ElfArmy177
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Going through a divorce, worked two jobs so she could be a stay home mom. Second job is a weekend position and I work 5 days a week on my other job and take the opposite weekends there because I have to take call. I'm currently working 7 days a week and because of that I make 75k a year... Without the second job I make 55k a year.
I lost custodial because she was a stay home mom and she has worked for over a year and hasn't paid a dime towards marital debt so I had to keep the second job to prevent the cars from being repossessed or the house for closing..
Now she wants child support and maintience based off of both jobs even though the weekend position is PRN which means my hours are never promised... With child support being roughly 1500 a month and maintience being 700 a month for 3 years.. It leaves me with 800 dollars a month to live off unless I get my hours at my other job.
However I get my kids on the weekends and I don't even get to see them... I have no time with my children because I'm at work and she says "not her problem"... She makes 30k a year and I make 55k wihout my second job but the second job prevents me from spending any time with my chilren...
I don't know what to do.. I'm completely at a loss and depressed to the point of just saying forget it and end it. What's it matter if I don't even get to see my children? I'll be in poverty giving her over 75% of my income if I don't get hours at the other place which recently hasn't been able to give them to me... The lawyers say I can't quit, my ex wife said " good, god damn right you're going to give me all that money"..
This divorce has been going on for almost 2 years and I'm currently with someone.. So is my ex... If I have zero money I'm sure I'll lose this girl I really love.. And my kids won't ever see me.. I fought so hard for them and lost because I allowed her to be a stay home mom for 2 years. I've lost everything.
Edit. I also have 35k in student loans.. I'm totally fucked..
I lost custodial because she was a stay home mom and she has worked for over a year and hasn't paid a dime towards marital debt so I had to keep the second job to prevent the cars from being repossessed or the house for closing..
Now she wants child support and maintience based off of both jobs even though the weekend position is PRN which means my hours are never promised... With child support being roughly 1500 a month and maintience being 700 a month for 3 years.. It leaves me with 800 dollars a month to live off unless I get my hours at my other job.
However I get my kids on the weekends and I don't even get to see them... I have no time with my children because I'm at work and she says "not her problem"... She makes 30k a year and I make 55k wihout my second job but the second job prevents me from spending any time with my chilren...
I don't know what to do.. I'm completely at a loss and depressed to the point of just saying forget it and end it. What's it matter if I don't even get to see my children? I'll be in poverty giving her over 75% of my income if I don't get hours at the other place which recently hasn't been able to give them to me... The lawyers say I can't quit, my ex wife said " good, god damn right you're going to give me all that money"..
This divorce has been going on for almost 2 years and I'm currently with someone.. So is my ex... If I have zero money I'm sure I'll lose this girl I really love.. And my kids won't ever see me.. I fought so hard for them and lost because I allowed her to be a stay home mom for 2 years. I've lost everything.
Edit. I also have 35k in student loans.. I'm totally fucked..