It's probably more because your PSN ID sounds female. I often use female avatars on PSN and never got a message like that.
Yeah, probably. I guess I get stuck in the knowledge that some people think I'm a guy regardless of my sn / tag.
Either way, a lot of the messages on PSN/Miiverse make me laugh at this point. Yeah, I feel uncomfortable but man some of them are hilarious. I could joke that the thirst is real, but you get the drift.
First of all, it's awful that the horrible behaviour of some idiot stopped you from public streaming.
I was going to respond to your point about female gamers identifying as such by saying that perhaps it is a manner of presentation more popular on the PS4 streams, but then I realised I was starting to get my own thoughts on this twisted. The streams I have seen are often 'conversational' with a female there and then 4 out of every 5 comments being sexist dribbling from a spunk monkey. I'm knowingly using a generalisation there and it's only my perception - but maybe it's something to do with the console audience skewing younger than the PC one?
I then also thought that maybe my irritation at the term is more from it being used mainly in this context and in this context, it is 'attention seeking'. Not that there's anything inherently wrong in that. It just (genuinely) makes me sad to see that sort of manipulative discourse and it feels cheap and exploitative. I guess I then started wondering about the term itself and whether it's a part of that discourse. I'm probably fairly naive about this, (as with most things!) and I'm also aware that I've never really had that misogynist abuse from gamer communities, partially because I'm naturally fairly private and so only tend to play online with people I trust.
Anyway, thanks so much for your post. I wonder if my criticisms themselves have some latent misogyny. I tell you, it's rubbish being human. When I go, I want to come back as a dog.
I still like to stream even if it isn't public, and I added moderators to my chat in case I can't get to something quick enough. But I will admit that it can be harder to interact with your chat since a) Twitch now has a delay so you are faster than your chat and need to time your responses, and b) you have to stop play and respond (and that response might not be very short depending on the question). At the same time, when you're playing a game with a lot of voice acting and cutscenes, you don't need a mic for that because the game speaks for itself.
I don't think it's limited to just consoles because you get the same type of stuff for women who stream using PC games, and while the demographics for some consoles, handhelds, and PC, you will still have some people of different ages participating in the same kind of behaviour. You also have the issue with fanboyism for both genders. Take a look at any of the more prominent Let's Players of any gender on Something Awful, and you'll notice that some of them have fanart,
fanfiction, wikis, TVtropes pages, etc. And some of them
hate it. They're just there to play and explain games. They aren't there to be fawned over and they don't want special treatment.
Some of the PS4 streams might be akin to some streams you'd see on JustinTV in terms of a conversational angle. Some people, regardless of gender, put themselves on-stream because of attention, but others genuinely have a message to communicate, a skill they want to show (ex: there is this one person who streams themselves playing the guitar almost every Friday on PS4, I think), play through something because they might want help, etc. Not every person who wishes to stream a game (even on camera), might be doing it for more, um, promotional reasons. But I won't deny that there are certainly people who do. And it sucks that they do that, too, because some of them aren't bad at playing. That is the skill they should be demonstrating, and they shouldn't get dinged by the online community who participate in their chats just for doing that.
I don't think your OP was demonstrative of latent misogyny because you'd essentially said that you might not have had as much experience in terms of the other side of the coin, and that's fine. I think some responses in this thread are providing a decent plethora of other perspectives, especially on behalf of some of the females who post on this forum.
The general point is, as you've said, many females who play games of any genre just want to be treated as peers without special treatment, but also without denigration. Some women do distinguish themselves by in some way, not just by stating that they are female, whether it'd be through voice or putting themselves on camera like some male players generally also do, because they just want to normally participate in the games community. Identifying as a female gamer is simply part of their identity and they shouldn't have to hide it.
I just play with a neutral name and don't talk on mic with strangers when I game. I'm just not in the mood to deal with that crap while I'm just trying to blow some shit up.
Yeah, it's much better without. I ain't got time to deal with people also insulting me for my gender, aside from telling me I'm inferior if I'm not doing well or whining when I'm doing better than they are like some players are generally prone to doing.