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[perfectchaos007]

Nope. I am straight so of course I find the act of penis to male anus repulsive, however I've always believed gay men feel the same way about putting their penis into a female vagina. Thats probably repulsive to them. Its just how we're wired. bisexuals get the best of both worlds I presume, and find neither act repulsive.

 

[Wazzy]

i have always wanted to know this: what does straight women think of gay sex? especially if they find the men attractive? i know that some men like to watch lesbian and transgender porn, but are women the same?

You're asking what straight women think of sex between two men?

I think most like it. Everyone I know, including me, thinks it is hot.

 

[Platy]

Do you find ALL homosexual sex repulsive ?
Or do you just find a naked man repulsive ?

You have to understand WHY you find it repulsive ... because neither love or a human being (that you probably fit in the category) must be repulsive to anyone ....

Is it that you have no exposure to this and you are going all small children in "ewww they are kissing" or you just don't acept any other non conventional "missionary" sex ?

By finding it repulsive does it stop you from liking movies that shows gay sex ?
Does it makes you want to suport baning of this ? Do you think they should not let children see 2 bearded dudes kissing ?

Do you find extreme violence scenes in movie repulsive ?

 

[timetokill]

I remember my gay roommate in college telling me how he found pussy to be "repulsive" and he couldn't believe guys wanted to stick their face/dick in one.

i have always wanted to know this: what does straight women think of gay sex? especially if they find the men attractive? i know that some men like to watch lesbian and transgender porn, but are women the same?

A huge amount of fanfiction and Fandom around certain shows (like say Supernatural) is straight women writing about and fantasizing about gay men and gay sex.

 

[FluxWaveZ]

You have to understand WHY you find it repulsive ... because neither love or a human being (that you probably fit in the category) must be repulsive to anyone ....

Speaking of assumptions/prejudice...

 

[Nakho]

If you find gay kissing disgusting, I think it is a sign of prejudice, yeah.

Gay sex (which was the original topic and some people changed to kissing so they could be outraged at the topic creator) is usually disgusting for heterosexual males. Just as lesbian sex is for heterosexual females, and straight sex would be for gay people if it wasn't shoved down their throats all the time (and still some gay males find straight sex gross, and that's OK by me).

 

[Subliminal]

Holy shit so much homophobia in this thread.

yes, if you think that two people having sex, just because of the genitals involved, is disgusting then you're homophobic. super homophobic.

 

[Father_Brain]

"Gay sex" isn't necessarily penetrative anal sex, even if that's obviously what the OP is referring to.

 

[Kinyou]

I find it as "repulsive" as seeing two unattractive heteros having sex. So take that as you want.

 

[JBourne]

Haha, that's some pretty wild stuff compared to vanilla gay sex. It's not all about fisting and poo eating you know.

Oral and anal are the two most common sexual activities if I remember the statistics, and as you've probably guessed already, straight couples vastly outnumber us in both simply because the world has a lot more sexually active straight people than gay people.

Yeah, that's why I made the edit about more tame stuff like feet and large ladies. I watch a lot of Efukt. My idea of "bad" porn is probably very different from people with less exposure to just how bizarre some of the shit out there is.

 

[Cameron122]

I'd rather think of attractive gay couples than ugly straight couples

 

[Valus]

For me, it would depend on why they find it repulsive. To be repulsed by something is a pretty strong reaction. I'd want to dig further to find out why they feel that way.

I personally think most people are conditioned to feel that way growing up, and never bother questioning it as adults.

 

[kinggroin]

i have always wanted to know this: what does straight women think of gay sex? especially if they find the men attractive? i know that some men like to watch lesbian and transgender porn, but are women the same?

My wife finds it to be a turn off.

I know she was more...uh, disappointed, than I was when TRUE BLOOD SPOILERS

Spoiler

Eric and Jason had the sex scene.

 

[kame-sennin]

If I'm reading your post right, and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, you're arguing that a person who doesn't enjoy (since that is arguably the opposite of repugnance) watching two other members of the same sex engage in intercourse is homophobic?

In between aversion and enjoyment is neutrality and indifference.

 

[Friggz]

i dont find anything wrong with lesbians having sex.

 

[Necromanti]

Well, sure it does (and it's normal, or rather, common), but if you are aware of that fact and don't let it influence your mindset, then I don't necessarily see it as problematic.

 

[ab.aeterno]

Nope. I am straight so of course I find the act of penis to male anus repulsive, however I've always believed gay men feel the same way about putting their penis into a female vagina. Thats probably repulsive to them. Its just how we're wired. bisexuals get the best of both worlds I presume, and find neither act repulsive.

You know, it's a really surreal experience to be told what you feel by someone who has no personal experience with what they're talking about. I'm not sure why you'd speak for or about a group already actively involved in this discussion, but speaking for myself, I don't find straight or lesbian sex repulsive.

 

[danwarb]

Yes, with more exposure you'd realise how silly you were being/desensitize yourself. No one's asking you to eat homosexuals.

 

[cyclonekruse]

I think examples which are clearly much more like vanilla gay sex, from the perspective of a heterosexual person with a strong aversion to gay sex, support the point I was making. Consider sex between a very ugly man and a very ugly woman. Lots of heterosexual people are going to find that repulsive. And lots of heterosexual people give preferential treatment to better-looking individuals. Something similar could be said about obese heterosexual sex. I suspect that an aversion to obese sex is going to correlate pretty strongly with judginess about people with obesity and with preferential treatment for the non-obese. Interracial heterosexual sex is a pretty obvious one that needs no elaboration, though I don't know how widespread aversion to it is nowadays.

I think there's a bit of a leap from "Thinking of you having sex repulses me" and "I dislike you." Many of the people I interact with would be unattractive/repulsive naked to me. But I don't harbor any resentment toward them. If they're nice, we get along just fine. If they're not pleasant, things aren't so fine.

I will admit that if I interact with a pretty girl, things might be a little different. But there's nothing to be done about people giving preferential treatment (within reason) to those they're attracted to. That's kind of how attraction works.

The interracial sex example is more interesting, I think. I get the impression (though don't have numbers to back it up) that whether or not someone finds it distasteful has to do with the specifics. For instance, a certain white male might be fine with a white male porn star plowing chicks of any ethnicity but feel aversion toward other combinations of interracial porn. It could have more to do with whether or not the viewer is able to imagine himself as the guy in the porn than it does with racism.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

Or, since you're not wired to find men attractive, the idea of doing that with another man is repulsive?

Seeing two guys get it on induces cringing every god damn time. It's so fucking weird to me.

how many times is every time

 

[hateradio]

There's nothing inherently gross in two people lightly kissing, for example.

I'm pretty indifferent to people of any kind of kissing. Finding something repulsive is a condition brought upon by your personal biases.

 

[Rest]

really? I'd be very surprised if that was true.
not interested, sure
but finding it repulsive and gross? the same way many straight men think about gay sex?
I'd be very, very surprised.

I've heard it from gay people, and asexual people here on GAF and some other forums I use have said they find the idea of any kind of sexual behavior gross. Also think back to when you were very young, let's say from 3 to 6, did you think kissing was gross? Did anyone you knew your age think it was? Sexual acts outside of ones own sexuality can quite easily be repulsive.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

I've heard it from gay people, and asexual people here on GAF and some other forums I use have said they find the idea of any kind of sexual behavior gross. Also think back to when you were very young, let's say from 3 to 6, did you think kissing was gross? Did anyone you knew your age think it was? Sexual acts outside of ones own sexuality can quite easily be repulsive.

Can we at least say these homophobes are acting like children, then?

 

[Amir0x]

No, I don't personally find it repulsive - sex is natural. I don't think it makes you homophobic to be repulsed by it, if that's not your orientation. As long as you are not remotely using that to judge those people, judge their acts of sexual intimacy and in any way change your attitudes toward people who participate in the type of sex you find repulsive.

There's people who find all sorts of things repulsive, and that doesn't necessary lead to the next step.

 

[Rest]

Can we at least say these homophobes are acting like children, then?

Is... this a joke post? I don't know you so I'm having a hard time interpreting it.

 

[Winterfang]

Doesn't that just make you straight?

 

[IcedTea]

I don't think so. Just like we can't choose what we're sexually attracted to, we can't choose the opposite - what we're sexually repulsed by.

Holy shit so much homophobia in this thread.

yes, if you think that two people having sex, just because of the genitals involved, is disgusting then you're homophobic. super homophobic.

Fuck you too.

 

[Sheroking]

Sex acts are by nature kind of gross without some form of arousal at play.

So, no, finding sex that doesn't spark your particular brand of arousal "repulsive" doesn't make you prejudiced. Copping a fit over PDA or turning that distaste outward onto the world at the expense of gay people makes you prejudiced (and a shitty person).

 

[Captain Europe]

Yes, with more exposure you'd realise how silly you were being/desensitize yourself. No one's asking you to eat homosexuals.

This says it all really.

 

[akira28]

i have always wanted to know this: what does straight women think of gay sex? especially if they find the men attractive? i know that some men like to watch lesbian and transgender porn, but are women the same?

I dunno. I've heard a woman describe some man on man stuff in her fantasies, and then years later say some homophobic stuff and act like she's completely disgusted. So it depends on how honest people are, I guess, and I guess how turned on they are by whatever at what time.

I know other women who are like the reverse of men almost. Like they'd cheer it on and watch it like wrestling. It's...weird.

 

[Log4Girlz]

If you find the core concept generally repulsive, for example supporting sodomy laws because its just so nasty on a fundamental level then yes. If instead its only the specific thought of the act that disgusts you, like picturing two guys/girls naked having sex, then no.

 

[Surface of Me]

If thinking two dudes banging is nasty, that just means you're straight. As long as it doesn't effect the way you view them or act towards them, you're all good.

 

[Nasser]

I am too weirded out by the idea that two men having sex.... but am I against it/anti-gays or hate it? of course not. I just don't care tbh. it's kinda the same when homosexuals say that heterosuxal sex is gross in a way or makes them feel uncomfortable but they don't hate the idea

I like lesbian porn tho. Does that make me a hypocrite or having double standards?

 

[Captain Europe]

I am too weirded out by the idea that two men having sex.... but am I against it/anti-gays or hate it? of course not. I just don't care tbh. it's kinda the same when homosexuals say that heterosuxal sex is gross in a way or makes them feel uncomfortable but they don't hate the idea

I like lesbian porn tho. Does that make me a hypocrite or having double standards?

The difference is that homosexuals rarely say that.

 

[Winterfang]

I am too weirded out by the idea that two men having sex.... but am I against it/anti-gays or hate it? of course not. I just don't care tbh. it's kinda the same when homosexuals say that heterosuxal sex is gross in a way or makes them feel uncomfortable but they don't hate the idea

I like lesbian porn tho. Does that make me a hypocrite or having double standards?

For what I gather, us straights see sex in this categories.

Foreplay-Sex-Hardcore

Lesbian sex would be the equivalent of foreplay, No dicks, no penetration, no actual sex for some people. Would like to watch

Regular Sex, One Dick, vaginal penetration. Regular idea of sex. Would like to have it.

Gay sex, two dicks, Anal penetration, hardcore sex. Too extreme, wouldn't like to be a part of this.

 

[Scrooged]

Doesn't that just make you straight?

I don't think so. Just like we can't choose what we're sexually attracted to, we can't choose the opposite - what we're sexually repulsed by.

Pretty much sums it up. Being straight means you are not attracted to the same sex...so of course gay sex will not be enjoyable to watch. And there's no reason to expect the feeling to be neutral. Sexual feelings are inherently strong and complicated.

 

[Mister Wilhelm]

I personally don't care how homophobic someone is as long as they aren't opposed to gay rights.

 

[krypt0nian]

I find anal sex in general pretty disgusting. There is something about putting my penis in a hole full of shit that doesn't exactly appeal to me.

Putting...penis...hole full of shit.

Dude, this doesn't even come close to representing anal sex. Please educate yourself so as not to sound like you're 12 years old.

Why are some people who post in anal threads so painfully ignorant? That's not a slam. They are literally ignorant of what they speak of so strongly.

 

[ab.aeterno]

Regular Sex, One Dick, vaginal penetration. Regular idea of sex. Would like to have it.

Gay sex, two dicks, Anal penetration, hardcore sex. Too extreme, wouldn't like to be a part of this.

While I understand what you're trying to say, it might be worth reflecting on why calling heterosexual intercourse "regular" and homosexual intercourse "hardcore/extreme/not-regular" is perhaps not the best way of putting it, or why you described it as such.

When LGBTQ folk get reminded often that they and their sexuality are not "normal," that point can become a sore spot. It's something worth thinking about in the way you phrase things. Food for thought.

 

[Winterfang]

While I understand what you're trying to say, it might be worth reflecting on why calling heterosexual intercourse "regular" and homosexual intercourse "hardcore/extreme/not-regular" is perhaps not the best way of putting it, or why you described it as such.

When LGBTQ folk get reminded often that they and their sexuality are not "normal," that point can become a sore spot. It's something worth thinking about in the way you phrase things. Food for thought.

I'm just trying to explain how straight people think, I don't mean to offend. Just tell me how to edit it, so it won't offend anyone. And ill do it.

 

[Karkador]

Why are some people who post in anal threads so painfully ignorant? That's not a slam. They are literally ignorant of what they speak of so strongly.

If only there was a term we could use for times people have opinions about something without any experience or facts about it.

 

[Kinsei]

I'm just trying to explain how straight people think, I don't mean to offend. Just tell me how to edit it, so it won't offend anyone. And ill do it.

Saying lesbian sex isn't real sex is also quite offensive (or at least I think it is, no clue if any one agrees with me),

 

[perfectchaos007]

Saying lesbian sex isn't real sex could is also quite offensive (or at least I think it is, no clue if any one agrees with me),

Your post did remind me of an urban dictionary definition I read long ago, but still remember to this day because it was that funny

sex:
A painful activity in which a man, using the stiffest and pointiest part of his pelvic region, repeatedly stabs a female in her crotch until he feels satisfied. Can also take place between two men, in which one male stabs the other in the bum. Lesbian "sex" may be fun and all, but it aint real sex unless there is some sort of stabbling going on, perhaps with a cleverly shaped hand or steel dildo.
Time to have sex, Sally Struthers!
by suck it December 08, 2001

 

[Rayis]

I don't think it does but maybe try to find out why you feel that way if the repulsion bothers you, I personally do not find heterosexual sex at all disgusting and I find the gay men who do kind of odd, I almost feel like they do it more of as a response to heterosexual men finding gay sex repulsive more than as a legitimate feeling, but what do I know, I don't speak for all gay people.

 

[zorlaczerohero]

If I see two men kissing, I'm not sexually aroused but I am slightly grossed (not repulsed though) because I'm just sexually not into men

An action that may slightly gross you out depending on who's taking part is prejudice. But at least you recognise that.....

I think one can say they are repulsed by seeing it but still recognize they shouldn't really be feeling that way.

This is very true, I understand that people feel the way they do, I did too once. But recognising that fact and attempting to move past it is the key to a society free of prejudice.

I think shows like Game of Thrones, Buffy, Warehouse 13, Torchwood etc that have made Gay characters mainstream are important here. The more our children grow up with it as the norm the less prejudiced they will be as adults. And the less worried they'll be about admitting their own sexual preferences. All I want for my 3 kids is happiness, gay, straight, bi doesn't make any difference to me. I can say that honestly, and yet I know many of my family and friends wouldn't know how to deal if their own kids were. But maybe the next generation will do it better.

 

[encephalon]

I don't think it does but maybe try to find out why you feel that way if the repulsion bothers you, I personally do not find heterosexual sex at all disgusting and I find the gay men who do kind of odd, I almost feel like they do it more of as a response to heterosexual men finding gay sex repulsive more than as a legitimate feeling, but what do I know, I don't speak for all gay people.

Sometimes I wonder this too ... although I also wonder if it's wrong of me.

 

[MisterGrey3000]

It's definitely more brainwashing than anything that makes people think it's repulsive. The same reason a lot of people think masturbation is icky.

It just has to be a social thing.
I remember always liking boys (I'm Bi btw), but that didn't stop society from conditioning me to think of straight relationships as the only normal relationships. I didn't start thinking about having sex with a man until I was in the 11th grade, and started fantasizing about one of my teachers. Up until that point, seeing or even thinking about gay sex just felt "wrong".
However, if it involved two women I thought it was ok because TV characters, guys, girls, and my friends always described lesbian relationships as a sexy/inoffensive/cool thing (which comes with all of it's own issues)

As someone else in the thread put it, straight sex is celebrated in our society.
We can't get away from no matter how hard we try, and unless it involves some weird fetish it'll never be portrayed as negative.
If gay sex is depicted in the media it is usually portrayed as perverted, humorous, dangerous, or just incredibly unusual. Especially when the subjects are two men.

Also, a lot of straight girls don't seem to be "repulsed" by the idea of lesbian sex so I kind of find it hard to believe that it's some natural biological thing.

I guess to answer the OPs question. I don't think one is bigoted for being grossed out by gay sex, but they've definitely got a lot of negative social hangups that they need to reflect on.

 

[Devolution]

Repulsed? No.

Seems like it should just not be someone's cup to tea rather than straight up "EWWWSIES."

Grow up.

It's not like people are asking you to respect scat here.

 

[CrimsonCrescendo]

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[gogosox82]

No I don't think so but I would say its a bit childish