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I dont know what it is, but i have a problem here. Things go on way too long. Its starting to really bother me, as i think something may be wrong with me. I cannot for the love of all that is holy reach climax during sex or oral sex. I dont know what it is, but after tonight it has the girl worried shes not turning me on, and me worried that ill be known as the guy where sex doesnt do it for him.

Ive tried viagra to see if anything changes, but its the same story. I suppose women wouldnt complain if u go on for ages but when you cannot get there everyone starts to worry.

Am i walking this path alone?
 
Can you get off masturbating? Try your none regular hand.

If worst comes to worst, you might need to be stimulated through the prostate.
 
When your girl is doing ya, try to imagine the hottest celeb you can think of, and see if that happens, or it just could be that your sex life with this girl is so dull that nothing is turning you on anymore. Try some new things. Try some exciting shit, doing it in public, or role play, or some weird shit like that. Spice it up a little.

See if she wants a Menoge au Trois (sp?), if she says yes, find the hottest girl you know and see if she will do it with you guys.
 
Zaptruder said:
Can you get off masturbating? Try your none regular hand.

If worst comes to worst, you might need to be stimulated through the prostate.
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I can get off by myself, thats the weird thing...

aparisi2274 said:
When your girl is doing ya, try to imagine the hottest celeb you can think of, and see if that happens, or it just could be that your sex life with this girl is so dull that nothing is turning you on anymore. Try some new things. Try some exciting shit, doing it in public, or role play, or some weird shit like that. Spice it up a little.
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Heh, the thing is we've only just started out.. and the girl is very attractive.
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Kabuki Waq said:
Mr Gump said:
I can get off by myself, thats the weird thing...




is she ummm....err what i mean to say is..... do you hear an echo down there?
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Not any more so than any other girl ive been with, so i cant really compare there.

But even so, oral sex isnt hitting the spot either..
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Mr Gump said:
Am i walking this path alone?
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Nah, I've had several periods where I could seemingly go on forever. I'm not even sure why it happens, but it's not permanent for me, so I don't worry too much about it. I can even take some perverse satisfaction in the reversal of traditional roles -- my girlfriend finishing, frustrated that I didn't, and me being able to say: "it's ok, I don't mind" :P

I'm sure it has to do with either boredom or something else in your life bothering you.
 
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Whats wrong with me here?!
 
i have the same problem too...i cant climax regularly; but masturbating will take me a min of 2 mins to cum.

Usually when I do climax I ask my girl to take it in the face. dunno why but thats the only way ill get off.

I think im a dominatrix =X

and im with bacon..i find oral sex boring for me and usually just use it as foreplay. I was never able to cum with just a blow job.
 
Heh, the thing is we've only just started out.. and the girl is very attractive.
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This is the reason, you'll adjust to her over time. This happened to me with an ex and my fiance (took about an hour to reach orgasm), it takes a month or so and there shouldn't be a problem.
 
i think its the fact that im the one to initiate sex. With all my girlfriends pretty much its been just me starting it and then getting them off - I think the couple (literally once or twice) my girlfriends have started off really horny I just went buck. Horny girlfriends really get me off - but my problem is they always want me to start the fucking foreplay, and that pisses me off cause it's not as fun.
 
pollo said:
i think its the fact that im the one to initiate sex. With all my girlfriends pretty much its been just me starting it and then getting them off - I think the couple (literally once or twice) my girlfriends have started off really horny I just went buck. Horny girlfriends really get me off - but my problem is they always want me to start the fucking foreplay, and that pisses me off cause it's not as fun.
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She definately started it tonight.. She was in a crazy mood.
 
WebMD actually has a page about this: http://my.webmd.com/content/Article/60/66976.htm?pagenumber=3

I have heard Dr. Ruth talk about it as well. She said that you need to relax with your partner, and seemingly how your relationship is new, I could see how that could bea problem. You might be thinking in your head, "I have to satisfy her and not be a minute man," and totally are not relaxed enough to get yours. Also, Dr. Ruth told a caller so stop wacking off. The caller seemed to be doing it quite a bit and was used to that sensation to get off. She said once he stopped that or atleast reduced that acticity, he probably would have better reaction.

I can say that I have had that problem a few times in life. Usually it is with a girl that I was trying to impress or wasn't 100% comfortable with. Not wanting to disappoint her or anything. But she then would feel bad because she didn't think I thought she was hot or attractive. Once we got more comfortable with each other, there wasn't a problem. That is the best advice I can give. Check out that link as well.
 
My friend was dating someone recently and apparently neither of them were able to reach climax. They just aren't comfortable doing that it seems. So maybe it is just a comfort issues.

3 days and didn't climax? :o
 
If you can get off fine by j/o why not have her lend you more of a hand (lubed or dry). Show her how you usually do it and then throw her behind the wheel. Like, have her sit behind you, you're sitting in between her legs, her chest pressed against your back, maybe she's lickin' yer ear or neck or sommdat, then close your eyes and let her go to town using her hand on yer manhood . If your woman's timid about using the equipment this could give her a better idea of how to touch you in ways that'll get you off. Sometimes women aren't sure what they can squeeze or tug, etc. During this you can always gently put your hand on top of hers and show her what she can do next.

If that'll get you 'closer' then you can flip over when the time's right and finish up.
 
I used to have that problem when I was with a new girl. I would be so worried about coming too quick, that I would not come at all (Which sometimes is worse).


I also had that hangup where I couldn't come off of oral sex. Then I just started to close my eyes and let my fantasies go. Treat it almost like a masturbation session. Since an orgasm is 50% mental ... you need to get your mental side in line. Turn off all distractions (music or TV), drink a beer, and have at it.
 
also i lose wood when i use a condom. I need to have it off in order to enjoy sex. Anyone have this problem?
 
From AskMen:

Many men who masturbate frequently also have a hard time reaching orgasm when it comes time to make love to their partners. It might be because they're all spermed out, but more often than not, it's brought about by their own hand.

What most men don't realize is that because they've become so accustomed to the pressure of their own hand, when their penis enters a soft environment like the vagina, it somehow isn't as forceful.
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Well, maybe since you can get yourself off, and are not turned on by women, perhaps you're gay? Have you tried sex with a man?
 
Are you circumcized? Many circumcized guys get desensitized and find it much hard to get off. It could be that especially from masturbation and a certain expectation of pressure from your hand.
 
I get this now and then, especially when drunk. However if you are stone cold sober and it happens all the time, it's probably a mental thing, I read somewhere once that it can be learned behaviour, trouble with letting go, that kind of thing.

Also stay away from herbal highs and possibly A class drugs. you can bang a meat grinder on those things and feel nothing.

*shrug*
 
catfish said:
I get this now and then, especially when drunk. However if you are stone cold sober and it happens all the time, it's probably a mental thing, I read somewhere once that it can be learned behaviour, trouble with letting go, that kind of thing.

Also stay away from herbal highs and possibly A class drugs. you can bang a meat grinder on those things and feel nothing.

*shrug*
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i think we call that whiskey dick.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
i think we call that whiskey dick.
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maybe where you're from. In NZ, it's called the beer cock.
 
I don't have trouble reaching climax, but I do have trouble stopping.


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catfish said:
Also stay away from herbal highs and possibly A class drugs. you can bang a meat grinder on those things and feel nothing.
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You've gotta be kidding me. Stoned sex is awesome.

Also, anyone who says oral sex isn't as awesome as stoned sex just hasn't gotten good blowjobs. Fact!
 
Mr Gump said:
I dont know what it is, but i have a problem here. Things go on way too long. Its starting to really bother me, as i think something may be wrong with me. I cannot for the love of all that is holy reach climax during sex or oral sex. I dont know what it is, but after tonight it has the girl worried shes not turning me on, and me worried that ill be known as the guy where sex doesnt do it for him.

Ive tried viagra to see if anything changes, but its the same story. I suppose women wouldnt complain if u go on for ages but when you cannot get there everyone starts to worry.

Am i walking this path alone?
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I made a very similar thread a year or 2 ago here admitting to that being my sexual problem.
It's still with me, but we make the most of it as my girl's finally stopped worrying if I don't satisfy her, and takes advantage of it.

When I was younger I always made a conscience effort to last as long as possible, and it worked but after a while I noticed it was harder to get there myself.

Sidenoteto the replys: I've always heard it called whiskey dick, never beer cock.
 
Ned Flanders said:
I don't have trouble reaching climax, but I do have trouble stopping.


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Well, if I were in your position I'd be happy you last too long, rather than being a premature guy. I'd imagine that shit it humiliating.
 
Many men secretly prefer masturbation over penetration or blowjobs. Masturbation just offers you total control, something you can not get through regular sex. For some people, that means they can't climax during sex.
 
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