@ReturnoftheRAT
Can you provide some backstory? Based just on your last post, I'd say move on. Is she an ex of yours or someone you started dating? I never buy the whole "let's move things slower" suggestion, its generally code for "I'm not interested in you". Her hesitation to go to expensive places is probably because she feels bad for making you waste money, when she knows deep down she's not fully interested in you. Just my hunch.
Longish post incoming:
We've traveled in the same circles for the past 3 years or so. Only starting this May have we started hanging out in a group situation. Since its a friendly group of people, many subjects are discussed including relationships, work, life etc. That very day I brought up how I was seeing someone else who was doing the fade on me and not showing interest. I'm sure I posted in this thread in early June that I wanted to take her to my favorite place in the Bay Area and she didn't even respond. I talked about it with the group and the woman who's the subject of this post advised me to delete her # and not followup if she didn't respond by the end of the day. What do you know? the person never responded, so I deleted her.
A couple of week past and once again in that friendly situation movies were a topic. I asked my adviser
if she would be interested in going to one of those luxury theaters in San Francisco. She said yes. I asked for her number and a week later we made plans for a weekend get together.. I picked her up at a mall in her town and we drove up to SF. We talked about prior relationships, how dating was expensive, and she revealed that "she isn't a fan of dating" and "isn't very good at it." Fair enough imo. We both agreed this was a friendly outing and not a date. In fact, "dating" is a word neither of us wanted to us. That luxury experience went well and we ended up with a long hug in my car before going our separate ways.
After this we were texting a bunch, even calling each other when a text conversation who be smoother via talking. One day while I was bored at my car dealership I asked her about her food preferences. I was a bit confused by a conversation at one of the group outings, so I was seeking some clarification. She told me what the deal was and I said lets make dinner plans one night. So we did and took public transportation into SF this time. Yes, the restaurant was fancy and the bill was high, but we split it. That was another really good time and I put my arm around her as we left to catch our train back. We talked about what we were doing and it's new and what would our friends think. Nevertheless, we got back to our destination and before getting in our cars we had 3 quick kisses on the lips and departed for the night.
Again, after this more texting and phone conversations. Nothing of the sexual nature mind you.
I guess it was took weeks ago today, that she was housesitting and and asked me about my dinner plans. Just by happenstance I was nearby that afternoon, so I dropped by the house picked her up and we grabbed a bite quickly. Maybe an hour out, before going back to that house and watching parts of X-Men, We're The Millers, and Law & Order whilst making out a couple of times. The night ended with a long kiss and her telling me to text her when I got home. I got home safe and that's when I dropped the, "
Good night sweetie" line on her. She responded right away with "Good night my name."
The following day, Sunday, was a
low tech day (her words) for her. Just lounging around the pool and housesitting before the owners came back that night.
Monday to Wednesday our texting conversations were short. I wanted to call her again, but she said Thursday would work best. That's when we did and the "let's be on the same page, take it slow, get to know each other better" conversation took place. I told her I understood where she's coming from, apologized for the sweetie comment, blaming it on being happy with how things that Saturday from before and during my time with her went.
We said have a good weekend to each other. She was finally getting a nice weekend to herself so I let her be. I did get buttdialed by her over that weekend that led to some awkwardness. She texted me the following day to say it was a mistake with her phone being weird and she said it was an accident. I told her to not worry about it and she said no worries.
This week I tried to make a plan on Tuesday night for a simple pub get together and she was busy that night and she really was, mind you. She offered to see each other again next Wednesday when we all get together again. I'm going along with that and trying to follow the pace she's comfortable with. Some small talk on Tuesday and Thursday. She's working today and I haven't reached out.
I think I should note that she's going away for just about 3 weeks in late August/early September. Maybe that's why I was or am still being too eager to push things forward.
