After my divorce I have a dating dilemma.

Is this one of those threads where people complain about women only wanting the best of the best or one of the ones where people complain about gold diggers?
 
uh... take steps to move past it, work on yourself and then reevaluate your self worth. Depending of the type of guy u are, treat taking care of yourself as taking care of a stranger
 
Days like these... said:
Advice gaf?
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Anytime you feel the urge to attempt to date, simply spend 15 minutes on pornhub. Afterwards you will magically not need a woman for a while, how long depends on your personal libido of course.

Seriously though after divorce don't be in any hurry to get back out there. Spend time on your own figuring shit out.
 
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Just funnin'
 
i was told that 65% of young men 18-29 are single because women of that age group are dating older men like us.

good thing i dont listen to gaffers because i was about to file for divorce.

that said, if you are rich, you might be able to get cheerleaders like Bill Belichick.

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SlimySnake said:
i was told that 65% of young men 18-29 are single because women of that age group are dating older men like us.

good thing i dont listen to gaffers because i was about to file for divorce.

that said, if you are rich, you might be able to get cheerleaders like Bill Belichick.

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She will make you wear a Taylor swift shirt.
 
Don't lower your standards bud.

What if you are one of those random dirt poor not-hot types who pulls a rich hottie? It's worth a near guaranteed potential lifetime of loneliness to shoot your shot!
 
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Fortunately, there is a vibrant incel community where you can find like minded people and join fun community projects like review bombing games, or making alpha chad memes. Good luck on your new exciting journey.
 
SlimySnake said:
i was told that 65% of young men 18-29 are single because women of that age group are dating older men like us.

good thing i dont listen to gaffers because i was about to file for divorce.

that said, if you are rich, you might be able to get cheerleaders like Bill Belichick.

bill-belichick-jordan-hudson-tout-100724-3a710e6252c9491280382f5e65e5cb2b.jpg
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Her forehead is too big I'd just as soon date that old man
 
I went through a divorce last year, been doing very well using Facebook dating. Just got back from a wonderful 2nd date with a very cute computer programmer who is 7 years younger than me. I did do a bunch of therapy and started to exercise again dropping about 45lbs, maybe that helped a little too.
 
So in another words you are ugly, out of shape, etc? I think you might work on that instead of dating, but each on their own terms obviously
 
Thread doesn't really work without knowing the standards and those not reaching them.

If it's just purely not into whales then I get it, but the standards here could also be really extensive and restrictive, stopping you from meeting people.

As always with most my advice with these things, give up on internet and tinder dating, it's never gonna work, rather find a hobby, join a club, put yourself in social situations and meet someone that way.

Humans are social beings, staring at a screen and sending messages will never form that true connection.
 
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So in another words you are ugly, out of shape, etc? I think you might work on that instead of dating, but each on their own terms obviously
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I remember his pic he posted here a while ago, he's not even ugly dude, he got style.

Days remember a lot of people are superficial enough that only looks matter to them. Don't ask for too much, just find yourself a clueless girl you can walk around dressed as a shapeless trash bag like Kanye did.
 
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Toots said:
I remember his pic he posted here a while ago, he's not even ugly dude, he got style.

Days remember a lot of people are superficial enough that only looks matter to them. Don't ask for too much, just find yourself a clueless girl you can walk around dressed as a shapeless trash bag like Kanye did.
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I was just poking fun at the delivery of his message, I don't think that "standards" when it comes to appearance exists to that level, people are trying to push on the internet. Well if its anything to go by my history and my peers
 
Hit the gym. Become a muscle monster. Learn to appreciate art and fine things. Then you can love anyone that loves you.
 
StueyDuck said:
Thread doesn't really work without knowing the standards and those not reaching them.

If it's just purely not into whales then I get it, but the standards here could also be really extensive and restrictive, stopping you from meeting people.

As always with most my advice with these things, give up on internet and tinder dating, it's never gonna work, rather find a hobby, join a club, put yourself in social situations and meet someone that way.

Humans are social beings, staring at a screen and sending messages will never form that true connection.
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I don't use dating apps.
 
I have good news for you. That's a healthy realization to have. Figure out what you don't like about yourself and figure out what steps you need to take to change those things. Make those changes to yourself before you continue looking for a potential partner so you don't have to settle for less. This is not easy. It is, however, worth it.
 
Spend a year single. See how you like it. Focus on yourself. Workout. Pick up a new hobby. Read. Bingle Battlestar Galactica. You've always got good old Jackie if you need some release.
 
Even after a year of working out, going to therapy for cptsd, losing weight, getting a hair piece. I'd still be me and the problem would remain.
 
Pretty much every successful relationship I see these days is with women from abroad, just saying. I tried dating in the US for a while and it just went nowhere. Every college educated girl I met had the same cut and paste views, which I find weird as hell. So not only is it difficult to find a partner on a mental level, physically it's a problem too. So many people (men too, let's be real,) are overweight. I tried not being shallow about it and lowering my standards a bit, but honestly, the mentality to not take care of yourself also creeps into other aspects of a good relationship.

Best advice I can give is move around to areas where you believe you'll have a more compatible dating pool. Also take up more social activities or hobbies. It's 100% easier to talk to people when you know you already have something in common
 
Days like these... said:
I don't know that I'm an incel. I dont even own a fedora. Does a Panama hat count? If so I'm in!
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Panama hat definitely counts.

I think you should spend all your limited energy and the time you have left on this earth to follow your passions. Figure out what you never had time to do before and make it happen. Take that trip, take a risk, do some psychedelics and reconnect with yourself, do something that's just to fulfill your own self. You might even attract some ladies with all of the confidence of self fulfillment, just don't let them suck the life out of you.
 
You say you have standards....but what it sounds like you actually have, is a self-esteem problem.

Make a dating profile that's just brutally honest about who you are and what you're looking for, and then just worry about yourself until something comes along that works. Online dating means you can be as picky as you want. It just comes down to how long you're willing to wait, or what you consider to be "disqualifying" as a candidate.

There's all types of folks together with all types of folks.

After my divorce I went full on hoe-mode when I was 30 and had like 20 partners in a year...and this was after being monogamous with one person since I was 15 up to this point. You've gotta figure out you before you seriously considering trying to find your you+1 for the best chance of things working out.
 
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