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GAF, I'm 100% sure I'm getting friendzoned on Monday
- Thread starter Kopite
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Jedeye Sniv
Banned
ITT we learn that liking Taylor Swift is not an attractive quality, nor is using her lyrics to describe how you feel.
Sorry OP. you'll get there eventually.
Might get one done soon but not after a few hours of GTA V though.
I was desperate and not thinking straightCut me some slack here mate...
The only way you can redeem yourself is by sending her a picture of your rock hard cock and putting "You belong with me" as the caption underneath.
Don't be friends OP. It is a destructive relationship and will prevent you from moving on to a person who might actually like you and date.
It is never a good idea to be friends with someone you are infatuated with. You will waste your time thinking about what-if and I only need more time. Meanwhile all kinds of other opportunities will pass you by and you won't even notice as you wallow in your own self-pity and drama.
You don't have to be mean, and you don't have avoid her. Just stop being the first one to initiate texts, hanging out, etc. Let her do the work if she wants to be your friend. (But even this is dangerous as some girls like to keep a few hopeless puppy dogs following them around hoping she will date them.)
It is never a good idea to be friends with someone you are infatuated with. You will waste your time thinking about what-if and I only need more time. Meanwhile all kinds of other opportunities will pass you by and you won't even notice as you wallow in your own self-pity and drama.
You don't have to be mean, and you don't have avoid her. Just stop being the first one to initiate texts, hanging out, etc. Let her do the work if she wants to be your friend. (But even this is dangerous as some girls like to keep a few hopeless puppy dogs following them around hoping she will date them.)
Ya dude... I'm starting to think is this a cultural thing? I know the dating landscape here in the US is vastly different than when I was living in the Philippines. That thread about the girl pouring water on the guy after he made a heart with candles and shit made me question this even more.
Mr. B Natural
Member
"...because we shared plenty of the same interests(games)..."
Alright, I stopped reading after this because that is tragic enough.
Alright, I stopped reading after this because that is tragic enough.
OP don't listen to all the guys calling you a loser, we've all been there. We've all been "friend-zoned" in our lives and done really stupid things. Hell I've even had "the talk" in a library as well, guess cause its quiet and less likely to cause a scene with crying and stuff, although I remember my perfect girl and I was nearly brought to tears. Same exact situation with her telling me why we'd never be together and me not getting it. Sigh, stay strong buddy.
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.
OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
This post man, this post.
roflroflROFL
Darkmakaimura
Can You Imagine What SureAI Is Going To Do With Garfield?
I don't think he's a loser and I don't think anyone is calling him a loser. He just went beyond what he should have done despite the overwhelming amount of advice telling him to steer clear. OP is very young so he has plenty of opportunities. Lesson learned, I suppose.
MemoryHumanity
Member
Kopite said:OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
So much "wow" on this one. I'm speechless, well I'm not but I don't want to kick a guy when he's down. But this is really mind blowing.Well I'm really not a troll and just went into fuck it mode. I guess I was also being a complete jerk then.
Anyway this was the rest of the Notepad convo after then, I'm obviously still in fuck it mode. Forgive the slang ,formatting and jokes that you're not gonna get.
Me: Sorry.
Her: For what ?
Me: Everything.
Her:Seriously. Stop saying sorry. just take some time to recover
Me:I've only said it oncebut seriously I went into this with no consideration of how you feel and only cared about
my own feelings and I kinda feel like a jerk now for the position I've put you in.
Her: Nah... Don't know how else to say it without sounding wrong but I didn't feel anything awkward or guilty or whatever you think
I am feeling
Me: Well that's good to hear. X must be feeling kinda awkward though, but I guess it's worth it to see him shut up for once
and not kinda grope you when he's around you.
Her: I will ask him to tone down next time.
Me: No, don't. Don't do that. Don't dictate your relationship with me in consideration. I don't wan't to be that person.
Like I said, maybe I just need some time off...and the mid sem break should help that. For what it's worth I had a lot fun today,
sneaking out of the coffee shop after being trolled, looking for chatime and u heading towards the stairs and me the escalator,
Parkinsons LOLOLOL.
I guess what I want to say is that as long as you're happy I'm happy for you. He's a really lucky guy.
Sucks that it couldn't work out between us, but hey "It's better to have loved and lost then not have loved at all right?"
I hope so anyway and I don't want our friendship to be affected by this.I initially was going to keep a far distance because I
don't believe I'll ever stop loving u if we're constantly together, but today made me realise that I value being your friend more.
So maybe I have to add another one to the "Ones who got away" list, but I'm pretty happy you'll be on my FB chat list and to
have someone tell me what she said.
Her: Hehehe. Okay. Sorry to say this but I put you into the friendzone. Friendzone meme. ._. What ever your friends/people say in Nat geo,
I would be happy to still be friends and I hope this does not affect it in anyway. I can't write as long as you did but I'm
glad that we manage to pull it through. Just that you may not see it in the current moment but this just needs time. '
Me:Yes, and it's NeoGAF, NatGeo is the one with the animalsLength means nothing(that sounded wrong as usual). So how do you suggest we get out of this current situation here in the library?
Maybe we gotta do some actual work?
Her:Yeah. Hunt down Way. L0L We need to find a Way to get out of this
Way's a friend who helps us with work.
cramoss
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Trojita
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In all honesty the Taylor Swift comment was like Mjolnir, Hammer of the god Thor, striking down any possibility of OP getting with her. But it wasn't the worst thing that he said. All of it is horrible.
You NEVER mention "this might be creepy". If it sounds creepy it probably is as well so keep your mouth shut.
When she replies to your "take time off" discussion, she effectively ko'd you when she mentioned "Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her". That means she doesn't possibly see being with you in the future.
The "Could u clone yourself" line is one of the most pathetic things I've read.
Then Taylor Swift happened and it was all over.
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.
OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
You NEVER mention "this might be creepy". If it sounds creepy it probably is as well so keep your mouth shut.
When she replies to your "take time off" discussion, she effectively ko'd you when she mentioned "Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her". That means she doesn't possibly see being with you in the future.
The "Could u clone yourself" line is one of the most pathetic things I've read.
Then Taylor Swift happened and it was all over.
Not Spaceghost
Spaceghost
Oh hey it's monday I wonder how this turned out-
Oh dear
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.
OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
Oh dear
Attack of the Waifus
PlayALLtheGames
Banned
You sound like a really nice guy and I wish the best for you in this situation, but I have to stress the following:
When you tell a chick you have feelings for her, which, by the way, i think it s a poor move unless you've been out a few times (on real dates), and you guys don't make out or even set up a date at that time, then the feelings are clearly not mutual.
I don't know why guys choose to profess their love to someone instead of just asking them to go on a date. If the girl says no, then you can save yourself a lot of effort. Plus, getting rejected for a date is nowhere near as bad as getting rejected after gushing to her about your feelings. AND there's a much higher chance you can stay friends without awkwardness if you just ask her on a date and get rejected.
Maninthemirror
Banned
This is legendary. Well done OP. You have etched yourself in GAF legacy forever
ViewtifulJC
Banned
My goodness, the implosion OP went through is of biblical proportions
I wish I could have been there when you asked her to clone herself, I mean holy black baby Jesus...
I wish I could have been there when you asked her to clone herself, I mean holy black baby Jesus...
moltonasty
Member
LMFAO. Oh wow. At first I thought this HAD to be a troll. But it seems like this actually happened.
OP, I've had my share of awkward moments with girls, but this kinda trumps anything I can think of. Please, let this be a learning experience for you, and PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, LISTEN TO GAF'S ADVICE NEXT TIME. GAF KNOWS BEST.
But seriously OP, thank you for sharing this disastrous occasion with us, it actually boosted up my self confidence by about 1295175185 %.
OP, I've had my share of awkward moments with girls, but this kinda trumps anything I can think of. Please, let this be a learning experience for you, and PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, LISTEN TO GAF'S ADVICE NEXT TIME. GAF KNOWS BEST.
But seriously OP, thank you for sharing this disastrous occasion with us, it actually boosted up my self confidence by about 1295175185 %.
MemoryHumanity
Member
Kopite SAID THIS TO AN ACTUAL HUMAN FEMALE said:
I was desperate and not thinking straight
Don't worry about it, we all mess up sometimes.
BTW, love the avatar change
ViewtifulJC
Banned
This thread has enriched my life. No matter how many rejections I face, how many nosedives, how many things just don't work out, I know that it will simply NEVER bottom out in this fashion. Holy shit.
Thank you, OP
Thank you, OP
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
Oh lordy...
Maninthemirror
Banned
Think of this as real. This way even with your worst rejection you will remember OP's story and say , it came out good for me
EscoBlades
Ubisoft Marketing
Damn OP, you were close too. A girl's Touch Barrier has about 1300 organic hitpoints. Every touch to her hand takes away about 10 hitpoints, but touching her knee takes out a chunkier good 50 hitpoints. A lot of knee touches over the course of a month would've meant you breaking that Touch Barrier and reaching the final phase of the encounter.
Now, because Life is a Free-2-Play experience, the playing field isn't always fair. You can work out at the gym at least four days a week to gain an Attraction Booster to double your Touch effectiveness (that means every knee caress takes 100hp off that Touch Barrier instead of 50!).
Once her Touch Barrier is down, then you've earned the right to capture her for your own romantic purposes. Just toss a Date Ball at her and she'll have to say yes.
10/10 would quote again
ComputerMKII
Banned
This, word for word.
If nothing else, I've at least learned about the mystical 'touch barrier', and how breaking it (as well as keeping track of how many times and in which ways it's been broken) is the key to forming a lasting relationship.
ConradCervantes
Banned
Kopite
You Belong With Me
Today, 12:50 PM
With YouTube link to the video, or this thread. Make it so, mods.
You Belong With Me
Today, 12:50 PM
With YouTube link to the video, or this thread. Make it so, mods.
Lol. That basically means "I just want to bang someone that looks like you".
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.
OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
Holy shit.
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.
OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do
Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...
Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
OP: Could u clone yourself?
Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean
I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.
OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore...
Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.
Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
Wait WHAT? why
OP I feel for you. I've been in a situation like this before, complete with bullshit things I/you said. Was only 17 then.
After it was over, I was WRECKED, and the girl pretty much went on scott free happy with life. I had pretty great friends (who still are to this day) to distract me from this horrible time.
Took me over half a year to get over it, had important exams to worry about at this time as well. Anyway all I can say is you will get over it over time, and you will meet so many other people, and you will find the one you're meant to be with where you don't have to say crap like this or justify feelings to know that you both are meant for each other.
But you really, really got to say fuck it and move on right now. I took some time to do that, and it's the biggest mistake ever. DO NOT put your life "on hold" for nothing and for someone who really probably doesn't give 2 shits about you!
After it was over, I was WRECKED, and the girl pretty much went on scott free happy with life. I had pretty great friends (who still are to this day) to distract me from this horrible time.
Took me over half a year to get over it, had important exams to worry about at this time as well. Anyway all I can say is you will get over it over time, and you will meet so many other people, and you will find the one you're meant to be with where you don't have to say crap like this or justify feelings to know that you both are meant for each other.
But you really, really got to say fuck it and move on right now. I took some time to do that, and it's the biggest mistake ever. DO NOT put your life "on hold" for nothing and for someone who really probably doesn't give 2 shits about you!
peaceiscloser
Member
lastflowers
Banned
Coming into this thread now was amazing.
Gunstarheroes
Member
I'm firmly in the camp of "We've all done stupid stuff for a person we wanted to be with or impress before" but man, that was rough.
However, it does seem like most of what happened was in the "heat of the moment", so to speak. Hopefully, as it does seem, you are taking some time away and thinking about the relationship with her and how you went about anything, and learned from if. If you do, hopefully a while from now, when you do end up with someone that you really care about, and you didn't fuck up because of this event here, you can laugh and smile.
However, it does seem like most of what happened was in the "heat of the moment", so to speak. Hopefully, as it does seem, you are taking some time away and thinking about the relationship with her and how you went about anything, and learned from if. If you do, hopefully a while from now, when you do end up with someone that you really care about, and you didn't fuck up because of this event here, you can laugh and smile.
NeOak
Member
Now with GDR3
SlipperySlope
Banned
I'm going to guess that her and the guy were making out while he was on his phone posting the update.
OP - sorry it had to end this way, but this is what happens when you can't let go. We all crash and burn with our first crushes. Some more-so than others.
I have two pieces of advice:
1) NEVER talk to her again. Ever. EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In six months you'll probably even forget her name.
2) Learn from your mistakes. Everybody in this thread already told you probably 95% of your mistakes, so just re-read the thread. Learn.
Oh, and secret #3) Man the fuck up in the future. Never delay telling a girl you want to go on a date with her. Never ever ever. You think too much. "Well what if she says no?" Who the fuck cares! Just move on to the next girl.
If you do these two things you will be more successful in your future attempts at a relationship.
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