Asking why they're asking seems like a good approach. Thankies.
Question 2: Are guys who are a bit chubby really as unattractive as they probably think they are to you because of it?
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Asking why they're asking seems like a good approach. Thankies.
Question 2: Are guys who are a bit chubby really as unattractive as they probably think they are to you because of it?
Devolution
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Shopping spree. I hate nails.
shanshan310
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Nah, I think in general girls care less about looks and more about personality. There's a reason that 'pretty lady, overweight husband' stereotype exists. I guess my only worry would be ease of having sex maybe?
I'd probably take 1 because I don't really know how to do makeup well and could probably use some professional advice. Also its a really nice feeling to get your hair cut and stuff, it feels like being a new person. I have enough clothes anyway.
n64coder
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I think only ladies over 50/60 wear them. My wife/daughter never wears them. The only person I ever see using them is my mother-in-law.
AlucarD.eq
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Interesting. I've always had it in the back of my mind that girls cared more about body than face in terms of looks. Not sure what put it there, but it's always been there. Maybe I'll stop being self-conscious now and never ask for a second opinion just in case I get a different answer.
This thread is kind of weird. Might come here often for the sake of knowledge.
I'd sing it myself, if I were you. Seems much more personal that way. And keep it in Spanish! It's a sexy language, and I think she'll have fun translating the songs.
It really depends on the girl. While Shan is right that a lot of women put more priority on personality over looks, there's still a lot of them out there that do the opposite. And everyone is going to give you a different answer. Personally, face is more important in terms of looks.
FO-totality
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Best condoms? Or does it really not matter all that much?
Devolution
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Hate 'em. Condoms that is.
FO-totality
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Right, but necessary evil and all that.
SquiddyCracker
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You're going to find that condom preference is a pretty individual thing.
Some ladies prefer textured ones, some don't, some hate latex, some love it.
Flipping a coin is as good as thing to base your choice on until you ask your partner.
shanshan310
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None!
I suppose the flavoured ones taste pretty good, which is fun during foreplay. Haven't used any in years though.
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
I have always wondered how some guys are able to find a perfect balance between being masculine, and being a complete douche. I don't know if that is a question, it just seems like the majority of guys I knew that couldn't get dates had very feminine personalities.
If that doesn't sound like something that can be answered, no problem. Input would be appreciated though.
If that doesn't sound like something that can be answered, no problem. Input would be appreciated though.
shanshan310
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I think if you make your primary purpose of going to a bar "finding a woman" it'll be taken as creepy. If your primary purpose is to have fun, then probably not. It really depends on where you go though. The bars I visit are more hang out with friends places, but clubs are fine.
cloudwalking
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Not sure I fully understand what you mean, could you clarify? It sounds like you're saying that if a man tends to act more masculine that he'll obviously have some douchey traits too. I don't think that masculinity and douchiness need to go hand-in-hand...
If you do and anyone asks about it, just say that you're out making new friends.
SquiddyCracker
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Cloud got the "douchiness=/=hyper masculinity" bit (though if you are strongly masculine you probably are one), but in today's modern world masculinity is not as important as it used to be.
I'd say that an even mix of stereotypical "masculine" and "feminine" characterastics is the best way to go if you wish to be desirable by a large part of the population in many western countries.
With that said, this won't at all work in nations where "macho"-culture is still at large (loads of places in south europe, south america, parts of the US, middle-east, and I dunno where else).
But no, being more stereotypically feminine than masculine probably does not go well with a majority of ladies still - but we are getting there.
Zoe
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No, I'd say it's definitely more typical for women to care more about the face.
shanshan310
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A man who smells good is definitely a pull factor. Colognes are great but guys who actually smell good are even better.
HollovVpo1nt
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Ladygaf I have a little.. insecurity regarding something.
About 6/7 months ago, my nephew introduced me to this girl he sometimes hangs out with and plays poker with. We met during a poker match, sweet girl. It kind of clicked. I used to play 'squash' multiple times a week with my nephew, and little did I know that she plays sometimes too. We ran into her and she said 'last night was really fun, bummer you couldn't make it!', I was like wut, and then she said 'yeah your nephew told me you had homework to do', I looked at him and said.. yeah.. I had :/ Dunno know why he felt threatened, he's a tall, handsome a pretty muscular guy. Anywho, that's why I don't trust him with anything regarding females.
So she travels a lot and she was away for about 4 months. When she was away, she had a car accident and injured her back.
I ran into her yesterday in the gym. Completely took me by surprise. I didn't realise she was back, apparantly she was back for quite a while.. Here's was eating my mind. I wonder why she didn't call me.. we were pretty close before she went away. Now I'm wondering if I should call her and meet up, like to know what she has been up while she was away.
My logic tells me that she didn't call because she didn't care enough. My gut tells me I should call her, I like her.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I'll make a complete ass out of myself if I contact her.
About 6/7 months ago, my nephew introduced me to this girl he sometimes hangs out with and plays poker with. We met during a poker match, sweet girl. It kind of clicked. I used to play 'squash' multiple times a week with my nephew, and little did I know that she plays sometimes too. We ran into her and she said 'last night was really fun, bummer you couldn't make it!', I was like wut, and then she said 'yeah your nephew told me you had homework to do', I looked at him and said.. yeah.. I had :/ Dunno know why he felt threatened, he's a tall, handsome a pretty muscular guy. Anywho, that's why I don't trust him with anything regarding females.
So she travels a lot and she was away for about 4 months. When she was away, she had a car accident and injured her back.
I ran into her yesterday in the gym. Completely took me by surprise. I didn't realise she was back, apparantly she was back for quite a while.. Here's was eating my mind. I wonder why she didn't call me.. we were pretty close before she went away. Now I'm wondering if I should call her and meet up, like to know what she has been up while she was away.
My logic tells me that she didn't call because she didn't care enough. My gut tells me I should call her, I like her.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I'll make a complete ass out of myself if I contact her.
Call her. And your nephew is a jerk.
Devolution
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A lot of cologne just smells like it's trying to mask BO. Best to just smell fresh.
HollovVpo1nt
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I want to, but it the question why she didn't even text me when she got back or during the period she was back is really eating me. I don't want to make myself look like an idiot and I don't want to persue what's probably nothing.
BladeWorker
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I'm a little confused at the prospect that you and your nephew could be going after the same girl. Do you have a sibling that's significantly older than you are, who had children really, really young?
ANYWAY, it sounds like around the time of your meeting over squash your nephew was into her. Since he met her first, it's understandable he doesn't want you honing in on what he sees as his turf. Clear the air with him first.
Assuming a green light on that account, call her to say hi and inquire if she'd like to catch up over coffee. You obviously weren't as close as you thought you were if she encounters serious injury and you don't know about it. So, if you want to pursue anything, you're starting from square one.
At which point, if she says no, move on - the timing was off, she has a boyfriend, she's not interested, take whatever reason you like.
HollovVpo1nt
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I decided to let it go and do nothing. This all started when I was wondering why she didn't let me know she was back in town, but I realised that she had no reason to. I met her a couple of times, played some squash, some poker and she just could have been friendly like she always is. So I asked myself, why should she call? You're right, it's basically square 1 and I don't have what it takes to advance.
And I'm not going to consult with anyone I know personally. Especially my nephew. Dude can be a deceiving snake.
Thnx for the advice though. I might give her a visit and some flowers, seeing as she had an accident and all. You know, formality. After that, I'm backing off and continue beeing me.
LadyGAF, Please advise! I met a girl at my mutual friends' Christmas party last year. Since then we've been out on half a dozen day trips together and I've been 'round to her place for dinner once. I'm not the most forthcoming person with my feelings, so maybe I haven't showed I was interested in her that much, but I couldn't read her either, so I never made any kind of "move." I may have missed an opportunity a couple of weeks ago when she asked me if I wanted Valentine's Day chocolates... twice... but as we're in Japan I assumed she might have meant "tomo-choko (friend chocolate)," although she isn't Japanese.
I left a Valentine's Day gift on her door (some small UFO catcher plushes I won, chocolates and a mix CD... too much?), but haven't heard back from her. Should I confront her, ask her if she's like to go out (like nothing happened) or never talk to her again for the rest of my life?
I left a Valentine's Day gift on her door (some small UFO catcher plushes I won, chocolates and a mix CD... too much?), but haven't heard back from her. Should I confront her, ask her if she's like to go out (like nothing happened) or never talk to her again for the rest of my life?
Woody Invincible
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...Maybe a bit much brah
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