

There's a simple way this all could have been avoided.

Don't fuck with people's sleep time.

I've seen so much rage on GAF to know that doing so isn't a good idea and can end badly for you, like it did for the people in the OP.

Second only to people talking, having children, eating food, or in any way reminding those around you that exist (particularly having a cell phone) in a theater on Gaf's hatred list.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

Yes, lot of people are cowards

Lots of people enjoy sleep. Party on.

 

[Piecake]

Lots of people enjoy sleep. Party on.

I am sure the RA feels the same way

 

[Ace Harding]

Ah good old dorm parties. The ones I went to usually involved passing around a bong and a bottle of liquor and listening to music at a reasonable volume.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

I am sure the RA feels the same way

... What? He works at night lol

 

[AlexMogil]

Ah good old dorm parties. The ones I went to usually involved passing around a bong and a bottle of liquor and listening to music at a reasonable volume.

Dingdingding

Sounds good to me and my neighbors are asleeeeep