Hit the week milestone today (for the first time since I was like 13). Still counting, and it's really not that tough. I do still kinda want to do it sometimes, but so far my willpower is stronger than those urges. My weakness is boredom though, and I haven't had much time to stand still lately, so the real test could be yet to come...
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Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction
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Back when this thread was posted I decided it was enough, knowing myself that I do it too much. On August 1 I went 20 days straight without Porn/masturbation, then I had sex with my girlfriend and it was the best sex ever.
I got pretty weak and slipped a few times recently, but on September 8 I stopped again, hoping to make it even further this time. Seriously, this works.
I got pretty weak and slipped a few times recently, but on September 8 I stopped again, hoping to make it even further this time. Seriously, this works.
Psychotext
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You could always go with the Viagra temporarily... no shame in it.DoctorWho said:
I had about 4 months of that crap with my missus about 9 months into being together. At the time Viagra wasn't particularly common so I didn't get it, but if it had been I think I would have.
Naked Snake
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DoctorWho said:
From what I read Cialis might be a better option than Viagra. And take the lowest dose you can get (you might even want to break a pill in half or more), the normal/higher doses are made for elderly or really impotent men. Someone like you probably just needs a small kickstart to function like a stud.
On a different note, I was thinking about this thread today, and I came to the realization that it can't be natural (i.e. from an evolutionary viewpoint) to abstain from sexual release for such prolonged periods of time (1 week, or *gasp* 90 days). I mean for 99% of human's existence sex was probably a daily routine (before the beginning of civilization), and our closest living relatives, chimps and bonobos, are extremley sexual primates who usually have sex at least once a day (including male-male and female-female sexual behavior). So I'm not sure if what we're trying to do here is exactly healthy.
I guess Everyday sex = good. Everyday porn = bad.
But, no ograsm for a long time = ???
OK I'm going to try the 90 day reset/cleanse thing. Not that I have any chance of meeting a woman or anything, but my computer died and I might as well give it a go. It's going to be kind of difficult being unemployed at the moment, but maybe I'll try exercising to take up time (lol).
It all comes down the fact that your body (and testicles) are not prepared for a new orgasm in real sex just a few hours after having masturbated.
One day I masturbated before sleeping and also the next morning then went to visit a massage parlour for a Nuru massage, it was very exciting, I was turned on but I just couldn't get an orgasm despite nearly reaching it and lost my erection after a while, despite several elaborate attempts from the masseuse to harden my penis, I was just getting and losing erection without having any orgasm. I returned there after several days without having masturbated the 24h before (as the masseuse jokingly told me) and I got my orgasm.
One day I masturbated before sleeping and also the next morning then went to visit a massage parlour for a Nuru massage, it was very exciting, I was turned on but I just couldn't get an orgasm despite nearly reaching it and lost my erection after a while, despite several elaborate attempts from the masseuse to harden my penis, I was just getting and losing erection without having any orgasm. I returned there after several days without having masturbated the 24h before (as the masseuse jokingly told me) and I got my orgasm.
Naked Snake
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Not to mention that "the fact that your body (and testicles) are not prepared for a new orgasm in real sex just a few hours after having masturbated." is wrong.
Never masturbated more than once in a span of an hour or two? Or had sex multiple times in the same period? Weaksauce.
I'd like a Nuru massage.
Never masturbated more than once in a span of an hour or two? Or had sex multiple times in the same period? Weaksauce.
I'd like a Nuru massage.
actually, it was twice the night before and once when I woke up. i keep my netbook next to me on the bed so I can quickly fire a porn streaming site and stimulate by rubbing my pubic region against the mattress while confortably lying on my side but slightly leaning on my stomach. I then shower and wear new briefs before going out to work and such.Naked Snake said:
Naked Snake
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You truly live up to your name and avatar, Mr. Oozinator
Bay Maximus
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So, uh, anybody go through with this? Like, for an extended period of time avoiding porn-induced dopamine spikes?
Been about a month for me and I feel.......healthier.
Been about a month for me and I feel.......healthier.
Atramental
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Good job, I guess.
As for me...
As for me...
CrocMother
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Know what I realized?
I'm always interested in sexual activity, but I'm not always horny.
Our society kinda tells men that they should be ready to go at all times, and my body just doesn't work like that.
I'm always down to get naked and enjoy some stimulation, but I'm not always going to have a raging boner.
I'm always interested in sexual activity, but I'm not always horny.
Our society kinda tells men that they should be ready to go at all times, and my body just doesn't work like that.
I'm always down to get naked and enjoy some stimulation, but I'm not always going to have a raging boner.
multiple media player clients open, each playing a different video of your favorite porn star in multiple positions will do this to you lol. This is the only way I think it would be possible for someone to mess themselves up so much that they cant get it up with regular woman.
Devolution
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Gouty said:
luckyboyceo
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Bay Maximus said:
I was doing pretty well for awhile back in September. Probably made it about 4 weeks with only one slip up. I definitely felt healthier.
Going to give this a go again I think, hopefully for even longer this time.
Bay Maximus said:
I started around the end of August, so by the end of this month I'll have done my 90 day reboot. After about the first 30 days I couldn't avoid masturbating approximately once a week, but I haven't watched porn since I started. Outside of random youtube links or pictures that are nearly pornographic linked mostly from gaf, which I instantly regret having clicked. I'm feeling good about where I am. Things feel better, and I don't have to fantasize about someone from a video to keep an erection going. Often, without access to porn I'd be reduced to trying to play a porno in my head in order to finish off. Not anymore. So I'd say it's been a success.
PhoenixDark
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Oozinator said:
What state is this, and what did the masseuse look like
Clay Davis
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Joe said:
anne summers.
don't ask me how i know.
Winnie the Pimp
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PhoenixDark said:
this
you sure this was a masseuse and not a "masseuse"?
Psychotext
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I should probably do this again. I had a much higher sex drive after a few weeks. I think I was probably getting more stuff done too.
Opus Angelorum
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So this is simply not watching porn, or not masturbating whilst watching porn?
The Elite
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sublime085 said:I've been struggling with this for about a year now. I've heard about cutting out the porn, but I cracked like 10 days into it. Its frustrating when your partner comes three times and you haven't even busted once.
I guess I really have to give a proper go at it. I definitely hit that decreased libido part and I wanted to masturbate to see if it still worked! I guess now that I know that will happen I'll just try and tough it out. Sexual dysfunction is no fun. And can be brutal on your ego.
When I did this, I had no issues after 10 days. I was back to normal. Don't break.
MrToughPants
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A sexual tyrannosaurus wouldn't have this problem.
Psychotext
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Last time I did it I did the latter. Doubt it's what you're supposed to do, but it worked.Opus Angelorum said:
Bay Maximus
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Opus Angelorum said:
Ideally both, but not watching porn or explicit images for sexual stimulation is the key point. (If the image doesn't interest you after you masturbate it's 'porn')
If you keep having these dopamine spikes every new page/scene of porn, your brain tries to adapt to all the extra dopamine and you end up having fewer dopamine repectors making it harder to get 'excited' on many levels not just sexual. Internet porn makes this especially easy to occur and many people have hypothesized that the increased usage of online porn, with it's availability and virtually limitless material, is a primary reason for the increase in reports of orgasm retardation.
Google 'your brain on porn' for plenty of cool information.
Explain. If you are experiencing anxiety then consider knocking just a few back to take the edge off. If its trama from the past maybe see a councelor. Its share/story time:DoctorWho said:
My first time was under pressure. My parents had just left the house but we didnt know when they would be back so it was go time immediately, no foreplay. I get my clothes off, she is ready, im nervouse as fuck bc i cant get the condom open, after i finally do im like semi limp you know big but floppy. Anyways Im way too young to laugh it off or ask her to suck it so i just stood there thinking about why my dick isnt hard and praying for a miracle. It didnt happen. So I just made a joke about it (but felt tremendous shame on the inside) and took her out to dinner.
A week later I made sure we had plenty of time, plenty of foreplay and when i was getting the condom open i made sure to keep stimulated. 16 years later and its never happened since. Your mind can really make life hell if you let it lol. Probably one of the most embarrassing moments of my life.
I must be a rare case, as I watch a lot of porn, but I have no problems getting or keeping it up, or delaying cumming.
Maybe it's because I find my wife incredibly attractive, and nothing beats having sex with a real woman. Your hand and some videos can only do so much.
I enjoy watching porn because it's fun to watch (even moreso when I watch it with my wife), but I understand that a fantasy is a fantasy, and most of my fantasies aren't so out of the realm of reality that I can't include my wife in it when we're actually having sex.
Maybe it's because I find my wife incredibly attractive, and nothing beats having sex with a real woman. Your hand and some videos can only do so much.
I enjoy watching porn because it's fun to watch (even moreso when I watch it with my wife), but I understand that a fantasy is a fantasy, and most of my fantasies aren't so out of the realm of reality that I can't include my wife in it when we're actually having sex.
Psychotext
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Those things generally aren't the problem here. Quite the opposite in fact in a lot of cases.Figboy79 said:
Well, I guess I'll chime in on this.
I've bee married for 8 years and for the most part sex was great. I'd have my orgasm in about 10-15 minutes (her in about 5-10) so all was right in the world. Then she fell into alcoholism, depression etc. Our marriage ended last year as a result of all that (and yes I tried to get her all the help but I just couldn't hold on).
I resorted to porn in this past year, and by that I meant using it exclusively (not the odd times when the missus wasn't around and I was feeling it). I didn't have time to date, and so it became routine almost. Pornhub and tube8 became a staple of my life. I'd search out all the Pierre Woodman castings, or the "fake" casting couch vids and get myself off in 3 min max. This would be anywhere from 3-5 times a day, everyday, for a year, and it felt great.
Then I met my current GF, the first day we slept together it took me 2 hours (and fuck off as this is not a stealth anything post) just to get an orgasm. Luckily for me she enjoys sex as I do (or in the case at the time, "did") and thought that I was the man. I however was not amused. I kept thinking WTF is wrong with me? This shit only happened when I would drink heavily, and was desensitized as a result. I the more we slept with each other the more frustrated I would get, and all the images of all the porn I'd watch would come flooding in. I just couldn't come as fast as I wanted to.
So what would I do? I'd go home and beat off and, blam! 2-3 min in (or less) I'd come. I had become addicted to porn and it was the only way that I could achieve an orgasm. Enter the last two weeks, and I've quit porn full stop, and while it still takes me and hour to come, it's more enjoyable now, in fact I need to retract my previous statement. Last night I came within 35 min. of penetration.
Fuck porn. It's great when you're alone and have no one, or in great moderation, but fuck you porn! (no pun)
I've bee married for 8 years and for the most part sex was great. I'd have my orgasm in about 10-15 minutes (her in about 5-10) so all was right in the world. Then she fell into alcoholism, depression etc. Our marriage ended last year as a result of all that (and yes I tried to get her all the help but I just couldn't hold on).
I resorted to porn in this past year, and by that I meant using it exclusively (not the odd times when the missus wasn't around and I was feeling it). I didn't have time to date, and so it became routine almost. Pornhub and tube8 became a staple of my life. I'd search out all the Pierre Woodman castings, or the "fake" casting couch vids and get myself off in 3 min max. This would be anywhere from 3-5 times a day, everyday, for a year, and it felt great.
Then I met my current GF, the first day we slept together it took me 2 hours (and fuck off as this is not a stealth anything post) just to get an orgasm. Luckily for me she enjoys sex as I do (or in the case at the time, "did") and thought that I was the man. I however was not amused. I kept thinking WTF is wrong with me? This shit only happened when I would drink heavily, and was desensitized as a result. I the more we slept with each other the more frustrated I would get, and all the images of all the porn I'd watch would come flooding in. I just couldn't come as fast as I wanted to.
So what would I do? I'd go home and beat off and, blam! 2-3 min in (or less) I'd come. I had become addicted to porn and it was the only way that I could achieve an orgasm. Enter the last two weeks, and I've quit porn full stop, and while it still takes me and hour to come, it's more enjoyable now, in fact I need to retract my previous statement. Last night I came within 35 min. of penetration.
Fuck porn. It's great when you're alone and have no one, or in great moderation, but fuck you porn! (no pun)
Opus Angelorum
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Bay Maximus said:
So if I masturbate whilst thinking of pornographic images, is this the same issue?
How can you masturbate without any form of catalyst?
Psychotext
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I believe that's part of the point. Eventually you can do it using your imagination... Or lingerie sections in catalogues.Opus Angelorum said:
But no, imagination is fine. Overly frequently masturbating even with just your imagination as a source of material however, probably not going to help.
Bay Maximus
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Opus Angelorum said:
Well, masturbation didn't begin with pornography. After your brain starts to 'heal', you will realize that you don't need porn. Personally I'd try to stay away from masturbation if I were in any type of sexual relationship (exclusive or otherwise), but if absolutely necessary, it would behoove you to do it with no porn of any kind. (Soft, hard, lingerie, x-play or whatever the heck it's called.)
Opus Angelorum
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Bay Maximus said:
Does using our own home-made porn count?
Bay Maximus
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Opus Angelorum said:
It counts because it serves the same function. Although it's not 'new' and therefore the spike may not be as potent as if you were watching <insert fav porn here>, I'd stay away, at least for a good while.
Oozinator said:
I don't think you have anything to worry about!
Psychotext
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This thread makes me think about masturbation... which I'm guessing is counter productive.
Bay Maximus said:
This. Since stopping about 3 weeks ago, my sensitivity is returning and my mental images of Agata getting pounded by Woodman are getting replaced by the very beautiful woman who I'm having sex with.
Psychotext said:
It has crossed my mind for the first time in 2 weeks. I'm seeing my GF tonight so I'm good. I must say that the temptation was fleeting though
My journey through reboot has been hilarious and informative.
At about the three week mark my aching horniness and need to jack off/watch porn subsided and I went sexually dead. Stopped having mental fantasies, as well, which was the hardest thing to deal with. Also, my member felt smaller, lifeless and useless. It was like I was no longer (sexually) a man anymore. Frightening stuff. But as I had no burning sex drive anymore, it didn't exactly bother me.
At the five week mark my dick went back to feeling 'normal'. In fact, I'd swear its flaccid state was actually larger than before. This is going to sound new-age as fuck, but it genuinely felt like it had been reborn into a more powerful organ.
Had my first morning wood in a couple of years. That was awesome. My sex drive returned, but it was manageable and I didn't need to go jack off. Normal things would turn me on and make me want it, like a Playboy centre-fold spread or a vaguely suggestive passage in a well-written novel. I didn't need oddly-specific imagery to get me in the mood anymore, and when I was in the mood I found it easy to 'float' over the desire and ignore it. I met up with my lover for the weekend, but explained my situation. Pleasured her, refused offers of kind in return, despite my raging hardon. Which was exceedingly hard. As in she was all "holy shit you are hard have you grown?".
Basically, it was all going fine until those Scarjo pics leaked. Dat ass. I mean, I had to look, didn't I? Scarjo gets her perfectly sculpted buns leaked all over the net and it is your male duty to scrutinise that shit. I'm not going to say "I regret nothing", but I certainly think it wasn't my fault. The timing was just unfortunate, is all. Anyway, had the most powerful self-induced orgasm of my life and I came buckets. That was so good I just had to keep coming back for more!
So I pretty much ended up right back in the same situation again. Since then I got back on the wagon and things are going okay for now. Agreed to not swear off sexual relationships with the lady during the process this time though. Might make the process as a whole take longer, but I'm getting sex so what do I care? Lack of porn is certainly making sex seem so much more awesome, too. I highly recommend this thing.
Conclusions:
1 - This process will not only improve your sexual relationships, but make your dick bigger. GET ON IT.
2 - Scarjo is one fine woman and the ruiner of my discipline.
3 - Discipline is easier to maintain the second time around. If you Scarjo out, you can get back in again without too much difficulty.
Yes. I know. It's hard to do and feels weird and wrong at first. But believe me, once you're horny enough (and doing this reboot will make you horny enough after a couple of weeks) it works. It also makes receiving head that much better because you don't have any of those "she's been sucking for ten minutes I better think of something to send me over the edge" moments.
At about the three week mark my aching horniness and need to jack off/watch porn subsided and I went sexually dead. Stopped having mental fantasies, as well, which was the hardest thing to deal with. Also, my member felt smaller, lifeless and useless. It was like I was no longer (sexually) a man anymore. Frightening stuff. But as I had no burning sex drive anymore, it didn't exactly bother me.
At the five week mark my dick went back to feeling 'normal'. In fact, I'd swear its flaccid state was actually larger than before. This is going to sound new-age as fuck, but it genuinely felt like it had been reborn into a more powerful organ.
Had my first morning wood in a couple of years. That was awesome. My sex drive returned, but it was manageable and I didn't need to go jack off. Normal things would turn me on and make me want it, like a Playboy centre-fold spread or a vaguely suggestive passage in a well-written novel. I didn't need oddly-specific imagery to get me in the mood anymore, and when I was in the mood I found it easy to 'float' over the desire and ignore it. I met up with my lover for the weekend, but explained my situation. Pleasured her, refused offers of kind in return, despite my raging hardon. Which was exceedingly hard. As in she was all "holy shit you are hard have you grown?".
Basically, it was all going fine until those Scarjo pics leaked. Dat ass. I mean, I had to look, didn't I? Scarjo gets her perfectly sculpted buns leaked all over the net and it is your male duty to scrutinise that shit. I'm not going to say "I regret nothing", but I certainly think it wasn't my fault. The timing was just unfortunate, is all. Anyway, had the most powerful self-induced orgasm of my life and I came buckets. That was so good I just had to keep coming back for more!
So I pretty much ended up right back in the same situation again. Since then I got back on the wagon and things are going okay for now. Agreed to not swear off sexual relationships with the lady during the process this time though. Might make the process as a whole take longer, but I'm getting sex so what do I care? Lack of porn is certainly making sex seem so much more awesome, too. I highly recommend this thing.
Conclusions:
1 - This process will not only improve your sexual relationships, but make your dick bigger. GET ON IT.
2 - Scarjo is one fine woman and the ruiner of my discipline.
3 - Discipline is easier to maintain the second time around. If you Scarjo out, you can get back in again without too much difficulty.
Yes. Absolutely. Not quite as bad, but still the same thing - stimulation of the 'visual' arousal. Porn fantasy is just as bad as porn.
You focus on only the physical sensations. So instead of thinking "oh god this chick in my imagination is so hot right now", you think "oh god my dick feels so good right now".
Yes. I know. It's hard to do and feels weird and wrong at first. But believe me, once you're horny enough (and doing this reboot will make you horny enough after a couple of weeks) it works. It also makes receiving head that much better because you don't have any of those "she's been sucking for ten minutes I better think of something to send me over the edge" moments.
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