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[Measley]

OP, if you're a guy who likes sucking dicks, and fantasizes about sucking dicks, you really shouldn't consider yourself a straight man. You'll be doing a disservice to women you are dating, because they can't give you what you want.

 

[pokeystaples]

This thread took a turn in the time it took me to do some work. Geez.

So, I too like giving BJ's, but not to dudes. I know it sounds odd, but deep throating my girlfriend's strap has driven me to orgasm on more than one occasion. I experimented with dudes in high school and sucked my fair share of dicks when I was younger, but never had an orgasm from it. Maybe it was the person OP was blowing? Maybe the act of submitting? Either way, congrats for learning how awesome it is to give a hummer.

 

[marrec]

The reason we don't have sexual preference labeled fetishes is because in most places when they hear "My fetish is to suck other mens dicks" its already implied that that person is gay, and it's an unnecessary additional label.

The only reason I'm using it here is because for some reason you have trouble understanding that getting sexual arousal from giving oral pleasure to another man is practically the definition of gay.

That's YOUR definition of gay.

Also, you're saying giving oral pleasure to another man.

That's not what I'm describing. I'm saying sucking dick, you're applying the labels 'pleasure' and 'man'.

 

[DUFFMCWALIN]

So you've been with a lot of girls?

Ya, not bragging but I've been with enough to form an opinion on the bjs I've recieved. I would say no more than 25% were pleasurable.

edit: Wow didn't think that many people would quote that post. Yes not wanting to be labeled as a slut and lack of experience definitely play into it. Its just a shame because I'm so proactive and going down and really try at it that I can't get the same thing back very often.

 

[IsntChrisL]

Why don't you try it and find out?

Because I have no interest in sucking a dick.

 

[MilesWebber]

^^ Then how can you comment on what it's like?

OP, if you're a guy who likes sucking dicks, and fantasizes about sucking dicks, you really shouldn't consider yourself a straight man. You'll be doing a disservice to women you are dating, because they can't give you what you want.

Wrong.

 

[flippedb]

OP, if you're a guy who likes sucking dicks, and fantasizes about sucking dicks, you really shouldn't consider yourself a straight man. You'll be doing a disservice to women you are dating, because they can't give you what you want.

What if the only thing he likes, is the dick? Not the balls, beards or hairy chests, just plain dick love?

 

[jred2k]

Buck Angel. Google Him Edit: Not at work LOL Thanks Omegasquash

I'll just tell everyone I was playing Cumber Jacks.

 

[Arde5643]

Man, now I'm salty I never got good BJs....

 

[Zen_Arcade]

That's YOUR definition of gay.

And the dictionary, and anyone else who knows what they're talking about. Being attracted to men is main trait of gay men.

Only men have dicks, so I don't have to qualify it. And it doesn't matter if the partner is pleasured. If you, as a man, have a fetish to suck a penis, which are exclusive to men, then your fetish is a gay act.

 

[MilesWebber]

I'll just tell everyone I was playing Cumber Jacks.

It won't work, I promise.

 

[rooflapimp]

That's YOUR definition of gay.

Also, you're saying giving oral pleasure to another man.

That's not what I'm describing. I'm saying sucking dick, you're applying the labels 'pleasure' and 'man'.

So are we free to define words however we please now? How about a man that enjoys having anal sex with other men? Can he be straight?

 

[Omegasquash]

OP, if you're a guy who likes sucking dicks, and fantasizes about sucking dicks, you really shouldn't consider yourself a straight man. You'll be doing a disservice to women you are dating, because they can't give you what you want.

By this logic, any woman that likes using a vibrator is doing a disservice to her man because a man can't achieve whatever number of vibrations per second a battery can hit. And he can consider himself whatever he wants. And he can even say "hey babe, I like to blow a dude every now and then...you want in?"

Stop and think before you tell someone what they should consider their sexuality to be. It's deeply personal to everyone.

 

[Measley]

^^ Then how can you comment on what it's like?

Wrong.

Isn't performing a sexual act with someone of the same sex sort of the antithesis of heterosexuality?

By this logic, any woman that likes using a vibrator is doing a disservice to her man because a man can't achieve whatever number of vibrations per second a battery can hit. And he can consider himself whatever he wants. And he can even say "hey babe, I like to blow a dude every now and then...you want in?"

Stop and think before you tell someone what they should consider their sexuality to be. It's deeply personal to everyone.

A man can get a woman to orgasm. Even if they can't match the vibrations of a vibrator.

Women don't have dicks.

 

[ArjanN]

EDIT: Also, it didn't reach "that point", I stopped it and asked him to leave.

Clearly you are history's greatest monster.

 

[IsntChrisL]

^^ Then how can you comment on what it's like?

I'm not. You are. I'm saying your description of the experience it is not exclusive to giving a BJ.

 

[MilesWebber]

^^Okay sure. I guess what I'm saying is there are a lot of different needs fulfilled with that single act I don't know of another activity that feels that way.

Isn't performing a sexual act with someone of the same sex sort of the antithesis of heterosexuality?

Maybe in the bible.

 

[Juliet's 8½ Spirits]

It happened to me two years ago. I was feeling extremely depressed and lonely due to various personal issues (recovering from a suicide attempt, graduating college soon without a plan and having to move back home), got really drunk, and gave this dude I knew a BJ.

I consider myself to be straight, you know I'm not above admitting other men are handsome and sometimes I like to tease just for fun, but I'm physically and sexually attracted to women though. However, I won't lie, giving the BJ was a fun and empowering experience that made me feel powerful and in control of a "relationship", not to mention for once someone desired me. The next day I felt pretty upset, since I was a bit miffed when I looked things over and sort of felt like the dude basically took advantage of me (he was sober, and FaceBook messaged me despite us not being friends and basically invited himself over, I wouldn't say it wasn't consensual, but it was sort of shady on his end), but during the actual act it felt great. I had a lot of fun just pretending I was in a porno and joking around with stupid lines I made up.

I've yet to ever do something like this again, and if I ever get a girlfriend it's certainly something I probably won't reveal right away (although I doubt it'd be that much of a deal-breaker, I mean I bet a lot of girls might find that sort of sexy), but I'm not gonna lie, I've often sort of fantasized about it in a very taboo way.

So yeah, I used to think BJs were sort of this unfair thing guys get their girlfriends into doing for their own pleasure, but now I can see why someone would willingly do it. It was pretty fun.

sure pal, sure

 

[Arde5643]

So are we free to define words however we please now? How about a man that enjoys having anal sex with other men? Can he be straight?

Would you consider a guy who enjoys getting pegged or strapped-on by his GF gay? Or a guy who enjoys being fucked by a pre-op transsexual MtF gay?

Again, "straight" has a lot of different meaning.

And if you never experienced orgams while getting your ass fingered/pegged/strapped, you haven't experienced actual orgasm yet.

 

[YoungHav]

This is such a troll thread lol.

 

[JDSN]

Man, now I'm salty I never got good BJs....

I cant be worse than the poor guy that the OP blue-balled, gay or not, the only thing that its clear is that he is the vilest monster ever.

 

[Omegasquash]

And if you never experienced orgams while getting your ass fingered/pegged/strapped, you haven't experienced actual orgasm yet.

Man, my wife went to a tupperware party and called to tell me that a man's G-Spot is his prostate. I let her know that I don't know what my comfort level would be with getting fingered, but she said she knows how to get to it from the outside.

Basically, I've been wondering about that for the past 24 hours.

 

[Measley]

Maybe in the bible.

More like the dictionary.

 

[Sai-kun]

So are we free to define words however we please now? How about a man that enjoys having anal sex with other men? Can he be straight?

"Men who have sex with men" as a term is a real thing. There's a couple (?) interesting studies on it and how it relates to homophobia and being on the 'down low' within certain cultures!

 

[rooflapimp]

Would you consider a guy who enjoys getting pegged or strapped-on by his GF gay? Or a guy who enjoys being fucked by a pre-op transsexual MtF gay?

Again, "straight" has a lot of different meaning.

And if you never experienced orgams while getting your ass fingered/pegged/strapped, you haven't experienced actual orgasm yet.

No, because in that case he is not getting fucked in the ass by a MAN.

Are you for fucking real??

 

[MilesWebber]

More like the dictionary.

More like the Dicktionary amirite?

 

[Measley]

More like the Dicktionary amirite?

I almost typed that too.

Goddamit....

 

[Watch Da Birdie]

I've never gave oral to a girl (or, truth be told, done anything past kissing one), nor received a blow-job, so I don't have that to compare. Who knows, when it actually happens I might realize I like it more than giving them.

Once I'm pretty sure I almost got a blow-job (on St. Patrick's day, a month after this occurred), me and this girl had been drinking and hanging out in my room doing pot, and she said "oh, Watch Da Birdie I haven't had cock in so long!", but I reassured her she'd find someone soon. And she did that night, and the two are still dating to this day.

One of the biggest regrets of my life.

 

[Omegasquash]

A man can get a woman to orgasm. Even if they can't match the vibrations of a vibrator.

Women don't have dicks.

Lots of them don't, actually. Additionally, the OP had nothing to do with an orgasm, nor did your previous post.

As to the women having dicks thing, there are some names you should google a little earlier on in this thread.

 

[Arde5643]

Man, my wife went to a tupperware party and called to tell me that a man's G-Spot is his prostate. I let her know that I don't know what my comfort level would be with getting fingered, but she said she knows how to get to it from the outside.

Basically, I've been wondering about that for the past 24 hours.

If you do it from the inside, be sure to lube up - lather that thing generously and enjoy it. Once lathered up enough, it doesn't matter whether or not you want to resist it, that thing is going in regardless.

Tell your wife to use latex glove or condom just for hygiene precaution.

Have fun with that. You will think you are cool with it and will start to openly boast about it online. Then after the fifth time of having your wife shove her index finger up your ass while sucking you off in the shower you will realize it ain't all that. You will be to proud to admit the mistake and from that day forward you will have to make awkward anal excuses; "Not today honey, I had messy shit this morning and my ass is raw from wiping"

This is pretty true too - I never enjoyed it without sufficient lathering and that's only if the ass is clean. Messy ass is quite nasty. lol

 

[MilesWebber]

I
Women don't have dicks.

You sure about that?

 

[joelseph]

Man, my wife went to a tupperware party and called to tell me that a man's G-Spot is his prostate. I let her know that I don't know what my comfort level would be with getting fingered, but she said she knows how to get to it from the outside.

Basically, I've been wondering about that for the past 24 hours.

Have fun with that. You will think you are cool with it and will start to openly boast about it online. Then after the fifth time of having your wife shove her index finger up your ass while sucking you off in the shower you will realize it ain't all that. You will be to proud to admit the mistake and from that day forward you will have to make awkward anal excuses; "Not today honey, I had messy shit this morning and my ass is raw from wiping"

 

[CaptainGyro]

Why do so many people want to label OP bisexual? I would definitely consider OP straight. Bisexual should be reserved only for people who (largely) find both sexes equally attractive, or the majority of population would be bisexual.

Well some sites about bisexuality seem to disagree with you:

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Myth # 4: "To be bisexual you have to love both genders equally."
Identifying as bisexual does not set a limit as to how attracted one must feel towards either gender. There is no defined cut off point at which one must cease to identify as bisexual and must identify as gay/lesbian or straight because of a shift in attractions. Most bisexuals do not f eel equally attracted to both genders on a sexual and emotional levels and experience shifts in attraction levels to either genders.* Some bisexuals are not attracted to a gender per se, but are instead attracted to the person's personality or various other attributes and take note of gender afterwards, if at all. In these cases gender does not really come into play.


link 2
Bisexuals don't have to be equally attracted to men and women.You don't have to be equally attracted to red-heads and brunettes to be attracted to both, and preferring lettuce to liver doesn't make you a vegetarian, so why do some people insist that "true" bisexuals are exactly and equally attracted to men and women?

link 3
Are bisexuals equally attracted to both men and women?
Some are, many are not. It all depends on the individual. Some bisexuals are more romantically attracted to men and more physically attracted to women. Some bisexuals are attracted to people who conform to mainstream gender norms; some are attracted specifically to people who defy those norms. For some bisexuals, gender is an important part of attraction. For other bisexuals, it is totally irrelevant if a person is male, female, intersex, or something else. Many bisexuals have very fixed patterns of attraction, while for others, the balance between heterosexual and homosexual attraction is fluid and changes over the years.
What unifies all these people and makes them all bisexual is the fact they have the capacity for romantic and/or sexual attraction to more than one sex or gender.

 

[besada]

Women don't have dicks.

Preoperative transgendered women do.

 

[Arde5643]

No, because in that case he is not getting fucked in the ass by a MAN.

Are you for fucking real??

Haha, all right. My bad, mate.

 

[Omegasquash]

You sure about that?

Let's be friends.

 

[MilesWebber]

Let's be friends.

Are you trying to get some dome? Cuz I'm down.

 

[Omegasquash]

Are you trying to get some dome? Cuz I'm down.

Slow down bro that would be totes GAY.

 

[Sai-kun]

Why do so many people want to label OP bisexual? I would definitely consider OP straight. Bisexual should be reserved only for people who (largely) find both sexes equally attractive, or the majority of population would be bisexual.

nah, bisexuality is as easy as finding both men and women attractive.

 

[MNC]

Ok, here's what I don't understand: why are so many people being sensitive that people are pointing out that OP might be bisexual? It's not like anyone is saying anything disparaging to the dude.

Agreed. This whole "You can't put a label on it!" bullshit has gone to the complete opposite side of the spectrum. It's just a word indicating one's preference to either male, female or both. Ce n'est pas une pipe and all that shit.

 

[marrec]

And the dictionary, and anyone else who knows what they're talking about. Being attracted to men is main trait of gay men.

Only men have dicks, so I don't have to qualify it. And it doesn't matter if the partner is pleasured. If you, as a man, have a fetish to suck a penis, which are exclusive to men, then your fetish is a gay act.

Now we're getting somewhere!

I have no problem defining it as a "gay act", but that doesn't make the dude sucking dick necessarily gay.

 

[JDSN]

Are you trying to get some dome? Cuz I'm down.

Isnt that the plan?

 

[MrToughPants]

Would you consider a guy who enjoys getting pegged or strapped-on by his GF gay? Or a guy who enjoys being fucked by a pre-op transsexual MtF gay?

Again, "straight" has a lot of different meaning.

And if you never experienced orgams while getting your ass fingered/pegged/strapped, you haven't experienced actual orgasm yet.

I masturbate while I take a dump, best of both worlds, dropping loads from both ends.

You haven't experienced actual orgasm until you've had a blumpkin.

 

[Omegasquash]

Agreed. This whole "You can't put a label on it!" bullshit has gone to the complete opposite side of the spectrum. It's just a word indicating one's preference to either male, female or both. Ce n'est pas une pipe and all that shit.

Well let's see...

If you identify as something like oh...I don't know...a nerd, yeah? And then you do something like play a game of football and discover that WOW it's fun, and then someone says "you're totally a jock, NOT a nerd" how would you feel? How would you feel if lots of people started saying it?

I masturbate while I take a dump, best of both worlds, dropping loads from both ends.

You haven't experienced actual orgasm until you've had a blumpkin.

That word...I'm at the office and not supposed to laugh like this...

 

[StickSoldier]

ooohhhh kayyyyyy

 

[Stet]

I self-identify as fucking bored.

 

[MilesWebber]

Well let's see...

If you identify as something like oh...I don't know...a nerd, yeah? And then you do something like play a game of football and discover that WOW it's fun, and then someone says "you're totally a jock, NOT a nerd" how would you feel? How would you feel if lots of people started saying it?



That word...I'm at the office and not supposed to laugh like this...

Stop making logical arguments!!!

 

[PhantomZone]

The crazy things you read on forums from time to time....

 

[Arde5643]

I masturbate while I take a dump, best of both worlds, dropping loads from both ends.

You haven't experienced actual orgasm until you've had a blumpkin.

I dunno, mate - the smell gets to me every time. Unless I can have no smelling shits, I ain't getting it up whenever I smell crap.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

Now we're getting somewhere!

I have no problem defining it as a "gay act", but that doesn't make the dude sucking dick necessarily gay.

If it's your fetish it does. There are definitely ways you can suck a dick and not be gay. But when you're doing a gay act because it arouses you, that's the point when it turns into you being gay. Because being gay means being aroused by people of the same sex and that's what the fetish revolves around.