Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
Pfff, it didn't work at all. I'll give her time though, she's probably taking the pictures right now.
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A Challenge for the Ladies.
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-jinx- said:Holy shit...I just figured it out! They DO know each other...
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NLB2 said:
Rejection is for those who extend beyond their limits. You should have been able to gauge her interest in you from the moment you and her first met. The dejection you now feel is due to an expectation that was not buoyed by any expression of interest on her part. I never feel as if I've been rejected, because every relationship of mine that's faltered has ended as such because of factors unrelated to her initial attraction to me. Rejection is for those who anticipate what never could be. Dust your shoulders off and look elsewhere, making sure it's a female that's interested in you.
Boogie said:F*ck that, that approach hasn't done sh*t for me.
:lol :lol
Ok, this is kinda hard to explain, but I'll try to detail what has worked for me lately.
First of all (and most importantly) The Mindsets you have to have in order to be a "challenge", and successful in general:
1. I am now almost completely Indifferent towards women. If you don't know the definition of that, look it up. Sometimes I even totally ignore women. Now don't take this to the extreme and be the loser guy who sits in the corner and doesn't talk to anybody and is "creepy".That's not the kind of Indifference I'm talking about. Basically, I am fine with whatever outcome happens, I am not needy, I don't have to have girls in my life to be happy. I don't try to get any woman's approval. Watch Brad Pitt in Ocean's Eleven (haven't seen the sequel, probably good in that too) for a perfect visual example of this.
2. When I am interacting with a woman, I have the belief that I can be "simple" and she will still be instantly attracted to me. Just today, at work, I delivered food to a pretty hot customer and all I said was "Hi, that will be $5.00" normal body language and eye contact, was only in there for 10 seconds. I comeback to the restaurant 5 minutes later and my co-worker hands me her phone number, she had called and asked about me right when I left. All because I had that belief in my head. Or maybe she looked down slightly and liked what she saw
Now, I only do Cocky and Funny and all the other fun stuff when I feel like doing it, not to impress anybody.3. Get some Standards and Qualify her. Don't let women get by just on looks. Be selective. If you like Sexually Adventurous women, communicate that. If you want Intelligence, communicate that. If you want a woman that can actually cook, let her know that's what you're looking for. Make her live up to you, don't ever qualify yourself, you are the Prize and the judge in the interaction(s).
Well, thanks for the analysis of rejection, however I was joking. I wan't really interested in her for anything more than a little play, besides, as I said earlier, I'd hooked up with her before, so its not like I misread her completely.XS+ said:
Oh, and the stuff about being able to gauge someones interest from the first moment you meat them may be true, but that doesn't mean you can't change their interest.
Cubsfan23 said:2. When I am interacting with a woman, I have the belief that I can be "simple" and she will still be instantly attracted to me. Just today, at work, I delivered food to a pretty hot customer and all I said was "Hi, that will be $5.00" normal body language and eye contact, was only in there for 10 seconds. I comeback to the restaurant 5 minutes later and my co-worker hands me her phone number, she had called and asked about me right when I left. All because I had that belief in my head. Or maybe she looked down slightly and liked what she saw
I hate you
Damn, I go to get food and cash in a check and this thread exploded with stuff. Sweet!
Thanks for the advice, I will start a thread search for "Cubsfan23" for extra stuff.
I wasn't really planning on being a full blown jerk or anything like that, nor was I planning on having other women flirt with me while I was with her. That's not my style. I was thinking more in terms of the confidence department, in that I want to convey the attitude of "Hey, get me while I'm here." kind of thing, rather than having her think I'm gonna be here forever. We both physically like each other and enjoy each other's company a great deal, we even get down and flirt and stuff like that. I just wanted to present myself with a little more confidance towards her, rather than a guy who will do whatever she desires.
Thanks for the tips everyone. Greatly appreciated.
I can see how the girls on here got a bit defensive, and they have had their experiences with these type of guys, but believe me, I wasn't planning on flirting with other girls while in her presence...that's just.......no.
Cubsfan23 said::lol :lol
Ok, this is kinda hard to explain, but I'll try to detail what has worked for me lately.
First of all (and most importantly) The Mindsets you have to have in order to be a "challenge", and successful in general:
1. I am now almost completely Indifferent towards women. If you don't know the definition of that, look it up. Sometimes I even totally ignore women. Now don't take this to the extreme and be the loser guy who sits in the corner and doesn't talk to anybody and is "creepy".That's not the kind of Indifference I'm talking about. Basically, I am fine with whatever outcome happens, I am not needy, I don't have to have girls in my life to be happy. I don't try to get any woman's approval. Watch Brad Pitt in Ocean's Eleven (haven't seen the sequel, probably good in that too) for a perfect visual example of this.
2. When I am interacting with a woman, I have the belief that I can be "simple" and she will still be instantly attracted to me. Just today, at work, I delivered food to a pretty hot customer and all I said was "Hi, that will be $5.00" normal body language and eye contact, was only in there for 10 seconds. I comeback to the restaurant 5 minutes later and my co-worker hands me her phone number, she had called and asked about me right when I left. All because I had that belief in my head. Or maybe she looked down slightly and liked what she saw
3. Get some Standards and Qualify her. Don't let women get by just on looks. Be selective. If you like Sexually Adventurous women, communicate that. If you want Intelligence, communicate that. If you want a woman that can actually cook, let her know that's what you're looking for. Make her live up to you, don't ever qualify yourself, you are the Prize and the judge in the interaction(s).
Thanks for the advice, I will start a thread search for "Cubsfan23" for extra stuff.
I wasn't really planning on being a full blown jerk or anything like that, nor was I planning on having other women flirt with me while I was with her. That's not my style. I was thinking more in terms of the confidence department, in that I want to convey the attitude of "Hey, get me while I'm here." kind of thing, rather than having her think I'm gonna be here forever. We both physically like each other and enjoy each other's company a great deal, we even get down and flirt and stuff like that. I just wanted to present myself with a little more confidance towards her, rather than a guy who will do whatever she desires.
Thanks for the tips everyone. Greatly appreciated.
I can see how the girls on here got a bit defensive, and they have had their experiences with these type of guys, but believe me, I wasn't planning on flirting with other girls while in her presence...that's just.......no.
Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
NLB2 said:
:lol Nice
Cubsfan23 said:2. When I am interacting with a woman, I have the belief that I can be "simple" and she will still be instantly attracted to me. Just today, at work, I delivered food to a pretty hot customer and all I said was "Hi, that will be $5.00" normal body language and eye contact, was only in there for 10 seconds. I comeback to the restaurant 5 minutes later and my co-worker hands me her phone number, she had called and asked about me right when I left. All because I had that belief in my head. Or maybe she looked down slightly and liked what she saw
Holy crap we need pics stat. Of you, not the chick. You must be hella hot.
:lol Freudian slip.Mama Smurf said:
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