Single guys, do you decorate your place with women in mind? (Nerd thread)
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shadowsdarknes
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I don't have gaming posters and game figurines and swag around my house.
None of it is tasteful for the most part
None of it is tasteful for the most part
QuantumZebra
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This ^.
In my heyday of being on the prowl (community college) I lived with my mother and still had no issues at all with the ladies (early 20s). It's all in the personality and the connection, as long as you're cool they'll be cool too.
Straight Edge
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Most nerd merch is tacky.
you nasty
H.Protagonist
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As others have said, less is definitely more. If you want to make your space inviting to people who aren't in your immediate circle of friends, and especially if you're courting a romantic interest, show glimpses of your hobbies, don't overwhelm. I love my games and I used to be quite into anime, but if I walked into a guy's place and saw shelves and shelves of figurines and anime crap, it would definitely be a turn off.
Furniture/other stuff-wise... those damn black faux leather sofas (and guys never seem to have pillows or throw cushions, either). -_- So ubiquitous, so uncomfortable, so... I don't even know how to articulate why I dislike them so much. At any rate, a bit of color goes a long way as does tidiness, of course. That seems like a given, but going by experience, it bears repeating.
Needs:
Plants
Sofa pillows/throw cushions
Framed art, not just tacked up posters
Rug if you have wood or brushed concrete floors in living room area
Hand towel/hand soap in the bathroom (weirdly often absent)
Natural light
Pluses: (totally personal preferences)(there's a theme here)
Book shelves filled with books
Visible spice rack
Wine rack
Knife rack
Fridge that contains more than condiments and takeout
Furniture/other stuff-wise... those damn black faux leather sofas (and guys never seem to have pillows or throw cushions, either). -_- So ubiquitous, so uncomfortable, so... I don't even know how to articulate why I dislike them so much. At any rate, a bit of color goes a long way as does tidiness, of course. That seems like a given, but going by experience, it bears repeating.
Needs:
Plants
Sofa pillows/throw cushions
Framed art, not just tacked up posters
Rug if you have wood or brushed concrete floors in living room area
Hand towel/hand soap in the bathroom (weirdly often absent)
Natural light
Pluses: (totally personal preferences)(there's a theme here)
Book shelves filled with books
Visible spice rack
Wine rack
Knife rack
Fridge that contains more than condiments and takeout
Beelzebufo
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Yeah I'd say so to a degree. I don't have all my amiibo on display or anything, just like Olimar and pikachu (my favorites).
apav
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I too would like to know this.
I'm 22, moving into a new place and I'm figuring out how I plan to decorate it. Specifically I'm trying to figure out if I want to show my nerdy interests or not, as I'll be inviting friends and women over, some of whom don't share the same interests. If I do it though, I want to make it look tasteful. At the most I'd get a small bookshelf and have my games, blu rays, manga (comics), japanese light novels, and books on display, as well as hang a few posters and prints up. No figurines, no body pillows, and I won't have an overabundance of geeky stuff everywhere. As far as posters and prints go, this is what I mean. Nothing overtly sexual and having a more artistic style. Some examples of stuff I like: Here, here, and here. It won't be a complete nerd cave, I plan to decorate with other things. Any ladies here care to chime in, would seeing this kind of toned down yet still nerdy room be a turn off?
If it helps you picture it better here are pictures of the room. I'm not there yet. Here and here.
Thanks a lot!
I'm 22, moving into a new place and I'm figuring out how I plan to decorate it. Specifically I'm trying to figure out if I want to show my nerdy interests or not, as I'll be inviting friends and women over, some of whom don't share the same interests. If I do it though, I want to make it look tasteful. At the most I'd get a small bookshelf and have my games, blu rays, manga (comics), japanese light novels, and books on display, as well as hang a few posters and prints up. No figurines, no body pillows, and I won't have an overabundance of geeky stuff everywhere. As far as posters and prints go, this is what I mean. Nothing overtly sexual and having a more artistic style. Some examples of stuff I like: Here, here, and here. It won't be a complete nerd cave, I plan to decorate with other things. Any ladies here care to chime in, would seeing this kind of toned down yet still nerdy room be a turn off?
If it helps you picture it better here are pictures of the room. I'm not there yet. Here and here.
Thanks a lot!
TheSpoiler
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Less is more, like someone said, but that goes for everything. A busy house is just weird to me. Even if the person was a heavy gamer, walking into shelves filled with games and statues would be sort of eyebrow raising, in the same way you walk into a house and it's filled to the brim with a bunch of plants.
Let my eyes rest, damnit.
Let my eyes rest, damnit.
Death Metalist
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There's a reason it's called "My place" I decorate it with no one in mind but myself.
Fudgepuppy
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Where did you kill Jared Leto?
Benzychenz
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If a girl isn't impressed by my amiibo I want nothing to do with her.
TheApatheticOne
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I go by "you do you". If you live there, you like something a certain way, do it. It's part of who you are, you're going to be spending your time there. If you have a lady friend come over and she let's that dictate how she feels about you, IMO you're better off.
There's a lot of girls out there who could very well not like who you pretend to be. Dont mess up a chance with one who could like you for who you are by doing just that.
There's a lot of girls out there who could very well not like who you pretend to be. Dont mess up a chance with one who could like you for who you are by doing just that.
This is a funny post as a guy, because what you said about the sofa stuff is absolutely true. Ive never thought about it, but i've never seen a male's house that has couch pillows in my entire life, and they usually start showing up when a girl moves in. Also those faux leather black couches omg haha those used to be so ubiquitous like 5-6 years ago for dudes I know. Like I said it's kind of funny because it's not really something I would think about personally, but in hindsight rings very true in my experience.
WadiumArcadium
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I've never seen any use for couch cushions. Never been a fan.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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So is only with figurines and such? I have a bookshelf of games/movies but it's because I have that many. I can't hide them somewhere. Natural light I don't get since that depends on how the apartment was built and it's crazy for someone to leave an apartment just to date someone. I also don't get the fridge thing, most people don't cook so not sure why'd they keep as bunch of food they can't cook. Shouldn't be barren though. The rest I agree with.
Dice//
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... I must be living under a rock (or, in this case, my family home)... is this true??
Inferno313
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I'm not single, but when I met my girlfriend my apartment was pretty lacking in decorations. Even though she's not a game fan, she found it much more inviting once I put up a bunch of movie and game posters.
Now we live together and have an apartment full of video game decorations, Batman posters (My "fandoms") as well as Harry Potter posters (Her "fandom") it works out pretty well.
Now we live together and have an apartment full of video game decorations, Batman posters (My "fandoms") as well as Harry Potter posters (Her "fandom") it works out pretty well.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Most young working professionals I know don't cook it if they do it's like frozen meals you can buy. Pretty much no one my age does home cooked meals.
Dice//
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In terms of cooking-cooking, I don't do much of that (where I got like 20 ingredients for some beautiful meal). I definitely eat a lot as a form of function and time saving than "what fine meal can I make myself today". Yeah... I think I can see this.
Anyways. I'm a huge hobbyist, I love games a fucking ton, but if a room is just full of game/anime/movie memorabilia and random junk then I definitely think it's a turn off. I guess the point is a good sense of balance that a person isn't solely living/spending for their hobby. But, I mean, I'm sure there's no real absolutes here.
Reading H.Protagonist's post, it looks like I do, but it's not conscious. Just go over the suggested interiors in that Ikea catalog on your counter and a couple of interior design sites and mags, and base yourself on that. Just remember to add books and things to those design interiors though.
Your place looks fine. I actually think that the Lego X-Wing would make a good accent.
I agree with these two:
And as others have said, clean bathroom, clean kitchen, don't be afraid to show who you are but don't be overbearing. Do change the posters for ones the actual size of movie posters.
Your place looks fine. I actually think that the Lego X-Wing would make a good accent.
I agree with these two:
And as others have said, clean bathroom, clean kitchen, don't be afraid to show who you are but don't be overbearing. Do change the posters for ones the actual size of movie posters.
ThankYouDaletech
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How old are you and where do you and your peer group rest tax-bracket-wise?
kitchenmotors
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Glad I don't need to impress any girls.
My boyfriend is also a gamer and we share similar interests. I have tons of nerdy stuff, my old consoles and games, some figures and collectibles, and a ton of vinyl. If it were ever an issue with someone I was dating, then I don't think I could continue the relationship.
My boyfriend is also a gamer and we share similar interests. I have tons of nerdy stuff, my old consoles and games, some figures and collectibles, and a ton of vinyl. If it were ever an issue with someone I was dating, then I don't think I could continue the relationship.
thesoapster
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Where do you keep your Huey Lewis and the News?
I'm married now and my wife pretty much decorated a lot of the house, but I don't mind, looks nice, clean, elegant, and has a wholesome touch that I wouldn't have brought to it. But my games room is what I think most people would deem as more typically bachelor. My old pad in London used to be the same way, modern and minimalist. Any art and collectibles were kept in relatively slick furnishings, or simply stored away. Because I used to have social gatherings pretty much weekly, I guess I did have to be somewhat conscious about it's appearance, but mostly it's just the look and style I preferred. You don't necessarily want to be having numerous casual get togethers, poker nights and whatever else with lots of different toys or gizmo's everywhere lol. It becomes more of a nuisance than anything.
Nice. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about. As long as you keep it clean and simple, it can look great. Though this is probably a touch colder or cooler than I personally have things. I still prefer my natural (usually darker) woods for furnishings as oppose to the white ceramic, metal, acrylic etc.
Nice. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about. As long as you keep it clean and simple, it can look great. Though this is probably a touch colder or cooler than I personally have things. I still prefer my natural (usually darker) woods for furnishings as oppose to the white ceramic, metal, acrylic etc.
Deified Data
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A Fish Aficionado
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Damn I dont have anything in my fridge except drinks, some vegetable snacks, and condiments.
Yup, throw pillows are important and faux black leather couches don't come off well. I used to have one but I upgraded my interior design game
Nope, no way to make a body pillow tasteful. The entire reason for it is to simulate a body in your bed. Usually for either desperate guys or married couples to be able to sleep when the other isn't there.
I converted my Phil Collins and Huey and the News CDs into MP3's.
George Oscar Bluth II
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There should be an interior decor OT. I'm sure it would be pretty useful for plenty of gaffers.
Yeah, there should be for sure. Maybe I'll make one tomorrow.
AlexMeloche
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Not really with girls in mind when I was single, but clean, modern and simple for sure.
A lot of girls like that. Quick but old shot. New TV and some decor has been added.
Maybe you already added one, but a a nice carpet under the coffee table would give your place so much more personnality.
You can go so wrong with a bad carpet though. I recommend adding personality and colour instead via things like throw pillows and they are useful.
GuessMyUserName
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I have naked anime girl figures on my dresser
rokkerkory
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Yeah you are right... Been meaning to but so lazy lol
Nice white + black pattern would rock
ShadowSoldier89
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I keep my living room and bedroom pretty standard, and nerd up my office and spare room. It will be staying like that
My dining room is pretty bare so I tossed my arcade cabinet in there. I have a lot of things I need to do though, I've only owned this house a year. Need a new desk, cleaner cable management, new entertainment stand and side tables, need to frame all my prints and posters. Still, my figures are staying, and if a guest or female doesn't appreciate them then whatever. If they try to judge me for it, then fuck em they arent worth my time.
My dining room is pretty bare so I tossed my arcade cabinet in there. I have a lot of things I need to do though, I've only owned this house a year. Need a new desk, cleaner cable management, new entertainment stand and side tables, need to frame all my prints and posters. Still, my figures are staying, and if a guest or female doesn't appreciate them then whatever. If they try to judge me for it, then fuck em they arent worth my time.
H.Protagonist
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Haha. Guys just seem to love them. I guess I get the aesthetic. Black is classic and it seems like very 'adult' furniture compared to the ratty sofa most of us had going into college, but maaaaaaan they're uncomfortable and not inviting in the least. And the one thing that would make me want to (attempt to) snuggle up on them, pillows and throw cushions, are totally shunned by guys because they think they either ruin the look or are too fou-fou for men. The whole set up actually hit me months after I broke up with my long term guy of three years (over future kids, not home furnishings) that his apartment was exactly that. Stark modern with zero compromise. I had to fight to get even the smallest of throw rugs for the concrete floor and no other personal touches of my taste or comfort allowed. It wasn't apparent at the time, but now? Yeah...
Anyway, a lot of the suggestions here for say 'softening' people's home decorating style are not to try and change them or make them give up their hobbies, but to make their place more inviting to others. To show potential interests that there's room for them too, something that doesn't feel like it exists when the room is crammed with figurines, or posters, hobby paraphernalia, etc. At least, that's my take on it after dancing with four black faux leather sofas in a row.
I think an overload/overdisplay of any hobby gives off an impression of obsessiveness or preoccupation that makes it a question in the mind of whether or not there's room for anything or anyone else in your life. While there might actually be plenty of room, it'll still potentially read the opposite to a complete stranger just getting to know you.
I do think there's a lot more leeway with books and movies, though. Neither of those were ever associated specifically with childhood like games or figurines/toys, and everyone has read a book or seen a movie, so they're also good conversation points. I think you're totally fine to display them, and as I noted in my personal preferences list, the more books out, the better.
Do you have a proper shelf or anything to show them on or is it just a board?For natural light, if your apartment doesn't have that, there's not much you can do. I just remember a lot of guys having heavy curtains or always having it shut out in lieu of electric lights which is a damn shame.
For the fridge thing, having a variety of things on offer when someone comes over is a HUGE plus because you want them to stay longer, right? Or at the very least leave with a good impression. It's not necessarily about cooking. I just think it shows care and interest when a guy stocks his fridge for guests, which is attractive. So DO have a few kinds of drinks in the fridge and DO have more than just chips for snacks when you invite a girl or guy over. I think stuff in the fridge is also a good way to show off other interests. I had a guy whip out some Lays once, then he made a big show of "Ooooor, I do have some awesome cheeses I got at the farmer's market." Since I really like both cheese and all the things farmer's markets implies, he scored lots of points just there.
On the cooking thing, 'most people don't cook'...? That's a first for me. *_* I mean, I didn't really go nuts until my mid-20s, but even earlier than that most of my friends were pretty into it. You don't have to be a chef or anything, but I'm not exaggerating in the slightest when I say that a guy who can cook is 1000+ points on the hot scale. Just glimpsing spice racks and chopping boards is enough to make my heart palpitate.
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Also: For people that have a ton of figurines, though, and really want to display them, just select two or three of the ones you like the most and arrange those out when an interest comes over, then put the rest in a cupboard for the night. It's just a way to gauge a reaction without pretending like your hobby doesn't exist at all. Bring them back out after and either slowly introduce more if things go well, or just skip all that and just buy a classy looking case (tall thin curio cabinets look best, IMO, because they don't monopolize space like giant rectangular cabinets) that matches the rest of your interior.
Haha. I'm glad it comes off as sound advice and not, why the burning need for throw pillows and spice racks?!
Looking at an Ikea catalog is a good call for some general layouts. Even if they tend to overdress their displays like crazy, they're still pretty classy. And yup yup on the other stuff~
Doomed, man. Doomed.
Your place looks quite attractive, overall. Love the little touches (flowering bonsai(?), and statues) and major props for the classy and beautifully coordinated gaming display set up. You've made controllers look like art pieces. Very nice. And of course, huzzah for throw pillows. Comfort aside, that hint of red is spot on.
This is the worst thread i have ever entered. How pitiful is this... Iam decorating my home with a woman in mind who would enter this place. Do i want to live in this place or another person???
Sometimes guys talk about this and there is always at least one sane person telling you not to think about this kind of stupid stuff,.... Have you ever heard of women doing this kind of stuff??
Sometimes guys talk about this and there is always at least one sane person telling you not to think about this kind of stupid stuff,.... Have you ever heard of women doing this kind of stuff??
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