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[Red Devil]

What do dumpsters go for in your area? Much more room. If you have the means I recommend the upgrade.

Yeah but people keeps throwing garbage at them.

My questions for people who live at home are always:

1. Do you pay rent/utilities?
2. Do your parents make you meals everyday? Or do you cook sometimes for yourself/them?
3. Do you always do your own laundry?

1. No rent here since my parents own the house, but yeah. If I could pay the rent and utilities I'd live on my own.
2. I cook about half of my meals.
3. My mom does all the laundry, she says that the washing machine does it, go figure.

 

[studyguy]

mijo estas flaco mirate?! deja esa mujer y ven para casa esa mujer no sabe cocinar! ahh i know the feeling XD

Spoiler

i'm dominican tho

If my mother ever comes back after she passes away, the first thing she'll tell me is I look too skinny.
This is like every time I talk to her without exception even if I just ate.

 

[balladofwindfishes]

I know quite a few people who started working apprenticeships at 15 and moved out at 15 - 18, in Austria. 15 is not the norm of course, but 17 - 20 definitely.

In the US we don't have the luxury of leaving home. Too much student loan debt weighing us down.

Most people here don't leave home that early. Leaving at 25 (with a college education) is considered doing good.

 

[Jzero]

My questions for people who live at home are always:

1. Do you pay rent/utilities?
2. Do your parents make you meals everyday? Or do you cook sometimes for yourself/them?
3. Do you always do your own laundry?

1. Yes, it's a shitty apartment
2. I cook my own food
3. I do everyones laundry

It's the least you can do really. I'm the only one in my family that owns a car so I have to drive them everywhere

Where do you live? I was able to find places for $350 a month when I lived in my last city. Here I can only find $750+ a month.

Lucky ass people, my apartment in SoCal is $1000 for just one shitty room

 

[Krappadizzle]

Most definitely. Honestly, unless you have some sort of disability you should be ashamed of yourself if you're 30+ years old, still working at an entry level job, have no/very little money in savings, not going to school, and still living with your parents.

This is one of my fears of becoming a parent. Raising them for 18 years and then having a freeloading "roommate" for another 10-15 years.

You maybe should get a grip on the realities of the world. It's not as simple as you are making it out to be for some.

I've lived on my own since 17 and now will have to move in with my folks 13 years later. My wife and I both work, but since getting out of the military, finding high paying work is very tough, even if you have a ton of experience and knowledge. I had a top-secret clearance working on a huge variety of electronics(weapons systems/communications/I.T.) and had an honorable discharge and 8 years electronics experience and still struggled to find work after I got out of the military. I still haven't found a good job even if the one I have now pays more than the minimum wage, and the cost of living in the Bay Area is fucking insane. I was stationed in the Bay 4 years ago, rented a place for $2200, I came back to the Bay and called the same landlord, he had the same house for rent but had double the price to $4400. He said he hadn't done anything different to it, it's just worth more.

Point is, it's not so black and white.

 

[Timo]

27, lived for 4 years at collegewith room mates, lived with my sister in savannah for a little over a year, moved back with my dad for 1.5 years, moved away for 6 months with a room mate, couldnt find a new job, moved back to dads 7 months ago. I could easily rent a place right now but my work isnt near anything for rent and my dads place is close as hell, so its convenient. We also work well together as kind of room mates. Its a conundrum. Im probably getting my own place soon but ive been saving (and spending) so much its been pretty cool.

 

[LyleLanley]

In the US we don't have the luxury of leaving home. Too much student loan debt weighing us down.

Most people here don't leave home that early. Leaving at 25 (with a college education) is considered doing good.

I think this depends on location. I can't think of a single one of my friends in NYC that lived with their parents until 25 let alone 30.

 

[JB1981]

Just do it. It will force you to make it work and grow. Worst thing that can happen is you can't afford it and move back home. You will never grow into an independent adult in the comfort of your parents home.

 

[Head of Vengarl]

15 years old and living on their own?

Living at home till 30 may also give someone the chance to save up for a house. I don't see anything worth shaming someone for staying that long, even though I couldn't do it.

He said it in a mean-spirited way, but he isn't totally wrong.

There is no substitute for the experience of living on your own. Many people have legit reasons for not being able to do it, like crippling student debt. But if you can do it, even if you won't be saving too much money, I highly recommend it. Especially if you're an introvert - coming home to a silent apartment after a long day at work is the best feeling ever.

 

[mcrommert]

In the US we don't have the luxury of leaving home. Too much student loan debt weighing us down.

Most people here don't leave home that early. Leaving at 25 (with a college education) is considered doing good.

Please. I had between 30 and 40 grand of debt when i left college and i am married with a kid and own a house.

 

[The Real Abed]

I'm 36 and I'm in the same boat as the OP. I can't afford to and won't bother if I can't find someone I know I can rely on to pay their share of the rent on time.

Though I've had numerous close calls and almost moved out a half dozen times, but something always comes along and ruins the plan.

At least it's a basement room with its own bathroom and my parents leave me alone.

 

[ClosingADoor]

I can't imagine living with my parents at 26 now. I'd move out if possible. Will make your life a lot better.

 

[Holyoneturtle]

I moved out when i had turned 28 (will be hitting that 30 soon) simply because I honestly could not afford even the dinkiest of apartments. That includes the probability of living with a roommate. I had just finished school and couldnt even land a full time job much less one that pays well. My recommendation is, move out when you are comfortable to move out. Dont rush it. Back in the good old days kids were expected to move out either after high school or college. That isnt the situation anymore. I think its getting harder for recent graduates to find a decent job with a decent salary. Either way your time will come and when it does it will be glorious. At least now I wont be embarassed if i tell a girl to come over to my place for some special "sassy time".

 

[yanipheonu]

Realistically this generation is going to more likely to have to live at home for a while. Jobs are scarce and money is not always flowing in.

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tan...men-are-living-with-their-parents-relatives./

I wouldn't take it personally.

I technically live at home, but parents are away overseas due to Dad's job. I won't lie, I don't turn my nose up at having a house to myself, even if it isn't mine.

 

[Kisaya]

Move out whenever you feel like it's time. I'm just surprised your parents don't have any strict house rules with you. I know I definitely will to motivate my kids to get themselves financially independent.

 

[brianjones]

isn't it considered just as lame to be living with roommates at 30 as it is being at home? might as well save money in that case

 

[Ishida]

Para qué se va de la casa. mijo? Mira quédate y ahorrar dinero!
Pls I'm just visiting ;-;

Exactly that.

 

[ascii42]

We should probably also consider the parents in this situation. I'd consider having kids to be a 20 year room and board commitment. Anything more and you may be overstaying your welcome.

I'd extend that through college, personally. I lived in a different city during college, but still considered myself to have not fully moved out of my parents until I got a job and moved for that.

 

[Joyful]

pretty normal for this generation
ofc you have to deal with the shaming by previous generations that had everything easier
who could buy a house on their 9-5 and didnt go to college

yeah I love working some shitty dead end job with people I hate
then coming home to an empty apartment with no loved ones
then making my own dinner in silence, maybe with the tv on to fake human interaction
going to bed early so I can do it all over again the next day, day after day
id just put a bullet in my brain and save some time

 

[Jarlaxle]

I lived by myself since I was 19. There is something really liberating about it but it definitely puts a financial strain on you. To be young, without a wife and kids again. lol

 

[andythinkpad]

If your parents don't have problem with it, the only other person that matter is your (potential) girlfriend.

I actually want to move to a van and save enough money to retire early. That's my plan if my wife ever leave me.

 

[LyleLanley]

pretty normal for this generation
ofc you have to deal with the shaming by previous generations that had everything easier
who could buy a house on their 9-5 and didnt go to college

yeah I love working some shitty dead end job with people I hate
then coming home to an empty apartment with no loved ones
then making my own dinner in silence, maybe with the tv on to fake human interaction
going to bed early so I can do it all over again the next day, day after day
id just put a bullet in my brain and save some time

Hey, you doing ok man?

 

[JinjoUnchained]

OP, are you at least saving while living at home? A lot of people go back home for awhile, bank their pay checks, and set up a nice down payment for a condo or seed money for a business.

So I'd say it's not so much if you still live at home, but whether you can take advantage of it.

 

[Dunlop]

OP, are you at least saving while living at home? A lot of people go back home for awhile, bank their pay checks, and set up a nice down payment for a condo or seed money for a business.

So I'd say it's not so much if you still live at home, but whether you can take advantage of it.

Was going to post this, if your parents don't care then no harm but do you have a plan to ever leave?

 

[Surface of Me]

Moved out about 2 1/2 years ago and never looked back. It gets rough at times but I never wanna move back in.

 

[Slo]

pretty normal for this generation
ofc you have to deal with the shaming by previous generations that had everything easier
who could buy a house on their 9-5 and didnt go to college

yeah I love working some shitty dead end job with people I hate
then coming home to an empty apartment with no loved ones
then making my own dinner in silence, maybe with the tv on to fake human interaction
going to bed early so I can do it all over again the next day, day after day
id just put a bullet in my brain and save some time

I keep reading on GAF that things used to be a lot easier and now it's a normal and expected thing for adults to work cash registers at McDonalds and living with their mom into their 30s. That's definitely not the norm where I live. Here, when you fail in your chosen career you end up working for a gutter company, or a pouring cement, or riding on the back of a garbage truck for $35k per year.

 

[Joyful]

Hey, you doing ok man?

yea thats not my current life, just my eventual fear
everytime ive lived away from home (two times now) ive had roomies
sorry the post went too dark

 

[The Beard]

You maybe should get a grip on the realities of the world. It's not as simple as you are making it out to be for some.

I've lived on my own since 17 and now will have to move in with my folks 13 years later. My wife and I both work, but since getting out of the military, finding high paying work is very tough, even if you have a ton of experience and knowledge. I had a top-secret clearance working on a huge variety of electronics(weapons systems/communications/I.T.) and had an honorable discharge and 8 years electronics experience and still struggled to find work after I got out of the military. I still haven't found a good job even if the one I have now pays more than the minimum wage, and the cost of living in the Bay Area is fucking insane. I was stationed in the Bay 4 years ago, rented a place for $2200, I came back to the Bay and called the same landlord, he had the same house for rent but had double the price to $4400. He said he hadn't done anything different to it, it's just worth more.

Point is, it's not so black and white.

I live in the BA also. I have no college education, no military service, dirt poor parents, and I've been able to make it work. Rent is ridiculous, just in the past year rent has gone up significantly, but you can still find good deals. I just moved into a 800+ sq ft 1BR cottage in a great neighborhood last October for $1,600 month and I'm by myself. With 2 incomes it shouldn't be that difficult.

 

[Josta]

living at home with 30 is definitely not doing fine, other people have been independent for 10 to 15 years at 30. You're totally limiting yourself, I would be downright embarrassed telling people I live with my Mommy at 30.

I couldn't take it anymore at 20, I also had to live with my sister in the same room though.

Eh, I disagree.

 

[cereal_killerxx]

Was going to post this, if your parents don't care then no harm but do you have a plan to ever leave?

I've saved up a little. About 12,000ish. I don't exactly have a plan per se. I guess, get another job maybe?

 

[TwEE-N-Toast]

pretty normal for this generation
ofc you have to deal with the shaming by previous generations that had everything easier
who could buy a house on their 9-5 and didnt go to college

yeah I love working some shitty dead end job with people I hate
then coming home to an empty apartment with no loved ones
then making my own dinner in silence, maybe with the tv on to fake human interaction
going to bed early so I can do it all over again the next day, day after day
id just put a bullet in my brain and save some time

That's why you buy a cat, dude.

 

[Joyful]

That's why you buy a cat, dude.

im more a dog person
right now we have two bordeaux, they are really cute

 

[BennyBlanco]

Moved out at 19 and never looked back. I feel for you tho, and wouldn't judge you for it. If you live in an area with a high cost of living it's hard.

 

[KevinCow]

I moved out once, but that didn't work out so I moved back in.

It's not so bad. I've got my own living room and bedroom and bathroom and entrance. I don't even have to see my parents if I don't want to. And I don't have to worry about explaining to girls that I still live with my parents, because I'm terrible with girls anyway and no girl would ever want to come home with me.

 

[Newline]

I've saved up a little. About 12,000ish. I don't exactly have a plan per se. I guess, get another job maybe?

How do you go about saving 12k without any kind of plan. Surely it's like house deposit money or something?

 

[icespide]

OP are you at least saving a ton of money by not paying rent? or paying down a lot of student loans or something?

 

[BennyBlanco]

I've saved up a little. About 12,000ish. I don't exactly have a plan per se. I guess, get another job maybe?

12k is a nice chunk of change, fam. Why don't you use it as a down payment for a condo or something?

 

[WickedLaharl]

Almost 27 and still at home. It's a bit dumb since my commute is a bitch but I'm saving so much money...
I'm really seriously thinking about quitting my job and going on a long photography road trip later this year. Not sure if it would just be in the US or if I would go to other countries but when I get back I would need to figure out what I'm doing with my life and potentially move out for good.

Quit your job so you can do a bit of soul searching while living with your parents? Seriously?

I'd toss your stuff into a storage unit and change the locks while you are gone.

 

[Cidd]

I've been living on my own since I was 19, Now 32 I have no regrets. best feeling in the world other than getting your first car.

 

[Whiteblade999]

I'm 24 and still live with my parents. Both of them have bad backs, so I pull my weight by doing the heavy lifting around the house. When I'm done with school I don't see myself leaving unless I need to relocate, why bother when I'm not interested in dating and get along great with my folks?

The rush to move out only makes sense if you can't stand your parents or just want to jump into the dating scene.

 

[Ivan A Nguyen]

Realistically this generation is going to more likely to have to live at home for a while. Jobs are scarce and money is not always flowing in.

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tan...men-are-living-with-their-parents-relatives./

I wouldn't take it personally.

I technically live at home, but parents are away overseas due to Dad's job. I won't lie, I don't turn my nose up at having a house to myself, even if it isn't mine.

Are you an anime protagonist?

Anyway, I stand behind what you're saying. Living with your parents is the norm for many cultures and shouldn't be frowned upon. I have a kid and it will make me die a little inside when he moves away.

 

[BannedEpisode]

I've lived on my own since college. Did live with my grandparents for a few months after getting a job but I don't count that since it was a transition.

Don't get me wrong, wouldn't change that but not dropping 800 a month on rent would be damn appealing.

 

[Sanke__]

Getting a roommate defeats the purpose of moving out

Roommates suck

 

[Sumio Mondo]

Quit your job so you can do a bit of soul searching while living with your parents? Seriously?

I'd toss your stuff into a storage unit and change the locks while you are gone.

How is what he saying any different from moving out?

 

[J-Rod]

If you do live at home, it is a good opportunity to save up some money. I have a coworker that lived at home for a while and was able to cut a check for a car and get enough for a good down payment on a house in a very short amount of time. If you live at home rent free and aren't accumulating money then you may be in for a hard time.

 

[StarCreator]

I'm 33 and still haven't moved out; only years I lived away from home was when I was finishing my undergrad. I just don't make enough money to live alone comfortably; if I moved out today without getting a higher paid job first I would burn through my savings within two years from rent alone.

 

[Cindres]

I moved out for Uni at 18, so 6 1/2 years ago now, stayed in the city I went to Uni in to work. I couldn't imagine living with my mum again, I mean don't get me wrong we've always had a great relationship and all but once you've experienced the freedom of living away you won't wanna go back.


I have friends from Uni or home that had to move back with their parents after Uni and I know they all want to get out but it's more difficult due to job prospects, etc.

I'd say even if it's tight, give it a go, plus the tightness might push you to work for a better job.

 

[dpunk3]

I moved out when I was 20 because I was lucky and smart. I planned carefully and knew my budget. Got some guys who I knew to room with in a 3 bedroom, and took the hurdle. Rooming with people is alright, but in the end it's not having parents around all the time that is satisfying. I've never lived alone though, and I won't for a while once I start school. Se la vi.

 

[WickedLaharl]

How is what he saying any different from moving out?

I'm not sure what you are trying to say here? The part of the post that stuck out to me was "potentially".

Like maybe i'll return from my spiritual journey that i abandoned my job for and move out. MAYBE!

 

[Cizeta-Moroder]

One of the most evil things.
I had the fortune of getting out at 20 but I still feel evil.