Abusing company info to hit on someone

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Damn, people are too sensitive about stuff. I would let it slide. If I wasn't interested and turned her down, and then she started harassing me, THEN I'd be startled.
 
Nakho said:
Damn, people are too sensitive about stuff. I would let it slide. If I wasn't interested and turned her down, and then she started harassing me, THEN I'd be startled.
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Yeah, if she started harassing me in way that left me fragile or felt at risk of feeling overwhelmed, I would be startled too. Some things require a gentle touch.
 
I doubt I'd mind. But it's a calculated risk. You're rolling the dice that the other person is more flattered rather than upset at someone from a business misusing their private info.
 
Femmeworth said:
Aside from concerns about her ethics, sounds like she would have trouble respecting barriers
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That's why it's important for men to take chastity vows (hopefully this guy has taken one like I have). Then, as usual, it is only the most dire of circumstances that would cause him to surrender his purity. At that point, the girl has probably earned it, haha.

But seriously, I don't want to sound sexist, but it is important for guys to wait until marriage. That way, women can feel safe to explore the options that are out there. But, I'm getting preachy and that's not my style. Have a nice day everyone!
 
depends. An islolated example should get some thought. Sure, she could be fired? But we could all be fired for abysmal things we do at work that we should be fired for...

If someone else pops up to signify a person might be a little crazy.. well..

theres your answer. The law isn't 100%, as our politicians and celebrities prove. People, stop being in a rush to throw the word of the law at fellow citizens. That isn't the world we are in. Its pathetic.
 
Josh with a J said:
^ Wait that's a joke right?

My head hurts if not.
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No sir. 37 years on this earth and each one of them pure.

I may have indulged in watching pornography as a small child, but I grew out of that.

Now, most men in this modern day wouldn't want to admit to purity of essence, but I have it, and I'm proud of it.

I'm not gay or fiendishly sexual in any particularly exciting or disturbing ways, or some pure gold mountain of sexual energy, I'm just a man who wants to wait for the right woman. What's funny about that? Why does it have to be a joke?
 
Laughing Black said:
No sir. 37 years on this earth and each one of them pure.

I may have indulged in watching pornography as a small child, but I grew out of that.

Now, most men in this modern day wouldn't want to admit to purity of essence, but I have it, and I'm proud of it.

I'm not gay or fiendishly sexual in any particularly exciting or disturbing ways, or some pure gold mountain of sexual energy, I'm just a man who wants to wait for the right woman. What's funny about that? Why does it have to be a joke?
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Purity is relative.
 
shuri said:
Report this to her superiors at once. Also your friend might want to lawyer up and consider a lawsuit against the owners of the store.

Easy money.
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i know you're probably joking...but i would not surprised to see a story like this in the papers. litigation. the american way.
 
aku:jiki said:
I have a weirder but similar story. A bunch of years ago, I got busted for a misdemeanor drug possession charge (just weed!) and while the lady cop was taking my details and processing me on the spot, we struck up a conversation about retro gaming because she was really into her NES and was sad that the internal connector had failed so I told her about how they sell refurbished ones and she was really excited to hear it.

After she had processed my case, she's legally obligated to send me her report by physical mail so I can protest in case I disagree and so on. Thing is, I don't think she's legally obligated to include a handwritten note with her phone number and a "call me any time :)"...

(I didn't call, it was just too bizarre. Also fuck the police.)
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This wins. Hahahahaha that is great.
 
Bam Bam Baklava said:
Purity is relative.
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Well, I don't know anything about that. I'm just an old-fashioned guy who opens doors for ladies and always believes a woman comes first.

If that's sexist, or philosophical, I don't know. But, it's the way I was raised and I can't help it. Sorry, if people are unconvinced, I'm not here to convince anyone. I'm just trying to do what I think is right without ruffling any feathers. I felt this girl needed support and the courage to ignore the laws set down by her peers and do what she thought was right. I'm not a smart man, but I believe in doing right by others.

Anyway, I've probably said too much about myself. This is about abusing corporate information, right? What does that have to do with purity? hahaha
 
This thread took me to the other one with the legit crazy stalker... wow

OP, I say let your friend decide if he wants to give her the chance or bail out.
 
backslashbunny said:
I think the confusing part of this entire post is not the chastity part, but how and why chastity relates to women exploring options?

Also, how chastity will help the OP's situation at all?
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Oh, well..it's pretty simple.

If the man has a chastity vow, he is no threat. Escalation is entirely up to the woman. Of course, a woman doesn't need a chastity vow. Women are by nature pure. Women have options. Women's rights! But only with a man who actually has a chastity vow. If you're dealing with a heathen, who knows, maybe indiscretions will be the least of your worries and you'll find yourself out of options due to man's basic uncontrollable appetites.

It's important to get to know if the guy has a chastity vow or not before you begin. I mean, if safety is your primary concern when dating. Which it should be, of course! If you're a young attractive lady with confidence and prospects, you want to be safe, right?
 
Laughing Black said:
Oh, well..it's pretty simple.

If the man has a chastity vow, he is no threat. Escalation is entirely up to the woman. Of course, a woman doesn't need a chastity vow. Women are by nature pure. Women have options. Women's rights! But only with a man who actually has a chastity vow. If you're dealing with a heathen, who knows, maybe indiscretions will be the least of your worries and you'll find yourself out of options due to man's basic uncontrollable appetites.

It's important to get to know if the guy has a chastity vow or not before you begin. I mean, if safety is your primary concern when dating. Which it should be, of course! If you're a young attractive lady with confidence and prospects, you want to be safe, right?
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This biting social commentary is borderline ironic genius
 
Sho_Nuff82 said:
I would never text/call someone without actually asking for their phone number.

That being said, if the girl and I got along well enough, I'd forgive the one transgression. It'd make for a cute "how we met" story. If I wasn't interested, I'd say so. If she persisted after being turned down, I'd tell the store.
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I agree with every word of this.

I can see where people are coming from being upset (though personally I think suing the girl is going too far) but I wouldn't mind if it was me.
 
Laughing Black said:
Oh, well..it's pretty simple.

If the man has a chastity vow, he is no threat. Escalation is entirely up to the woman. Of course, a woman doesn't need a chastity vow. Women are by nature pure. Women have options. Women's rights! But only with a man who actually has a chastity vow. If you're dealing with a heathen, who knows, maybe indiscretions will be the least of your worries and you'll find yourself out of options due to man's basic uncontrollable appetites.

It's important to get to know if the guy has a chastity vow or not before you begin. I mean, if safety is your primary concern when dating. Which it should be, of course! If you're a young attractive lady with confidence and prospects, you want to be safe, right?
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normaly i don't argue opinions like that but man, your worldfew is damn twisted.
in how many relationships where you in?
 
Laughing Black said:
Oh, well..it's pretty simple.

If the man has a chastity vow, he is no threat.
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Men being chaste isn't all that healthy. I get where your heart is but examination of history (early monogamous societies having less sexual related strife than early polygamous societies (with high concentrations to the richest matriarchs/patriarchs) ) and studies in biology (which indicate sex makes adults healthier than those living without it) says this is just unwise.


You need to rethink your outlook.
 
backslashbunny said:
Because women are crazy, dontcha know?! /s


On the flip side, I'm not sure how GAF would react if someone said a similar story. Maybe just the same way.

"My friend was picking something up at the store, and there was a really hot guy that was sort of hitting on her.

She didn't say anything because there were other employees around, otherwise she might have taken it further.

Later she got a text from him. He had nabbed her phone number from the receipt, and said that he normally never did things like this, but she was super cute."

I mean, yeah, the dude's shallow, but other than that, how is that creepy or rapist-in-waiting? I can't see that in that way, and I'm a chick. I wouldn't be "creeped" out if a guy that had been flirting with me got my number from me picking something up in a store (provided this was easy to access info, like on my receipt or pick up order). This is assuming that I would have made a move if the other employees weren't there, so I am guessing it wasn't like I was acting horrified or not interested.

It really depends on how the person acts afterwards; if they ask me out, if they keep pushing if I reject them, etc.
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right, it's always just a matter of perspective if the exact same motives and actions will be considered as bad or neutral.

Which is what makes people shouting 'creepy' so easily and eagerly double sad for me

1: it shows a loss of innocence in how people view their fellow human beings
2: it is depressing how judgemental people can be/have become, what a shitty world it is when people will nitpick and judge everything others do or say.
I always liked to think most adult people don't care or even notice when someone says something embarrassing in the moment, or does something silly or impulsive. That being self concious and overly self aware was something people do to themselves for no real reason.
That if you stumble or make yourself vulnerable to someone else, that you will be embarrassed for much longer than they will remember.

I just hope gaf OT is not a mirror of society as a whole

I feel really bad for this woman the OP describes if people around her think of her the same way people describe her in this thread.
 
Yea man or woman I don't care but that is stalker level shit there. I work at a counseling service and never in a million years would I think of doing something like that. It's just creepy as all hell and plain wrong.
 
Derwind said:
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Seriously though, thats kinda creepy and kinda endearing. I wouldn't know what to feel at that point.
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Beat me to it. Creepiness depends on how much you find the other person attractive.
 
NoLoveForFailWheelDrive said:
Yes. This whole "everything can be construed as creepy" bullshit is really getting old. As long as the line isn't crossed into harassment, it's fine. How is it so wrong if you pursue someone, ask if they're interested, and get your answer? If it's a yes, great. If it's a no, it's not a big deal.

There's nothing creepy about it. But there is something pathetic about the alarmist, hostile reactions against it. Anyone saying it's "creepy" for either gender needs to grow the fuck up and join the real world with us adults.
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Agreed. I'd rather someone who really is interested go ahead and call my number if they saw it on their register and didn't get the chance or nerve to ask me for it while they were working. I can easily say no thanks if I weren't interested.
 
Laughing Black said:
For a musical interpretation of purity, I'd listen to "Phoenix", by Fallout Boy.
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This seals the deal. I was thinking those were your true values for a bit but the way it was written seemed self aware.

I wouldn't go out of my way to report her if I was contacted unless she persisted. Breaking customer confidentiality seems like a slippery slope though.
 
wildfire said:
Men being chaste isn't all that healthy. I get where your heart is but examination of history (early monogamous societies having less sexual related strife than early polygamous societies (with high concentrations to the richest matriarchs/patriarchs) ) and studies in biology (which indicate sex makes adults healthier than those living without it) says this is just unwise.


You need to rethink your outlook.
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Take thee to a nunnery! NO, I say! Sexual purity is very special to me and that's my choice.

37 years a virgin? I say 37 years more! Who can stop me!?
 
Lace said:
This seals the deal. I was thinking those were your true values for a bit but the way it was written seemed self aware.

I wouldn't go out of my way to report her if I was contacted unless she persisted. Breaking customer confidentiality seems like a slippery slope though.
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Thank you.

Also, I don't know an Angelus E. Sorry.
 
HGStormy said:
This is one of those threads where I honestly can't tell who's joking and who's serious.
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For reals. Damn. I don't want to believe that people are seriously suggesting suing this girl..

PsychoRaven said:
Yea man or woman I don't care but that is stalker level shit there. I work at a counseling service and never in a million years would I think of doing something like that. It's just creepy as all hell and plain wrong.
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Come on, a doctor's or counseling practice is a completely different situation.
 
Laughing Black said:
Take thee to a nunnery! NO, I say! Sexual purity is very special to me and that's my choice.

37 years a virgin? I say 37 years more! Who can stop me!?
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I can't tell if you are trying to be funny or if you are sincere, but have any of your posts actually been about the subject? You seem obsessed with turning this into a sexual thing, when it is not.
 
That's a little strange but not necessarily a major red flag in the long run. She probably just thought, "I need to talk to this guy or I'll never see him again."
 
When I was in highschool, I worked at an ice cream parlour, this voluptuous black girl in her 20's used to stop by at least once a week and lick a yogurt cone in a shape of a penis while keeping constant eye contact with me...

Did I ever do anything about it? No

Was I mildly freaked out by it? Maybe

Should I have done something with her? Maybe

In conclusion: it's all good OP, tell your friend to take her out for a yogurt cone.
 
Can you remember anything she said? How exactly do you hit on someone at work, did she say he was handsome or touch his shoulder or something. Set the scene onken.
 
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