Yet weird there is still only one who actually said legislate it which is the only one who is actively calling for censorship. The other two have strong opinions but aren't actively calling for legal action.
So you have 1 person calling for actual censorship and 99.9999% who are trying to have a discussion but yes let's conflate that one person so you can decry censorship and the lack of artistic freedom as if that's what's truly at stake.
Someone else has mentioned a third that wasn't in the books.
I said 3 with you because I misread your statement. I thought you said one and then listed two that weren't but now see you were only talking about 2 in total.
EDIT: I conflated someone saying they don't want it on TV with supporting legislation to get rid of it; which was wrong. My bad. I still think that from an overall view (beyond NeoGAF); there are plenty of folks who would happily push for a soft ban (not official, but just lots of pressure functionally causing a ban) of any rape scenes in media.
As for the "3" situations involving main female characters (distinct lack of concern for Theon, but, hey, he's a guy, so apparently he doesn't count) - spoilers ahead
1) Dany and Khal. In both mediums, it is statutory rape due to the age of Dany. In the books, Khal is "tender" (relatively speaking) towards her the first night, but as many people forget, after that first night, he is so brutal with her that she debates committing suicide. In the show, they have him be more brutal from the get go, but never hitting the level of the books. So it's about even
2) Cersei and Jaime; in the books it is shown as consensual from Jaime's POV, something Martin brings up when the TV episode airs, saying that the TV show is not being written from a character's POV, and thus may be more neutral. The TV showrunners admit that they tried to make it messed up consensual but based on critical response; it appears they failed in the execution. This might be the only one they added per se, but even then, it's at best a failure of execution rather than intent. Which is important if folks are saying "they deliberately added more scenes on TV"
3) Ramsay and Sansa; Sansa's character is merged with another character earlier on in the series (which, mind you, several characters have been merged into one on the TV show, so this is nothing new), and the character Sansa was merged with had a much worse form of this happen in the book. Can't say they added anything, they just changed the character it happened to.
I get people saying they don't like it; to each their own. It's a little weird that this scene (of all of them) is the breaking point, but on an individual basis, everyone has their own specific breaking point. But that's about all there is to it. Going further than that is trying to submit that your personal breaking point is the "one true breaking point" and that the TV showrunners are "bad people" or have "bad writing"; when it is more of a personal preference.
To me; the fascinating part is a) the complete glossing over of torture porn / rape happening to Theon for multiple episodes in the past and b) this unspoken conversation about whether male rape of a woman is significantly worse than everything else that has happened on the show. Memories of the Penn State Sandusky trial give me a sad answer for the first one, and I don't have any real thoughts of significance on the second point (not sure I can really bring anything to the table besides just listening).
Yeah you should probably read again my post.
Re-reading it; and ok, I see sort of where you are coming from, but let me ask you a clarifying question
Should viewers be upset at the character who did it, or the showrunners? I think people are not getting upset at the showrunners, but your post is ambiguous in that regard. If you meant not getting upset at Ramsay, then, yes, I agree, people should be upset at Ramsay if the scene was done correctly. But getting mad at the showrunners for being more faithful to the books than not?