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I'm 20 and hope to move out later in the year.
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I'm 30 and have never moved out
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Alpha Phoenix
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I've been out and about for the last 7 years. At 25 and in grad school now.
man this hurts me particularly right now. I moved to the Bay Area from Atlanta, GA last year. I went from a $1100 mortgage payment to a $3300 rent payment =x fucking a
Jeronimo Jones
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Wrong. I get along with my parents very well and still had no desire to move back in after leaving town for college. Dating wasn't a motivation, but not sitting around in a dead-end job, growing into an adult (freedom, city life and it's opportunities) were enough reason for me.
problem is, if you wanted to do something about it, realistically you'd be throwing your own kid out on the streets.
I didn't move out until I was 25 simply because I couldn't find a place I'd afford.
GasProblem
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26. Finishing university this year. Hopefully find a job soon, and then find a cheap apartment. I`m embarassed about it but nothing I can change about the past. Couldve finished way sooner if I didnt spent so long doing my masters. But doing two masters and fucking up one year because I had some issues with myself when coming out took away time. And im pretty broke. Ugh. I have awesome parents though. When Im financially able I want to atleast sent them on a sweet ass holiday.
LyleLanley
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I don't agree with the first part of this at all. I love my parents and I like spending time with them, I just don't want to ever live with them again. Moving out on your own is one of the best things you can do. I'd recommend it for anyone that's able to do so. In theory saving enough money to buy a place right away sounds nice but that's how you end up at 30 still living with your parents.
Moved out at 19, I think I made around 850 a month and rent was 465. No roommates. It was still pretty awesome but I don't know if I could live that 'lean' anymore...WoW fulfilled all needs social and entertainment back in 2004-2006.
When I had to temporarily move back for college it was torture. Even if they didn't say it I knew I was resented.
I definitely miss living alone because my roommates are kinda slobs but on the other hand it's nice in other ways. Obviously no way in hell I'd ever be able to afford this house by myself.
When I had to temporarily move back for college it was torture. Even if they didn't say it I knew I was resented.
I definitely miss living alone because my roommates are kinda slobs but on the other hand it's nice in other ways. Obviously no way in hell I'd ever be able to afford this house by myself.
rokkerkory
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This is the millennials' biggest pain isn't it?
Graduate with hella debt and then get a job that has stagnant pay.
Graduate with hella debt and then get a job that has stagnant pay.
I was expecting a couple of grand when you were asked if you had anything saved, but damn, son. How do you have $12K and not have your own place? You could easily move out on half of that.
12k is nothing, at his age he should have saved up 100k+ living with his parents like this.
DreadfulOmen
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I graduate in june, and I hope to make about 50-60k a year. I still don't see how I can afford a house in Ca. My parents home is pretty small and the appraised value is at about 500,000. Sometimes I worry that i'll never be able to afford a house of my own.
BocoDragon
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I can't imagine the ease of mind that comes with not fearing rent day for your whole 20s.
I left home at 15 and I've been stressing about rent for literally half my life.
I left home at 15 and I've been stressing about rent for literally half my life.
No joke, property value went through the fucking roof where my parent's live. It's not bad but it's certainly nothing extraordinary. Absolutely unremarkable in every way but they just went up and up. Every time they get a new neighbor they're clearly much better off than the previous before them.
Conkersbadfurday
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I just turned 27 and am still at home. I did have an almost-year long stint away from them when I was living with my friend and his fiance, but as soon as they had a kid, I had to split.
The upside is I've saved a ton of money and am no longer in student loan debt.
Should be moving out within a month or two. Working on some plans with my bro and his friend, so it's just a matter of getting everything rollin'.
I do find the whole thing pretty damn embarrassing though :\
The upside is I've saved a ton of money and am no longer in student loan debt.
Should be moving out within a month or two. Working on some plans with my bro and his friend, so it's just a matter of getting everything rollin'.
I do find the whole thing pretty damn embarrassing though :\
Dee Dah Dave
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It's quite normal in this day and age. It's not easy to run a home if you are single.
I lived with my folks until my late 20s and I am almost 32.
I am actually considering moving back to convert a lot of my rent money to paying off some of my student loans and other debt so they aren't eating away at my would be savings every month, but the freedom would be sorely missed. They'd appreciate the rent money i am sure tho.
I don't care much about the social stigma of living with your folks anymore, it's just a reality for a lot of people my age with my general income who aren't married or about to be.
I am actually considering moving back to convert a lot of my rent money to paying off some of my student loans and other debt so they aren't eating away at my would be savings every month, but the freedom would be sorely missed. They'd appreciate the rent money i am sure tho.
I don't care much about the social stigma of living with your folks anymore, it's just a reality for a lot of people my age with my general income who aren't married or about to be.
I'd love to have 12K right now. As it is, I barely make enough each month to pay the rent. I mean, I do pay it, and I have enough left to buy food/pay bills, but not enough to afford luxuries, etc. 12K, though, even 6K - man, you can get a nice flat, do it up, and pay bills and buy groceries for a couple of months.
Arjen
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What a load of bullshit.
I'm still living at home at 28. I decided on a saving plan a couple of years back, and now the moment I hit 30 the hunt for a house begins. By that point I'll have saved enough to pay off a very significant chunk of whatever I buy, which will make the rest of the payments a lot more manageable (which I'll need, I don't make a lot).
I pay rent at home and I have a great relationship with my parents, so being here isn't a biggie for me. It definitely has me feeling like a kid sometimes, but you only get one shot at life and sometimes you gotta play it smart. This is my best chance to own a place and not spend my entire life paying it off.
I pay rent at home and I have a great relationship with my parents, so being here isn't a biggie for me. It definitely has me feeling like a kid sometimes, but you only get one shot at life and sometimes you gotta play it smart. This is my best chance to own a place and not spend my entire life paying it off.
What I meant is that op is 30 and never had rent or bills to pay, makes no sense he'd have so little savings.
Septimus Prime
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Yeah, but see, you can do all of that without having to wear pants.
BannedEpisode
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American culture will have you believe this is looked down upon, to move out at 18 or ASAP. But, really there is nothing wrong with living at home in your 30s. I'm 26, still live at home, and probably will for a while. The reason my family and I live a comfortable life is because we all support each other financially. I was on my own for a few years when I was away at school. I had to drop out and come home because my family was struggling financially. Fuck pride or feeling like it's wrong to live at home past 18, I flushed those feelings down the drain and came home. Now, couldn't be happier. Since moving in with my parents I've helped my family go from living in a different run down apartment every year to now having a mortgage on our very own home. To see them not struggling anymore to get by and see them happy makes me happier than anything.
Now, I still live with them in this new house. We all split rent and bills. I'm saving tons of money and probably won't leave them for years. I don't see anything wrong with sticking together as family.
Now, I still live with them in this new house. We all split rent and bills. I'm saving tons of money and probably won't leave them for years. I don't see anything wrong with sticking together as family.
I'm 26 and even though I have the means of moving out, I don't really see any need to. Enjoy my mum's company and I've got independence at home that living on my own would probably just mean more bill payments.
I know plenty of people in my extended family who are doing the same but it's pretty normal for people of Bangladeshi origin to stay with their parents right until they're married or until the parents pass away.
I know plenty of people in my extended family who are doing the same but it's pretty normal for people of Bangladeshi origin to stay with their parents right until they're married or until the parents pass away.
God damn. There's no way that the salary increase that you're getting is worth that rent increase. There's lots of other cities to live in you know....
quackamole
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I feel you OP. I stayed with my parent until I was 29 and married. It definitely wasn't fun when it comes to friends and relationships, but it also helped me paid off my student loans and save up my downpayment.
I would do it again if I could.
I would do it again if I could.
I got more than a 50% pay bump + stocks throughout the year that make it work out better financially than my situation in GA, and my wife isn't even working yet.
It's my dream job for a company I'd always wanted to work for as well so there was more than just $$$ to consider.
should be getting a raise + bonus + more stocks later this year as well. I'm doing okay but it's still mentally tough for me to accept paying that much in rent haha
Right, there's nothing wrong with a situation like that. I think the stigma comes from the idea that the person is leeching off their parents. You are not in that situation, but I know some people who are.
BeatnikGunsoo
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I'm 24 and live with my mom, my 21 year old brother lives with my grandma
1. my mom pays rent, I pay for everything else
2. I do all the cooking, I've been cooking for the family since I was 13
3. I do all the cleaning and laundry
4. I buy my own groceries
My mom has never lived on her own, the first time she left the nest she got pregnant with me lol
I don't think I could ever see my mom just live by herself it would break my heart.
I live in san diego and I only know one person out of all my friends that lives on his own.
He splits his rent of 1450 between him and his roomie, he likes the independence and his roommate but hates everything else.
I'd consider moving out early and being on my own two feet one of the most important things I ever did and it made me the person I am today. Self-sufficient, independent, responsible and best of all, completely free.
BTW, I moved out at 18 and I have an amazing relationship with my parents.
Honestly, if you truly like the situation you're in and are afraid of change, you've got no reason to go pack your bags. But my god, I wouldn't trade with any of you for all the money in the world and i'm probably lying if I told you I don't pity you a little bit. I can't even really properly explain in just text what truly living on my own did for me. For me, that's where my life really started.
BTW, I moved out at 18 and I have an amazing relationship with my parents.
Honestly, if you truly like the situation you're in and are afraid of change, you've got no reason to go pack your bags. But my god, I wouldn't trade with any of you for all the money in the world and i'm probably lying if I told you I don't pity you a little bit. I can't even really properly explain in just text what truly living on my own did for me. For me, that's where my life really started.
Jzero
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A lot of people go to hotels, or their cars 😂
You really shouldn't be using your savings to live off of though. That $12K in savings should stay in savings/investments. He should only move out if his monthly income can support it.
Voluntarily using half your savings to pay for your rent/bills/groceries for a couple of months is a really dumb idea.
mugoldeneagle03
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It's really not that bad depending on the parent situation. I lived at home until I was 25(?) i think. Dad worked 3rd shift & was in bed when I was never home, Mom was a teacher & worked all day. They don't ask for rent $ as long as I help around the house. It was good.
But dude, being able to walk around naked whenever I want. Listening/Playing/Smoking whatever I want wherever I want. Being able to actually invite people over & not be embarrassed at any moments notice.
Oh & becoming an adult & taking responsibility and all that stuff too I guess...
But yeah, move out and get your own place. Even if you don't want to
EDIT: I should say if you're not a complete loser too it's awesome for saving money as well.
But dude, being able to walk around naked whenever I want. Listening/Playing/Smoking whatever I want wherever I want. Being able to actually invite people over & not be embarrassed at any moments notice.
Oh & becoming an adult & taking responsibility and all that stuff too I guess...
But yeah, move out and get your own place. Even if you don't want to
EDIT: I should say if you're not a complete loser too it's awesome for saving money as well.
SlickShoesRUCrazy
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I'm right there with you OP.
I am 30 and live at home and I am dying to get out. I get a long just fine with my parents. Zero issues. Just nothing like having your own place to come home to.
Lived solo while going to school in AZ for 3 years.
Moved back 2 years ago, but don't make enough money just yet to move out.
I want to pay for rent, rather pay a mortgage. Hopefully in the next year or two I will be able to afford a condo.
I am 30 and live at home and I am dying to get out. I get a long just fine with my parents. Zero issues. Just nothing like having your own place to come home to.
Lived solo while going to school in AZ for 3 years.
Moved back 2 years ago, but don't make enough money just yet to move out.
I want to pay for rent, rather pay a mortgage. Hopefully in the next year or two I will be able to afford a condo.
LyleLanley
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I agree with most of this. Moving out, even (especially?) if you have to get some roommates and move into a place that's less than ideal is a big part of growing up in my opinion. It's also a shit ton of fun to not live with your parents during your 20's.
SlickShoesRUCrazy
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Non factor for me, I'm not dating nor do I feel the inclination. Got no self-confidence and am prone to isolating myself. Even if I was alone I don't think it would make much difference, atleast as I am now. I need a lot more work, and therapy frankly to get to a level where the idea of dating someone doesn't feel absurd. I have too much self-hatred.
oneils
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You don't pay rent to your parents? How about contributing to bills? I can understand living with parents if you have some skin in the game, but I'm not quite sure why some parents don't at least ask for something for bills and expenses.
Bananajama
Banned
Living with your parents even in your 30s is perfectly normal round where I am. House prices are just too expensive.
Nothing to be embarrassed about
Nothing to be embarrassed about
Bananajama
Banned
Some parents just overly baby there kids.
One lad I know earns more than enough to rent a gaff on his own and have a decent monthly disposable income.
Yet gets charged practically zero rent living at home
LookAtMeGo
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Im the opposite. I moved out way too young at it had major negative effects on my life.
I'd still do it again if I could go back.
I'd still do it again if I could go back.
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