Caitlyn Jenner poses on the cover of Vanity Fair

Status
Not open for further replies.
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.
 
I had no idea who this was when I saw the cover earlier on Twitter, now it clicked and I am amazed. She looks gorgeous, I'm glad too have such a great example to educate the people on this topic.
 
I'll never understand why some people feel so strongly about pronouns for transgender people. What exactly do you lose by using the one they prefer? How can it possibly bother you in any way? Legit questions, I'd like to understand this.
They often say it inconveniences them that they have to "go out of their way" to use a different pronoun.

I would understand if you knew someone for 20+ years who was one gender, and then transitioned. You'd probably use the wrong pronouns occasionally, but actually knowing the person, you'd make the effort.

Usually it's towards people they don't even know though, like they might meet a transgender woman, call them she until they find out she's transgender and then will start using "he" instead because to do otherwise is to "go out of their way"
 
What a weird post.
Yeah, basically saying, " Imay come off as bigoted because I am going to say something bigoted but it makes me feel comfy so yeah".

I never understood why people that don't want to discuss, have no intention of discussion, feel the need to post things they know won't go well with the "but" preface when if they feel that strongly they could just not post. Not like there was any attempt to even have meaning to the post.
 
A couple people in this thread have mentioned that Kanye was helpful in helping the family go through the transition. Anyone have any source on this? I'm just curious about Yeezus's role.

I'm positive he will have some dope lyric about it on his next album, too.
 
Would her kids call her dad still? Not trying to be a troll or insensitive, just that this is all still new to a lot of people and wondered what the norms are?

Good for her, though. As long as she's happy, that's all that matters.
 
A couple people in this thread have mentioned that Kanye was helpful in helping the family go through the transition. Anyone have any source on this? I'm just curious about Yeezus's role.

I'm positive he will have some dope lyric about it on his next album, too.

It was in the Diane Sawyer interview prior to revealing her transition. She said Kanye was the biggest influence on Kim's acceptance of what she was going through.
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.

Don't say you are aware of the rude thing you are doing and then say you will keep doing it. It isn't about you, so you can do better. Pathetic.
 
Wow, that's some impressive work! I know this is the way she always wanted to live, it's wonderful that she can live the way she wants to.
 
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.

Most gender role expectations are all made up. There's no such thing as a real woman or man considering it's mostly cultural.

Also while some girls won't admit here a lot of the establishment wants that in people who want SRS. Either play the game or don't get approved and it won't be changing anytime soon.

Caitlyn is no a caricature I think she is quite toned down considering the reveal.
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.

Be careful. I've seen people getting banned for saying such a thing. I agree with you, though...
There's a good reason you would get banned for it. Kind of makes you wonder if you're saying something you know...ignorant or wrong.

EDIT: But no, it is everyone else who is wrong, and you're right. Something to think about.
 
A couple people in this thread have mentioned that Kanye was helpful in helping the family go through the transition. Anyone have any source on this? I'm just curious about Yeezus's role.

I'm positive he will have some dope lyric about it on his next album, too.
She said it in that interview a month or so ago.
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.

Be careful. I've seen people getting banned for saying such a thing. I agree with you, though...

There's no 'might'. You are definitely douchey for it!

Maybe it's worth considering why people get banned for stuff like that?
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.

Imagine you have a friend who you've known for a while, that friend decides to change their name because of whatever reason ie. they either hate it, they want to get rid of it, they couldn't change it before but now can etc etc.

Would you continue to call them with their previous name despite them going all that way to have it changed and get rid of it just because it's more convenient for YOU ? What about the person him/herself who does not like being called that name ?

What if you got stuck by a nickname in your high school days by some bullies that you didn't like as it offends you, would you not want people to stop referring to you with that name ? Or would you prefer to keep it because it's weird for those people who refer to you using your actual name since theyve always used your nickname till date ?
 
Congrats to her. Any updates on her accident from a few months ago?

Settled, wasn't it?

Einbroch said:
Would her kids call her dad still? Not trying to be a troll or insensitive, just that this is all still new to a lot of people and wondered what the norms are?

No, they'd call him their "other mom" now. Just like everyone else would call him a "her" now post-transition. It's what SHE would want.

That said, if her kids did call her dad and she isn't offended by it: Who's business is it but theirs?
 
No, they'd call him their "other mom" now. Just like everyone else would call him a "her" now post-transition. It's what SHE would want.

That said, if her kids did call her dad and she isn't offended by it: Who's business is it but theirs?

I suppose that makes sense, thanks. Just was wondering if dad, although traditionally only used with males, would still hold even though she identifies as female.
 
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.

I'll be helpful and not offended :-)

Where are you getting your information from? There are loads of trans people out there who just look normal and go about their business. You've probably never even noticed them.

If you're looking at "adult" websites, salacious news stories or celebrity photo shoots, of course it's going to be a bit skewed.

I'm a trans woman and I'm not sure I'm a caricature of anything. I won't go into what I wear on a daily basis or my bra size, but I'm a lawyer at a large firm in a stable relationship and I pass so I only disclose my history to friends I can trust. It's usually so tiring though, because I get loads of questions which seem to challenge me to justify my very existence.

Like I said up at the start of the thread, i hope this is just a learning process for people and in 20 years or so, trans anything is where lesbian and gay perception is now.
 
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.

You're right you don't know shit and that was offensive.

What is a real woman?
 
She looks fantastic. And she must feel really good for getting to show off her real self. Morale boost for sure. Hopefully she gets the respect and peace she wanted now
 
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.


real woman aren't allowed to try and look sexy?
 
You're right you don't know shit and that was offensive.

What is a real woman?
Well I think what they were saying is that they think transgender women always have large breasts, long hair and make up and don't look like "average" women, but rather try to style themselves like supermodels or actresses or something.

They ARE wrong, i'm not defending that, but I don't think they meant any offense by the post, other than the terrible wording of "real women"
 
A couple people in this thread have mentioned that Kanye was helpful in helping the family go through the transition. Anyone have any source on this? I'm just curious about Yeezus's role.

I'm positive he will have some dope lyric about it on his next album, too.

Caitlyn Jenner told the story herself in her interview.
Kim told me a story. She goes, ‘You know what really turned me around on thinking about this?’ I said, ‘What?’ She goes, ‘Kanye.’ I went, ‘Oh, okay,’” Jenner said. “He says to Kim, ‘Look, I can be married to the most beautiful woman in the world, and I am. I can have the most beautiful little daughter in the world, and I have that. But I’m nothing if I can’t be me. If I can’t be true to myself, they don’t mean anything.’”

Added Jenner: “Since then, Kimberly has been, by far, the most accepting, and the easiest to talk to about it.”
http://www.ew.com/article/2015/04/24/bruce-jenner-kanye-west-helped-kim-kardashian
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.
Then don't say anything.

Look, no one cares if it's weird for you. Imagine how hard it is for someone to be openly transgender. Is it really too much to ask for you to call her by the pronoun she identifies with?
 
I don't know shit about transgender anything so I hope this doesn't come off to offensive. Why does it always seem that people aren't trying to be a real women but the sexualized cultural stereotype of a woman? Maybe it's just only seeing media images of transgender people but they can't be a woman without large breast, long hair, and make up? It seems to be more about the culture caricature then personal identification.

She lives in high society near the Kadarshians.
She is VERY non stereotype of sexualized woman xD

Also, you don't see non cliche trans woman because .... you rarely see non cliche woman in media =P
 
I'll be helpful and not offended :-)

Where are you getting your information from? There are loads of trans people out there who just look normal and go about their business. You've probably never even noticed them.

If you're looking at "adult" websites, salacious news stories or celebrity photo shoots, of course it's going to be a bit skewed.

I'm a trans woman and I'm not sure I'm a caricature of anything. I won't go into what I wear on a daily basis or my bra size, but I'm a lawyer at a large firm in a stable relationship and I pass so I only disclose my history to friends I can trust. It's usually so tiring though, because I get loads of questions which seem to challenge me to justify my very existence.

Like I said up at the start of the thread, i hope this is just a learning process for people and in 20 years or so, trans anything is where lesbian and gay perception is now.

You're right you don't know shit and that was offensive.

What is a real woman?


Funny seeing these 2 posts one after the other, can y'all point out here who needs an attitude adjustment?
 
Wow, she looks amazing. Good for her. Hope this is positive for the whole community, shedding light on how difficult the transformation can be, especially in the media spotlight.

Much respect.
 
I knew this thread was gonna turn into a overreaction against anyone that has any inquiry about this topic at large.

First page was so nice and supportive though. Now it feels like a war zone in here.
 
Looking at the pics that Knicks posted, she looks great. She reminds me a bit of Jessica Lange (from American Horror Story).
 
Thought it was Jessica Lange. Took a while to figure out who it was.

Fantastic cover and good on Caitlyn. Takes a lot of guts to do what she has done and hopefully with the exposure help people understand transgender folk more.
 
Might be a douche for saying it but I will probably never refer him as a her. I don't have anything against transgenders, it's just something that's weird for me to say.
You are a Douche and you don't have anything against trans people but you refuse to accept them as people?

Hateful posts like this are so shitty.
 
Funny seeing these 2 posts one after the other, can y'all point out here who needs an attitude adjustment?

I'm sorry not my job to placate people who call trans folk cultural caricatures say they aren't women and judge that they don't have personal identity because of hair and makeup.

If you think I'm the problem because I'm not nice about those implications? Good for you.
 
I'm sorry not my job to placate people who call trans folk cultural caricatures say they aren't women and judge that they don't have personal identity because of hair and makeup.

If you think I'm the problem because I'm not nice about those implications? Good for you.

A person is asking to be educated on something that they're showing they're ignorant about with the intention to not be offensive in the future, and you snark and insult instead of helping them understand better so they can handle better the issue next time.

It's way more than "not being nice", it's being the kind of people who quickly point out someone is "problematic" and don't say what is problematic about it nor do anything to help.
 
A person is asking to be educated on something that they're showing they're ignorant about with the intention to not be offensive in the future, and you snark and insult instead of helping them understand better so they can handle better the issue next time.

It's way more than "not being nice", it's being the kind of people who quickly point out someone is "problematic" and don't say what is problematic about it nor do anything to help.

Dude they knew what they were saying was stupId. You don't preface stuff with I might be ignoant and maybe I don't know shit and then proceed to say it anyway.

I'm sorry but flat out saying we are real women. That we're just caricatures. It's not a question. It is an insult. I mean all I actually did was use their own words against them and confirm to them that yes your are ignorant and yes yoy don't know shit and ask them for their definition of what a real woman is. But no clearly I'm the real intolerant one here.

Again literally not my job to be nice to people who dehumanize trans people. Just asking questions is not an excuse.

There was like a million different ways to say hey why do teans woman often have long hair and makeup (hey look I legit just did it) without accusing them of being fake woman, cultural caricatures and having n9 personal identities.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top Bottom