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[Kevyt]

So I've posted here about ED issues in the past. I don't think I have ED issues anymore. I do think I have some psychological thing where I can't get enough with another person. Maybe because I can't get comfortable enough? I dunno.

Anyone dealt with this sort of thing?

That's good, it seems you just gotta break through the mental barrier, and you're also very inexperienced too. I never did think you had ED.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

Any recommendations for podcasts with LGBT cast members? Or even just a feminist member, honestly. Doesn't have to be video game-related but that'd be great.

I listened to a gay geek culture (with a comics speciality) podcast called Flame ON! for a bit a while back. One of the guys (who I think isn't on the show anymore but I guess could be?) went on to work for IGN and pops up in their content. You can find the podcast on the various standard services, but the first few episodes may be missing. If you wanted to start at the beginning and catch those missing few episodes, this should be your starting point.

Their topics really do cover a wide range of general geek and LGBT+ (probably gay focused? I don't remember) stuff. However, the podcast is probably not for you if you want more gender/sexuality diversity or have zero interest in comics stuff. (For perspective: I don't read many comics and am a casual consumer of comics universe stuff like movies, and I was fine with their discussions.) They occasionally talked about video games when I listened, but it was a more casual perspective/knowledge.

It's been a while since I listened and I don't remember specifics about them, so I suppose take my suggestion with caution.

 

[CornBurrito]

That's good, it seems you just gotta break through the mental barrier, and you're also very inexperienced too. I never did think you had ED.

Yeah, just took some exploring to find out what gets me hard.

 

[Aarglefarg]

[.]

Welcome, Poppy!

 

[Poppy]

aw man did you have to quote that post of all things to welcome me, lol

also thanks

 

[RatskyWatsky]

Season 1 of Torchwood isn't good but season 2 onwards is excellent.

Good to know!

So I've posted here about ED issues in the past. I don't think I have ED issues anymore. I do think I have some psychological thing where I can't get enough with another person. Maybe because I can't get comfortable enough? I dunno.

Anyone dealt with this sort of thing?

Can't get enough what? Love/safety/comfort/bdsm?

aw man did you have to quote that post of all things to welcome me, lol

also thanks

Welcome!

 

[berzeli]

Good to know!

tbh, parts of series 2 is also a bit rubbish (but it also has Spike from Buffy making out with Malcolm Merlyn from Arrow). And the fourth series is decidedly meh.

The third series, which sort of was a stand alone miniseries, called Children of Earth is fucking excellent though.

 

[CornBurrito]

Can't get enough what? Love/safety/comfort/bdsm?

Comfortable enough.

edit. Oh I see my own typo. I went "off" not enough.

I can't get off with another dude it seems. Or it hasn't happened yet. No trouble getting hard anymore tho.

 

[Kevyt]

i never really got erections with my boyfriend and would frequently lose them halfway through sex with my girlfriend so i guess i can relate yes

but unfortunately i sort of hate sex so i am probably not going to be a good resource on advice. plus i havent had sex in like five years so

Welcome! o/

 

[KmA]

So I've posted here about ED issues in the past. I don't think I have ED issues anymore. I do think I have some psychological thing where I can't get off with another person. Maybe because I can't get comfortable enough? I dunno.

Anyone dealt with this sort of thing?

I really have to focus to cum with another person I think it's like performance anxiety in my case but I'm not too sure. With porn I can finish super fast but like with another person... years pass.

 

[Bladenic]

I really have to focus to cum with another person I think it's like performance anxiety in my case but I'm not too sure. With porn I can finish super fast but like with another person... years pass.

Same, it's probably because of porn TBH

 

[Via Purifico]

Welcome new member.

 

[Aarglefarg]

tbh, parts of series 2 is also a bit rubbish (but it also has Spike from Buffy making out with Malcolm Merlyn from Arrow). And the fourth series is decidedly meh.

The third series, which sort of was a stand alone miniseries, called Children of Earth is fucking excellent though.

I liked season 4, the one time I saw it. Lauren Ambrose. <3
And the concept was great. Uh oh it turns out nobody can die anymore...Not even if they get super injured.

 

[Vazduh]

I really have to focus to cum with another person I think it's like performance anxiety in my case but I'm not too sure. With porn I can finish super fast but like with another person... years pass.

We'll need to research into that.

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Yup, porn is probably to blame.

Welcome new member.

Welcome!

 

[Cosmic Bus]

I really have to focus to cum with another person I think it's like performance anxiety in my case but I'm not too sure. With porn I can finish super fast but like with another person... years pass.

This is a problem I wish I had instead of the reverse &#128549;

 

[Katana_Strikes]

I really have to focus to cum with another person I think it's like performance anxiety in my case but I'm not too sure. With porn I can finish super fast but like with another person... years pass.

I get this too. I do think it's an anxiety thing and not wanting to mess it up or confident enough to perform/experience. I know when I get comfortable with someone I'm fine. Porn may play a part I guess.

Anyways. I know someone who only really contacts me when they are drunk for booty calls. They're seeing someone but for some reason I'm getting asked. Which is all a bit weird and confusing. Maybe it's a turn on for them or a fetish. But why wouldn't they ask who they're seeing and me instead :/

 

[Palmer27]

Any recommendations for podcasts with LGBT cast members? Or even just a feminist member, honestly. Doesn't have to be video game-related but that'd be great.

I'm obsessed with Regular Features https://soundcloud.com/regularfeatures/the-roger-helmer-regular-features-saga

 

[Salarians]

Any recommendations for podcasts with LGBT cast members? Or even just a feminist member, honestly. Doesn't have to be video game-related but that'd be great.

Try Waypoint Radio (Mon. and Fri., typically talk about recent events in games) and Idle Weekend (once a week, episodes are usually about a singular topic).

 

[Kevyt]

Why are we blaming porn when it comes to performance anxiety? I don't think its the blame.

 

[KmA]

Omg y'all 13 Reasons Why literally made me ugly kim kardashian sob. I hate all high school kids now.

 

[DOWN]

Y'all excited for Fate of the Furious? I'm excited but also thinking it may feel like something is missing without Paul Walker

 

[Kevyt]

Y'all excited for Fate of the Furious?

Nope

 

[DOWN]

Nope

Did you like the previous ones?

 

[Sai-kun]

Y'all excited for Fate of the Furious? I'm excited but also thinking it may feel like something is missing without Paul Walker

hell
fuckin
yeaH

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Why are we blaming porn when it comes to performance anxiety? I don't think its the blame.

I think there are some plausible arguments that a person could make. Like porn certainly seems to be more voyeuristic than how we'd traditionally conceive human sexuality. In some ways there is a pretty clear line between a sexuality that involves direct participation and intimacy with another person, and one that apparently requires neither. I think more than it being a question of if it has an impact on us, it's more a question of how much of an impact it has.

 

[daripad]

Tbh I watch a lot of porn on weekends but the very few times I've had sex have been way better than masturbating with Porn and

Spoiler

I ejaculate more than I would usually do lol

Spoiler

yeah, I'm a bit hyper sexual so I don't know &#129335;&#127997;*&#9794;&#65039;

 

[Kevyt]

Did you like the previous ones?

Yeah I did. Super fun films and some of my favorite car action chase scenes. For this last one, idk... Something feels off, maybe its P. Walker's absence. I:

I think more than it being a question of if it has an impact on us, it's more a question of how much of an impact it has.

Uh hmm. This is definitely something to look into. For myself, it's much more appealing to watch and observe rather than to participate I think. So yes, the voyeuristic part makes sense.

Tbh I watch a lot of porn on weekends but the very few times I've had sex have been way better than masturbating with Porn and

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I ejaculate more than I would usually do lol

Spoiler

yeah, I'm a bit hyper sexual so I don't know &#129335;&#127997;*&#9794;&#65039;

Dat stealth brag...

 

[Zero²]

Helloooo minna-san (look how my japanese is getting better)!
So I stopped posting here cuz my life is a wild mess, I barely have time to breathe (pun intended as I barely have time to play Zelda heh).
I'm sure nobody missed me but how are u all doing?

 

[Head of Vengarl]

Had a client in my office who had such powerful body odor I could fucking taste it when I breathed in. I tried to keep a straight face during our meeting but I'm not sure how well I did - I literally felt physically ill after a couple minutes. We had to open our front door and air out the office after she left. All I can say is... how?? How can you allow yourself to smell so bad? Half an hour later I still feel nauseous.

 

[Thequietone]

Had a client in my office who had such powerful body odor I could fucking taste it when I breathed in. I tried to keep a straight face during our meeting but I'm not sure how well I did - I literally felt physically ill after a couple minutes. We had to open our front door and air out the office after she left. All I can say is... how?? How can you allow yourself to smell so bad? Half an hour later I still feel nauseous.

While it is not the same I have a customer that reeks of tobacco. Like extremely strong.

 

[Poppy]

maybe she had a really bad yeast infection or something

 

[driggonny]

Had a client in my office who had such powerful body odor I could fucking taste it when I breathed in. I tried to keep a straight face during our meeting but I'm not sure how well I did - I literally felt physically ill after a couple minutes. We had to open our front door and air out the office after she left. All I can say is... how?? How can you allow yourself to smell so bad? Half an hour later I still feel nauseous.

Spending a lot a time on a college campus... some people don't seem to care how they smell :/

 

[Henchmen21]

Well 5hrs sleep is better than nothing.

 

[Dany]

Y'all excited for Fate of the Furious? I'm excited but also thinking it may feel like something is missing without Paul Walker

Fuck yes. #family

 

[TRUE ORDER]

aw man did you have to quote that post of all things to welcome me, lol

also thanks

Welcome

Helloooo minna-san (look how my japanese is getting better)!
So I stopped posting here cuz my life is a wild mess, I barely have time to breathe (pun intended as I barely have time to play Zelda heh).
I'm sure nobody missed me but how are u all doing?

Somewhat bussy and sick so not that great hahah.
Hope you're doing good.

 

[Kevyt]

Helloooo minna-san (look how my japanese is getting better)!
So I stopped posting here cuz my life is a wild mess, I barely have time to breathe (pun intended as I barely have time to play Zelda heh).
I'm sure nobody missed me but how are u all doing?

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[Henchmen21]

Y'all excited for Fate of the Furious? I'm excited but also thinking it may feel like something is missing without Paul Walker

I'm more interested in british porn star Paul Walker

 

[Brawly Likes to Brawl]

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&#31452;&#31070;&#12398;&#21091;? Is that what the kids are calling it these days?

 

[Kevyt]

&#31452;&#31070;&#12398;&#21091;? Is that what the kids are calling it these days?

&#31452;&#31070;&#12398;&#21091;&#12434;&#21936;&#12425;&#12360;&#65281;

 

[KmA]

Omg. So after work a bunch of us went to this restaurant downtown to eat. And this lady who was just chilling near the street complimented my sweatpants. And I was like aww how sweet thank you! ... Then she was like it's because I can see your nuts.

I just got catcalled for the first time I'm literally shocked lmao.

 

[Head of Vengarl]

maybe she had a really bad yeast infection or something

I'm not sure what a yeast infection smells like. But I'm pretty sure this was just a combination of her being very overweight and not bathing/washing her clothes regularly. Sad, but at the same time I just have to shake my head at the lack of self-awareness.

 

[Bladenic]

Omg. So after work a bunch of us went to this restaurant downtown to eat. And this lady who was just chilling near the street complimented my sweatpants. And I was like aww how sweet thank you! ... Then she was like it's because I can see your nuts.

I just got catcalled for the first time I'm literally shocked lmao.

Receipts of you in these sweatpants TBH

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were you not wearing undies? Tight undies? Just that big?

 

[Aarglefarg]

I took another step out of my comfort zone and bought same cake mix that comes with icing you need to make. Wish me luck!

Omg. So after work a bunch of us went to this restaurant downtown to eat. And this lady who was just chilling near the street complimented my sweatpants. And I was like aww how sweet thank you! ... Then she was like it's because I can see your nuts.

I just got catcalled for the first time I'm literally shocked lmao.

I know you LMAOed but I just want to check up that with if you're okay.

 

[lenovox1]

Omg. So after work a bunch of us went to this restaurant downtown to eat. And this lady who was just chilling near the street complimented my sweatpants. And I was like aww how sweet thank you! ... Then she was like it's because I can see your nuts.

I just got catcalled for the first time I'm literally shocked lmao.

Just wait until a male Uber driver literally pulls off the side of the road to the parking lot you're waiting in and tells you he will take you where ever you want to go if he can touch you.

It's great. &#128529;

 

[Haly]

I just got catcalled for the first time I'm literally shocked lmao.

Disgusting. Rape culture is OUT OF CONTROL.

 

[Aarglefarg]

Just wait until a male Uber driver literally pulls off the side of the road to the parking lot you're waiting in and tells you he will take you where ever you want to go if he can touch you.

It's great. &#128529;

Oh dear.

A few years ago, this guy a mutual friend tried to match me up with started grabbing at me through my trousers in the middle of a city (like, waiting to walk across a road) in the middle of the day without my consent, multiple times. I would be much clearer about that being a deal breaker now since (in part) he went on to not use a condom without my consent for a moment.

Another guy years before that at uni kept on giving unwanted sexual comments towards and about lots of people including me. I told him to stop many times and told him it was sexual harassment. When it got really bad with one major event directed at me*, I reported it to the uni. It was eventually taken seriously but various people in the process responded as if I was being homophobic for considering it sexual harassment.

*We were working on a group presentation together (just us), he put in a slide at the end at the last minute without telling me. It was some non-pornographic photos of men. When they appeared on the projection screen in front of everyone, he asked me if I thought they were hot. Everyone laughed. The tutor looked confused, later telling me she didn't realise what happened. At this stage, I wasn't quite out yet. It destroyed me for a while.

 

[Kevyt]

Just wait until a male Uber driver literally pulls off the side of the road to the parking lot you're waiting in and tells you he will take you where ever you want to go if he can touch you.

It's great. &#128529;

You had that happened? Wow, lol

I think the creepiest uber driver I've had was one that said he's seen me around... lol

 

[KmA]

Receipts of you in these sweatpants TBH

Spoiler

were you not wearing undies? Tight undies? Just that big?

THIS GIF LWRIGHWLE:FJWLIEHGIL

Also I'm y'all have some stories I'm sorry that happened to you guys :/

I'm mostly just shocked that someone said something in public that I would usually hear from a grindr profile. And from a woman no less.

 

[Zero²]

Somewhat bussy and sick so not that great hahah.
Hope you're doing good.

Thanks I'm really working hard too so &#12364;&#12435;&#12400;&#12428; to us!

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Ok help me with the kanji please hahah I can recognize &#21936; but the others are what?

 

[Kevyt]

&#31452;&#31070;&#12398;&#21091;? Is that what the kids are calling it these days?

Wait, I apologise. I realize I used the same phrase twice.

Thanks I'm really working hard too so &#12364;&#12435;&#12400;&#12428; to us!

Ok help me with the kanji please hahah I can recognize &#21936; but the others are what?

It translates roughly into "eat my dragon blade"

It's a voice line from Genji from overwatch btw.