I'm quitting my job tomorrow. Help!

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So for just about 2 years I landed a job through a referral and it has been my first real permanent career job since University (had two prior short contract jobs).

Pay was not where I wanted to be and still is not because the company is really cheap, its a 50km drive one way through a major city in Canada, I don't like the industry, and my managers are two-faced and promote toxicity in the office.

I've been wanting something better for myself for about a year now and I finally got an offer from a larger company at a satellite office which is must closer to my home, pays much better, and is in an industry I love. Only negative is that I'd be getting a few less vacation days, but the rest of the package is so much better that I think I'll manage.

So the new company wants me to start March 6 which is two weeks from today, however today is a holiday here and I would have to give my notice tomorrow. I'm shitting myself. My current company is very small and so everyone is pretty close. My current managers have sung my praises for very long now and really think I am all game for progressing through the ranks and so I know they will be very shocked and disappointment that this came out of the blue.

Also, they don't always work out of the office that I work out of, what if they aren't in my office tomorrow? Do I request a conference call? Wait another day? Do I make a letter to give them as well?

Does anyone have any advice for me on how to quit? I am dreading tomorrow.
 
Ask the manager if you can speak to them privately.

Give notice.

Shake their hand (if in person).

Ask what you can do in the meantime so other workers aren't swamped as soon as you leave.
 
You work for money. Your pay isn't increasing like you want it to be. Another company is going to allow that. You should't feel bad. If they don't understand, well, they aren't very smart.
 
One day off from two weeks notice is not a big deal. It sounds like you are more nervous about telling them you are going to quit. I was in a similar situation recently. You have to tell them to get it over with. Will it be the most pleasant conversation you have ever had? No, but a weight will be lifted off your shoulders once you do it. You are doing what is best for you and if others can't understand that, it's their problem not yours.
 
I suggest to mainly focusing on the closer to home, larger pay, etc instead of two-faced managers when you talk to them. They arsnt bad reasons and they should understand your choice in that reasoning.

And will you ever see them again after you quit? If not, what does it matter? Once its done, itll be done.
 
Companies are not your friend. Don't worry about it. Move on with your life.

The honest truth is they will probably think less about it than you will no matter how good an employee you are. You're just a resource.
 
Jmille99 said:
I suggest to mainly focusing on the closer to home, larger pay, etc instead of two-faced managers when you talk to them. They arsnt bad reasons and they should understand your choice in that reasoning.

And will you ever see them again after you quit? If not, what does it matter? Once its done, itll be done.
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Yeah, although they are both immature and not good people, I am going to frame my response as "It is nothing personal, I made the decision strictly because of larger pay, increased earning potential and a much closer commute"
 
rip the band aid off. its business. they arent paying you enough, the new company will. tell your boss, hand him a letter, shake his hand and thank him, ask what you can do to ease the transition, thats it.
 
Mayyhem said:
Yeah, although they are both immature and not good people, I am going to frame my response as "It is nothing personal, I made the decision strictly because of larger pay, increased earning potential and a much closer commute"
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That is a reasonable argument to quit a job. I did the same thing, and nobody blamed me for it. That's just the way it works!

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I think you should not quit, apologize to your boss for even considering then donate your 401k back to the company.

Dude, ffs you were about to give a 2 weeks notice LESS than2 weeks!!! I heard that's illegal
 
Zoggy said:
I think you should not quit, apologize to your boss for even considering then donate your 401k back to the company.

Dude, ffs you were about to give a 2 weeks notice LESS than2 weeks!!! I heard that's illegal
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Who gives a fuck.

OP get out of that shithole and you will suddenly realize how awesome life can be. Don't feel bad. It's like after a relationship breakup - they won't think even as much about you as you about them.
 
Subpar Spatula said:
Ask the manager if you can speak to them privately.

Give notice.

Shake their hand (if in person).

Ask what you can do in the meantime so other workers aren't swamped as soon as you leave.
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This is great advice.
I would also add that you should prepare a letter of resignation to give to your supervisor. That way you both have documentation of your resignation in case you need it in the future.
 
Zoggy said:
I think you should not quit, apologize to your boss for even considering then donate your 401k back to the company.

Dude, ffs you were about to give a 2 weeks notice LESS than2 weeks!!! I heard that's illegal
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Don't know about the state you live in but in Canada two weeks is a expected courtesy, there's no law in Canada that forces you to work. He could leave tomorrow and give them the finger on the way out but that would be burning bridges.

Like mentioned before just request to talk to your boss tomorrow and by polite about it. It's business not personal, your not insulting anyone by leaving.
 
Mendrox said:
Who gives a fuck.

OP get out of that shithole and you will suddenly realize how awesome life can be. Don't feel bad. It's like after a relationship breakup - they won't think even as much about you as you about them.
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scogoth said:
Don't know about the state you live in but in Canada two weeks is a expected courtesy, there's no law in Canada that forces you to work. He could leave tomorrow and give them the finger on the way out but that would be burning bridges.

Like mentioned before just request to talk to your boss tomorrow and by polite about it. It's business not personal, your not insulting anyone by leaving.
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Uhhhhh.

The sarcasm seemed REALLY thick, not sure how you both missed it.
 
I manage 20+ people and so I have had to be on the other end of this conversation a few times. Just get right to it.. straight to the point. Sadly it sounds like your managers might not behave as they should but who cares at that point. You will most likely never see them again and you have to put yourself first in situations like these.

If you had mature bosses I would expect the conversation to go much differently. Just rip the band aid off.. and move on. You are not the first to do this and most certainly not the last.
 
If it's better for you and your bosses give a shit about you at all they should be happy for you.

If they don't give a shit than easy to move on
 
Mayyhem said:
Pay was not where I wanted to be and still is not because the company is really cheap,

My current managers have sung my praises for very long now and really think I am all game for progressing through the ranks and so I know they will be very shocked and disappointment that this came out of the blue.
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I'm not sure why you feel bad for leaving, it seems they are all talk and don't follow through on any of it. Just email them your resignation and look forward to your new job.
 
You are under zero obligation to provide notice when quitting a job. It is a courtesy so not to leave your boss and coworkers hanging and to not burn bridges.

With that said, one day off the imaginary 2 week notice period is nothing. Who cares. Worry about your future, not your past.
 
Thanks for the advice everyone.

So if they are unable to physically be at the office I work out of tomorrow, should I wait until Wednesday? Or should I set up a call with them and then proceed to send over the letter as a follow-up?
 
Mayyhem said:
Thanks for the advice everyone.

So if they are unable to physically be at the office I work out of tomorrow, should I wait until Wednesday? Or should I set up a call with them and then proceed to send over the letter as a follow-up?
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If it is a work day, do it so they have enough time and frame it as you wanted to be sure they were given as much notice as possible and you would have preferred to do it in person.

Like a band aid. They are professionals. Sooner the better.
 
Tell them when you come in tomorrow that you were offered the position that you were and let them know your new start date. It's okay if it's one day off from two weeks.

Be polite, and thank them for the opportunity. They might give you a counter offer but I'd suggest just moving on.

Don't be nervous. It's fine.
 
When you say small company, how small are we talking OP? Are you a key component to the current business? You are legally required to give at least 2 full week's notice in most cases, not typically enforced but it could get nasty if you're integral and would cause them harm by early departure.
 
Kyuur said:
When you say small company, how small are we talking OP? Are you a key component to the current business? You are legally required to give at least 2 full week's notice in most cases, not typically enforced but it could get nasty if you're integral and would cause them harm by early departure.
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Maybe you're talking Europe, but here in the US you don't owe them anything. It's more of a politeness to give 2 weeks.

EDIT: UK based, so I'm out of my knowledge here :P
 
Kyuur said:
When you say small company, how small are we talking OP? Are you a key component to the current business? You are legally required to give at least 2 full week's notice in most cases, not typically enforced but it could get nasty if you're integral and would cause them harm by early departure.
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It is a UK based company with 500+ employees in the UK, however they expanded to Canada 4 years ago and there are only 15 or so employees here.
I am working out of one of their offices in Canada.

My role is integral like any other consultant, however I work with a unit partner and at the moment he would be more than equipped to handle things without me for a while due to volume of business. I don't think it would cause them harm by early departure, especially one day off of 2 weeks.
As far as I am aware, I believe in Canada it is not legally enforced to give any notice to an employer and it is usually done out of courtesy, however I am not 100% sure.
 
Just have a backup plan if they fire you the day after you give your 13 day notice. I'm not a loyal fan of the 2 week notice anymore after my last job (which I was one of the top ppl in my dept for many years) and I gave 4 weeks notice (since i wanted them fully prepared as I was leaving after xmas and wanted to give them extra time to coordinate). Well the next day I was fired. Just hope you have some money set aside in case you aren't getting a final paycheck from this place if they terminate you early.

Good luck on the new job though, sounds much better for your situation!
 
Last year I had to hand my notice in without officially having my next job to go to, despite having a family to support.

I was a bit nervous about that one.
 
Assuming you have corporate email, email HR and copy your boss.

The 2 week thing is not legal, it's a courtesy. You're giving them time to prepare your replacement in exchange for favorable feedback in case future employers do a work history check.
 
no worries fellow gaffer, it's very common..
most companies follow the "he's not asking, he's not interested"-game or the "you know, this year has been hard"-game..
so it's not like they are giving you their family-like love, they are paying you to do a job..
if you don't like your job or you think that you are entitled for more, and have already landed a job elsewhere by all means..
let them know and that's that..
just try to be as polite as possible..
 
Zoggy said:
I think you should not quit, apologize to your boss for even considering then donate your 401k back to the company.

Dude, ffs you were about to give a 2 weeks notice LESS than2 weeks!!! I heard that's illegal
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Pretty sure this isn't entirely serious.
 
This is the first time you're doing this, but it won't be the first time someone will have done this to your manager. Immediate private communication is what you need, whether that's a call, email, or in person meeting. Be polite, give written notice, and get ready for the next exciting step in your career. They'll be fine without you, you're a replaceable cog, and they treated you like one.
 
notice is a courtesy not legally binding anywhere that i'm aware of. if you want to keep them sweet if they kick up a fuss, offer to make up the day they'd lose with doing an hour extra each day or some shit.
 
No quitting will be a bigger mistake

I started a new job in Jan after 2 years of working crushing hours in the hospitality industry (70+ hours, 7 working days a week etc) and it was the best decision ive ever made.

Im extremely happy, I get to see my fiance every day as apposed to every weekend, and the pay is way better

Just move. You spend so much time at work that staying in an unsatisfying, toxic environment will only depress you more and make you life shittier for no reason
 
Hazmat said:
This is the first time you're doing this, but it won't be the first time someone will have done this to your manager. Immediate private communication is what you need, whether that's a call, email, or in person meeting. Be polite, give written notice, and get ready for the next exciting step in your career. They'll be fine without you, you're a replaceable cog, and they treated you like one.
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I was under the impression notice should always be given in person as a professional courtesy. However, since they have not been spending much time in my particular office, would a private conference call to both followed up with an emailed letter suffice?
 
Mayyhem said:
I was under the impression notice should always be given in person as a professional courtesy. However, since they have not been spending much time in my particular office, would a private conference call to both followed up with an emailed letter suffice?
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Yes. I'm sure they would appreciate the advanced notice more than waiting for it to be done in person.
 
Preparing a resignation letter goes like this:

This is a notice that I am resigning my position at [company]. My last day of work will be [date].

And sign it and date it. Nothing else is necessary. No explanations, no excuses. If you must explain yourself, do it verbally to the coworkers who will get your work dumped on them.

Email can be okay as a way to send a notice if the company relies on it for internal communications.
 
Mayyhem said:
It is a UK based company with 500+ employees in the UK, however they expanded to Canada 4 years ago and there are only 15 or so employees here.
I am working out of one of their offices in Canada.

My role is integral like any other consultant, however I work with a unit partner and at the moment he would be more than equipped to handle things without me for a while due to volume of business. I don't think it would cause them harm by early departure, especially one day off of 2 weeks.
As far as I am aware, I believe in Canada it is not legally enforced to give any notice to an employer and it is usually done out of courtesy, however I am not 100% sure.
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In Alberta you are actually legally required to give 2 weeks notice if you've worked for them for over 2 years and don't fall under some other stipulation. Employers have won court cases and been awarded damages on this kind of thing before.

Most companies are unlikely to actually go after you unless you cause significant loss by early departure though (and even then they may suck it up), and like you said its only one day and they're already equipped to handle stuff without you so its unlikely there is anything to fear. Could even be that whatever province you're in doesn't have similar code.
 
Don't feel guilty. I've been laid off a few times, and businesses truly give no fucks. First one made sure to kick me out weeks before my 401K match was vested. Good job guys, you saved yourself $6000!

Be courteous and professional, don't feel bad for taking a better opportunity. If they truly wanted to keep you that badly they should have made sure you were properly compensated.
 
Holy shit are you me?

I'm also putting in a 2 weeks tomorrow for a job starting on March 6, after being with this company for years, and the boss isn't here today. I'm not gonna freak over 1 day under.

I say hand in your notice to the most senior person at the office that day and call your actual manager
 
UPDATE:

So I got the offer late Friday via the VP of the line of business I would be working in. He called me from Boston (I'm Canada based). I accepted verbally and was told by the corporate recruiter that she would be sending me some forms to fill out before Canadian HR can draft the offer package.

Today is a holiday in Ontario and so she was emailing me since she is working in the US, and so she said everything looks good however Canada HR is off today and they will have the package sent to you either tomorrow or latest Wednesday.

Do I wait until I get the offer package from HR and I sign and return before I give my notice? Or do I give it first thing tomorrow. The ideal start date is March 6 and so that is two weeks today, I would normally wait until I signed the package but time is of the essence regarding notice.

I have no reason to be suspicious of the company retracting their offer, however I just want to cover my ass. I've been in communication with the VP of the business line, a director I would report to, and a corporate recruiter throughout the hiring process via email, in person and telephone.
 
Mayyhem said:
UPDATE:

So I got the offer late Friday via the VP of the line of business I would be working in. He called me from Boston (I'm Canada based). I accepted verbally and was told by the corporate recruiter that she would be sending me some forms to fill out before Canadian HR can draft the offer package.

Today is a holiday in Ontario and so she was emailing me since she is working in the US, and so she said everything looks good however Canada HR is off today and they will have the package sent to you either tomorrow or latest Wednesday.

Do I wait until I get the offer package from HR and I sign and return before I give my notice? Or do I give it first thing tomorrow. The ideal start date is March 6 and so that is two weeks today, I would normally wait until I signed the package but time is of the essence regarding notice.

I have no reason to be suspicious of the company retracting their offer, however I just want to cover my ass. I've been in communication with the VP of the business line, a director I would report to, and a corporate recruiter throughout the hiring process via email, in person and telephone.
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Wait to give your notice until you have the offer. It's okay if it's a bit under two weeks.
 
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