Vermillion
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I find Data incredibly sexy and he is the opposite of orange.
That's not blue.
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That's not blue.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Oh my, I've been had.
It's the exact same picture too.
The twist is that you were what women wanted the entire time.
thebaroness
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Devolution
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He's a meathead. He's not orange.
He's too rhoided out now.
There really isn't one thing we all want. I guess for some dudes that makes it harder despite the fact that it means more men have a chance.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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HollovVpo1nt
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Ugh, it was a figure of speech. I don't look like nor do I want to look like a Jersey shore douche.
No I don't. I was giving an example to what average women expect a man that has a chance with them to look like.
No I don't. I was giving an example to what average women expect a man that has a chance with them to look like.
CountAntonius
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The problem when people start naming actors and models to describe what they find attractive is that well they are actors and models. For once I'd like to see what kinda everyday guys women find attractive.
True.
I mean, putting aside all the other dumb things about this post, you realize that you just contradicted yourself, right? When you change your outfit, you change your success level. In other words, it's not just about attractiveness, it's about presentation, and self-confidence is part of that.
Devolution
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Oh is that what they call it now.
Vermillion
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Meh, no one conforms to every stereotype. Makes it easier for some to group things, though.
I don't like blonde hair, for example. Don't hate it, but it's very stereotypical hot.
I don't like blonde hair, for example. Don't hate it, but it's very stereotypical hot.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I want to attain Idris Elba's level of swag and raw magnetism.
FallingEdge
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It is an easy way to get a base on what is attractive to you and being able to share that. I wouldn't look too much into it.
He is a big dood. And of course there is going to be variety. I would hope that everyone knows this.
Devolution
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Everyone doesn't and they'll go out of their way to think that their own failures are anything but the common denominator in every situation (themselves.).
CountAntonius
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Of course but its also a very poor representation of the kind of person they will actually end up dating which is what most people are curious about.
thebaroness
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I agree with you, but the problem is I can't post picture of anyone I've actually dated and/or found attractive without compromising their privacy. I don't feel right posting their personal facebook photos on a public forum without their knowledge.
Kitsunebaby
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Is this gonna turn into a hot men thread?
And for the record, I had the biggest crush on Jackie Chan when I was younger, and it wasn't because of his face. Charisma is so much more important than appearance when it come to attraction.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Most everyday people are pretty decent looking.
CountAntonius
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Yeah I understand that. I think that's why I gravitate towards the pics of yourself thread. I find the real world attraction more interesting.
FallingEdge
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A damn shame.
I'd post pics of what I would like to achieve physically and want to look like/emulate but they would all be wrestlers >_<
thebaroness
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For me it was how he moved. He was fast as lightning, but also graceful. And, he always seemed so happy in his movies, made me really like him.
Devolution
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Jet Li was cool too and yet they never let him get any play with American women =/.
thebaroness
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How about Jim from the office?
Yes, I know John Krasinski is an actor but I've always considered him to be pretty average Joe looking and that's what I find appealing about him. He also looks very similar to someone I've been involved with.
Kitsunebaby
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But our attraction to actors is the perfect example of what women in this thread are trying to explain. Charisma and confidence (which many actors ooze) is what attracts us most over their appearance. There's plenty of less than attractive actors that are incredibly sexy because of how they portray themselves.
HollovVpo1nt
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Self confidence is not tied to presentation. What I'm saying is that from my experience average looking people with lots of initial self confidence are put aside for an attractive guy at a bar, doing nothing bit sitting. You can have all the confidence you want when you walk up to a woman but you'll receive no interest what so ever if you don't look like Brad Pitt.
By the way, It's nice that I'm the supposed dumbass here but I'm certain you people talk about stuff you wouldn't do. I'm talking about how I've experienced most women I've met. It's really nice of you people to give the confident guy a chance, but the girls I've met expect a photomodel to show interest in them.
This is entirely false.
CountAntonius
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Yea but then men just see "oh so you want fame and money!" When they ask you what you are attracted to they just wanna here you say "I am attracted to you." And if you don't they will look for some way to fault your taste.
Devolution
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Here's your problem. Bars are hook up establishments. Hope I cleared that up for you.
Vermillion
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I just realized that a lot of what's being talked about in DA and here is about dating someone (duh, but wait). See, that's where charisma comes in handy the most.
But at bars or parties, you naturally don't have as much time to make a case, and many people are looking to dance, fuck or be left alone. Looks help make a case that much faster. That's why so many of the examples here are about dating, rather than seeing a less attractive guy going home with an attractive girl he met same night.
...T's all I got.
EDIT: Send the check to the P.O. box.
EDIT 2: For the record, I started typing this far before hollow's post, but stopped to talk to a friend.
But at bars or parties, you naturally don't have as much time to make a case, and many people are looking to dance, fuck or be left alone. Looks help make a case that much faster. That's why so many of the examples here are about dating, rather than seeing a less attractive guy going home with an attractive girl he met same night.
...T's all I got.
EDIT: Send the check to the P.O. box.
EDIT 2: For the record, I started typing this far before hollow's post, but stopped to talk to a friend.
Kitsunebaby
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In an initial encounter where neither party has spent any meaningful amount of time around each other, looks is all you have to go by.
HollovVpo1nt
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Correction, not entirely tied to presentation.
Bars, clubs, school courtyard, univercity library, whatever.
Anywho, It's 2 am and I have to get up early. Don't dwell too much on my comments cause I have a hard time writing what I mean. So far I, not intentionally and not truthfully, described myself as a x/10 rating jersey shore douche who bases his view on women on the interaction in bars.
I shouldn't have said anything lol. But I had to. Women from my experience are shallow.
*hides*
Kitsunebaby
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Is it for a particular lady? What are her interests/hobbies?
Casual bar hook-ups aren't usually the best way to gauge how women will behave when evaluating someone for long term relationship potential.
If you're mostly looking for a casual hook-up, then well... not sure what to tell you there. I have no experience in that area.
Bars are hardly the same type of area as a university library. Either way, best way to meet someone is through social gatherings or activities and just talking with them and getting to know them. Not with an aim to "get numbers" or "go home" with someone, but to just have fun and socialize.
If you're mostly looking for a casual hook-up, then well... not sure what to tell you there. I have no experience in that area.
Bars are hardly the same type of area as a university library. Either way, best way to meet someone is through social gatherings or activities and just talking with them and getting to know them. Not with an aim to "get numbers" or "go home" with someone, but to just have fun and socialize.
Self-confidence is a huge part of presentation.
This is very strange. "Have self-confidence" does not mean "go hit on girls like the world is ending." In fact, it probably means the opposite. That guy who's hanging out at the bar allowing things to take a natural course is expressing a lot more confidence by doing so than you are by going up to them and trying to engage them out of the blue.
Girlfriend. Interests and hobbies include cute animals, books (fantasy/sci-fi/fiction stuff), beauty products. Some mild interest in anime, manga and games. She reads GAF but I'm hoping she doesn't read this thread since she's not a member.
The_Inquisitor
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Thanks. Been focusing on my triathlon training and got a new camera so going to focus on that and my job. The sad empty feeling kind of just hits me in waves.
What I don't get is after I was rejected in my plea to get back together she demanded 2 hugs, then kissed me on the cheek then on my lips. Jesus Christ, it was like a kiss of death lol.
thebaroness
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http://kawaiinot.bigcartel.com/ I like this webcomic a lot, and the artist has an assortment of cute and crude things
Something from there will probably go over well with her. The book is also a fantastic way to read all of it http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002YX0DZ8/?tag=neogaf0e-20FO-totality
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Kitsunebaby
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I often got my sister elaborate eye shadow palettes as a present due to her love of makeup. I adore books but if I want to read a particular one, I'd just buy it myself. Not sure how well it works as a gift.
I don't know if she's a foodie at all, but specialty food products or kitchen gadgets are my favorite things to receive (I actually put a mandoline slicer and a pressure cooker on my wishlist).
http://kawaiinot.bigcartel.com/ I like this webcomic a lot, and the artist has an assortment of cute and crude things
Ohhh, haha, that is pretty cute actually and something I think she'd enjoy, thanks for the suggestion.
Serious question, does appearing somewhat gay a turn-off? I care about how I dress and have a somewhat feminine body language so I am constantly mistaken to be gay. I don't really mind, but I'd recently begun thinking it might be a problem. Not because of any event in particular, but I have a general period of low self-esteem, I guess. So, should I work and developing more "masculine" features?
Vermillion
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Eh... I dunno what to say about this one except it probably keeps them from thinking of you in a sexual/romantic way. A friendquaintance of mine knows that feeling very well.
EDIT: Or they'll just assume the possibility isn't open, I guess.
Kitsunebaby
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Considering how many crushes I've had on gay men, I'd say no.
It never hurts to change your look up every now as psychologically it can help you start the process of building a new you, but don't try to change yourself too much to where you can come off as fake, that can be spotted a mile away.
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