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I dunno, I think his tag may be "banned" for a while. You can't just say "Fuck You" out of the blue. Crunched wasn't even talking out of line, just stating a fact. I mean, even if provoked, I think it's pretty out of line, unless someone disrespects you family or something. It was just so random!

Its not always 100%, I was insulted pretty bad a few months ago and nothing happened to anyone lol.
 
I dunno, I think his tag may be "banned" for a while. You can't just say "Fuck You" out of the blue. Crunched wasn't even talking out of line, just stating a fact. I mean, even if provoked, I think it's pretty out of line, unless someone disrespects you family or something. It was just so random!

I'm not going to post emails. To prove she was my girlfriend. All you guys get is my account of the events. And How I feel
Dude, you were in jail in less than a week.

I was in jail 3 weeks and 3 days.
 
I would love to see the contents of these emails.

Btw, you said she came from a Muslim family? And you aren't, right? That means your chances of staying with her were extremely slim to begin with.
 
She told the police things like, I went into the house without her permission, that I would knock on her door aggressively. That she ran for her life every-time she saw me. And her key-word she knew, to get her way. "I fear for my safety"

Without wishing to sound mean-spirited, are you sure this wasn't true?
 
I dunno, I think his tag may be "banned" for a while. You can't just say "Fuck You" out of the blue. Crunched wasn't even talking out of line, just stating a fact. I mean, even if provoked, I think it's pretty out of line, unless someone disrespects you family or something. It was just so random!

I'm not trying to backseat mod by the way, I just got back from a ban myself. It wasn't a request, he didn't tell me to fuck off!

Actually he wasn't.

Regardless the important thing is that the OP understands why what happened, happened. Even if what you is true and she lied about certain events, you HARASSED her for an entire month. Do you not think someone would fear for their safety over that? The least you could get out of this, is that you understand why what you did was wrong and learn from it. Otherwise you'll just make the same mistake again, and it might end up being worse.
 
I would love to see the contents of these emails.

Btw, you said she came from a Muslim family? And you aren't, right? That means your chances of staying with her were extremely slim to begin with.

In hindsight, I should have never been with her at all. Especially learning that I couldn't get the approval of her parents. Though I tried.


You sound insane. She is lucky you got deported.

In a way she really is. And so am I. Because after jail, you're really made into a criminal. After serving time for something you really didn't do(threaten her life), and you couldn't get out of because you're just an international student. You get your soul sucked out of you.

But like I tried to explain. It was her intentions, her motive. At the time.
 
In hindsight, I should have never been with her at all. Especially learning that I couldn't get the approval of her parents. Though I tried.

Yes, getting deported will give you a lot of hindsight, other things you probably shouldn't have done: Stalked her, dared her to call the police, kept talking to her even though she told you to stop
 
IS it just me or is the topic creator one of the creepiest guys on GAF.

He's harassing and stalking the girl. Probably more since there's full of holes in his story. That might also be because his writing style is incoherent. Worse of all he doesn't even know he did something wrong? What else did he do wrong he doesn't know about and won't tell us.

Seriously if he were ever dating a loved one of mine, I would try to get him deported too.
 
IS it just me or is the topic creator one of the creepiest guys on GAF.

He's harassing and stalking the girl. Probably more since there's full of holes in his story. That might also be because his writing style is incoherent. Worse of all he doesn't even know he did something wrong? What else did he do wrong he doesn't know about and won't tell us.

Seriously if he were ever dating a loved one of mine, I would try to get him deported too.

I wonder if it was his broken english that got misinterpreted and freaked her out.
 
The best advice we can give to the OP: stop posting in this topic while you're behind, every post is making it worse.
 
IS it just me or is the topic creator one of the creepiest guys on GAF.

He's harassing and stalking the girl. Probably more since there's full of holes in his story. That might also be because his writing style is incoherent. Worse of all he doesn't even know he did something wrong? What else did he do wrong he doesn't know about and won't tell us.

Seriously if he were ever dating a loved one of mine, I would try to get him deported too.

I was thinking he sounds like someone with paranoid delusions. Amazing how every step of the way he did nothing wrong and his gf suddenly decides to ruin him, police, judicial system, government, his own attorney all join in on ruining this innocent man who has never done anything wrong. Just one day the entire country of Canada woke up today morning and decided to ruin this guy's life for "not being brown". Story definitely sounds like bullshit, or at the very least terribly incomplete.
 
No, but Crunched said they were never going out in the first place, or at least that's what the Op got out of it.
Oh right. Yeah, that's not on. I don't think that for minute, the guy is clearly madly in love with her.

OP, I feel for you dude, but I really think you need to admit some of your wrong doings, you'll never move on otherwise. I'm not saying it was all your fault, but you seem to be pushing it all on to her.
 
You are a stalker. You have mental issues. But take it not from me. Read the whole thread. again. Only 4 months it was. Leave it alone.
 
Shitty stuff happens to everyone, it is how you react to them that will make you a better or worse person. You don't seem to be doing so well, I fear. Don't define yourself at this moment of flux, you are not a beat poet. You are a guy attempting to communicate through beat poetry. You are not a guy beat down by the system. You are a guy who had an obstacle and needs to overcome it.
 
he said 4 months, but then said he stalked her for about a month, so there's some doubt if it's 4 or 3months, with 1 month of stalking.

Oh holy shit.

I was under the impression that it was much longer, year+.

Yeah man, you don't send out 15+ emails to someone you've been seeing for 3 months after you break up.
 
You are a stalker. You have mental issues. But take it not from me. Read the whole thread. again. Only 4 months it was. Leave it alone.

Legally I am a stalker. I wrote her to many emails.

:/

Lets put a man in jail. For being broken hearted. Make him leave the country, because that's what she wanted.
 
Legally I am a stalker. I wrote her to many emails.

:/

Lets put a man in jail. For being broken hearted.

What you did was harassment, especially if she asked you to stop.

You don't get put in jail for being broken hearted.

I just want to take you and shake you until you understand and move on.
 
I didn't leave her alone,

Supposedly it's against the law to write unwanted emails. It's "stalking", I was hurt. I wanted to stay and not lose her because I loved her.

On the phone, I dared her to call the police. Because I knew i didn't do anything criminal.

I've only read YOUR side of the story and I'm inclined to side with her. No offense.
 
Legally I am a stalker. I wrote her to many emails.

:/

Lets put a man in jail. For being broken hearted. Make him leave the country, because that's what she wanted.

No, objectively you are a stalker because you wrote her too many emails. And you weren't put in jail for being broken hearted. Being broken hearted is your responsibility to deal with, not her responsibility to be blamed for. It doesn't give you the right to bombard her with emails. After two are not replied to, why would you send a third, yet alone a fourteenth?

But anyway, I've said my view on the situation and I don't think saying anymore will help anyone :)

If you really want sympathy, go and post here:

antimisandry.com

They have plenty of stories about how innocent men who never put a foot wrong are completely at the mercy of evil, lying, scheming women who have the whole legal system completely in their pocket and can immediatly get whatever result they want from it and so can destroy these harmless men's lives purely on their whimsical say-so. They'll love your story, honestly.
 
Legally I am a stalker. I wrote her to many emails.

:/

Lets put a man in jail. For being broken hearted. Make him leave the country, because that's what she wanted.

No. NO. NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

Poetry aside.

It sucks to be broken hearted. And broken hearted people don't often do right headed things. So I understand how it can happen. Doesn't mean I condone it or think what you did was right.

If you really miss Canada, maybe you can pour some milk in a gallon sized freezer bag?
 
Did you talk like this to the police? Because you may have been arrested for being a stalker, but may have been deported for being insufferable.
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As does the law. In most cases between a woman against a man.

OK, Igby.

You need to stop on the whole mysogynistic victim blaming thing. It's killing any sympathy you may have been able to garnish.

Trust me. I'm an attorney. And before you ask, no, I would have not taken your particular case.
 
Hahahahaha, big surprise.

I doubt many people here will understand your laughter, but "big surprise" was also the first thing I thought of when I saw OCAD... I used to go there a few times a month for extra life drawing, but I absolutely couldn't stand the atmosphere of the people or that place for the most part. There are way better art schools to choose from.
 
OK, Igby.

You need to stop on the whole mysogynistic victim blaming thing. It's killing any sympathy you may have been able to garnish.

Trust me. I'm an attorney. And before you ask, no, I would have not taken your particular case.

I'm well aware of this. My own attorney wanted the case over and done with. But I should have never agreed to a join submission, especially when the crown strong armed him. And after discussing with the police, what should and shouldn't be said in the conviction. They crown went ahead and charged me for everything.

I said nothing that day In court. I listened to my lawyer. And than regretted it. And just wanted to go home.

Truth is, I wish I could prove how unjust my trial was. How no evidence, no rightful arrest. How absolutely nothing. Except her phone-call and her testimony. Took my whole life away. I deserved the chance to continue to go to school. To finish my year. I deserved a to be allowed to leave her alone, after the police was involved. But you put someone in jail. And they can't think straight or get themselves out.

Being threatened by the police, who thought I would beat the case in a retrial didn't help. So I was in jail and that made me give up.
 
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