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[Kisaya]

Ladies, be honest, how important is physical appearance to you?

I don't know if it's just me but someone's physical attractiveness always changes after I get to know them better, either for better or worse lmaoo
But um, yeah. Appearance is usually what I look for first. Isn't that a biological thing to do anyway?

So I've asked this girl out on a whim(she works at a book store I frequent) and she totally said yes! We hung out a couple weeks ago and she said we should definitely do it again. Since then though our schedules have kinda not aligned so we haven't been able to see each other since. We still are trying though on both ends, we're just both busy so it hasn't worked out. We've had a couple good text conversations but we don't talk every day or anything. Basically I'm wondering has the window of opportunity kinda passed? She's cool and I want to get to know her better but I just don't know how long she'll stay interested.

Definitely not, keep trying to keep in contact with her/set up dates. If she's ignoring you then probably she's not interested

 

[agrajag]

Yeah, I wish I had someone shave my back for me. Waxing just doesn't work for me, I always break out afterwards and get all sorts of ingrown hairs. None of that from shaving.

I don't know if it's just me but someone's physical attractiveness always changes after I get to know them better, either for better or worse lmaoo
But um, yeah. Appearance is usually what I look for first. Isn't that a biological thing to do anyway?

Your first sentence is the case for me as well.

 

[demon]

Yeah, I wish I had someone shave my back for me. Waxing just doesn't work for me, I always break out afterwards and get all sorts of ingrown hairs. None of that from shaving.

Oh jesus, same here. I'm done with that, stopped getting my back waxed for that reason five or six years ago.

 

[MetalAlien]

Pretty important, but I hear women aren't as shallow as men, I have my doubts though.

Changes with age. 20-somethings are the worst.

 

[Devolution]

Pretty important, but I hear women aren't as shallow as men, I have my doubts though.

Depends on the person. I will say though that a lot of older couples I see, the woman is hotter. But anecdotal evidence and all that.

 

[agrajag]

Oh jesus, same here. I'm done with that, stopped getting my back waxed for that reason five or six years ago.

Preach it, brotha. I tried and I tried, thinking that if I get waxed regularly, my body would get used to it and I'd stop breaking out. I did everything they said, exfoliated, but nothing ever worked.

 

[Maddness]

Pretty important, but I hear women aren't as shallow as men, I have my doubts though.

As a guy, I hate questions like that. I know it must drive women insane. If you think they might be shallow on looks, wait until you find out how they react to low self esteem and self confidence. You're in for a world of hurt.

 

[Acid08]

I don't know if it's just me but someone's physical attractiveness always changes after I get to know them better, either for better or worse lmaoo
But um, yeah. Appearance is usually what I look for first. Isn't that a biological thing to do anyway?



Definitely not, keep trying to keep in contact with her/set up dates. If she's ignoring you then probably she's not interested

She definitely isn't ignoring me, just yesterday she initiated to see each other that night but I was busy and couldn't.

 

[Professor Beef]

Nothing is more difficult to shave than a face.

 

[Devolution]

Nothing is more difficult to shave than a face. And nothing is more difficult to reach than your back. Women know nothing of difficult shaving.

I dunno man, I shave in a lot of places besides the legs and pits.

 

[Kisaya]

She definitely isn't ignoring me, just yesterday she initiated to see each other that night but I was busy and couldn't.

Then just make sure you're still in contact with her or she'll think that you're not interested in her anymore. As long as you show effort I don't think she'll give up (unless it's impossible to set up a date)

 

[agrajag]

As a guy, I hate questions like that. I know it must drive women insane. If you think they might be shallow on looks, wait until you find out how they react to low self esteem and self confidence. You're in for a world of hurt.

Fair enough. My self esteem and confidence is not at its highest right now, and it's a well known fact what a turn off that is for women. And trust me, I can't possibly be in any more of a "hurt."

 

[Devolution]

Fair enough. My self esteem and confidence is not at its highest right now, and it's a well known fact what a turn off that is for women. And trust me, I can't possibly be in any more of a "hurt."

If it makes you feel any better my first boyfriend was short and average looking, what attracted me to him was his humor. He was always hilarious to be around.

 

[Acid08]

Then just make sure you're still in contact with her or she'll think that you're not interested in her anymore. As long as you show effort I don't think she'll give up (unless it's impossible to set up a date)

Awesome! Just have to make sure not to be annoying about it.

 

[agrajag]

It it makes you feel any better my first boyfriend was short and average looking, what attracted me to him was his humor. He was always hilarious to be around.

A little bit. Wish everyone was cool like that.

 

[Devolution]

A little bit. Wish everyone was cool like that.

Let me ask you a personal question, do you have a lot of friends that are women?

 

[agrajag]

Let me ask you a personal question, do you have a lot of friends that are women?

I don't have a lot of people I consider friends in general, mostly acquaintances, many of which are women.

 

[Atramental]

Ladies, be honest, how important is physical appearance to you?

I've seen guys who are uglier and fatter than me get with good looking girls. Probably because those guys are comfortable with who they are.

I on the other hand hate my appearance. A lot. Even before I lost my hair I hated my appearance but not as much as I do now. And I have never been marginally comfortable with my overall self which in turn has netted me no dates, no girlfriends, nothing.

So like Devo said, it is only as important as you want it to be. Make a big deal out of it and you will set off red flags, I can guarantee it. Act like it's nothing and you will do okay.

 

[ATF487]

Nothing is more difficult to shave than a face. And nothing is more difficult to reach than your back. Women know nothing of difficult shaving.

Eh I don't know about this, I'd say women are pretty good sports for shaving downstairs

the only real shitty part about shaving for men imo is that you can't really cover up your face if you nick yourself shaving.

 

[Maddness]

I've seen guys who are uglier and fatter than me get with good looking girls. Probably because those guys are comfortable with who they are.

I on the other hand hate my appearance. A lot. Even before I lost my hair I hated my appearance but not as much as I do now. And I have never been marginally comfortable with my overall self which in turn has netted me no dates, no girlfriends, nothing.

So like Devo said, it is only as important as you want it to be. Make a big deal out of it and you will set off red flags, I can guarantee it. Act like it's nothing and you will do okay.

I think that's somewhat true. I think even if you aren't a Brad Pitt or a Tom Cruise or whatever isn't as important as whether or not you take care of yourself. Now that can be a scaling factor. Some women want you to really take care of yourself and be healthy, fit, etc. But at bare minimum, I think anyone who presents themselves well, doesn't walk around looking like a complete slob or a piece of shit, that's big. It doesn't have to be much, but just having pride in your appearance goes a long way.

 

[agrajag]

I've seen guys who are uglier and fatter than me get with good looking girls. Probably because those guys are comfortable with who they are.

I on the other hand hate my appearance. A lot. Even before I lost my hair I hated my appearance but not as much as I do now. And I have never been marginally comfortable with my overall self which in turn has netted me no dates, no girlfriends, nothing.

So like Devo said, it is only as important as you want it to be. Make a big deal out of it and you will set off red flags, I can guarantee it. Act like it's nothing and you will do okay.

Did you make that change for yourself, or are you speaking theoretically?

I think that's somewhat true. I think even if you aren't a Brad Pitt or a Tom Cruise or whatever isn't as important as whether or not you take care of yourself. Now that can be a scaling factor. Some women want you to really take care of yourself and be healthy, fit, etc. But at bare minimum, I think anyone who presents themselves well, doesn't walk around looking like a complete slob or a piece of shit, that's big. It doesn't have to be much, but just having pride in your appearance goes a long way.

Hmm. I take care of myself, dress well and go to the gym regularly. I am of a below average height and have been balding badly since 19 years of age. I feel like I've been held back in certain cases where women I've been after were only attracted to certain male archetypes (tall, dark and handsome, or muscle head).

 

[Devolution]

Eh I don't know about this, I'd say women are pretty good sports for shaving downstairs

the only real shitty part about shaving for men imo is that you can't really cover up your face if you nick yourself shaving.

Reminds me of the some of the places I've nicked though. Would have gladly nicked the face instead.

I think that's somewhat true. I think even if you aren't a Brad Pitt or a Tom Cruise or whatever isn't as important as whether or not you take care of yourself. Now that can be a scaling factor. Some women want you to really take care of yourself and be healthy, fit, etc. But at bare minimum, I think anyone who presents themselves well, doesn't walk around looking like a complete slob or a piece of shit, that's big. It doesn't have to be much, but just having pride in your appearance goes a long way.

And some people have to try harder than others, while unfair is pretty much just how life is.

 

[Kisaya]

I think that's somewhat true. I think even if you aren't a Brad Pitt or a Tom Cruise or whatever isn't as important as whether or not you take care of yourself. Now that can be a scaling factor. Some women want you to really take care of yourself and be healthy, fit, etc. But at bare minimum, I think anyone who presents themselves well, doesn't walk around looking like a complete slob or a piece of shit, that's big. It doesn't have to be much, but just having pride in your appearance goes a long way.

Pretty much this. Just clean up yourself the best you can and be confident, it really works.
Same goes for women too.

 

[Atramental]

I think that's somewhat true. I think even if you aren't a Brad Pitt or a Tom Cruise or whatever isn't as important as whether or not you take care of yourself. Now that can be a scaling factor. Some women want you to really take care of yourself and be healthy, fit, etc. But at bare minimum, I think anyone who presents themselves well, doesn't walk around looking like a complete slob or a piece of shit, that's big. It doesn't have to be much, but just having pride in your appearance goes a long way.

Yeah, don't be a slob. I guess what I'm really saying is that, "Hey man, if you got a funny looking nose don't worry about it." Basically when I'm referring to appearance I'm talking about stuff that is harder to fix. (unless you have the money for plastic surgery)

If you're 300 lbs overweight, you don't shower, your hair is a mess, and your wardrobe sucks... yeah you need to change that.

Did you make that change for yourself, or are you speaking theoretically?

I'm very good at observing success but I'm terrible at replicating it. So yeah, I'm speaking theoretically.

 

[Tokubetsu]

Nothing is more difficult to shave than a face. And nothing is more difficult to reach than your back. Women know nothing of difficult shaving.

You ever try shaving your balls? Serious question. Get back to me.

 

[agrajag]

I'm very good at observing success but I'm terrible at replicating it. So yeah, I'm speaking theoretically.

Oh man, I feel for you, I'm much the same way. Sometimes I feel like there's a hundred things I could change about myself for the better, but I just can't do it.

 

[Acid08]

You ever try shaving your balls? Serious question. Get back to me.

Yup, this. Not fun.

 

[wenis]

and your balls are never as smooth as they could be. you also miss like a small patch somewhere so when you reach down there it's like a prickly pear.

 

[agrajag]

I've gotten my shit waxed a few times. There was one lady that was so meticulous that she would take tweezers and pluck whatever hairs the wax didn't get.

 

[Tokubetsu]

I've gotten my shit waxed a few times. There was one lady that was so meticulous that she would take tweezers and pluck whatever hairs the wax didn't get.

I winced just thinking about taking a tweezer to my ball hair.

 

[MetalAlien]

I winced just thinking about taking a tweezer to my ball hair.

Try it, you might like it.

 

[cooljeanius]

I winced just thinking about taking a tweezer to my ball hair.

Ouch, that sounds painful considering how sensitive ball skin is. The few times I've nicked myself while trimming down there with scissors have not been fun.

 

[agrajag]

I winced just thinking about taking a tweezer to my ball hair.

Usually the parts she would tweezer weren't directly on the sack, but in the areas around it, which I think is even more sensitive than the ball skin itself. Actually, tweezing hairs doesn't hurt nearly as bad, because it's just one hair at a time, not a hundred of them being ripped from their root at the same time. Also, by the time the waxing is done, all of your skin feels so ravaged that you wouldn't even feel a few hairs being plucked with tweezers.

 

[Devolution]

Who knew the topic of ball hair would show up here, hehehe.

 

[shanshan310]

Nothing is more difficult to shave than a face. And nothing is more difficult to reach than your back. Women know nothing of difficult shaving.

we don't have to spell it out for you, do we? =/

 

[Tokubetsu]

Who knew the topic of ball hair would show up here, hehehe.

Had to be discussed. Ladies, you know your man likes you when he's willing to shave/tweeze the ball hair for you. That's love.

One thing to shave the garden hedges and trim the shaft. It's another thing once you get to the balls.

 

[ThoseDeafMutes]

and your balls are never as smooth as they could be. you also miss like a small patch somewhere so when you reach down there it's like a prickly pear.

 

[Devolution]

Had to be discussed. Ladies, you know your man likes you when he's willing to shave/tweeze the ball hair for you. That's love.

Or he knows we ain't lickin' shit with all that fur in the way.

 

[agrajag]

Had to be discussed. Ladies, you know your man likes you when he's willing to shave/tweeze the ball hair for you. That's love.

One thing to shave the garden hedges and trim the shaft. It's another thing once you get to the balls.

I do it for personal satisfaction. I can never go back to having hairy balls!

 

[FallingEdge]

Or he knows we ain't lickin' shit with all that fur in the way.

Word. That's why I stay clean for my gf.

Feels great.

 

[shortyme]

Or he knows we ain't lickin' shit with all that fur in the way.

You aint maybe, it isn't such a big deal sometimes. That shit goes both ways.

 

[Devolution]

You aint maybe, it isn't such a big deal sometimes. That shit goes both ways.

Hey I shave too. But he's not really going to feel as much ball lickin' if there is hair in the way in general.

 

[shortyme]

I'm just saying, in between wax sessions (I don't shave, I wax that shit) it would be nice to know he isn't putting up a fuss cause I'm not either.

 

[triplestation]

How important is it to you?

Wait though I've seen some of the fugliest dudes out holding hands with actual hot chicks. Stuff like that ruins my day because I'm left wondering how they do it.

 

[FallingEdge]

A lil bit of hair is fine. As long as it isn't a jungle down there, it is all good.

 

[Devolution]

Wait though I've seen some of the fugliest dudes out holding hands with actual hot chicks. Stuff like that ruins my day because I'm left wondering how they do it.

Money, confidence, being more nice. You know I actually read an article about this of all things I'll see if I can dig it up. Study is probably shit but here you go:

http://www.livescience.com/7483-beautiful-women-marry-attractive-men.html

 

[Maddness]

My advice to any guy who's feeling alone or that they keep striking out with the ladies and will be by themselves forever is simple. Stop thinking about it, stop thinking about being single, stop thinking about how to get a girl just stop thinking. It's like a scab. The more you scratch it, the more you think about it, the more you play with it, the more it bleeds and hurts.

The best thing you can do for yourself is forget about it and just enjoy life like it is. When you're not constantly trying to improve yourself, when you're not constantly thinking about getting a date and making someone care about you or getting someone to notice you... you'll enjoy life and you'll radiate that. It's when you aren't trying to make it happen that it'll happen. I've seen too many friends and acquaintances go through this and finally give up and say fuck it and then things work out to not think it's just random.


Stop worrying about it, stop being depressed about stuff like this. Concentrate on your career, your future, and your health. The other things will fall in to place.

 

[TurboLibre]

My advice to any guy who's feeling alone or that they keep striking out with the ladies and will be by themselves forever is simple. Stop thinking about it, stop thinking about being single, stop thinking about how to get a girl just stop thinking. It's like a scab. The more you scratch it, the more you think about it, the more you play with it, the more it bleeds and hurts.

The best thing you can do for yourself is forget about it and just enjoy life like it is. When you're not constantly trying to improve yourself, when you're not constantly thinking about getting a date and making someone care about you or getting someone to notice you... you'll enjoy life and you'll radiate that. It's when you aren't trying to make it happen that it'll happen. I've seen too many friends and acquaintances go through this and finally give up and say fuck it and then things work out to not think it's just random.


Stop worrying about it, stop being depressed about stuff like this. Concentrate on your career, your future, and your health. The other things will fall in to place.

I've done that all my life and I'm still single. It may work as general life advice, but don't expect any women to come your way.

 

[kIdMuScLe]

So the other day I secretly made out with a friend of mine while we were hanging out with her family but the problem is that she is in a relationship... is been on my mind for a few days if I should ask her why did kiss me and stuff like that. What should I do? =/

 

[scar tissue]

I'm very good at observing success but I'm terrible at replicating it. So yeah, I'm speaking theoretically.

In theory, I'm pretty good at predicting what kind of move will work with girls. But I can't ever pull it off successfully.